Opinion
Better Life For Widows
For the past one month, I have saddled myself with
a responsibility I never craved. I have had to educate my brothers and the men around me on the need for them to write their will, stating clearly who their next of kin is.
Of course, I’m not a lawyer, with an indepth knowledge of the procedures for the drafting of the legal document. I had never also been bordered about how a man wishes to dispose his property and holdings after death, not with the believe and impression that someone, particularly a woman who suggests the making of will to her husband wishes him dead.
But all that have changed since last month when a close friend lost her husband and her life has been literally turn apart by her late husband’s relations. As soon as they learnt about the man’s death, they rushed to his house, laying claims on every available property. But for the woman’s family, she and her three daughters would have been homeless today as they were disposed of all their man’s belongings because she has no male child who is the only one culturally authorized to inherit the man’s property.
She was however, told that she could inherit those property only on the condition that she gets re-married to a member of her late husband’s family.
It’s been a fierce battle between my friend and her husband’s family since then as she refused to get married to any of her late husband’s relation and cannot fold her hands and watch people take away all that she laboured with her husband to acquire while she and her children are allowed to die in penury.
My friend is not the only widow caught up in this dilemma. The plight of widows in different parts of the country is very pathetic. Some of them are condemned to lives of rejection, trauma, deprivation and poverty. In many communities, wives are usually accused of being responsible for their husbands’ death. They are subjected to all kinds of dehumanising treatment including sleeping in the same room with their husbands’ corpses for some days, drinking the water used in bathing their husbands’ corpses and many more.
Their challenges are innumerable. Apart from mourning their dead husbands and agonizing over where the next meal will come from, they are subjected to pathetic living conditions, vulnerable and unprotected life.
They are left out of government’s policies and legislations, forgotten in the scheme of things. That is why one finds the effort being made by the Vicar General, Catholic Diocese of Port Harcourt, Msgr Cyprain Onwuli to ameliorate the sufferings of widows in the Diocese very commendable. He was moved by shocking, gory tales of some widows he heard in 2004, to start a widows association in his former Parish, St John’s Catholic Church, Rumukwurushi. Today, the association, which started with only about 50 widows, has over 500 members and has spread to more than 12 Parishes in the Diocese.
The Priest has, with the help of his friends, rendered medical, legal, financial and spiritual assistance to this category of vulnerable women.
At the Diocesan inauguration of the body recently, the Priest, who was highly elated by the progress made by the widow in the area of skills acquisition, said his dream was to establish the widows’ association in all the Parishes especially the rural areas where there are larger number of widows so that more lives would be transformed.
He called on government and other well meaning individuals to join hands in making life more meaningful for widows in our society. He noted that, “those in authority have not done much for the poor, especially the widows. They give to those who have in the name of charity and those ones they help do not help each other.
He appealed to the authorities to improve the welfare of widows to help them cushion the effect of the demise of their husbands.
Similarly, the President of the association, Lady Priscilia Ekeke, appealed to government at different levels to assist in empowering the widows, especially the indigent ones. She called for the abolition of some obnoxious laws against widows in many states of the federation.
Indeed, life could be made more meaningful for widow if the society actually see the need to help them. Many widows die in frustration having been left in the lurch in their hours of needs. There is need for government to improve their welfare by creating more opportunities for them.
Widows also should help themselves. They should not see their state as a state of incapacitation whereby they cannot do anything to help themselves but depend on others for their livelihood.
As the Chaplain of the widows association, Fr Eric Bien advised, widows should the biblical Judith, who used her beauty, intelligence, power and courage to win victory for the Israelites. God has used widows to do great things and deliver nations in the past and the present day widows can also be used if they are willing and ready to work.
But most importantly, men should see the urgent need for them to write their wills so that their wives and children will not be subjected to unnecessary torture and hardship when they are gone.
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The political atmosphere in Rivers State has been anything but calm in 2025. Yet, a rare moment of unity was witnessed on Saturday, June 28, when Governor Siminalayi Fubara and Minister of the Federal Capital Territory, Chief Nyesom Wike, appeared side by side at the funeral of Elder Temple Omezurike Onuoha, Wike’s late uncle. What could have passed for a routine condolence visit evolved into a significant political statement—a symbolic show of reconciliation in a state bruised by deep political strife.
The funeral, attended by dignitaries from across the nation, was more than a moment of shared grief. It became the public reflection of a private peace accord reached earlier at the Presidential Villa in Abuja. There, President Bola Ahmed Tinubu brought together Governor Fubara, Minister Wike, the suspended Speaker of the Rivers State House of Assembly, Martin Amaewhule, and other lawmakers to chart a new path forward.
For Rivers people, that truce is a beacon of hope. But they are not content with photo opportunities and promises. What they demand now is the immediate lifting of the state of emergency declared in March 2025, and the unconditional reinstatement of Governor Fubara, Deputy Governor Dr. Ngozi Odu, and all suspended lawmakers. They insist on the restoration of their democratic mandate.
President Tinubu’s decision to suspend the entire structure of Rivers State’s elected leadership and appoint a sole administrator was a drastic response to a deepening political crisis. While it may have prevented a complete breakdown in governance, it also robbed the people of their voice. That silence must now end.
The administrator, retired naval chief Ibok-Ette Ibas, has managed a caretaker role. But Rivers State cannot thrive under unelected stewardship. Democracy must return—not partially, not symbolically, but fully. President Tinubu has to ensure that the people’s will, expressed through the ballot, is restored in word and deed.
Governor Fubara, who will complete his six-month suspension by September, was elected to serve the people of Rivers, not to be sidelined by political intrigues. His return should not be ceremonial. It should come with the full powers and authority vested in him by the constitution and the mandate of Rivers citizens.
The people’s frustration is understandable. At the heart of the political crisis was a power tussle between loyalists of Fubara and those of Wike. Institutions, particularly the State House of Assembly, became battlegrounds. Attempts were made to impeach Fubara. The situation deteriorated into a full-blown crisis, and governance was nearly brought to its knees.
But the tide must now turn. With the Senate’s approval of a record ?1.485 trillion budget for Rivers State for 2025, a new opportunity has emerged. This budget is not just a fiscal document—it is a blueprint for transformation, allocating ?1.077 trillion for capital projects alone. Yet, without the governor’s reinstatement, its execution remains in doubt.
It is Governor Fubara, and only him, who possesses the people’s mandate to execute this ambitious budget. It is time for him to return to duty with vigor, responsibility, and a renewed sense of urgency. The people expect delivery—on roads, hospitals, schools, and job creation.
Rivers civil servants, recovering from neglect and under appreciation, should also continue to be a top priority. Fubara should continue to ensure timely payment of salaries, address pension issues, and create a more effective, motivated public workforce. This is how governance becomes real in people’s lives.
The “Rivers First” mantra with which Fubara campaigned is now being tested. That slogan should become policy. It must inform every appointment, every contract, every budget decision, and every reform. It must reflect the needs and aspirations of the ordinary Rivers person—not political patrons or vested interests.
Beyond infrastructure and administration, political healing is essential. Governor Fubara and Minister Wike must go beyond temporary peace. They should actively unite their camps and followers to form one strong political family. The future of Rivers cannot be built on division.
Political appointments, both at the Federal and State levels, must reflect a spirit of fairness, tolerance, and inclusivity. The days of political vendettas and exclusive lists must end. Every ethnic group, every gender, and every generation must feel included in the new Rivers project.
Rivers is too diverse to be governed by one faction. Lasting peace can only be built on concessions, maturity, and equity. The people are watching to see if the peace deal will lead to deeper understanding or simply paper over cracks in an already fragile political arrangement.
Wike, now a national figure as Minister of the FCT, has a responsibility to rise above the local fray and support the development of Rivers State. His influence should bring federal attention and investment to the state, not political interference or division.
Likewise, Fubara should lead with restraint, humility, and a focus on service delivery. His return should not be marked by revenge or political purges but by inclusive leadership that welcomes even former adversaries into the process of rebuilding the state.
“The people are no longer interested in power struggles. They want light in their streets, drugs in their hospitals, teachers in their classrooms, and jobs for their children. The politics of ego and entitlement have to give way to governance with purpose.
The appearance of both leaders at the funeral was a glimpse of what unity could look like. That moment should now evolve into a movement-one that prioritizes Rivers State over every personal ambition. Let it be the beginning of true reconciliation and progress.
As September draws near, the Federal government should act decisively to end the state of emergency and reinstate all suspended officials. Rivers State must return to constitutional order and normal democratic processes. This is the minimum requirement of good governance.
The crisis in Rivers has dragged on for too long. The truce is a step forward, but much more is needed. Reinstating Governor Fubara, implementing the ?1.485 trillion budget, and uniting political factions are now the urgent tasks ahead. Rivers people have suffered enough. It is time to restore leadership, rebuild trust, and finally put Rivers first.
By: Amieyeofori Ibim
Amieyeofori Ibim is former Editor of The Tide Newspapers, political analyst and public affairs commentator
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