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Eliminating Violence Against Women
For thirteen years now,
November 25 has been set aside by the United Nations for the celebration of International Day for the Elimination of Violence against Women. The event is used to focus world attention on sexual, physical and psychological violence and discrimination against women and girls. Activities marking the day are expected to be carried out in different countries from November 25 to December 10 the International Human Rights Day.
The 16 days of activism against gender-based violence usually feature workshops, seminars, lectures, road walks and other activities organised by non governmental organisations, Women Affairs Ministries, gender activists to raise public awareness of violence against women and the need to put an end to it.
Incidentally, despite all these efforts, cases of violence against women seem to be on the increase. Cases like domestic violence, sexual assault in public and at school, genital mutilation, forced marriage, trafficking, forced prostitution, sexual violence in crisis and conflict situations, wife battery are reported everyday, even as many go unreported.
The social media and national dailies are awash with stories of women and kids being raped by men old enough to be their fathers and grand fathers in different parts of the country. A recent research shows that between 2008 and last year, police in Kano State dealt with over 60 cases of child rape and over 60 related arrests.
Many women have been turned into punching bags by their husbands. Some have been maimed, others lost their jobs and dignity because they are married to husbands who violate their human rights. A story has it that a woman was recently relieved of her plum job because her husband after beating her, locked her up in a room, thereby stopping her from going to work. All her pleas to her superiors at the office the following day fell on deaf ears. She was sacked.
A participant at a seminar recently narrated how she was being sexually abused and battered regularly by her husband but could do nothing about it because her family, her husband’s family and even the police saw nothing wrong in what the man was doing.
“What really beat my imagination was how the police quickly dismissed my case and told me to go home and settle with my husband, when my neighbour took me to the police after my husband almost beat me to death”, she said.
So, the problem is that many women do not even know their rights. As the State Chairman of Nigeria Association of Women Journalist (NAWOJ), Ms Enale Kodu said in an interview, “some women think beating is a normal thing. They don’t see anything wrong in being battered, after all the men own them”.
So, to effectively eliminate violence against women and successfully promote their rights, there is need to properly educate women on their rights, because many Nigerian women, both educated and uneducated do not know their rights and do not even know when those rights are trampled upon.
The belief that “the dignity of a woman is her husband”, and so a woman must remain in marriage even when her life is in danger, should be changed.
I think it’s high time we totally embraced the provision of African Charter which promotes the intrinsic worth and dignity of the African woman.
Again, as Ms Kudo suggested, Rivers State government should tow the line of it’s Lagos State counterpart by providing a safe haven for women who are violated.
A place where these women can stay while their cases are on in courts so that they don’t run back to their husbands, as such moves have claimed the lives of many women.
Most importantly, there is need for men and women to complement each other since they are equal in dignity. Economic and political empowerment of women, eradication of poverty in the country are other important measures that will help in reducing violence against women.
Elimination of violence against women requires the contribution of all and sundry. It is not enough to sit down and lament the bad situation, or continue to engage in long speeches that hardly bear fruits.
The various women groups and NGOs should not stop at seminars and other programmes organised during the 16 days of activism. They should take further steps to ensure that whatever plan of action reached this period is implemented. This is not a period to blame government for our woes and expect government to solve all the problems. Government alone cannot do it.
Therefore, women groups, minister and commissioners of women affairs, female lawmakers, politicians, female professional bodies, NGOs, families, churches, town unions, village assemblies and voluntary organisations should get involved in the war against violation of women’s human rights. Let them fight against retrogressive culture, traditions and beliefs militating against women.
A happy mother begets a happy family and a happy family begets a happy nation. So let’s eliminate violence against women and girls, the present and future mothers so as to have happy families and indeed secured, peaceful nation.
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Wike VS Soldier’s Altercation: Matters Arising
The events that unfolded in Abuja on Tuesday November 11, 2025 between the Minister of the Federal Capital Territory, Chief Nyesom Wike and a detachment of soldiers guarding a disputed property, led by Adams Yerima, a commissioned Naval Officer, may go down as one of the defining images of Nigeria’s democratic contradictions. It was not merely a quarrel over land. It was a confrontation between civil authority and the military legacy that still hovers over our national life.
Nyesom Wike, fiery and fearless as always, was seen on video exchanging words with a uniformed officer who refused to grant him passage to inspect a parcel of land alleged to have been illegally acquired. The minister’s voice rose, his temper flared, and the soldier, too, stood his ground, insisting on his own authority. Around them, aides, security men, and bystanders watched, stunned, as two embodiments of the Nigerian state clashed in the open.
The images spread fast, igniting debates across drawing rooms, beer parlours, and social media platforms. Some hailed Wike for standing up to military arrogance; others scolded him for perceived disrespect to the armed forces. Yet beneath the noise lies a deeper question about what sort of society we are building and whether power in Nigeria truly understands the limits of its own reach.
It is tragic that, more than two decades into civil rule, the relationship between the civilian arm of government and the military remains fragile and poorly understood. The presence of soldiers in a land dispute between private individuals and the city administration is, by all civic standards, an aberration. It recalls a dark era when might was right, and uniforms conferred immunity against accountability.
Wike’s anger, even if fiery, was rooted in a legitimate concern: that no individual, however connected or retired, should deploy the military to protect personal interests. That sentiment echoes the fundamental democratic creed that the law is supreme, not personalities. If his passion overshot decorum, it was perhaps a reflection of a nation weary of impunity.
On the other hand, the soldier in question is a symbol of another truth: that discipline, respect for order, and duty to hierarchy are ingrained in our armed forces. He may have been caught between conflicting instructions one from his superiors, another from a civilian minister exercising his lawful authority. The confusion points not to personal failure but to institutional dysfunction.
It is, therefore, simplistic to turn the incident into a morality play of good versus evil.
*********”**** What happened was an institutional embarrassment. Both men represented facets of the same failing system a polity still learning how to reconcile authority with civility, law with loyalty, and service with restraint.
In fairness, Wike has shown himself as a man of uncommon courage. Whether in Rivers State or at the FCTA, he does not shy away from confrontation. Yet courage without composure often feeds misunderstanding. A public officer must always be the cooler head, even when provoked, because the power of example outweighs the satisfaction of winning an argument.
Conversely, soldiers, too, must be reminded that their uniforms do not place them above civilian oversight. The military exists to defend the nation, not to enforce property claims or intimidate lawful authorities. Their participation in purely civil matters corrodes the image of the institution and erodes public trust.
One cannot overlook the irony: in a country where kidnappers roam highways and bandits sack villages, armed men are posted to guard contested land in the capital. It reflects misplaced priorities and distorted values. The Nigerian soldier, trained to defend sovereignty, should not be drawn into private or bureaucratic tussles.
Sycophancy remains the greatest ailment of our political culture. Many of those who now cheer one side or the other do so not out of conviction but out of convenience. Tomorrow they will switch allegiance. True patriotism lies not in defending personalities but in defending principles. A people enslaved by flattery cannot nurture a culture of justice.
The Nigerian elite must learn to submit to the same laws that govern the poor. When big men fence off public land and use connections to shield their interests, they mock the very constitution they swore to uphold. The FCT, as the mirror of national order, must not become a jungle where only the powerful can build.
The lesson for Wike himself is also clear: power is best exercised with calmness. The weight of his office demands more than bravery; it demands statesmanship. To lead is not merely to command, but to persuade — even those who resist your authority.
Equally, the lesson for the armed forces is that professionalism shines brightest in restraint. Obedience to illegal orders is not loyalty; it is complicity. The soldier who stands on the side of justice protects both his honour and the dignity of his uniform.
The Presidency, too, must see this episode as a wake-up call to clarify institutional boundaries. If soldiers can be drawn into civil enforcement without authorization, then our democracy remains at risk of subtle militarization. The constitution must speak louder than confusion.
The Nigerian public deserves better than spectacles of ego. We crave leaders who rise above emotion and officers who respect civilian supremacy. Our children must not inherit a nation where authority means shouting matches and intimidation in public glare.
Every democracy matures through such tests. What matters is whether we learn the right lessons. The British once had generals who defied parliament; the Americans once fought over states’ rights; Nigeria, too, must pass through her own growing pains but with humility, not hubris.
If the confrontation has stirred discomfort, then perhaps it has done the nation some good. It forces a conversation long overdue: Who truly owns the state — the citizen or the powerful? Can we build a Nigeria where institutions, not individuals, define our destiny?
As the dust settles, both the FCTA and the military hierarchy must conduct impartial investigations. The truth must be established — not to shame anyone, but to restore order. Where laws were broken, consequences must follow. Where misunderstandings occurred, apologies must be offered.
Let the rule of law triumph over the rule of impulse. Let civility triumph over confrontation. Let governance return to the path of dialogue and procedure.
Nigeria cannot continue to oscillate between civilian bravado and military arrogance. Both impulses spring from the same insecurity — the fear of losing control. True leadership lies in the ability to trust institutions to do their work without coercion.
Those who witnessed the clash saw a drama of two gladiators. One in starched khaki, one in well-cut suit. Both proud, both unyielding. But a nation cannot be built on stubbornness; it must be built on understanding. Power, when it meets power, should produce order, not chaos.
We must resist the temptation to glorify temper. Governance is not warfare; it is stewardship. The citizen watches, the world observes, and history records. How we handle moments like this will define our collective maturity.
The confrontation may have ended without violence, but it left deep questions in the national conscience. When men of authority quarrel in the open, institutions tremble. The people, once again, become spectators in a theatre of misplaced pride.
It is time for all who hold office — civilian or military — to remember that they serve under the same flag. That flag is neither khaki nor political colour; it is green-white-green, and it demands humility.
No victor, no vanquish only a lesson for a nation still learning to govern itself with dignity.
By; King Onunwor
