Opinion
Beyond The Ordinary
Self-imposed limitations are limits that have been set, based on the way we think about ourselves or our surroundings. They are usually thoughts of being inferior, inadequate, or unprepared. They are thoughts that lead to feelings of intimidation, fear; of rejection, failure, and insecurities. They are thoughts and feelings that are false and unfounded. Breaking limits demands that you stop setting self-imposed limitations for yourself and start believing in what you can achieve through the power of focus. Are you so wrapped up in day-to-day life that you stop paying attention to WHY you are feeling the way you do? Something goes wrong and you blame other people? The key to getting back on the right track is simple: break the limits of inferiority and inadequacy by focusing inward, on what it would feel like to have your good life right now. Invite the life you want into your presence by focusing on your why.
Allow yourself to start believing in what you can accomplish instead of what you cannot and cut down on those self-imposed limitations in your life now. Follow William’s time tested codes and soon you will be attracting the things you really want.”To be great, you must keep great company! Trash makes more trash, but steel sharpens steel!” You can break your limits by trustlng in yourself and use your inner potential. Sometimes we are too critical of ourselves and live with limiting beliefs: “you cannot do this, you are not experienced enough, you do not have the ability, etc”. Moreover, those around us want to protect us and discourage us because of their own limiting beliefs. But each of us has their own strengths and unique potential.
First, trust in yourself and explore your inner potential by doing new things or doing things differently. Prove to yourself that you are able to handle new challenges. You are capable of more than you would ever think! Secondly, you have got to think big and start with small steps. Do not be afraid to set high goals and define a vision for yourself. The limits are your thoughts. Believing in something and thinking big is the first step towards your vision. Towards realising your goals, do not put yourself under pressure just a start with small steps. For example, go first for a 10-minute run and set your goals higher and higher step by step. All big things start with small realistic steps, which set the base for preparing oneself for bigger steps. There are no limits to what you can accomplish, except the limits you place on your own thinking.
Lest we forget, fear is a natural and essential part of our individual growth. Our fears stop us from going one step further. Nevertheless, each time we consciously choose to step out of our comfort zone, the next uncomfortable thing becomes a bit smoother, and we know that we can overcome our fears. The more you face your fears, the more you will see that you can control your emotions, and that your fears are a perspective of your thinking, which could be changed. You actually need to break your routine culture by exploring yourself in different ways. Drive through a different route to work, run the opposite way of your usual running route or do your hobby in a different time of the day. Put yourself in new environments. This will enable you to think differently, get inspiration from different circumstances, and give yourself the possibility to explore yourself in different situations.
Meanwhile, you have got to give up control and trust the process. If you are a control freak, you have to learn that you cannot control everything in your life. You can control your mind, your body, your emotions, what you eat, what you drink, what you do, where you work, with whom you speak etc., but there are also external factors, which make life more complex and at the same time more interesting. I love the main rule of Design Thinking: “Trust the process!” Sometimes, you need to accept the unclear uncertainty zone, let things go from time to time. Do everything you can do, believe in what you do and want, also be open to letting things go and trusting the process. At the end, magic can happen, like the creative new ideas in the Design Thinking process.
Try something new and agree to something you would not normally consider. Every unique experience shapes our thoughts and opens us up to different perspectives in life. Therefore, ask questions even if it is uncomfortable. Do not be afraid to ask tough or even stupid questions like a child. There is a saying that “the better the questions, the better the answers “, ask yourself and others challenging questions and try to see things from a different angle. Also ask for feedback. Ask what you feel without hesitation. The basic question “why” defines the purpose of each action. Stop and ask yourself why you are doing the things you do and how you could improve yourself and others.
Take time to identify your real passion and go for it . If you do not know it already, do not worry. Try different things and reflect on how you feel. What is your energy source, where you feel strong and happy? Identify activities that energise you and make you feel happier and stronger in your overall life. Be mindful and self-aware. By keeping a moment-by-moment awareness of our thoughts, feelings, body reactions, and surrounding environment, through a gentle, nurturing lens, you pay attention and accept your thoughts and feelings without judging them.
When we practise mindfulness, our thoughts tune into what we are sensing in the present moment rather than digging in the past or imagining the future. To improve your mindfulness, you can start with meditation or even short self-reflection sessions. In summary, there are no limits to what you can accomplish except the limits you place on your own thinking. As the year unfolds you can be yourself by following your passion, trusting the process and enjoying every moment with confidence, balance and mindfulness without being afraid to go out of your comfort zone, transform yourself, and explore your limits.
By: Leemene Joshua-Ene
Joshua-Ene Esq is a Port Harcourt based legal practitioner.
Opinion
Wike VS Soldier’s Altercation: Matters Arising
The events that unfolded in Abuja on Tuesday November 11, 2025 between the Minister of the Federal Capital Territory, Chief Nyesom Wike and a detachment of soldiers guarding a disputed property, led by Adams Yerima, a commissioned Naval Officer, may go down as one of the defining images of Nigeria’s democratic contradictions. It was not merely a quarrel over land. It was a confrontation between civil authority and the military legacy that still hovers over our national life.
Nyesom Wike, fiery and fearless as always, was seen on video exchanging words with a uniformed officer who refused to grant him passage to inspect a parcel of land alleged to have been illegally acquired. The minister’s voice rose, his temper flared, and the soldier, too, stood his ground, insisting on his own authority. Around them, aides, security men, and bystanders watched, stunned, as two embodiments of the Nigerian state clashed in the open.
The images spread fast, igniting debates across drawing rooms, beer parlours, and social media platforms. Some hailed Wike for standing up to military arrogance; others scolded him for perceived disrespect to the armed forces. Yet beneath the noise lies a deeper question about what sort of society we are building and whether power in Nigeria truly understands the limits of its own reach.
It is tragic that, more than two decades into civil rule, the relationship between the civilian arm of government and the military remains fragile and poorly understood. The presence of soldiers in a land dispute between private individuals and the city administration is, by all civic standards, an aberration. It recalls a dark era when might was right, and uniforms conferred immunity against accountability.
Wike’s anger, even if fiery, was rooted in a legitimate concern: that no individual, however connected or retired, should deploy the military to protect personal interests. That sentiment echoes the fundamental democratic creed that the law is supreme, not personalities. If his passion overshot decorum, it was perhaps a reflection of a nation weary of impunity.
On the other hand, the soldier in question is a symbol of another truth: that discipline, respect for order, and duty to hierarchy are ingrained in our armed forces. He may have been caught between conflicting instructions one from his superiors, another from a civilian minister exercising his lawful authority. The confusion points not to personal failure but to institutional dysfunction.
It is, therefore, simplistic to turn the incident into a morality play of good versus evil.
*********”**** What happened was an institutional embarrassment. Both men represented facets of the same failing system a polity still learning how to reconcile authority with civility, law with loyalty, and service with restraint.
In fairness, Wike has shown himself as a man of uncommon courage. Whether in Rivers State or at the FCTA, he does not shy away from confrontation. Yet courage without composure often feeds misunderstanding. A public officer must always be the cooler head, even when provoked, because the power of example outweighs the satisfaction of winning an argument.
Conversely, soldiers, too, must be reminded that their uniforms do not place them above civilian oversight. The military exists to defend the nation, not to enforce property claims or intimidate lawful authorities. Their participation in purely civil matters corrodes the image of the institution and erodes public trust.
One cannot overlook the irony: in a country where kidnappers roam highways and bandits sack villages, armed men are posted to guard contested land in the capital. It reflects misplaced priorities and distorted values. The Nigerian soldier, trained to defend sovereignty, should not be drawn into private or bureaucratic tussles.
Sycophancy remains the greatest ailment of our political culture. Many of those who now cheer one side or the other do so not out of conviction but out of convenience. Tomorrow they will switch allegiance. True patriotism lies not in defending personalities but in defending principles. A people enslaved by flattery cannot nurture a culture of justice.
The Nigerian elite must learn to submit to the same laws that govern the poor. When big men fence off public land and use connections to shield their interests, they mock the very constitution they swore to uphold. The FCT, as the mirror of national order, must not become a jungle where only the powerful can build.
The lesson for Wike himself is also clear: power is best exercised with calmness. The weight of his office demands more than bravery; it demands statesmanship. To lead is not merely to command, but to persuade — even those who resist your authority.
Equally, the lesson for the armed forces is that professionalism shines brightest in restraint. Obedience to illegal orders is not loyalty; it is complicity. The soldier who stands on the side of justice protects both his honour and the dignity of his uniform.
The Presidency, too, must see this episode as a wake-up call to clarify institutional boundaries. If soldiers can be drawn into civil enforcement without authorization, then our democracy remains at risk of subtle militarization. The constitution must speak louder than confusion.
The Nigerian public deserves better than spectacles of ego. We crave leaders who rise above emotion and officers who respect civilian supremacy. Our children must not inherit a nation where authority means shouting matches and intimidation in public glare.
Every democracy matures through such tests. What matters is whether we learn the right lessons. The British once had generals who defied parliament; the Americans once fought over states’ rights; Nigeria, too, must pass through her own growing pains but with humility, not hubris.
If the confrontation has stirred discomfort, then perhaps it has done the nation some good. It forces a conversation long overdue: Who truly owns the state — the citizen or the powerful? Can we build a Nigeria where institutions, not individuals, define our destiny?
As the dust settles, both the FCTA and the military hierarchy must conduct impartial investigations. The truth must be established — not to shame anyone, but to restore order. Where laws were broken, consequences must follow. Where misunderstandings occurred, apologies must be offered.
Let the rule of law triumph over the rule of impulse. Let civility triumph over confrontation. Let governance return to the path of dialogue and procedure.
Nigeria cannot continue to oscillate between civilian bravado and military arrogance. Both impulses spring from the same insecurity — the fear of losing control. True leadership lies in the ability to trust institutions to do their work without coercion.
Those who witnessed the clash saw a drama of two gladiators. One in starched khaki, one in well-cut suit. Both proud, both unyielding. But a nation cannot be built on stubbornness; it must be built on understanding. Power, when it meets power, should produce order, not chaos.
We must resist the temptation to glorify temper. Governance is not warfare; it is stewardship. The citizen watches, the world observes, and history records. How we handle moments like this will define our collective maturity.
The confrontation may have ended without violence, but it left deep questions in the national conscience. When men of authority quarrel in the open, institutions tremble. The people, once again, become spectators in a theatre of misplaced pride.
It is time for all who hold office — civilian or military — to remember that they serve under the same flag. That flag is neither khaki nor political colour; it is green-white-green, and it demands humility.
No victor, no vanquish only a lesson for a nation still learning to govern itself with dignity.
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