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Checking Child Abuse
Journal of Child Abuse and Neglect defines: Child Abuse
as any recent act of fenhore on the part of a parent or caretaker which results in death, serious physical or emotional harm, sexual abuse or exploitations, an act or failure to act which presents an imminent risk of serious harm.
In western countries, preventing child abuse is considered a high priority and detailed laws and policies exist to address this issue. Different jurisdictions have developed their own definitions of what constitute child abuse for the purpose of removing a child from his/her family and prosecuting a criminal charge.
Child abuse is more than bruises and broken bones. While physical abuse might be the most visible, other types of abuse such as emotional abuse and neglect, also leaves deep, lasting scars. The earlier abused children get help, the greater chance of healing and breaking the cycle.
Learning common signs of abuse and what you can do to intervene, you can make a huge difference in a child’s life.
The idea that it’s only an abuse if violent, only bad people abuse children. Child abuse does not happen in good families, most child abusers are strangers. That abused children always grow up to become abusers is almost not true as the issue of child abuse could take various turns.
Child abuse takes different forms. It could be emotional or physical. Ignoring a child as a punishment, constant belittling and humillations, frequent yelling, threatening or bullying a child, not being predictable using fear to control behavior of a child, lashing out in anger on a child, among others.
The effect of child abuse and neglect among others are: Lack of trust and difficult relationship with children and the children to others. Core feeling of being worthless or damaged, due to re-current to others. Core feeling of being worthless or damaged, due to recalcitrant bard thoughts and talks.
Having children is certainly one of life’s greatest joy, but raising children can also be stressful, even for those who have the best information and support.
Overwhelming stress and lack of knowledge about child health and development can sometimes lead to child abuse and neglect, and it can happen in any community, anywhere.
We all have a role in preventing child abuse from ever happening but when we fail, our children, our communities and our country pay a steep price.
Victims of child abuse have a greater chance of academic failure, substance, abuse and mental health issues, chronic health conditions, Juvenile delinquency and criminal behavior.
In economic terms, child abuse costs American taxpayer more than $80 billion a year to fix something after the fact that it could have been prevented. The good news is that we know how to prevent child abuse and we are making some progress, but we can and need to do much better.
However, it is challenging to build support for such a cause as preventing child abuse and neglect. Some people shy away from the issue, the various reasons, including discomfort with the tragedy of child abuse, blaming “bad” parents who yeildto such a thing, and believing that child abuse does not happen in my neighbourhood.”
I recently met with a prominent political leader who also serves on the board of an organisation involving therapy dogs. He noted that it had just received a donation of several million dollars from someone who loved dogs.
We acknowledge the fact that the cause of child abuse prevention was unlikely to see that level of support, for all of the reasons abore.
Many people love dogs too but our children deserve better care. The founder of a national philanthropy that supports child abuse prevention as its primary goal, noted that “there is really no direct constituency for the causes, of child abuse prevention” compared to that of other nonprofit cause, such as universities, hospitals faith-based organisations or specific health issues.
So it makes it much more difficult to generate awareness and support and the opportunity to prevent abuse before it ever happened.
Prevent Child Abuse America was invited to ring the opening bell at the Nasdaq Stock Exchange to raise awareness about April as child abuse prevention month and about an event happening in Times Square .
The invitation from Nasdaq the second-largest stock exchange the Unites State, highlights the understanding that investment in childhood health and development has been shown to be an effective tool for economic development, with proven returns to American taxpayers and economic productivity.
On the same day as the Nasdaq event, newspaper in New Jersey reported the death of a 4-month old infant in the state who was shaken by his mother because he wouldn’t stop crying. The baby’s father was quoted as saying that he believes the baby would still be alive if they had received “parenting lessons”.
A number of hospitals across the state have recently begun an intensive programme that provides a powerful reminder to new parents about the stress a crying baby can cause and how parents can cope. Rigorous evaluations have shown the programme to be effective, dramatically reducing the incidence of shaken baby syndrome.
So far however, only a small group of hospitals has adopted it. We know how to prevent child abuse, but we can and must do a better job.
Egumah is of the University of Port Harcourt, Choba.
Alaad Ruth Egumah
Opinion
Wike VS Soldier’s Altercation: Matters Arising
The events that unfolded in Abuja on Tuesday November 11, 2025 between the Minister of the Federal Capital Territory, Chief Nyesom Wike and a detachment of soldiers guarding a disputed property, led by Adams Yerima, a commissioned Naval Officer, may go down as one of the defining images of Nigeria’s democratic contradictions. It was not merely a quarrel over land. It was a confrontation between civil authority and the military legacy that still hovers over our national life.
Nyesom Wike, fiery and fearless as always, was seen on video exchanging words with a uniformed officer who refused to grant him passage to inspect a parcel of land alleged to have been illegally acquired. The minister’s voice rose, his temper flared, and the soldier, too, stood his ground, insisting on his own authority. Around them, aides, security men, and bystanders watched, stunned, as two embodiments of the Nigerian state clashed in the open.
The images spread fast, igniting debates across drawing rooms, beer parlours, and social media platforms. Some hailed Wike for standing up to military arrogance; others scolded him for perceived disrespect to the armed forces. Yet beneath the noise lies a deeper question about what sort of society we are building and whether power in Nigeria truly understands the limits of its own reach.
It is tragic that, more than two decades into civil rule, the relationship between the civilian arm of government and the military remains fragile and poorly understood. The presence of soldiers in a land dispute between private individuals and the city administration is, by all civic standards, an aberration. It recalls a dark era when might was right, and uniforms conferred immunity against accountability.
Wike’s anger, even if fiery, was rooted in a legitimate concern: that no individual, however connected or retired, should deploy the military to protect personal interests. That sentiment echoes the fundamental democratic creed that the law is supreme, not personalities. If his passion overshot decorum, it was perhaps a reflection of a nation weary of impunity.
On the other hand, the soldier in question is a symbol of another truth: that discipline, respect for order, and duty to hierarchy are ingrained in our armed forces. He may have been caught between conflicting instructions one from his superiors, another from a civilian minister exercising his lawful authority. The confusion points not to personal failure but to institutional dysfunction.
It is, therefore, simplistic to turn the incident into a morality play of good versus evil.
*********”**** What happened was an institutional embarrassment. Both men represented facets of the same failing system a polity still learning how to reconcile authority with civility, law with loyalty, and service with restraint.
In fairness, Wike has shown himself as a man of uncommon courage. Whether in Rivers State or at the FCTA, he does not shy away from confrontation. Yet courage without composure often feeds misunderstanding. A public officer must always be the cooler head, even when provoked, because the power of example outweighs the satisfaction of winning an argument.
Conversely, soldiers, too, must be reminded that their uniforms do not place them above civilian oversight. The military exists to defend the nation, not to enforce property claims or intimidate lawful authorities. Their participation in purely civil matters corrodes the image of the institution and erodes public trust.
One cannot overlook the irony: in a country where kidnappers roam highways and bandits sack villages, armed men are posted to guard contested land in the capital. It reflects misplaced priorities and distorted values. The Nigerian soldier, trained to defend sovereignty, should not be drawn into private or bureaucratic tussles.
Sycophancy remains the greatest ailment of our political culture. Many of those who now cheer one side or the other do so not out of conviction but out of convenience. Tomorrow they will switch allegiance. True patriotism lies not in defending personalities but in defending principles. A people enslaved by flattery cannot nurture a culture of justice.
The Nigerian elite must learn to submit to the same laws that govern the poor. When big men fence off public land and use connections to shield their interests, they mock the very constitution they swore to uphold. The FCT, as the mirror of national order, must not become a jungle where only the powerful can build.
The lesson for Wike himself is also clear: power is best exercised with calmness. The weight of his office demands more than bravery; it demands statesmanship. To lead is not merely to command, but to persuade — even those who resist your authority.
Equally, the lesson for the armed forces is that professionalism shines brightest in restraint. Obedience to illegal orders is not loyalty; it is complicity. The soldier who stands on the side of justice protects both his honour and the dignity of his uniform.
The Presidency, too, must see this episode as a wake-up call to clarify institutional boundaries. If soldiers can be drawn into civil enforcement without authorization, then our democracy remains at risk of subtle militarization. The constitution must speak louder than confusion.
The Nigerian public deserves better than spectacles of ego. We crave leaders who rise above emotion and officers who respect civilian supremacy. Our children must not inherit a nation where authority means shouting matches and intimidation in public glare.
Every democracy matures through such tests. What matters is whether we learn the right lessons. The British once had generals who defied parliament; the Americans once fought over states’ rights; Nigeria, too, must pass through her own growing pains but with humility, not hubris.
If the confrontation has stirred discomfort, then perhaps it has done the nation some good. It forces a conversation long overdue: Who truly owns the state — the citizen or the powerful? Can we build a Nigeria where institutions, not individuals, define our destiny?
As the dust settles, both the FCTA and the military hierarchy must conduct impartial investigations. The truth must be established — not to shame anyone, but to restore order. Where laws were broken, consequences must follow. Where misunderstandings occurred, apologies must be offered.
Let the rule of law triumph over the rule of impulse. Let civility triumph over confrontation. Let governance return to the path of dialogue and procedure.
Nigeria cannot continue to oscillate between civilian bravado and military arrogance. Both impulses spring from the same insecurity — the fear of losing control. True leadership lies in the ability to trust institutions to do their work without coercion.
Those who witnessed the clash saw a drama of two gladiators. One in starched khaki, one in well-cut suit. Both proud, both unyielding. But a nation cannot be built on stubbornness; it must be built on understanding. Power, when it meets power, should produce order, not chaos.
We must resist the temptation to glorify temper. Governance is not warfare; it is stewardship. The citizen watches, the world observes, and history records. How we handle moments like this will define our collective maturity.
The confrontation may have ended without violence, but it left deep questions in the national conscience. When men of authority quarrel in the open, institutions tremble. The people, once again, become spectators in a theatre of misplaced pride.
It is time for all who hold office — civilian or military — to remember that they serve under the same flag. That flag is neither khaki nor political colour; it is green-white-green, and it demands humility.
No victor, no vanquish only a lesson for a nation still learning to govern itself with dignity.
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