It is 17 days after the gruesome death of the 12-year-old student of Dowen College, Lekki, Lagos, Sylvester Oromoni Jnr, and Nigerians are anxiously waiting for the results of the investigations into the cause of his death. The Lagos Police Command said it had commenced investigation and had made some arrests including some of the students accused by late Sylvester of brutalising him and the house masters on duty on the day he was beaten up.
The lower chamber of the National Assembly, after deliberating on the death of the poor schoolboy, also directed the Inspector General of Police, Usman Akali, to take over the investigation as well as mandated the Committees on Education, Youth Development, Women Affairs and Social Development and Safety to conduct an investigation into the matter and many citizens are waiting for the results.
Sylvester’s death is so painful and the circumstances surrounding it so touchy that it should not be one of those incidents that will be swept under the carpet once the uproar dies down. Some people have predicted that that is exactly what is going to happen and Nigerians should not allow it. In our typical Nigerian way of identifying with one another in difficulty, many people, including President Muhammadu Buhari, political and religious leaders, and parents have condemned the gruesome act and called for justice. Some celebrities have demanded for justice using #JusticeforSylvester. The Lagos State Government has also shut down the school until the end of the investigation but it should not end at that.
Nigerians should not rest until Dowen College Management owns up to their negligent and apparent lack of care and concern towards Sylvester such that it took a mere nurse at the school’s sick bay to inform his parents about his poor health condition. The school’s management must be made to tell the truth about what happened to the innocent boy and apologise to Oromoni’s family and Nigerians over the managerial irresponsibility exhibited in this case – claiming that Sylvester suffered injuries while playing football, that he was never beaten up by fellow students even when the painful condition the boy was in before his demise as he was seen struggling for life, suggests otherwise. The state of his lips showed that something toxic was in his system.
Nigerians should not keep quiet until all the students and staff (if any) suspected to have contributed to the untimely death of the child are made to answer for their crime. Some people have said that the students being minors cannot face trial. Well, that is for the lawyers to determine. But their action led to the loss of somebody’s life, which is murder and certainly, that must have some consequences. This will serve as a deterrent to other bullies in other schools and help in curtailing dangerous juvenile acts in Nigerian schools, both private and public. Parents send their children to school to be educated and be better human beings, not for them to be initiated into cult groups or be bullied to death.
Some people have also demanded that the parents of those alleged bullies be fished out for Nigerians to know their occupation and lifestyle, how these children were molded into little devils and if they were culpable in any way. While not subscribing to this sort of disclosure and bringing these people to media trials and court of public opinion knowing that sometimes parents do all they can to raise responsible children but some of them choose to be Judas among the twelve, it is important that these parents speak up in condemnation of what their children did. If these parents know that these children do not represent their family values, they owe it a duty not to cover up or fly the culpable children abroad as some of the parents are said to have done.  Most importantly, they need to apologise to the family of Oromoni for their children’s wicked act.
Recall when Umar Farouk Abdulmutallab, the otherwise called “underwear bomber,” or “Christmas bomber” and son of Abdul Mutallab, the former Chairman of First Bank and the current Chairman of Jaiz Bank started exhibiting terrorism tendencies, his father wrote to the US authorities to warn them about his son’s extreme views. That is why when the young man actually displayed it and engaging in the attempted Christmas Day 2009 bombing of Northwest Airlines Flight 253, the father was vindicated.
That is responsible parenting. The man skillfully, carefully and responsibly disassociated himself from his child not because he did not love him or he was not a caring father but because that was the right and honourable thing to do. You do not prove that you are a loving parent by covering your child’s wrong doings. There are a lot of instances where parents, especially mothers, in connivance with their children, hide a lot of negative information about those children from their fathers. A father insists that a child should not own a mobile phone till the age of maturity and the woman, claiming to be a doting mother, buys a phone for the child and tells him to hide it from the father. A child comes home with a poor result and the mother hides it from his father, lying that she has not collected it.
A woman discovers that a child is becoming wayward but puts up a defence for her each time the father wants to correct her. A story was recently told of a woman who aided her daughter to carry out an abortion without her husband’s knowledge. He only got to know about it when it resulted in complications that almost claimed the girl’s life. Let us not talk about how some parents treat their house helps and domestic staff as slaves. When we do all these, we claim we love these children but on the contrary, we are destroying them, teaching them how to be liars, cheats, wicked, irresponsible and all that.
So, while we hope that henceforth the authorities will take proactive actions to stem the wide spread bullying, cultism and other forms of assault in our schools, while we wait for the investigations to unravel the cause of Sylvester’s death and demand justice, let us not forget an adage that says that a kid watches how the mother chews cud and does the same when it becomes an adult goat. The best #JusticeforSylvester is when we as parents and adults and children speak out and do not keep quiet when we see wrong being done to another person and also do the right things.

By: Calista Ezeaku