Opinion
Dangers Of Poor Parental Control
One of the major challenges facing children today
is that most parents have failed to inculate in their children from early age, the true African and Biblical tenets that will help them meet up with societal expectations and development. This is why youth restiveness, violence especially among youths and other vices are rife among today’s young people.
Thus, children grow up and become very lazy, constituting nuisance in the society and waiting to be given pittance to perpetrate any kind of evil.
Infact, social development of a child cannot be over-stressed. It is a process in which an individual acquires the ability to behave in accordance with social expectations- which is a behavioural pattern expected by the society of a child. This is to say that his/her behaviour must be in tandem with socially approved pattern.
All the abnormal behaviour seen in children today is as a result of poor parental control.
Indeed, parental control is really lacking in most children right from early age, till they become adults. Worse still, parents do not reprimand their children when they do wrong. Consequently, the children take it as their right to perpetrate such evils. Let us remember that every wrong doing is sin (I John 5:17).
Parents should know that aside procreation there are so much to be done in the proper upbringing of their children, so that they can grow up to be better citizens of the society as well as better candidates of heaven.
In our society today, children have become so disrespectful to God, elders and constituted authorities, and are now treading the path of violence and aggression, and are very lazy to do some household chores. Charity they say begins at home. If you don’t start well from home how will you do well outside?
This brings to mind the five agents of a child development.
*The Family:- This is every child’s first contact and as such very important for parents to inculcate in the child, from early age, good hygiene and toilet habits which include teaching the child how to keep the house and toilet clean, how to cook food for the entire family, and how to take care of his/her own self, so as not to have body odour or contact skin diseases such as ringworm, eczema, scabbies etc.
The child is also taught table manner, sitting positions and even sex education. Creating this awareness, helps the child to avoid child abuse. Most children suffer child abuse today as a result of lack of sex education from early age by their parents. Thus, they are exposed to sexual abuses from even their parents, uncles, aunties, friends, and neighbours.
When this is introduced to the child from early age, he/she will be able to report that uncle or aunty that would want to violate them.
Also, the female child needs very special attention in her early teenage age when she is to experience her first menstrual flow. Mothers must prepare the mind of the children, teach the children how to change themselves when once this new development occurs in their lives, so that they are not scared or disgraced by this first experience. Rather they would feel very happy to share their experience with their mothers who will in turn welcome them into motherhood and buy new toiletries, pants and pads.
The male child also needs the same special attention as the female child because when he is a teenager too, he faces puberty challenges that translates into new experiences. And if not taught about this experience he will engage in masturbation which can be destructive. The child can also face some sexual abuses from their parents which make them develop hatred that can lead to killing any woman that they come across.
*The peer group:- Parents should monitor their child’s peer groups as it is very important and very strong and have greater influence on the child, especially when the child starts behaving and liking what his/her peers wear. Every good parent must ensure that their children are not negatively influenced.
*Religion:- In order for the child to develop correctly in his/her way, parents must mold some social behavior into their children. The child must have respect for constituted authorities, elders, friends, colleagues, among others.
*The school:- This is very important because the child interacts with others and so makes socialization become very formal as they freely relate with one another and be respectful to teachers and prefects.
The Social Media:- These are websites and applications that enable users to create and share content or participate in social networking. We are in the era of internet facilities where so many things are exposed to our children. This communicates certain pattern of behavior, both negative and positive to our children.
Though a panacea for youth restiveness that may destroy their future, it gives them hope to live life to its fullness and keeps them always busy through browsing, pinging, chatting among others.
Parents should guide their children on important values and standards in terms of online choices. Also, parents should review the terms of use for sites and discuss these terms in context of family values.
The negative use of the social media is very huge. For instance, criminals use it to disguise themselves that they are very beautiful girls and would propose friendship, and business deals even when it is obvious they don’t know each other and they will lose their hard earned money and even their lives to these fraudsters.
The child must be totally developed. This has to do with the child’s environment such as the school, home community, church among others.
If the family does not show genuine love to their children, by taking them to church which is a place where their lives are shapened through the teaching of God’s word and by sending them to good schools, they cannot be socially and intellectually developed which will still tell the high level of lack of parental control.
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The political atmosphere in Rivers State has been anything but calm in 2025. Yet, a rare moment of unity was witnessed on Saturday, June 28, when Governor Siminalayi Fubara and Minister of the Federal Capital Territory, Chief Nyesom Wike, appeared side by side at the funeral of Elder Temple Omezurike Onuoha, Wike’s late uncle. What could have passed for a routine condolence visit evolved into a significant political statement—a symbolic show of reconciliation in a state bruised by deep political strife.
The funeral, attended by dignitaries from across the nation, was more than a moment of shared grief. It became the public reflection of a private peace accord reached earlier at the Presidential Villa in Abuja. There, President Bola Ahmed Tinubu brought together Governor Fubara, Minister Wike, the suspended Speaker of the Rivers State House of Assembly, Martin Amaewhule, and other lawmakers to chart a new path forward.
For Rivers people, that truce is a beacon of hope. But they are not content with photo opportunities and promises. What they demand now is the immediate lifting of the state of emergency declared in March 2025, and the unconditional reinstatement of Governor Fubara, Deputy Governor Dr. Ngozi Odu, and all suspended lawmakers. They insist on the restoration of their democratic mandate.
President Tinubu’s decision to suspend the entire structure of Rivers State’s elected leadership and appoint a sole administrator was a drastic response to a deepening political crisis. While it may have prevented a complete breakdown in governance, it also robbed the people of their voice. That silence must now end.
The administrator, retired naval chief Ibok-Ette Ibas, has managed a caretaker role. But Rivers State cannot thrive under unelected stewardship. Democracy must return—not partially, not symbolically, but fully. President Tinubu has to ensure that the people’s will, expressed through the ballot, is restored in word and deed.
Governor Fubara, who will complete his six-month suspension by September, was elected to serve the people of Rivers, not to be sidelined by political intrigues. His return should not be ceremonial. It should come with the full powers and authority vested in him by the constitution and the mandate of Rivers citizens.
The people’s frustration is understandable. At the heart of the political crisis was a power tussle between loyalists of Fubara and those of Wike. Institutions, particularly the State House of Assembly, became battlegrounds. Attempts were made to impeach Fubara. The situation deteriorated into a full-blown crisis, and governance was nearly brought to its knees.
But the tide must now turn. With the Senate’s approval of a record ?1.485 trillion budget for Rivers State for 2025, a new opportunity has emerged. This budget is not just a fiscal document—it is a blueprint for transformation, allocating ?1.077 trillion for capital projects alone. Yet, without the governor’s reinstatement, its execution remains in doubt.
It is Governor Fubara, and only him, who possesses the people’s mandate to execute this ambitious budget. It is time for him to return to duty with vigor, responsibility, and a renewed sense of urgency. The people expect delivery—on roads, hospitals, schools, and job creation.
Rivers civil servants, recovering from neglect and under appreciation, should also continue to be a top priority. Fubara should continue to ensure timely payment of salaries, address pension issues, and create a more effective, motivated public workforce. This is how governance becomes real in people’s lives.
The “Rivers First” mantra with which Fubara campaigned is now being tested. That slogan should become policy. It must inform every appointment, every contract, every budget decision, and every reform. It must reflect the needs and aspirations of the ordinary Rivers person—not political patrons or vested interests.
Beyond infrastructure and administration, political healing is essential. Governor Fubara and Minister Wike must go beyond temporary peace. They should actively unite their camps and followers to form one strong political family. The future of Rivers cannot be built on division.
Political appointments, both at the Federal and State levels, must reflect a spirit of fairness, tolerance, and inclusivity. The days of political vendettas and exclusive lists must end. Every ethnic group, every gender, and every generation must feel included in the new Rivers project.
Rivers is too diverse to be governed by one faction. Lasting peace can only be built on concessions, maturity, and equity. The people are watching to see if the peace deal will lead to deeper understanding or simply paper over cracks in an already fragile political arrangement.
Wike, now a national figure as Minister of the FCT, has a responsibility to rise above the local fray and support the development of Rivers State. His influence should bring federal attention and investment to the state, not political interference or division.
Likewise, Fubara should lead with restraint, humility, and a focus on service delivery. His return should not be marked by revenge or political purges but by inclusive leadership that welcomes even former adversaries into the process of rebuilding the state.
“The people are no longer interested in power struggles. They want light in their streets, drugs in their hospitals, teachers in their classrooms, and jobs for their children. The politics of ego and entitlement have to give way to governance with purpose.
The appearance of both leaders at the funeral was a glimpse of what unity could look like. That moment should now evolve into a movement-one that prioritizes Rivers State over every personal ambition. Let it be the beginning of true reconciliation and progress.
As September draws near, the Federal government should act decisively to end the state of emergency and reinstate all suspended officials. Rivers State must return to constitutional order and normal democratic processes. This is the minimum requirement of good governance.
The crisis in Rivers has dragged on for too long. The truce is a step forward, but much more is needed. Reinstating Governor Fubara, implementing the ?1.485 trillion budget, and uniting political factions are now the urgent tasks ahead. Rivers people have suffered enough. It is time to restore leadership, rebuild trust, and finally put Rivers first.
By: Amieyeofori Ibim
Amieyeofori Ibim is former Editor of The Tide Newspapers, political analyst and public affairs commentator
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