Opinion
Things Our Children Do
The trending scandalous story of inhuman treatment and sexual molestation of an 11-year old Don-Davis Archibong of Deeper Life High School, Uyo, Akwa Ibom State, is one that many parents, guardians and some other Nigerians can relate with.
Call it bullying, assault, brutality, hurtful behaving or whatever; it has been a problem at school probably as long as there have been schools. It is in primary, secondary and tertiary institutions. Neighborhoods and home are not left out. I remember a neighbour dashing out of the compound like a crazy woman one morning because she got a call from her son’s school that the boy wanted to kill himself. On getting there, she was taken to her son’s hostel where he locked himself inside the wardrobe and yielded not to all the pleas that he came out.
The mother had to beg and pet him for over twenty minutes before he unlocked the wardrobe door and slightly opened it. She said she could see a child that was very scared and didn’t know what to do other than to hide in the wardrobe so he would not be harmed. Upon interrogation, he revealed that some students including those of his set and some seniors were bullying him because his school uniform was oversize, worn-out and torn.
Meanwhile, the woman said she paid fully for all the school uniforms as he was a fresh student. But, for whatever reason, the seamstress couldn’t deliver the clothes on time; so the school management on their own accord gave the boy in question and a few others in his shoes, uniforms of some former students pending when their own would be ready. Other students then capitalized on that to make them objects of scorn.
Outside the shores of Nigeria, stories of how teenage youths commit suicide or harm themselves because they can no longer take the bullying from people either physically or in the cyberspace abound. Statistics from a federal government website managed by the U.S Department of Health and Human Services, stopbullying.gov, indicated that 28 percent of middle and high school students in the United States have experienced bullying and 70.6 percent of young people say they’ve seen bullying in their schools.
Incidentally, many schools claim to have zero tolerance to bullying policies in place, yet they fail to take prompt action against bullying or even choose to ignore it when it takes place or advertently or inadvertently create room for bullying to thrive. In the case of Archibong, for instance, a Year One student who bed wets was taken from the junior students’ hostel to the senior students’ for some senior students to look after him in the absence of the boarding master of his hostel. What a decision!
We have read the account of one of the senior students accused of bullying and sodomy against little Don-Davies claiming that “We did not bully him. I did not molest him. The boarding master, Mr. Joseph Nseabasi, asked us to make sure he is always clean because when he poohs or pees on himself, he doesn’t clean up. And when he smells, and we ask him if he defaecated, he will say no.
“But when we ask him to pull down his boxers and bend down, we will discover that he defaecated without cleaning his anus. We will now ask him to go and take his bath or clean himself. And when we notice that his clothes are smelling, we will tell him to go and wash the clothes, but he will refuse, instead, he will go and pack the smelly clothes inside his cupboard.”
I still find it difficult to believe that SS1 students who are reputed to be power drunk would do all those for a JS1 without displaying an attitude that will break his spirit. So, as the President of Parents of Private School Students Association, Mr. Obi Chukwuma, told newsmen, the unfortunate incident at Deeper Life High School, Uyo, was out of negligence. Though investigation into the matter is still on-going, it is easy to see that some people failed in their duties and should be made to answer for it.
Yes, Mrs. Deborah Archibong could be said to have taken the social media option to fight for justice for her son a bit too far but no parent will see her child in the shape Don-Davies was when he was picked from school in December without raising an alarm. One wishes that the matter will soon be amicably resolved and the culprits made to face the consequences of their actions or inactions. Staff and management of DLHS as well as other schools should learn from this case and begin to pay more attention to the wellbeing of the children put under their care. If there are conditions that would prevent a student from being admitted in a school or that cannot be tolerated like bed wetting or any health condition, it should be spelt out so that their children should find an alternative.
Zero tolerance to bullying should not just be written boldly at the entrance to schools and other strategic places on the compound, it should be implemented. Teachers or management members should not look the other way when a student is being bullied by either a fellow student or even a teacher. Appropriate authorities must be notified and immediate actions taken against the bullies so as to deter others from towing the same line.
Parents, students and school staff must be constantly educated about bullying – what it means, how to prevent it, how to recognize it when it happens and its dangers. Schools, parents, family members and other members of the society should learn how to give students and other people around them listening ears when they complain of being bullied, be it physical or cyber bullying. It goes a long way in preventing the abused from taking regrettable actions.
It is also important that those in authority should devote time to check what is going on in our schools, particularly the private schools. Had there been an eye on DLHS Uyo, the poor feeding condition of the student would have been noticed and little Don- Davies wouldn’t have almost starved to death.
By: Calista Ezeaku
Opinion
Wike VS Soldier’s Altercation: Matters Arising
The events that unfolded in Abuja on Tuesday November 11, 2025 between the Minister of the Federal Capital Territory, Chief Nyesom Wike and a detachment of soldiers guarding a disputed property, led by Adams Yerima, a commissioned Naval Officer, may go down as one of the defining images of Nigeria’s democratic contradictions. It was not merely a quarrel over land. It was a confrontation between civil authority and the military legacy that still hovers over our national life.
Nyesom Wike, fiery and fearless as always, was seen on video exchanging words with a uniformed officer who refused to grant him passage to inspect a parcel of land alleged to have been illegally acquired. The minister’s voice rose, his temper flared, and the soldier, too, stood his ground, insisting on his own authority. Around them, aides, security men, and bystanders watched, stunned, as two embodiments of the Nigerian state clashed in the open.
The images spread fast, igniting debates across drawing rooms, beer parlours, and social media platforms. Some hailed Wike for standing up to military arrogance; others scolded him for perceived disrespect to the armed forces. Yet beneath the noise lies a deeper question about what sort of society we are building and whether power in Nigeria truly understands the limits of its own reach.
It is tragic that, more than two decades into civil rule, the relationship between the civilian arm of government and the military remains fragile and poorly understood. The presence of soldiers in a land dispute between private individuals and the city administration is, by all civic standards, an aberration. It recalls a dark era when might was right, and uniforms conferred immunity against accountability.
Wike’s anger, even if fiery, was rooted in a legitimate concern: that no individual, however connected or retired, should deploy the military to protect personal interests. That sentiment echoes the fundamental democratic creed that the law is supreme, not personalities. If his passion overshot decorum, it was perhaps a reflection of a nation weary of impunity.
On the other hand, the soldier in question is a symbol of another truth: that discipline, respect for order, and duty to hierarchy are ingrained in our armed forces. He may have been caught between conflicting instructions one from his superiors, another from a civilian minister exercising his lawful authority. The confusion points not to personal failure but to institutional dysfunction.
It is, therefore, simplistic to turn the incident into a morality play of good versus evil.
*********”**** What happened was an institutional embarrassment. Both men represented facets of the same failing system a polity still learning how to reconcile authority with civility, law with loyalty, and service with restraint.
In fairness, Wike has shown himself as a man of uncommon courage. Whether in Rivers State or at the FCTA, he does not shy away from confrontation. Yet courage without composure often feeds misunderstanding. A public officer must always be the cooler head, even when provoked, because the power of example outweighs the satisfaction of winning an argument.
Conversely, soldiers, too, must be reminded that their uniforms do not place them above civilian oversight. The military exists to defend the nation, not to enforce property claims or intimidate lawful authorities. Their participation in purely civil matters corrodes the image of the institution and erodes public trust.
One cannot overlook the irony: in a country where kidnappers roam highways and bandits sack villages, armed men are posted to guard contested land in the capital. It reflects misplaced priorities and distorted values. The Nigerian soldier, trained to defend sovereignty, should not be drawn into private or bureaucratic tussles.
Sycophancy remains the greatest ailment of our political culture. Many of those who now cheer one side or the other do so not out of conviction but out of convenience. Tomorrow they will switch allegiance. True patriotism lies not in defending personalities but in defending principles. A people enslaved by flattery cannot nurture a culture of justice.
The Nigerian elite must learn to submit to the same laws that govern the poor. When big men fence off public land and use connections to shield their interests, they mock the very constitution they swore to uphold. The FCT, as the mirror of national order, must not become a jungle where only the powerful can build.
The lesson for Wike himself is also clear: power is best exercised with calmness. The weight of his office demands more than bravery; it demands statesmanship. To lead is not merely to command, but to persuade — even those who resist your authority.
Equally, the lesson for the armed forces is that professionalism shines brightest in restraint. Obedience to illegal orders is not loyalty; it is complicity. The soldier who stands on the side of justice protects both his honour and the dignity of his uniform.
The Presidency, too, must see this episode as a wake-up call to clarify institutional boundaries. If soldiers can be drawn into civil enforcement without authorization, then our democracy remains at risk of subtle militarization. The constitution must speak louder than confusion.
The Nigerian public deserves better than spectacles of ego. We crave leaders who rise above emotion and officers who respect civilian supremacy. Our children must not inherit a nation where authority means shouting matches and intimidation in public glare.
Every democracy matures through such tests. What matters is whether we learn the right lessons. The British once had generals who defied parliament; the Americans once fought over states’ rights; Nigeria, too, must pass through her own growing pains but with humility, not hubris.
If the confrontation has stirred discomfort, then perhaps it has done the nation some good. It forces a conversation long overdue: Who truly owns the state — the citizen or the powerful? Can we build a Nigeria where institutions, not individuals, define our destiny?
As the dust settles, both the FCTA and the military hierarchy must conduct impartial investigations. The truth must be established — not to shame anyone, but to restore order. Where laws were broken, consequences must follow. Where misunderstandings occurred, apologies must be offered.
Let the rule of law triumph over the rule of impulse. Let civility triumph over confrontation. Let governance return to the path of dialogue and procedure.
Nigeria cannot continue to oscillate between civilian bravado and military arrogance. Both impulses spring from the same insecurity — the fear of losing control. True leadership lies in the ability to trust institutions to do their work without coercion.
Those who witnessed the clash saw a drama of two gladiators. One in starched khaki, one in well-cut suit. Both proud, both unyielding. But a nation cannot be built on stubbornness; it must be built on understanding. Power, when it meets power, should produce order, not chaos.
We must resist the temptation to glorify temper. Governance is not warfare; it is stewardship. The citizen watches, the world observes, and history records. How we handle moments like this will define our collective maturity.
The confrontation may have ended without violence, but it left deep questions in the national conscience. When men of authority quarrel in the open, institutions tremble. The people, once again, become spectators in a theatre of misplaced pride.
It is time for all who hold office — civilian or military — to remember that they serve under the same flag. That flag is neither khaki nor political colour; it is green-white-green, and it demands humility.
No victor, no vanquish only a lesson for a nation still learning to govern itself with dignity.
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