Ask many children allover the world where they would like to visit or perhaps live; “America”, is likely to be the answer, and who would blame them? America is a great country. Some call her, “The melting pot of the world”. Some experts even say she is bigger than the ancient Roman Empire, which spanned the Middle East to Asia and beyond. America is large indeed. In one sight, you could view all nations: Africans … Asians … Europeans… Middle Easterners … Russians, and in one event you could observe all cultures of the world.

Youths and adults alike leave great promising professions in their home countries to come to America in search of a better life, yet most are satisfied doing menial jobs without complaining, not just for the financial remunerations such jobs provide, but, for the dignity and respect associated with them. In America, no job is accorded the same respect as the CEO of the company. Here, it is sometimes difficult to differentiate between a boss and the least worker. In the medical profession for instance, doctors, nurses and aides all wear scrubs and converse like colleagues, though each earn different wages with doctors earning astronomically more than the rest of the crew. Yet, America gives more than wealth. She teaches wisdom.

In as much as many leave their nations to seek a better life in America, so, too, do they return home after tasting the harsh reality of the American life. America appreciates work. “No free lunch in America,” is a popular saying to buttress the work culture. Yet, many, especially Africans, do not understand the reality of life in America before embarking on a journey to live there. Most are carried away by the way Africans from America spend dollars frivoulously in their home country. Yet, the reality is, only a limited few really have raw dollars, most borrow from their credit card to travel, and work tirelessly to pay back the debt when they return home.

Africans in America make many a sacrifice for their extended family members back home in Africa. Some deprive themselves of good cars, homes, and qualitative life, just to be able to meet the demands of their extended family members, yet the demands are endless. Many Africans abroad say, “The more you send, the more the demands”. Many wonder why they have an endless urge to fulfill the obligation of their extended family members rather than meeting their own needs. Some complain of not being able to account for the use of their money when they fail to send the money to Africa, yet, others complain of having mysterious experiences each time fetish and susperstitious you are. I would respond to each complaint until I re-examine myself.

For 15 years, even though none sought my assistance, I worked tirelessly to assist family and community members in Africa, and for all those years, I endured mysterious experiences which happened almost immediately I sent money, or delivered good news. For instance, I had nine miscarriages and each occurred immediately after I accounted my pregnancy. I experienced job termination without notice, heavy quarrels in my household for no reason, total breakdown of communication between my friends and me, sick cars and children without diagnoises. Yet, I called all this coincidence. But I soon changed my mind after my son, Nigel Tosan’s death. I took an objective inventory of myself and sought God. Then, I discovered that I’d been a victim of witchcraft, for the Bible said, “A man’s enemies are in his household.” But, who among my family members hated me so much to destroy me?

“Family” is anyone you associate with … siblings… colleagues… friends… neighbours… and associate. These are people I have been generous with, yet, without knowing it, I empowered my enemies. I gave unsolicitied financial assistance with which, they consulted the devil to fight me. How wicked! “The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately wicked, who can know it? (Jeremiah 17:9). This painful realisation hit me like a rock. I renounced contact with Africa. I changed my phone number.  And like a scene out of a movie, my mysterious experiences instantly disappeared, I found a stable job.   I founded a ministry, and I even got  an offer of a million dollars to publish my book.  The African Prostitute, if I would remove the name of Jesus  from the book. I turned down the offer. “I won’t sell my soul”, I responded My husband, Ernest, confessed to having dreamt of building a new house with the money. But we had investments worth hundreds of thousands of dollars, so with that, we went to the bank to make my husband’s dream come true.  The bank lent us over one million dollars.  “Hallehjah?” I shouted to the shocked surprise of the loan officers. “what?” she asked , I told her of my book offer . “See, God has given you even more”, she replied.

We built four new houses and purchased two others and rented all.  So, for two years with no contact outside America,  Ernest and I once again experienced bliss, we prospered, and our daughter, Nicole’s health became stable. But, my community in Africa emissary and appealed to me to get in touch. I did, and that same week, all of my tenants terminated that leases without notice, and new tenants would not pay their rent, so, we began to go to court to file frequent eviction notices, and we made mortgage payments of over eleven thousand dollars every month until we exhausted all of our financial resources, and now, recession has affected the houses, and unless they sell they are likely to be foreclosed. But, as if this was not enough, on January 26, 2010, my stable job of many years was threatened with termination because I displayed  scriptural verses at work, yet this had been my habit for years. Why not? “When it rains it pours, doesn’t it?”

When I left Nigeria for America 19 years prior I was in search of wealth, yet I’ve lost everything I’ve worked hard for. Everything! But, how merciful God is; He spared my life. God never promised it would be easy, but  He did promise, that, “when thou passest through the waters, I will be with thee .…” (Isaiah 43:2) . God is always with us. He has not asked us to isolate ourselves from the enemy, but He says He will.

Turtoe-Sanders wrote from United States.

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