Women

Extolling Values Of The Girl – Child

Published

8 years ago

March 18, 2016

The Irony of existence is
that Life is a function of the choice we make. It offers us alternative and option(s) to choose from, consequently making us take responsibility for actions and inactions.
This is why some people believe that the choice we make defines life expression and the attendant results.
However there are certain experiences that transcend the control of man. For instance a person cannot determine who their parents should be, their nativity (where they should be born) and their composition. These are essentially acts of God.
In most African cultures where gender-defined-roles is a norm and male dominance is common, the girl-child seems to have lost her priceless value. This is because of the erroneous view that a girl-girl is a product for another family, through marriage.
However, this belief is far from truth as the girl-child who grows into an adult female with proper parenting and adequate care becomes an asset for both her biological and matrimonial families.
It is unfortunate that what should be seen as a “Pearl of great Price”, is to some minds an unwanted human specie to some men . This is to say the least the height of ingratitude. It is no longer news that there are no gender-defined roles or professions or vocations anymore, as it is crystal clear that even human walks of life that were hitherto the exclusive preserve or dominated by men are being ventured into by women.
Society is replete with women who have distinguished themselves in fields of human endeavour and have left an indelible mark in the sands of time.
We cannot forget in a hurry the unquantifiable contributions of Margaret Ekpo, Fumilayo Ransome Kuti who emancipated women from the shackles of political and economic domination through their vociferous activities. Oby Ezekwesili and Late Professor Dora Akunyili who spiced the nation’s socio-economic and political sphere with their wealth of experience and were able to foster rebirth of core values which were moribund in our system, are legendaries of the inestimable value of virtuous woman who started from the cradle of a Girl-Child.
In a similar vein, the Bible’s Hall of Faith in the book of Hebrews Chapter Twelve, gives a catalogue of heroes of faith who were captivated by their conviction of faith that informed their actions and inactions to God and humanity.
These Virtuous women include Sarah, a model mother, Deborah, a valiant and courageous leader, Abigail, a wise and prudent wife; Esther, a faithful nationalist, Ruth, the committed and purposeful follower and several others. All these women, the Bible says will be “crowned” someday at the Judgement seat following the Rapture of the saints, but not without us (the several others who have believed in Jesus).
It is in this spirit of honouring the virtuous girl-child that the Rivers District of Assemblies of God Nigeria at her 15th Triennial Council meeting held recently in Port Harcourt deemed it necessary to crown thirty-two girls drawn from sixteen sections of the District, with Okrika Mainland parading the majority of eight.
These girls known in the Assemblies of God Parlance as “Missionette” were adjudged worthy in character and knowledge of Scripture to be conferred with such rare honour which was seen as a foretaste of the crowing and rewards of those who would hold on to their faith to the end, at the Bema Judgment.
Speaking at the ceremony, the wife of the General Treasurer of Assemblies of God Nigeria, Rev (Mrs) Vincent Alaje, told the girls who were within the age bracket of twelve and fifteen that their crowning was a constant reminder of the ultimate crowning and honour that would take place in heaven when all the redeemed will meet Jesus face to face.
She urged them to remain faithful and true to the teachings they had received which is capable of saving them to the end and avoid such acts that are inimical to biblical injunctions and the value system.
Rev. Alaje who performed the ceremony with the compliment of other daughters of destiny in attendance, was full of praises for local church misisonette leaders who through their exemplary roles and commitment to their assigned responsibilities, the uphill tasks notwithstanding, were able to tutor and mentor the girls to spiritual citadel of honour.
She noted that while the morally-decadent society poses debilitating threat to child-upbringing an avowed commitment and determination on the part of parents, wards and spiritual care givers to bring children up in the fear of God and regard for value system was the required balm to guarantee better children for a greater tomorrow.

Igbiki Benibo

Women

The Wise Woman

Published

1 week ago

April 26, 2024

The Tide

The wise woman builds her home. Mothers are supposed to live exemplary lives. The roles of mothers in the building of the modern Christian home cannot be overemphasized.
The function of the mother is to help the man build the home. She is a helper. A helper to the husband when the man is not doing well. It is important for the wise woman to assist when the man is not able to meet up with the items needed in the home.
A wise woman needs to reference God first and then the husband. Also the wise woman should respect her husband.
Caring for her own children as well as others is very crucial.
Do not despise children from other mothers. Discipline the child who is going the wrong way.
Ensure family bonding, show love and don’t discriminate. Connection with children is very important, especially the females. Find out who is her friend. Also find out the kind of lives they live. Caution, counsel and guide so that they make good partners.
Teaching children the dos and donts should start from birth. Inculcate the word of God in them so that when they grow, will not depart from it.
From the Scripture, some women influenced their families positively. Virgin Mary influenced the world, she never destroyed herself hence she gave birth to Jesus Christ.
Elizabeth, despite her age, God blessed her as she waited patiently.
A wise should curb favouritism in the family and love children equally. Whether a child is your biological child or not, it is necessary to show love equally. Reprimanding the children should be the function of both man and wife.

Women

The Desire Of Every Woman In Marriage

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1 week ago

April 26, 2024

The Tide

Marriage is beautiful when there is love. Before and after marriage, couples show love to themselves. But you discover that after some years, that same love turn to be something else. A lot of people start going through emotional trauma in the hands of their loved spouses.
There are many things the woman desires to keep the love on as far as marriage is concerned.
Women are blesssed with feminine abilities that can be used for good in husbands lives. With your abilities, you can create a marriage that will last till couples get old.
A woman needs
man that is honest, trustworthy, nice, loving and financially stable.
There are no two ways about finance in marriage. No matter the level of love, if there is no reasonable finance, it is always difficult to manage the home.
Referring to the Biblical belief in Genesis 3: “Your desire shall be unto you…….. “
What this means is that whatever the woman desires in life shall be provided as far as she performs her role in her home. There are many things the woman expects her husband to take care of.
A woman wants a husband that is not lazy, at least helping to do one or two things when he is at home.
A man that is educated and intelligent so that they will transfer such traits to their children.
Knowing that there are traits that her husband has, traits of taking care of people, giving freely to people and caring for her family. She expects him to exhibit them.
A woman wants to love a husband that has family interest at heart. A man that spends time with his family, remembering his family even as he is away from home.
No matter where he finds himself, he is not destracted by external influence. He returns home to his loved ones.
A woman should not antagonise her husband because of one error or the other. No matter the level of offence he may have committed, you still show some love.
According to the Scripture, it is with wisdom that a woman builds her home. As far as he rreturns home, you accept him as your own.
It is not as if the woman will not monitor her husband, but to certain limit. Don’t be a monitoring spirit. Don’t allow anything to take your joy.
Don’t loose trust in your husband. The idea of checking your husband’s phone should be discouraged. The more you check your husband and his phone, the more you loose your joy.
You can show some form of jealousy, but to an extent. Cooperation, respect and being honoured from time to time is what the woman desires.
The home should not be a battle ground for a woman and man. A woman should be able to ask herself if the check on her husband will pay her any good.
Draw a line to a point where you checkmate your husband’s activities.
A woman wants a man that will love her and telling her you love her will be all she desires.

Women

The Desire Of Every Woman In Marriage

Published

1 month ago

April 5, 2024

The Tide

A woman needs a man that is honest, trustworthy, nice, loving and financially stable.
There are no two ways about finance in marriage. No matter the level of love, If there is no money, it is always difficult.

Referring to the Biblical belief in Genesis 3:Your desire shall be unto you……..
That is one aspect the woman expects her husband to take care of.
A woman wants a husband that is not lazy, at least helping to do one or two things. A man that is educated and intelligent.
She knows that there is a trait that her husband has. Traits of taking care of people, giving freely to people and caring for her family.
A woman wants to love a husband that has family interest at heart. A man that spends time with his family, remembering his family even as he is away from home.
A woman should not antagonise her husband because of one error or the other. No matter the level of offence he may have committed, you still show some love.

According to the Scripture, it is with wisdom that the women builds her home.
It is not as if the woman will not monitor her husband, but to certain limit. Don’t be a monitoring spirit. Don’t allow anything to take your joy.
Don’t loose trust in your husband.
The idea of checking your husband’s phone should be discouraged. The more you check your husband and his phone, the more you loose your joy.

The home should not be a battle ground for a woman and man. A woman should be able to ask herself if the check on her husband will pay her any good.
Draw a line to a point where you checkmate your husband’s activities.
A woman wants a man that will love her and telling her you love her will be all she desires.