Opinion
Fatherhood: An Endangered Species?
A father is a male parent or a male figure who plays a paternal role in a child’s life. He is typically the biological father, but can also be an adoptive father, stepfather, foster father, or a male guardian. A father is often seen as a source of guidance and direction, support and encouragement, love and nurturing, discipline, role modelling and mentorship, as well as provision and protection. A father’s presence can have a profound impact on children’s lives, shaping their values, beliefs, and personalities. It can also be a source of strength, comfort, and inspiration, helping the children navigate life’s challenges and celebrate triumphs. Being a father is not just about biology; it is about being present, involved, and committed to a child’s well-being and development. Fathers come in many forms, and their roles and responsibilities can vary widely depending on cultural, social, and personal contexts.
A family without a father therefore, is like a ship without a captain, lost and drifting aimlessly. It is a family without a sense of security, stability, and guidance. It is a family where the children lack a male role model, emotional support, and a sense of identity. It is a family that is vulnerable, broken, and in need of healing. Like a garden without a gardener, such family would lack care and nourishment. Suffice it to say that children who grow up without a father figure in their life, remain like a puzzle with a missing piece, incomplete and imperfect. They are not only more likely to suffer from low self-esteem and depression, but are also more prone to anxiety and stress-related disorders. This deficiency traits haunt them all through life to the point that their immediate environments, and society at large are not exonerated from devastating effects of their distorted lifestyles. The rise of single-parent households and the increasing number of absent fathers have further exacerbated the problem.
This is why God did not consider it an error placing man to be called father, as the head of the family, to teach children valuable life skills, such as discipline, hard work, and responsibility, shaping their values and beliefs. But when a home actually has a male figure called father and yet the offsprings have nothing to show for it, it becomes a cause to worry about. Have we taken time to observe that we seem to be living in a generation that begats sons and daughters who act and behave like they have never felt the touch of a father? Does it really concern us that what once bothered on morals and integrity no longer count in our own time? From the leaders down to the led, adults and infants, that sense of culture and homeliness which depict a fulfilled assignment of a father appears missing, leaving a question mark on the position of the supposed fatherly role in the life of a child. Today, we have grown-ups without initiatives, political thugs, whore mongers, criminals and corrupt individuals in high and low places who have lost consciousness of their self worth. To these ones, discipline and decorum are thrown to the winds.
It may not be out of place to state that changing social norms and cultural values, in addition to economic pressures and work-related stress have forced fathers to become disconnected from their families even when they are not miles away from home. These are underlying issues that need be addressed to create an environment conducive enough to get fathers involved. When fatherhood, a once revered and sacred institution, begins to gradually become an endangered species, the traditional family structure, that once served as the backbone of society, starts crumbling. This trend has far-reaching consequences, affecting not only families but also society as a whole. The absence of fathers does not only have a profound impact on children’s emotional and psychological well-being, its consequences are far-reaching and devastating. We must recognise the importance of fathers in shaping their children’s mental health and take steps to ensure their involvement. Fatherhood is not just a biological tie; it is a nurturing and guiding force. Fathers provide stability, security, and love, essential for a child’s growth and development. We must acknowledge the significance of fathers and strive to preserve this vital institution.
The decline of fatherhood has both social and economic implications. Apart from homes being prone to experience poverty, and children less likely to have access to resources and opportunities, such as education and job training, it predisposes the society to crime, and social unrest, while registering profound impact on community cohesion and social stability. This is why it warrants attention and action. Moreso, studies have shown that children without fathers are more likely to suffer from emotional and behavioural problems. They are also more prone to substance abuse and criminal behaviour. Fatherlessness is a ticking time bomb, threatening the very fabric of our society. We must take immediate action to address this crisis and restore the dignity of fatherhood. This can only be achieved by recognising the value of fathers and encouraging their involvement in family life.
More can still be achieved through initiatives that promote father-child bonding, such as parenting classes and support groups. We must also create opportunities for fathers to connect with their children, through activities and programmes that foster meaningful relationships. Fatherhood is not just a personal choice, but a social responsibility. Fathers have a duty to provide for their children, to protect them, and to teach them distinquish right from wrong. The revival of fatherhood requires a cultural shift. We must challenge traditional gender roles and stereotypes, recognising the importance of fathers in family life. We must also create opportunities for fathers to connect with their children, through activities and programmes that foster meaningful relationships.
Opinion
Wike VS Soldier’s Altercation: Matters Arising
The events that unfolded in Abuja on Tuesday November 11, 2025 between the Minister of the Federal Capital Territory, Chief Nyesom Wike and a detachment of soldiers guarding a disputed property, led by Adams Yerima, a commissioned Naval Officer, may go down as one of the defining images of Nigeria’s democratic contradictions. It was not merely a quarrel over land. It was a confrontation between civil authority and the military legacy that still hovers over our national life.
Nyesom Wike, fiery and fearless as always, was seen on video exchanging words with a uniformed officer who refused to grant him passage to inspect a parcel of land alleged to have been illegally acquired. The minister’s voice rose, his temper flared, and the soldier, too, stood his ground, insisting on his own authority. Around them, aides, security men, and bystanders watched, stunned, as two embodiments of the Nigerian state clashed in the open.
The images spread fast, igniting debates across drawing rooms, beer parlours, and social media platforms. Some hailed Wike for standing up to military arrogance; others scolded him for perceived disrespect to the armed forces. Yet beneath the noise lies a deeper question about what sort of society we are building and whether power in Nigeria truly understands the limits of its own reach.
It is tragic that, more than two decades into civil rule, the relationship between the civilian arm of government and the military remains fragile and poorly understood. The presence of soldiers in a land dispute between private individuals and the city administration is, by all civic standards, an aberration. It recalls a dark era when might was right, and uniforms conferred immunity against accountability.
Wike’s anger, even if fiery, was rooted in a legitimate concern: that no individual, however connected or retired, should deploy the military to protect personal interests. That sentiment echoes the fundamental democratic creed that the law is supreme, not personalities. If his passion overshot decorum, it was perhaps a reflection of a nation weary of impunity.
On the other hand, the soldier in question is a symbol of another truth: that discipline, respect for order, and duty to hierarchy are ingrained in our armed forces. He may have been caught between conflicting instructions one from his superiors, another from a civilian minister exercising his lawful authority. The confusion points not to personal failure but to institutional dysfunction.
It is, therefore, simplistic to turn the incident into a morality play of good versus evil.
*********”**** What happened was an institutional embarrassment. Both men represented facets of the same failing system a polity still learning how to reconcile authority with civility, law with loyalty, and service with restraint.
In fairness, Wike has shown himself as a man of uncommon courage. Whether in Rivers State or at the FCTA, he does not shy away from confrontation. Yet courage without composure often feeds misunderstanding. A public officer must always be the cooler head, even when provoked, because the power of example outweighs the satisfaction of winning an argument.
Conversely, soldiers, too, must be reminded that their uniforms do not place them above civilian oversight. The military exists to defend the nation, not to enforce property claims or intimidate lawful authorities. Their participation in purely civil matters corrodes the image of the institution and erodes public trust.
One cannot overlook the irony: in a country where kidnappers roam highways and bandits sack villages, armed men are posted to guard contested land in the capital. It reflects misplaced priorities and distorted values. The Nigerian soldier, trained to defend sovereignty, should not be drawn into private or bureaucratic tussles.
Sycophancy remains the greatest ailment of our political culture. Many of those who now cheer one side or the other do so not out of conviction but out of convenience. Tomorrow they will switch allegiance. True patriotism lies not in defending personalities but in defending principles. A people enslaved by flattery cannot nurture a culture of justice.
The Nigerian elite must learn to submit to the same laws that govern the poor. When big men fence off public land and use connections to shield their interests, they mock the very constitution they swore to uphold. The FCT, as the mirror of national order, must not become a jungle where only the powerful can build.
The lesson for Wike himself is also clear: power is best exercised with calmness. The weight of his office demands more than bravery; it demands statesmanship. To lead is not merely to command, but to persuade — even those who resist your authority.
Equally, the lesson for the armed forces is that professionalism shines brightest in restraint. Obedience to illegal orders is not loyalty; it is complicity. The soldier who stands on the side of justice protects both his honour and the dignity of his uniform.
The Presidency, too, must see this episode as a wake-up call to clarify institutional boundaries. If soldiers can be drawn into civil enforcement without authorization, then our democracy remains at risk of subtle militarization. The constitution must speak louder than confusion.
The Nigerian public deserves better than spectacles of ego. We crave leaders who rise above emotion and officers who respect civilian supremacy. Our children must not inherit a nation where authority means shouting matches and intimidation in public glare.
Every democracy matures through such tests. What matters is whether we learn the right lessons. The British once had generals who defied parliament; the Americans once fought over states’ rights; Nigeria, too, must pass through her own growing pains but with humility, not hubris.
If the confrontation has stirred discomfort, then perhaps it has done the nation some good. It forces a conversation long overdue: Who truly owns the state — the citizen or the powerful? Can we build a Nigeria where institutions, not individuals, define our destiny?
As the dust settles, both the FCTA and the military hierarchy must conduct impartial investigations. The truth must be established — not to shame anyone, but to restore order. Where laws were broken, consequences must follow. Where misunderstandings occurred, apologies must be offered.
Let the rule of law triumph over the rule of impulse. Let civility triumph over confrontation. Let governance return to the path of dialogue and procedure.
Nigeria cannot continue to oscillate between civilian bravado and military arrogance. Both impulses spring from the same insecurity — the fear of losing control. True leadership lies in the ability to trust institutions to do their work without coercion.
Those who witnessed the clash saw a drama of two gladiators. One in starched khaki, one in well-cut suit. Both proud, both unyielding. But a nation cannot be built on stubbornness; it must be built on understanding. Power, when it meets power, should produce order, not chaos.
We must resist the temptation to glorify temper. Governance is not warfare; it is stewardship. The citizen watches, the world observes, and history records. How we handle moments like this will define our collective maturity.
The confrontation may have ended without violence, but it left deep questions in the national conscience. When men of authority quarrel in the open, institutions tremble. The people, once again, become spectators in a theatre of misplaced pride.
It is time for all who hold office — civilian or military — to remember that they serve under the same flag. That flag is neither khaki nor political colour; it is green-white-green, and it demands humility.
No victor, no vanquish only a lesson for a nation still learning to govern itself with dignity.
By; King Onunwor
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