Opinion
Checking Our Tempers
Temperance, the practice of controlling your
behaviour so that it is always reasonable, is an inate longing in every human being. Unfortunately, the society and its components have become so gay that reasonability is hardly the first instance in man’s actions.
Man is easily flared at the slightest provocation and can do the unimaginable just to pass his feelings across. But, for how long will this continue and on whose shoulders is the burden placed?
This question is apt because provocation flows from all the segments of human existence-husband/wife, parents/children, siblings, colleagues, friends, business and political associates, brethren etcetera. Undoubtedly, the effect of temper loss at provocation most times is better unimagined.
It couldn’t have been for anything less than this that the age long, ever-existing book, the Holy Bible recorded that as much as it lieth with you, follow peace with all men. Indeed, it never minced its words.
Tempers are raging everywhere in the society. Apthy was the incident that happened at Umuebele in Oyigbo Local government Area of Rivers State last year. A father, out of anger hit the head of his second son with a motar pistle over a little misunderstanding. The 19 year old boy, a year two undergraduate of Economics was rushed to the hospital and was few days after reported dead.
The father, of the deceased had the best knowledge that his anger could take that dimension. But it did and sure, he will ever remain with the guilt.
I remember also in 1999 when a father, out of the euphoria of the burial celebration of a king whose life was considered well spent, shot his son to death in Ahoada. Each time I see this man, his wife and children, the incident comes alive in my memory and I know that in the midst of the stigma “the man who killed his son,” that family would ever live with the guilt and shame.
There was also another son who stabbed his father to death out of the anger that the man beat his wife, the boy’s mother. Cases abound over the media and the internet of similar situations especially of a mother who cut off the ears of her son including that of a staff who strangled his colleague to death.
The absence of temper control has caused a great deal of havoc in so much that couples are divorced, parents and children are at variance, organisations in shambles, governments in disarray, and of course anarchy in the entire system.
Beyond this is the impact on the nation and its sub-regions. The Niger Delta Militancy of 2007 and its succeeding year had a direct bearing on the lack of temperance. The current Boko Haram insurgency is traceable to the absence of temper control. What about the political brouhaha rocking both the Sate and federal levels? It is not unconnected with lack of temperance. And the escalation of churches? The list goes on. Perhaps, the present economic situation is the anchor.
Temperance is a virtue that must be craved for by every human for a peaceful co-existence. Nevertheless, people at all levels show no paragon of virtue in the discharge of their day to day actions. They forget the fact that in whatever position they may serve, they are revealing motive and developing character.
It should be noted that every association of life calls for the exercise of self-control and for bearance. We differ so widely in disposition, habits, education, that our perceptions vary. Our understanding and ideas in regard to the conduct of life are not in all respects the same.
So frail, so ignorant, so liable to misconception is human nature that each should be careful in the estimate he places on the other. We little know the bearing of our acts upon the experience of others and thus, need to check our tempers.
We cannot afford to let our spirit chafe over any real or supposed wrong done to ourselves. Indeed, self is the enemy we must need to fear because no form of vice has a more baleful effect upon the character than has the human passion not under control-temperance.
It’s high time we strived not to allow our feelings to be easily wounded. Guard against retaliation and remove all cause for misapprehension. Moreso because so long as we are in the world, we shall meet with adverse influences.
There will be provocations to test our tempers but then, the consistent life, the patient forbearance, the spirit unrufled under provocation, is always the most conclusive argument and the most solemn appeal.
It is imperative that we check our tempers and infact, if you have had opportunities and advantages that have not fallen to the lot of others, consider this, and be ever wise, careful, gentle and patient teacher, servant, parent, child or leader.
Lady Godknows Ogbulu
Opinion
Wike VS Soldier’s Altercation: Matters Arising
The events that unfolded in Abuja on Tuesday November 11, 2025 between the Minister of the Federal Capital Territory, Chief Nyesom Wike and a detachment of soldiers guarding a disputed property, led by Adams Yerima, a commissioned Naval Officer, may go down as one of the defining images of Nigeria’s democratic contradictions. It was not merely a quarrel over land. It was a confrontation between civil authority and the military legacy that still hovers over our national life.
Nyesom Wike, fiery and fearless as always, was seen on video exchanging words with a uniformed officer who refused to grant him passage to inspect a parcel of land alleged to have been illegally acquired. The minister’s voice rose, his temper flared, and the soldier, too, stood his ground, insisting on his own authority. Around them, aides, security men, and bystanders watched, stunned, as two embodiments of the Nigerian state clashed in the open.
The images spread fast, igniting debates across drawing rooms, beer parlours, and social media platforms. Some hailed Wike for standing up to military arrogance; others scolded him for perceived disrespect to the armed forces. Yet beneath the noise lies a deeper question about what sort of society we are building and whether power in Nigeria truly understands the limits of its own reach.
It is tragic that, more than two decades into civil rule, the relationship between the civilian arm of government and the military remains fragile and poorly understood. The presence of soldiers in a land dispute between private individuals and the city administration is, by all civic standards, an aberration. It recalls a dark era when might was right, and uniforms conferred immunity against accountability.
Wike’s anger, even if fiery, was rooted in a legitimate concern: that no individual, however connected or retired, should deploy the military to protect personal interests. That sentiment echoes the fundamental democratic creed that the law is supreme, not personalities. If his passion overshot decorum, it was perhaps a reflection of a nation weary of impunity.
On the other hand, the soldier in question is a symbol of another truth: that discipline, respect for order, and duty to hierarchy are ingrained in our armed forces. He may have been caught between conflicting instructions one from his superiors, another from a civilian minister exercising his lawful authority. The confusion points not to personal failure but to institutional dysfunction.
It is, therefore, simplistic to turn the incident into a morality play of good versus evil.
*********”**** What happened was an institutional embarrassment. Both men represented facets of the same failing system a polity still learning how to reconcile authority with civility, law with loyalty, and service with restraint.
In fairness, Wike has shown himself as a man of uncommon courage. Whether in Rivers State or at the FCTA, he does not shy away from confrontation. Yet courage without composure often feeds misunderstanding. A public officer must always be the cooler head, even when provoked, because the power of example outweighs the satisfaction of winning an argument.
Conversely, soldiers, too, must be reminded that their uniforms do not place them above civilian oversight. The military exists to defend the nation, not to enforce property claims or intimidate lawful authorities. Their participation in purely civil matters corrodes the image of the institution and erodes public trust.
One cannot overlook the irony: in a country where kidnappers roam highways and bandits sack villages, armed men are posted to guard contested land in the capital. It reflects misplaced priorities and distorted values. The Nigerian soldier, trained to defend sovereignty, should not be drawn into private or bureaucratic tussles.
Sycophancy remains the greatest ailment of our political culture. Many of those who now cheer one side or the other do so not out of conviction but out of convenience. Tomorrow they will switch allegiance. True patriotism lies not in defending personalities but in defending principles. A people enslaved by flattery cannot nurture a culture of justice.
The Nigerian elite must learn to submit to the same laws that govern the poor. When big men fence off public land and use connections to shield their interests, they mock the very constitution they swore to uphold. The FCT, as the mirror of national order, must not become a jungle where only the powerful can build.
The lesson for Wike himself is also clear: power is best exercised with calmness. The weight of his office demands more than bravery; it demands statesmanship. To lead is not merely to command, but to persuade — even those who resist your authority.
Equally, the lesson for the armed forces is that professionalism shines brightest in restraint. Obedience to illegal orders is not loyalty; it is complicity. The soldier who stands on the side of justice protects both his honour and the dignity of his uniform.
The Presidency, too, must see this episode as a wake-up call to clarify institutional boundaries. If soldiers can be drawn into civil enforcement without authorization, then our democracy remains at risk of subtle militarization. The constitution must speak louder than confusion.
The Nigerian public deserves better than spectacles of ego. We crave leaders who rise above emotion and officers who respect civilian supremacy. Our children must not inherit a nation where authority means shouting matches and intimidation in public glare.
Every democracy matures through such tests. What matters is whether we learn the right lessons. The British once had generals who defied parliament; the Americans once fought over states’ rights; Nigeria, too, must pass through her own growing pains but with humility, not hubris.
If the confrontation has stirred discomfort, then perhaps it has done the nation some good. It forces a conversation long overdue: Who truly owns the state — the citizen or the powerful? Can we build a Nigeria where institutions, not individuals, define our destiny?
As the dust settles, both the FCTA and the military hierarchy must conduct impartial investigations. The truth must be established — not to shame anyone, but to restore order. Where laws were broken, consequences must follow. Where misunderstandings occurred, apologies must be offered.
Let the rule of law triumph over the rule of impulse. Let civility triumph over confrontation. Let governance return to the path of dialogue and procedure.
Nigeria cannot continue to oscillate between civilian bravado and military arrogance. Both impulses spring from the same insecurity — the fear of losing control. True leadership lies in the ability to trust institutions to do their work without coercion.
Those who witnessed the clash saw a drama of two gladiators. One in starched khaki, one in well-cut suit. Both proud, both unyielding. But a nation cannot be built on stubbornness; it must be built on understanding. Power, when it meets power, should produce order, not chaos.
We must resist the temptation to glorify temper. Governance is not warfare; it is stewardship. The citizen watches, the world observes, and history records. How we handle moments like this will define our collective maturity.
The confrontation may have ended without violence, but it left deep questions in the national conscience. When men of authority quarrel in the open, institutions tremble. The people, once again, become spectators in a theatre of misplaced pride.
It is time for all who hold office — civilian or military — to remember that they serve under the same flag. That flag is neither khaki nor political colour; it is green-white-green, and it demands humility.
No victor, no vanquish only a lesson for a nation still learning to govern itself with dignity.
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