Opinion
Valentine’s Day Or Vicious Day?
It is that time of the year
again when all the love birds celebrate St Valentine’s Day, now popularly known as lovers day.
Incidentally, Sunday February 14, 2016, also makes it four years a friend’s five year old marriage crashed due to irreconcilable differences between her and her husband which resulted from Valentine’s Day celebration.
The man was alleged to have spent the lovers day in a hotel with another woman, an accusation he vehemently denied. There followed accusation and counter –accusations and series of problems which culminated in divorce.
Just like my friend, many people have ugly stories to tell about Valentine’s Day. Many couples have had fights on Valentine’s Day when one of them failed to buy a good enough gift or worst still, forgot to buy one. Many people especially the young ones have had to do all kinds of unspeakable things to raise money for the celebration. All these negative stories have made many wonder if the event is worth celebrating.
Valentine ‘s Day started out well. It is a very old and religious celebration centred on St Valentine. Stories have it that Emperor Claudius II of the Roman Empire decided that young men should be soldiers, so he outlawed marriage. Claudious handed down this decree believing that soldiers would be distracted and unable to concentrate on fighting if they were married or engaged. Valentine, a Catholic Priest, defied the emperor and secretly performed marriage ceremonies, seeing how these couples loved themselves. He was thrown into prison and put to death on February 14.
Valentine believed in the power of love. He identified with couples that were genuinely in love and paid the supreme prize for his love for others. Valentine’s Day was therefore set aside in his memory and exchange of gifts between lovers, loved ones, friends, relatives and others.
Today, the meaning of Valentine’s Day is gone because the society rewrote it. With all the radio and television hype the day receives annually, as well as all the activities build up in the cities for the event, it is obvious the real meaning of the day is being misused.
Many have argued that various love activities on the night of Valentine Day are capable of luring youths into fornication, alcoholism and other social vices and are big threats to the lives of the younger generation.
As a matter of fact, many young people are taking advantage of this day to carry out all sorts of immoral acts. Many get pregnant, relationships are broken, many contact dreadful diseases like HIV/AIDS and the future of many is shattered.
Valentine’s Day is certainly not meant to encourage people, particularly the youth to engage in inappropriate sex and other forms of immoralities. History did not tell us that St Valentine was a fornicator. So it is absurd associating Valentine’s Day with sexual promiscuity.
One thinks that for Valentine’s Day celebration to make more meaning in our lives as individuals and as a society, we must have to do things right. Let us use this day of love to celebrate all the people in our lives. Married couples should use this day to renew their love and commitment to one another.
This is what Valentine’s Day should really be like, seizing the opportunity to tell the people we love that they are special to us and actually making out time to do something about it.
The point of this day is not to indulge in immoral acts in the name of love or ruin our relationships over material things. The point of Valentine’s Day is, or at least should be, to appreciate one another. We are expected to use this day to pay tribute to love, this universal human value that transcends geographic, religious and cultural challenges.
The economic situation in our country and indeed the world at large today has made it difficult for many people to put food on their tables daily. The number of street children and the down trodden has increased even as many children have been made orphans and many women forced into widowhood by the endless Boko Haram insurgency in the Northern part of the country. Shouldn’t we use this celebration of love to show them love and care?
There is no doubt that when such selfless, true love is expressed to one another there will be peace in our families and the country in general, especially when neighbourly love is practiced not only or Valentine’s Day but every day.
The former Archbishop of Lagos, Anthony Cardinal Olubunmi Okogie over the years had gathered youths on Valentine’s Day and taught them the essence of the event and also engaged them meaningfully through religious, social and other means.
This should be emulated by other church leaders Non –Governmental Organisations, state and federal ministries in charge of youth affairs. Youths need to be occupied with important, useful activities like charity work, visit to the needy and others.
This will enable them appreciate and love others and at the same time make them better citizens.
Everything must be done to ensure that the purity of the society is not abused through immoral activities carried out in the name of Valentine’s Day celebration.
Calista Ezeaku
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