Opinion
The Necessity Of Apology
The word “apology” according to the oxford dictio
nary simply means to say “am sorry”, when one un-intentionally hurts, causes injury or damage to the next fellow. A supposed remedy for all problems, apology engenders cordial relationship in our families, Offices, Churches etc. It nuture and promotes peace and love between the injured and the offender.
The important origin of the world apology could be traced back to the Bible, when biblical Esther apologised for the deeds of her husband and her house hold was saved from doleful moments. As mortals living in an imperfect world, we could make mistakes in course of our dealing or relating with the secular society, but the most important issue is, do we actually acknowledge when we are wrong? Can we quickly apologise to save precarious situations and promote forgiveness, love, cose world such as America, Canada, Britain etc had since toed this noble part of rending apology in their homes, office and public places. Little wonder, when a child is wrongly bully or hurt by it’s own parents or the school, the parents or the teacher quickly renders apology to the child or kid without which the law can easily catch-up with those offending parents or teacher, no matter how highly place in the society.
It is pertinent to note that the sceriario is totally different in this part of the world, particularly in the city of Port Harcourt where one could hardly hear people apologise for their misconduct or un-intentional cause to damage or injury to the next fellow. Rather the usual language that had replaced “am sorry” from the offender one is: “who are you? Do you know me? The oppulent in the society and top government official, political office holder as well as uniform personnel usually cow-down the injured with derogatory remarks instead of apologising. The question most observers of this scenario ask is: Will all these words used by the offenders heal the injury suffered? Obviously no.
Recently, along Port Harcourt Aba Express Road a top government official in a convoy, bashed a commercial taxi driver behind at the ever busy Rumuola junction without show of remorse. Instead, the taxi driver was dragged-out of his taxi and was brutally flogged by the security personnel attached to the convoy. What an injustice? Sadly, the poor suffer in hands of opulent.
Where is the rule of law, justice and equity, when those at the top can easily commit an offence and go unpunished? There is so much impunity displayed by the so called rich men at the expense of the poor. It is totally impossible for the rich in the society to apologise to the poor as it is in other climes.
Similarly, last week at Ada-George road by Whimpy junction, a parado jeep hit a Toyota corolla and the two gentlemen came out of their cars quarrelling, abusing each other so seriously, causing heavy traffic jam that lasted for several hours. Not even the presence of the security men and TIMARIV personnel drafted to control / traffic at that junction could save the ugly situation as they deprived other road users access to their various destination. Yet, this is an accident that mere apology whole have taken care of and even promoted healthy relationship between the injured and the offender. This eventually would have healed the wounds suffered by the injured.
Again, the popular University of Port Harcourt Junction witness heavy traffic due to a minor accident that consumed nearly the hold day. Both the offender and the injured abandoned their cars in the middle of the road and waited for the arrival of the traffic policemen who came measuring the distances of both cars, before towing the both vehicles to their station.
To some Nigerians, an apology means their right away from them. And while others see it as totally dehumanising and contemptuous, some believe that they cannot stoop low to say apologise even when they are wrong. Why the lack of empathy for our fellow Nigerian?
At this juncture, I beg to defer with the school of thought that those who screw-up courage be it in public or official domain, to render apology are cowards, spiritless, effeminate or timid. If everyone had been courageous enough to pardon love and show compassion, and if everyone could accept his or her mistake both in private and public life, the society will definitely become a better place for all.
This again brings to the fore the exemplary conduct of Governor Godswill Akpabio of Akwa-Ibom State who exhibited extra-ordinary love, humility and humaneness for accepting that he had erred when he presented a bill seeking for more remuneration after leaving office. That bill was vehemently opposed by the people of the state and he quickly withdrew the bill and apologise to the people of Akwa-Ibom State. Governor Adams Oshiomhole of Edo State equally showed humility when he apologised to a woman whose goods where thrown away by his aides in the market. He not only apologised to her but equally embraced and welcomed her to Government House, Benin city.
Finally, for apology to be healthy, the injured must show openness of heart to accept and embrace the offender whole-heartedly, while he or she who has been offended should demonstrate remorsefulness, put down ego and say “am sorry”.
Nuwani Need Simebia
Opinion
Wike VS Soldier’s Altercation: Matters Arising
The events that unfolded in Abuja on Tuesday November 11, 2025 between the Minister of the Federal Capital Territory, Chief Nyesom Wike and a detachment of soldiers guarding a disputed property, led by Adams Yerima, a commissioned Naval Officer, may go down as one of the defining images of Nigeria’s democratic contradictions. It was not merely a quarrel over land. It was a confrontation between civil authority and the military legacy that still hovers over our national life.
Nyesom Wike, fiery and fearless as always, was seen on video exchanging words with a uniformed officer who refused to grant him passage to inspect a parcel of land alleged to have been illegally acquired. The minister’s voice rose, his temper flared, and the soldier, too, stood his ground, insisting on his own authority. Around them, aides, security men, and bystanders watched, stunned, as two embodiments of the Nigerian state clashed in the open.
The images spread fast, igniting debates across drawing rooms, beer parlours, and social media platforms. Some hailed Wike for standing up to military arrogance; others scolded him for perceived disrespect to the armed forces. Yet beneath the noise lies a deeper question about what sort of society we are building and whether power in Nigeria truly understands the limits of its own reach.
It is tragic that, more than two decades into civil rule, the relationship between the civilian arm of government and the military remains fragile and poorly understood. The presence of soldiers in a land dispute between private individuals and the city administration is, by all civic standards, an aberration. It recalls a dark era when might was right, and uniforms conferred immunity against accountability.
Wike’s anger, even if fiery, was rooted in a legitimate concern: that no individual, however connected or retired, should deploy the military to protect personal interests. That sentiment echoes the fundamental democratic creed that the law is supreme, not personalities. If his passion overshot decorum, it was perhaps a reflection of a nation weary of impunity.
On the other hand, the soldier in question is a symbol of another truth: that discipline, respect for order, and duty to hierarchy are ingrained in our armed forces. He may have been caught between conflicting instructions one from his superiors, another from a civilian minister exercising his lawful authority. The confusion points not to personal failure but to institutional dysfunction.
It is, therefore, simplistic to turn the incident into a morality play of good versus evil.
*********”**** What happened was an institutional embarrassment. Both men represented facets of the same failing system a polity still learning how to reconcile authority with civility, law with loyalty, and service with restraint.
In fairness, Wike has shown himself as a man of uncommon courage. Whether in Rivers State or at the FCTA, he does not shy away from confrontation. Yet courage without composure often feeds misunderstanding. A public officer must always be the cooler head, even when provoked, because the power of example outweighs the satisfaction of winning an argument.
Conversely, soldiers, too, must be reminded that their uniforms do not place them above civilian oversight. The military exists to defend the nation, not to enforce property claims or intimidate lawful authorities. Their participation in purely civil matters corrodes the image of the institution and erodes public trust.
One cannot overlook the irony: in a country where kidnappers roam highways and bandits sack villages, armed men are posted to guard contested land in the capital. It reflects misplaced priorities and distorted values. The Nigerian soldier, trained to defend sovereignty, should not be drawn into private or bureaucratic tussles.
Sycophancy remains the greatest ailment of our political culture. Many of those who now cheer one side or the other do so not out of conviction but out of convenience. Tomorrow they will switch allegiance. True patriotism lies not in defending personalities but in defending principles. A people enslaved by flattery cannot nurture a culture of justice.
The Nigerian elite must learn to submit to the same laws that govern the poor. When big men fence off public land and use connections to shield their interests, they mock the very constitution they swore to uphold. The FCT, as the mirror of national order, must not become a jungle where only the powerful can build.
The lesson for Wike himself is also clear: power is best exercised with calmness. The weight of his office demands more than bravery; it demands statesmanship. To lead is not merely to command, but to persuade — even those who resist your authority.
Equally, the lesson for the armed forces is that professionalism shines brightest in restraint. Obedience to illegal orders is not loyalty; it is complicity. The soldier who stands on the side of justice protects both his honour and the dignity of his uniform.
The Presidency, too, must see this episode as a wake-up call to clarify institutional boundaries. If soldiers can be drawn into civil enforcement without authorization, then our democracy remains at risk of subtle militarization. The constitution must speak louder than confusion.
The Nigerian public deserves better than spectacles of ego. We crave leaders who rise above emotion and officers who respect civilian supremacy. Our children must not inherit a nation where authority means shouting matches and intimidation in public glare.
Every democracy matures through such tests. What matters is whether we learn the right lessons. The British once had generals who defied parliament; the Americans once fought over states’ rights; Nigeria, too, must pass through her own growing pains but with humility, not hubris.
If the confrontation has stirred discomfort, then perhaps it has done the nation some good. It forces a conversation long overdue: Who truly owns the state — the citizen or the powerful? Can we build a Nigeria where institutions, not individuals, define our destiny?
As the dust settles, both the FCTA and the military hierarchy must conduct impartial investigations. The truth must be established — not to shame anyone, but to restore order. Where laws were broken, consequences must follow. Where misunderstandings occurred, apologies must be offered.
Let the rule of law triumph over the rule of impulse. Let civility triumph over confrontation. Let governance return to the path of dialogue and procedure.
Nigeria cannot continue to oscillate between civilian bravado and military arrogance. Both impulses spring from the same insecurity — the fear of losing control. True leadership lies in the ability to trust institutions to do their work without coercion.
Those who witnessed the clash saw a drama of two gladiators. One in starched khaki, one in well-cut suit. Both proud, both unyielding. But a nation cannot be built on stubbornness; it must be built on understanding. Power, when it meets power, should produce order, not chaos.
We must resist the temptation to glorify temper. Governance is not warfare; it is stewardship. The citizen watches, the world observes, and history records. How we handle moments like this will define our collective maturity.
The confrontation may have ended without violence, but it left deep questions in the national conscience. When men of authority quarrel in the open, institutions tremble. The people, once again, become spectators in a theatre of misplaced pride.
It is time for all who hold office — civilian or military — to remember that they serve under the same flag. That flag is neither khaki nor political colour; it is green-white-green, and it demands humility.
No victor, no vanquish only a lesson for a nation still learning to govern itself with dignity.
By; King Onunwor
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