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Man The Ultimate Slave
He is a septuagenarian living in a five-bedroom mansion on sprawling grounds in the suburb. He laboured throughout life to raise his children to the best of his abilities and within the limits of his legitimate resources. An ardent believer in the sanctity of the soul and the dignity of labour, he limited his pleasures to provide the family a life of modest comfort and bankrolled school fees and living expenses for his children in good schools both at home and abroad. His life epitomised Christian Puritanism and work ethics. When the children graduated, got good jobs and became well-off with some living abroad, his sexagenarian wife embarked on an endless sojourn with her children, travelling across the world to assist in nursing their grandchildren. As a result, our septuagenarian retiree is living a lonely life in what used to be a happy home. His children call him periodically and send money for his upkeep.
Now a pachelor (a single old man), he is on his own and has practically started life anew irrespective of his failing health and the stark realities of the ailments associated with aging. He is lonely bordering on slipping into depression. His blood pressure is high; so is his blood sugar. Enlarged prostate has set in with the resultant difficulty in urination. Thanks to his retirement benefits, he can afford medical attention but what about the psychological effects of home care? What about servicing his egregious nature? He has learned to live with eating fast food, which he abhors. Psychologically, he feels his world is coming to a sad end yet death, an end he now wishes for, is taking its time. How long can he survive under this condition, he soliloquises in his endless quiet moments. His life flashes through his tormented mind.
Reminiscing on his life, he found a heart throb and laboured to buy an engagement ring with diamond crusts. With a freshly harvested red rose in hand on a cool Saturday evening in an exotic park, he went on his knees before her while close friends and associates watched; he took the deepest breath in his life (thus far), flipped out the diamond ring from its leathery pouch and popped the question: “Would you marry me? Please?” The traditional pause that came on the heels of that emotion-laden expression of his heart’s desire virtually lasted eternally; for a second he thought his heart will park up. And when the answer came in the affirmative, he was overjoyed; he leaped into the sky in ecstasy believing he was set to commence a life of bliss.
The engagement party was lavished, to make the point of his love for her and demonstrate to his in-laws his preparedness for the duties and responsibilities of husbandhood and fatherhood. The traditional and church weddings furthered the statement of preparedness; the in-laws had to be convinced that their precious jewel is going to be taken care of properly. He laboured exceedingly and even took loans to bankroll these events, which came at enormous cost. Nine months after playing to the gallery and settling in a new apartment, which was made comfortable at great cost, a little “bundle of joy” arrived with the usual voracious appetite, the metabolism of a piranha and the capacity to demand urgent attention all the time. One after another, the “bundles of joy” came in quick succession to the delight of both families and the glory of God
Incontrovertibly, women love their kids more than their husbands, no matter how good the man is. The older he gets, the less use they have for him. Again, children have greater bond with their mother; and this is natural. Therefore, men sacrifice so much but get little recognition for their hard work; rather, women harvest the sumptuous fruitage of parentage as, more often than not, the children are more affectionate towards their mother and this feeling intensifies in the old age of the woman. When their mother is not with them , the children send loads of food supplements to her and send a box of Cuban cigars and a carton of whisky to their father. And if you realise that whisky is acronym for “watch how I shall kill you”, then you know that the children are impatient to know the content of the Will.
Men should learn to incorporate plans of how to take good care of themselves at old age during their hey days. Irrespective of how caring you are as a husband and father, the fact remains that a huge percentage of women love their children more than their husband and children naturally love their mothers more than their father. Therefore, the children will inevitably grow up and start a life and family of their own and the loving wife will, of necessity, take time off to visit them; so, wife and children may not be there when you need them most. A father may not experience monthly periods, but he bleeds in his heart; yes, he bleeds from inside; not monthly but throughout the years of fending for the family and when he is not appreciated, which is more often than not, he bleeds , silently. When he is not able to provide for his family, when he is blamed for not being like his fellow men, and when he is rarely appreciated for his daily struggles to keep the family healthy, strong and together, he bleeds profusely in his heart.
Though a father does not carry a pregnancy for nine months, he spends his working life bearing the pangs of the “pregnancy” of family needs, dreams, visions and aspirations; a pregnancy he delivers only after the children are settled and doing well. He may not experience labour pains, but he endures physical, mental and emotional pains, throughout the years of raising the children. His wife, children and numerous members of the extended family on both sides of the marriage viciously suck from his unseen breasts. When in the end he is a septuagenarian pachelor, he realises that he had slaved throughout his life; he bleeds inside till death. That is the ordeal of man, the ultimate slave. As the saying goes, “only women, children and pets are loved unconditionally”.
By: Jason Osai
Osai is a Professor of Development Studies Rivers State University, Port Harcourt.
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Wike VS Soldier’s Altercation: Matters Arising
The events that unfolded in Abuja on Tuesday November 11, 2025 between the Minister of the Federal Capital Territory, Chief Nyesom Wike and a detachment of soldiers guarding a disputed property, led by Adams Yerima, a commissioned Naval Officer, may go down as one of the defining images of Nigeria’s democratic contradictions. It was not merely a quarrel over land. It was a confrontation between civil authority and the military legacy that still hovers over our national life.
Nyesom Wike, fiery and fearless as always, was seen on video exchanging words with a uniformed officer who refused to grant him passage to inspect a parcel of land alleged to have been illegally acquired. The minister’s voice rose, his temper flared, and the soldier, too, stood his ground, insisting on his own authority. Around them, aides, security men, and bystanders watched, stunned, as two embodiments of the Nigerian state clashed in the open.
The images spread fast, igniting debates across drawing rooms, beer parlours, and social media platforms. Some hailed Wike for standing up to military arrogance; others scolded him for perceived disrespect to the armed forces. Yet beneath the noise lies a deeper question about what sort of society we are building and whether power in Nigeria truly understands the limits of its own reach.
It is tragic that, more than two decades into civil rule, the relationship between the civilian arm of government and the military remains fragile and poorly understood. The presence of soldiers in a land dispute between private individuals and the city administration is, by all civic standards, an aberration. It recalls a dark era when might was right, and uniforms conferred immunity against accountability.
Wike’s anger, even if fiery, was rooted in a legitimate concern: that no individual, however connected or retired, should deploy the military to protect personal interests. That sentiment echoes the fundamental democratic creed that the law is supreme, not personalities. If his passion overshot decorum, it was perhaps a reflection of a nation weary of impunity.
On the other hand, the soldier in question is a symbol of another truth: that discipline, respect for order, and duty to hierarchy are ingrained in our armed forces. He may have been caught between conflicting instructions one from his superiors, another from a civilian minister exercising his lawful authority. The confusion points not to personal failure but to institutional dysfunction.
It is, therefore, simplistic to turn the incident into a morality play of good versus evil.
*********”**** What happened was an institutional embarrassment. Both men represented facets of the same failing system a polity still learning how to reconcile authority with civility, law with loyalty, and service with restraint.
In fairness, Wike has shown himself as a man of uncommon courage. Whether in Rivers State or at the FCTA, he does not shy away from confrontation. Yet courage without composure often feeds misunderstanding. A public officer must always be the cooler head, even when provoked, because the power of example outweighs the satisfaction of winning an argument.
Conversely, soldiers, too, must be reminded that their uniforms do not place them above civilian oversight. The military exists to defend the nation, not to enforce property claims or intimidate lawful authorities. Their participation in purely civil matters corrodes the image of the institution and erodes public trust.
One cannot overlook the irony: in a country where kidnappers roam highways and bandits sack villages, armed men are posted to guard contested land in the capital. It reflects misplaced priorities and distorted values. The Nigerian soldier, trained to defend sovereignty, should not be drawn into private or bureaucratic tussles.
Sycophancy remains the greatest ailment of our political culture. Many of those who now cheer one side or the other do so not out of conviction but out of convenience. Tomorrow they will switch allegiance. True patriotism lies not in defending personalities but in defending principles. A people enslaved by flattery cannot nurture a culture of justice.
The Nigerian elite must learn to submit to the same laws that govern the poor. When big men fence off public land and use connections to shield their interests, they mock the very constitution they swore to uphold. The FCT, as the mirror of national order, must not become a jungle where only the powerful can build.
The lesson for Wike himself is also clear: power is best exercised with calmness. The weight of his office demands more than bravery; it demands statesmanship. To lead is not merely to command, but to persuade — even those who resist your authority.
Equally, the lesson for the armed forces is that professionalism shines brightest in restraint. Obedience to illegal orders is not loyalty; it is complicity. The soldier who stands on the side of justice protects both his honour and the dignity of his uniform.
The Presidency, too, must see this episode as a wake-up call to clarify institutional boundaries. If soldiers can be drawn into civil enforcement without authorization, then our democracy remains at risk of subtle militarization. The constitution must speak louder than confusion.
The Nigerian public deserves better than spectacles of ego. We crave leaders who rise above emotion and officers who respect civilian supremacy. Our children must not inherit a nation where authority means shouting matches and intimidation in public glare.
Every democracy matures through such tests. What matters is whether we learn the right lessons. The British once had generals who defied parliament; the Americans once fought over states’ rights; Nigeria, too, must pass through her own growing pains but with humility, not hubris.
If the confrontation has stirred discomfort, then perhaps it has done the nation some good. It forces a conversation long overdue: Who truly owns the state — the citizen or the powerful? Can we build a Nigeria where institutions, not individuals, define our destiny?
As the dust settles, both the FCTA and the military hierarchy must conduct impartial investigations. The truth must be established — not to shame anyone, but to restore order. Where laws were broken, consequences must follow. Where misunderstandings occurred, apologies must be offered.
Let the rule of law triumph over the rule of impulse. Let civility triumph over confrontation. Let governance return to the path of dialogue and procedure.
Nigeria cannot continue to oscillate between civilian bravado and military arrogance. Both impulses spring from the same insecurity — the fear of losing control. True leadership lies in the ability to trust institutions to do their work without coercion.
Those who witnessed the clash saw a drama of two gladiators. One in starched khaki, one in well-cut suit. Both proud, both unyielding. But a nation cannot be built on stubbornness; it must be built on understanding. Power, when it meets power, should produce order, not chaos.
We must resist the temptation to glorify temper. Governance is not warfare; it is stewardship. The citizen watches, the world observes, and history records. How we handle moments like this will define our collective maturity.
The confrontation may have ended without violence, but it left deep questions in the national conscience. When men of authority quarrel in the open, institutions tremble. The people, once again, become spectators in a theatre of misplaced pride.
It is time for all who hold office — civilian or military — to remember that they serve under the same flag. That flag is neither khaki nor political colour; it is green-white-green, and it demands humility.
No victor, no vanquish only a lesson for a nation still learning to govern itself with dignity.
By; King Onunwor
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