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Agony Of Female Circumcision

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The outright removal of the outer flesh from a female’s vagina (clitoris), popularly known as female circumcision or female genital mutilation is no longer new in many communities in Nigeria. A total violation of the female’s body, this act of genital mutilation has been condemned in various spheres, yet, its continuous patronage has become a cause for concern.  It does not only strip its victims of certain feminine feelings, it constitutes a serious health risk to them especially at childbirth and as harbinger of diseases.
For more information about this health challenging phenomenon, The Tide’s Women Desk undertook a study on its practice and possible effect on victims.
Why is Female Genital Mutilation performed?
Female genital mutilation is assumed to be performed to control so called women sexuality. It is thought to ensure virginity till marriage and fidelity afterwards. It is also seen as a part of a girl’s initiation into womanhood. In some communities around the world, the female outer flesh in the vagina (clitoris) is considered dirty and ugly. That is why it is being removed. According perpetrators, it promotes hygiene in woman’s body.
Where does this practice come from?
The origin of this practice is truly unclear to anyone, but it is said that some Egyptian women carried out Female Genital Mutilation on their daughters and it went well for them. Historians such as Herodotus claimed that in the fifth century BC, the Phoenicians, the Hittites and the Ethiopians practiced circumcision. Circumcision rites were also practiced in the tropical part of Africa. It is also practiced in this our country, Nigeria till this present day.
At what age is the Female Genital Mutilation carried out?
It varies from place to place. Female Genital Mutilation is mostly carried out during infancy, just few days after birth, while in some places it happens during childhood, within the age of 8 or sometimes at the teen age.
Who performs Female Genital Mutilation?
It is the elderly women in the community that carry out the act or by a medical practitioner in the village. There are over 200 million girls alive today that are believed to have been subjected to FGM. It is a reflection of global population growth. Girls that have undergone FGM are everywhere in the world, mostly in Africa.
What instrument are used to perform Female Genital Mutilation
Female Genital Mutilation is carried out with special knives, scissors, scalpels, pieces of glass or razor blades. Anesthetic and antiseptic are generally not used unless the procedure is carried out by medical practitioners. In communities where circumcision is practiced, the girls leg are often bound together to immobilize them for 10-14 days, allowing the formation of scar tissue. No Religion supports Female Genital Mutilation because it is not good.
What is the psychological effect of the Female Genital Mutilation?
The initial procedure can result in severe shock, pain, bleeding, tetanus or sepsis, bacterial infections, inability to urinate, open sores in genital region and injury to nearby genital tissue and the girls are at risk of abnormal menstrual flow, recurrent bladder and urinary tract infections, cysts, pain during sex, lack of sexual pleasure and infertility. Victims also suffer psychological problems following the very often traumatic procedure.
How about the health effects
Female Genital Mutilation has a very serious health implication. The immediate complications are severe pain, shock, hemorrhage, tetanus or infection, urine retention, ulceration of genital region and injury to adjacent tissue. Urinary infection, fever and septicemia hemorrhage and infection can be severe enough to cause death.
Long-term consequences; complications during childbirth, anemia, the formation, of cysts and  abscesses, keliod scar formation, damage to the urethra resulting in urinary influence, dsypareunia, (painful sexual intercourse), sexual dysfunction, hypersensitive of the genital area and increased risk of HIV transmission, as well as psychological effects.
What do the girls who have experienced Female Genital Mutilation have to say about it?
Women around the world are speaking out about their experiences and advocating for change. None of them that has passed through it recommends it to any other girl. They all kick against this evil act.
Nkechi shared her story. She said she and her two sisters and their mother were preparing to visit her family back home. She said, she thought they were going for holiday, only to discover later that they were going to be circumcised. Her mother told them, that a day before that day the girl that was circumcised died in the process. She and her sisters were scared and didn’t want to suffer the same fate but their parents told them that is their obligation so they went. She and her sisters thought they were going to die because of the pain. You have one woman holding your mouth so you won’t scream, two women holding your legs. After they were circumcised, they had to learn to walk again. They had to try to go to the toilet, if you couldn’t pass water in the next 10 days that means something went wrong. This act is been carried out in so many places here in Nigeria. Places like Imo,  Rivers, Plateau states and several other places still practice female genital mutilation.
What does the law have to say about the FGM
The Law says that anyone or group of people caught carrying out this act, should be arrested with immediate effect, it is barbaric, it is punishable by law. Whoever that is caught will face 14 years imprisonment.
Azodoh writes from Port Harcourt.

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Who Is A Classic Woman? 

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A classic woman is one  who has identified herself in terms of fashion, occupation  or the kind of business she does.
A woman can be classical in the way she entertains her audience in terms of music and movies.  You will discover that some female musicians are identified with the kind of music they sing.
A classical woman is one who always wants to appear trendy.
Generally, classical women are normally identified with the kind of things they are involved in.
There are ladies that want to be identified with wearing of shorts (short trousers) in the public. They use it to showcase their beauty. They want to be identified with such things as they see it as socialisation.
Some wear trousers that are so tight just to showcase all the curves they possess.
Consultant stylists and etiquette experts say some fashions won by some persons are inappropriate because of how and when they are won.
A classic woman is supposed to dress properly.   She should  be able to wear clothes  that will not expose hidden parts of her body. When such occurs,  then it is indecent dressing.
Ladies should be known for two things, classical and beauty.  One can be classic with minimisation.  The minimum woman should go is to look good, decent and presentable.
Some ladies like wearing short skirts but no matter  how short the skirt is,  it should look elegant. The skirt  should not be too short like the mini-skirt.
Dressing or fashion depends on the environment the persons finds herself.  The kind of clothes won to the office may be different from the one won at home. Likewise,  a dress won to a party may be different from the one won too swimming pool.
For one to look classical or decent, body shape should be taken into consideration.
Colours of a particular fashion can make one look odd or nice.  Looking model does not mean that one should go naked or dull.
Don’t wear clothes  that you need to drag from time to time in order not to expose yourself.
Eunice Choko-Kayode
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Emohua Widows Receive Items From Ogbakor Ikwerre California

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A Non-Governmental Organization, (NGO) Ogbakor Ikwerre,California, DBA, Ikwerre Community Association, California, through it’s outreach projects has donated food items to over 300 Widows in Rumuekpe and Rumuji in Emohua Local Government Area of Rivers State.
Speaking during the handover of the items to the women leaders of the communities in Emohua, yesterday, the team leader of the Ogbakor Ikwerre Community Association in California, Dr Christiana Chukumati, said that the donation is an annual event that has  been on since 2014.
According to her, the NGO is donating the items among the four local government area of Ikwerre adding that this year is for widows in Rumuekpe and Rumuji communities.
“Today is Rumuekpe and Rumuji communities, next we are going to another Ikwerre local government area also.
” The NGO has been carrying on the activities since 2014 within the
Ikwerre communities”, Dr Chukumati said.
She thanked the Royal father of Rumuekpe, His Royal Highness, Golden Amb. Christian Amadi, Eze Chigu and the Royal Highness of Rumuji and Odegu Kingdom, Ohna Christian Okachineke Elechi Newe-Eli (the xv) for receiving them in their communities.
The team leader also promised the Royal Highness that whenever the NGO has any other items for the communities, she we do well to bring it to them.
Receiving the Ogbakor Ikwerre Community Association in California in Rumuekpe, His Royal Highness Golden Christian Amadi, praised the NGO for funding his clan among the communities.
According to the Highness, my community is the only oil producing community in Emohua Local Government Area of Rivers State, adding that his community is feeding the local government area, the state and the nation.
“I thank my children over there in California for remembering the widows in my Kingdom for the food items they brought.
” I pray to God to help them to do also to other Ikwerre communities.
” I want to tell them also that Rumuekpe Kingdom is till undeveloped.
” As you can see the community is nothing to show to the people, I want to beg the Niger Delta Development Commission (NDDC) and the Rivers State government to come to our aid to develop our community. We are underdeveloped”
“God will bless my children over there in California”,  His Royal Highness Amadi prayed.
In her words, the women leader of Rumuekpe community, Comfort Njoku, said that she was happy for the gift items given to them adding that it is not easy to remember the widows.
She explained that in Rumuekpe, the widows have not seen such a gift before and  prayed that is only God that will reward them.
“I want to thank the Ogbakor Ikweree Community Association in California for giving us this items in this festival. We thank God for them and the leader of the group,  Mrs Chukumati.
” What we received today we have not seen it in our community before for widows”, Mrs Njoku stated.
Meanwhile,  in Rumuji community, His Royal Highness, Ohna Christian Okachineke Elechi, said that he lacked words to thank the Ogbakor Ikwerre Community Association in California for the gift to the widows in his communities.
According to him, today is historic in the history of Rumuji community that our children in oversea can remember us, I am very excited and happy over the items.
“I feel very very happy, it is good that our children recognize the widows in my community today.
” I did not know them before but now I  know them, I pray to God Almighty to pay them back for their effort and that they will not lack.
“I pray God to continue to bless them in whatever things they are doing”  he stated.
Earlier, the oldest woman in Rumuji community,  Nletem Josiah, who spoke in her local language interpreted by the woman leader, Agor Leah Onugbom, thanked the Ogbakor Ikwerre Community Association in California for the gift adding that her husband died many years ago that has caused her hardship.
” In my age and these people come and give me these food items,  is only God that will bless them for me.
” This Xmas I will eat and be happy so I want to thank them and that my God, God will bless them for me”,  Mama Josiah said.
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When Rivers Women Pray

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Port Harcourt, the Rivers State capital went agog when women from all the local government areas of Rivers State came together for a prayer conference themed: “Women Converge 2025”.
The programme in it’s second series, which held at the Alfred Diette Spiff Civic Centre was put together by the Rivers Women Unite For Sim, a foundation that is nurtured by the women of Rivers State for prayers to God for the peaceful and smooth running of the state.
 Like a delegate conference, the  Civic centre was filled to the brim with women dressed in white attires.  They sang, danced and prayed to God for sustenance of peace in Rivers State while reaffirming their support for Governor Sim Fubara and his wife, Lady Valerie.
Women Converge With the sub-theme, “Women In An Evolving World”, explains the actions and strategies that the women use in fitting and succeeding in the digital and technical era that is very competitive.
During political rallies and campaigns, with their drummers, beautifully dressed, showcase their dancing steps to entertain audience.
In everything one does in the earthly world, prayers is key. Prayer, they say conquers. Women have been conquering many odds with prayers, and God answers whenever they pour out their minds concerning issues.
Of course, due to their nature, women have always been in the forefront of championing prayers, garnering supports for those in authority, taking care of their families as well as coping with their job careers.
Since the inception of the current administration, women have been relentless in ensuring that peace reigns in the Rivers state through prayers so 2025 edition of the Women Converge which is the second edition recorded huge success.
Speaking at the ceremony, the wife of the Rivers State Governor, Lady Valerie Fubara, commended Rivers women whose continuous prayers have impacted on the state and appreciated the support by the women to the Governor, Sir Siminalayi Fubara.
She described Rivers women as wonderful for the support both in prayers and solidarity to her family.
She described Women Converge 2025 as another milestone in an effort to shape the society for good and support for the sustenance of peace and development in Rivers State.
According to her, let me enjoin our women to remain prayerful because God is ever ready to answer our prayers. In all that we do, we must not forget the hand of God and seek him for direction and help.  You have always been steadfast and I urge you not to relent and together we will move our society forward.
Describing the theme, “Women Converge 2025, Women In An Evolving World”, as apt, she said it is a reflection of the very essence of actions and strategies that women adapt in navigating the new world order.
She said that despite the complexities of managing the home front and the constraints of economic realities, women had demonstrated formidable strength and resilience to confront the odds of life.
In her words, “This event underscores the resilience of our women to succeed no matter the odds, especially with absolute faith in God and determination for greater accomplishments”.
“Whether in the industry, business, agriculture, public service or even in politics, they have always shown strong determination to adapt and to accomplish like others”, she maintained.
A guest speaker at the event, the founder and medical director of  Save A Live medical centre, Dr. Okoye, told women to always take wise decisions in things concerning maternal and infant mortality.
The medical expert reiterated that women should not misunderstand the biblical idea of “you will deliver like the Hebrew women”.
He advised women to take  instructions from medical experts concerning pregnancy and child birth as those will go a long way in saving their lives and advised the women not to patronize quacks.
In a goodwill message, the former Commissioner for Environment, Prof. Roseline Konya,  expressed hope that the peace women have been praying for is already yielding positive result.
The President of Port Harcourt Chambers of Commerce, Industry, Mines and Agriculture, PHACCIMA, Dr. Chinyere Nwoga, spoke on the sustenance of peace in Rivers State as that will move the state to greater height.
Also speaking at the
Women Converge, Pastor Ene Secondus, enjoined women to continue to pray for peace and it’s sustenance in Rivers State.
One of the guest speakers, Pastor Eno Jerry Eze, during the intercessory prayers said women are the foundation of the society and explained that development of any society depends on the strength of womanhood.
The wife of the former Deputy Governor of Rivers State, Dr Christie Toby, a daughter of Rivers State, Ann Kio Briggs also graced the occasion.
Apart from the prayer session,  women from different local government areas showcased different kinds of food items in their various canopies and stands.
The Okrikans and in fact the Riverine extraction, in a food exhibition displayed fishes, crayfish, oporo (prawn), periwinkle( isam).
The women from Etche and Omuma decorated their tables with agricultural products like Garri, fufu, vegetables (okashi ala), plantain, bananas etc.
The Ekpeyes and Ogbas were not left out as they displayed their own food crops like fish, garri, fufu and the likes.
Women from Ikwerre and Emohua local government areas came with their food stuffs.
By: Eunice Choko-kayode
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