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Nigeria’s Failures, Spare The Divine

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During a workshop recently, there were the usual heaps of complaints about the ineptitude of those in authority and government’s insensitivity to the wellbeing of Nigerian  citizens; how the government is making life hellish for the people and all that. The topic of discussion had to do with patriotism. Many of the participants vehemently disagreed that they should be patriotic claiming that the country has failed them. Just then, a question came from one  female participant. She asked, “are we justified in this country to complain about the government?” the answer she got was negative. You know why? She said there is a very high level of corruption among the led as much as it is among the leaders of the country. Many Nigerians cheat the government. They do not pay tax. A lot of business men, traders, and private organisations hardly pay tax and a whole lot of those that try to fulfill this civic responsibility cut corners, thereby paying far less than the amount they ought to pay. She queried how the government would get enough money to provide the badly needed infrastructure and cater for other developmental needs of the country if a large percentage of the citizens evade taxes, contractors inflate contracts sums, and many other Nigerians both the high and the low in negative acts that are detrimental to the development of a country.
“The bulk of the problem in Nigeria is caused by the citizens. We don’t play our roles both in electing our leaders and in carrying out our civic duties. Everything in the country is free. We don’t pay tax.  We as citizens lack discipline. We cannot expect our leaders to do wonders when we as the followers are not ready to do our own little bits,” she summed up. I   couldn’t agree less with her that a lot is expected of us as citizens.  A good number of times we complain about the rot in our society and most often heap the blame on the doorstep of the leaders without pausing for a second to ask ourselves if advertently or inadvertently we contribute to the poor situation in the country and the pain of our fellow Nigerians. You can imagine some Nigerians making a fortune out of the relief materials donated by the government, individuals and organisations to the flood victims. Some of these victims have lost their homes, property and have gone for days without food but those in charge of the relief materials capitalize on their misfortune to enrich themselves. A few days ago, the Presidency, while condoling with victims of the flooding, blamed persons who failed to comply with town planning regulations by building on drainage channels; citizens’ disregard of early warnings by the National Emergency Management Agency (NEMA), and the global effects of climate change. Indeed, many Nigerians care less about environmental rules as regards to! waste disposal and building regulations. Even when it is obvious and there are warnings that a particular place is a water channel, they must know somebody that knows somebody in government and before you know it, a magnificent structure will be erected on there, leading to environmental havoc both in the vicinity and beyond. But do these exonerate the government from the current bad state of the country? Of course, no. The essence of electing or appointing people into positions of authority is to ensure proper direction of an organization or country as the case may be and proper utilization of the country’s resources to create an ideal future for the country. Leadership comes with a lot of responsibilities which you as a leader must live up to.
Leaders  must be ready to come up with policies that will benefit the citizens and help in checking the ills in the society. If some citizens evade taxes, involve in corruption and other criminal activities and civil disobedience, whose duty is it to make sure that they are called to order and that defaulters face the consequences of their action? There is crime everywhere. In other countries there are people who wouldn’t want to pay their taxes even when they see that the money is properly used in provision and maintenance of amenities in their society unlike in Nigeria where there is still question on what the taxes are used for. But they have ways of preventing crime and when it happens, they will get the culprit and bring him to justice. These sane climes have been able to do away with religion, ethnicity, race and partisanship in electing and appointing people into leadership positions. Their prime consideration is who has the capacity to deliver? Where is the round shape that will perfectly fit into a round hole and if the person fails to live up to their expectation, he is shown the way out. We saw what happened in the United Kingdom last week. For just one policy mistake, the former British Prime Minister, Liz Truss lost an exalted position.  She publicly declared that, “I cannot deliver the mandate on which I was elected” and resigned after barely six weeks in power. That is the kind of attitude expected from a leader not the blame game we usually see in Nigeria.  A government in power blames the preceding administration for all the problems in the country and never takes responsibility for its ineptitudes; a minister for water resources blames the ravaging flood that has claimed many lives, submerged many communities and caused unparallel devastation across the country on “act of God’’, disputing the reports that the flood is largely as a result of the release of water from the Lagdo dam in Cameroon. According to the report, successive Nigerian governments over the years have failed to fulfil this country’s part in an agreement with Cameroon to build a counterpart dam that would take in water from Lagdo whenever Cameroonian authorities open that dam. The Dasin Hausa dam  in Adamawa State which is two times the size of Lagdo dam is meant to serve as a form of shock absorber to flood in  Nigeria is yet to be completed since 1982.
The same minister, Suleiman Hussein Adamu, went further to publicly declare that Nigeria and Cameroon signed an MoU concerning the release of water from the dam “but since then, every year, once the flood season comes, it is the Nigerian Hydrological Service Agency that calls them ‘what is your level of water?’  Even this one they said they will inform and didn’t. They are the ones that should be keeping us informed on the basis of MoU but they didn’t.” What an excuse! And what has the Nigerian government done since Cameroonian authorities did not keep to their own side of the agreement which has resulted in the great calamity in Nigeria?  Meanwhile, the Minister of Humanitarian Affairs and Disaster Management, Sadiya Farouq,  told newsmen in Abuja a few days ago that the excess water released by Cameroonian authorities from the country’s Lagdo dam compounded the flooding in Nigeria and that her ministry would initiate bilateral talks with the Cameroonians in November on the periodic opening of Lagdo dam. President Mohammadu Buhari on the other hand, just three days ago ordered the Minister of Water Resources to give him a prevention plan on flood in 90 days, less than six months in office. If we want this country to move forward, both the leaders and the led must sit up and take their various duties and responsibilities seriously. The elections are here again, we must put religious, tribal and political sentiments behind and vote for people that are capable and have all it takes to make the right policies and implement them. We, the citizens must learn from the UK and begin to hold our leaders at various levels of government accountable. It is so scary what this country will be like in the coming years if we make the mistake of electing the wrong people in the next general election. The ball is in our court.

By: Calista Ezeaku

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Beyond Physical Intimacy In Relationship 

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June 17, 2026

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Quote:”Love is not sustained by sharing the same bed or displaying affection in public; it is preserved by the daily investment of trust, understanding, empathy, and meaningful conversations. Two people can be physically close yet emotionally distant, because lasting relationships are built not merely on intimacy, but on the consistent nurturing of hearts that remain genuinely connected.”
In an age where relationships are often measured by appearances, social media posts, and outward displays of affection, many couples are discovering a painful truth: physical closeness does not always translate into emotional connection. Two people can share the same bed, hold hands in public, and even maintain a seemingly happy home, yet remain strangers to each other’s deepest thoughts, fears, dreams, and struggles. This reality is captured in the thought-provoking message that emotional intimacy goes far beyond physical intimacy. While physical attraction may ignite a relationship, emotional connection is what sustains it. When emotional bonds weaken, relationships begin to suffer quietly, often long before any visible signs of trouble emerge.
One of the greatest misconceptions about love is the belief that affection alone is enough to keep a relationship healthy. In reality, genuine love requires much more than romantic gestures and physical presence. It requires understanding, communication, trust, empathy, and the willingness to be vulnerable with one another. Without these elements, couples may coexist rather than truly connect. Many relationships today are experiencing a silent crisis. Couples are spending more time together physically but less time engaging meaningfully. Busy schedules, work pressures, financial challenges, digital distractions, and personal ambitions have reduced many conversations to routine exchanges about bills, children, responsibilities, and daily survival. The deeper conversations that nurture emotional intimacy are gradually disappearing.
As a result, many partners feel unseen, unheard, and misunderstood. They may be present in the relationship physically, but emotionally they feel isolated. This emotional distance often creates frustration, resentment, and loneliness. Ironically, a person can feel more alone in a relationship lacking emotional connection than when they are physically alone. The danger of emotional disconnection is that it rarely announces itself loudly. Unlike dramatic conflicts or public scandals, it develops gradually. It starts when couples stop sharing their feelings openly. It grows when assumptions replace communication. It deepens when one partner feels consistently ignored, dismissed, or taken for granted. Over time, the relationship loses its warmth and vitality.This explains why some marriages and relationships that appear perfect from the outside eventually collapse unexpectedly.
 Observers are often shocked because they only saw the physical togetherness, not the emotional distance that had been growing for years beneath the surface. Relationships do not usually break down overnight; they deteriorate through the accumulation of unresolved emotional gaps. Building emotional intimacy, therefore, requires deliberate effort. It is not a one-time achievement but a daily commitment. Emotional connection is built through consistent acts of attention, kindness, and understanding. It develops when partners genuinely listen to each other without judgment. It grows when people feel safe enough to express their fears, disappointments, and aspirations without fear of criticism or rejection. Trust plays a crucial role in this process. Emotional intimacy flourishes in an environment where honesty is valued and confidentiality is respected. When trust is broken, emotional walls quickly rise.
 Rebuilding those walls requires patience, sincerity, and a willingness to heal together. Another important ingredient is empathy. Every individual wants to feel understood. Sometimes partners do not necessarily need solutions to their problems; they simply need someone who listens and acknowledges their feelings. A relationship becomes stronger when both individuals strive to understand each other’s perspectives rather than merely defend their own positions. Quality time is equally important. In a world dominated by smartphones and endless digital distractions, couples must intentionally create moments of genuine interaction. Simple activities such as sharing a meal, taking a walk, discussing personal goals, or praying together can strengthen emotional bonds significantly.
These moments communicate an important message: “You matter to me.” Respect also forms the foundation of emotional closeness. Partners who consistently speak respectfully to each other, even during disagreements, create a healthier environment for intimacy to thrive. Emotional connection cannot flourish where there is constant criticism, ridicule, or contempt. Perhaps the most important lesson is that emotional intimacy is not built by grand gestures alone. It is cultivated through small, consistent actions repeated over time. A thoughtful conversation, a sincere apology, a word of encouragement, or a genuine expression of appreciation can have a profound impact on the health of a relationship. Ultimately, the strength of any relationship lies not merely in physical proximity but in emotional accessibility. The question is not whether two people occupy the same space, but whether they truly know and understand each other.
Lasting love is sustained when hearts remain connected even amid life’s challenges. As society continues to grapple with increasing relationship difficulties, couples must remember that emotional intimacy is not optional; it is essential. Physical attraction may bring people together, but emotional connection keeps them together. It is built daily through communication, trust, empathy, respect, and intentional effort. When emotional intimacy is nurtured, relationships become more resilient, fulfilling, and meaningful. And when two hearts remain genuinely connected, love does not merely survive—it flourishes
By: Sylvia ThankGod-Amadi
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Yahoo Culture And Nigeria’s Moral Fabric

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Quote “A society that celebrates wealth without questioning its source gradually breeds a generation that despises hard work, glorifies fraud, and ultimately destroys itself from within.”
Nigeria’s battle against insecurity is not limited to terrorism. Another destructive force—popularly known as “Yahoo”—has steadily eaten into the nation’s moral and social fabric. Internet fraud, which has become synonymous with “Yahoo” in local parlance, poses a grave threat to Nigeria’s image, economy, and future. The activities of internet fraudsters have tarnished the country’s reputation globally. As a result, many law-abiding Nigerians abroad or seeking legitimate opportunities overseas often face suspicion and discrimination because of the notoriety created by these criminal elements. Originally, Yahoo was merely the name of an internet search engine created in 1994 by Stanford graduates Jerry Yang and David Filo. In Nigeria, however, the term has evolved into a culture driven by greed and materialism. It has become a disturbing subculture with its own language and values.
Expressions such as “mugu fall, guy man chop” celebrate the exploitation of unsuspecting victims, portraying fraud as intelligence and deceit as success. Yahoo boys are notorious for flaunting their ill-gotten wealth. They parade expensive cars, spend lavishly, and often display arrogance towards elders and society. Their extravagant lifestyle has even been blamed for rising rents and increased cost of living in cities such as Port Harcourt. Following crackdowns in Delta and Edo states, there have been concerns over the growing presence of these elements in Rivers State. What is particularly disturbing is that many of these young men and women, some as young as teenagers, have no legitimate source of income yet live in luxury. Their actions have ruined businesses, impoverished victims, and in some cases pushed people into depression, heart attacks, and suicide.
Yet, they continue to operate openly with frightening confidence. The prevalence of Yahoo culture reflects the deep moral decay in society. Sadly, some families not only tolerate the illicit activities of their children but celebrate and pray for their success. Anyone who condemns the practice often becomes the target of abuse and ridicule. A Port Harcourt-based pastor once experienced fierce backlash from Yahoo sympathisers after speaking against the menace. Nigeria’s permissive environment has unintentionally allowed the practice to flourish. Weak institutions, compromised law enforcement, and families unwilling to question the source of sudden wealth among unemployed youths have all contributed to the problem. The virtues of patience, diligence, and integrity are steadily being replaced by greed and a desperate desire for quick riches.
Perhaps one of the greatest casualties of Yahoo culture is education. The value of years of hard work and academic excellence has been diminished. Many young people now dismiss formal education as a scam, while apprenticeship and vocational training are increasingly looked down upon. The obsession with easy money has encouraged school dropout rates and undermined the culture of honest enterprise. An even more disturbing dimension is the emergence of what many describe as “Yahoo Phase II”—a phenomenon associated with ritual practices and occult beliefs. Although stories surrounding these practices are often difficult to verify, reports of ritual killings, organ harvesting, and other horrific crimes have heightened public fears. Young people seeking wealth at all costs are said to subject themselves to bizarre and inhumane instructions from self-styled spiritualists, resulting in unimaginable tragedies.
Regardless of the myths and realities surrounding these claims, one fact remains undeniable: the pursuit of wealth without values has devastating consequences. Society is increasingly witnessing cases of substance abuse, mental instability, and mysterious deaths among youths whose lives are built on criminality and desperation. Nigeria cannot afford to remain indifferent while a generation is consumed by greed and moral bankruptcy. Combating Yahoo culture requires more than arrests and prosecutions. Families must instill values of honesty and hard work. Religious leaders, educators, and community leaders must consistently promote integrity. Government institutions must strengthen the rule of law and ensure that crime does not pay. Above all, society must stop celebrating wealth without questioning its source. No nation can attain sustainable development when fraud is admired, hard work is ridiculed, and criminality is rewarded.
 The future of Nigeria depends on raising a generation that values character above riches and integrity above material possessions. If this dangerous culture is left unchecked, the consequences will be severe. But if the nation collectively chooses the path of morality, accountability, and industry, there remains hope that the tide can be reversed and the country’s dignity restored.
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Good Health Through Socrates’  Prescription 

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Quote: “In an age of advanced medicine and endless health information, the greatest prescription may still be the oldest one: know yourself. True health begins when we understand our bodies, emotions, habits and choices.”
The 21st century has ushered in extraordinary progress in science, technology and medicine. Diseases that once claimed millions of lives can now be prevented or treated. Information is available instantly, while fitness applications, health trackers and modern healthcare facilities have become part of everyday life. Yet, despite these advances, many people continue to struggle with physical illnesses, emotional stress, anxiety, depression and lifestyle-related diseases. This contradiction raises an important question: Why are people becoming increasingly unhealthy in an age of remarkable medical advancement? Part of the answer may lie in the timeless wisdom associated with the ancient Greek philosopher Socrates: “Know thyself.” Though spoken more than two thousand years ago, these words remain profoundly relevant today. They remind us that genuine wellbeing begins with self-understanding.
Knowing oneself goes beyond knowing one’s name, occupation or social status. It involves understanding one’s body, emotions, habits, strengths, weaknesses and aspirations. It means recognizing how daily choices affect physical, mental and emotional health. In many respects, self-knowledge forms the foundation of healthy living. One of the greatest health challenges today is the tendency to ignore warning signs until serious problems emerge. Many people neglect symptoms such as persistent fatigue, poor sleep, chronic stress, unhealthy eating habits and lack of physical activity. Because they are disconnected from their bodies, they fail to recognize that their health is gradually deteriorating. A person who truly knows himself pays attention to these signals. Such an individual understands which foods nourish the body and which habits undermine health. They recognize when rest is necessary,
when stress levels become dangerous and when professional medical attention should be sought. Self-awareness encourages preventive action long before illness develops. The same principle applies to mental and emotional health. Modern life is filled with pressures. Social media often encourages unhealthy comparisons, while economic challenges, family responsibilities and workplace demands create enormous psychological burdens. Many people suffer silently because they have not learned to understand or manage their emotions. Knowing oneself means recognizing emotional triggers, vulnerabilities and sources of stress. It involves identifying feelings of anxiety, sadness, anger or frustration before they become overwhelming. Self-aware individuals are more likely to seek support, adopt healthy coping mechanisms and maintain emotional balance.
Self-knowledge also promotes discipline. Many of today’s health problems are linked to lifestyle choices. Excessive consumption of processed foods, alcohol abuse, smoking, substance misuse, physical inactivity and poor sleeping habits contribute significantly to disease burdens around the world. Most people are aware of these risks. The challenge is often not a lack of information but a lack of self-understanding. Individuals who understand their motivations, weaknesses and tendencies are better equipped to resist harmful habits and develop healthier routines. In this way, self-knowledge becomes a powerful tool for self-control. Socrates also taught that “the unexamined life is not worth living.” While philosophical in origin, this statement has practical implications for health. Examining one’s life encourages honest reflection. Are we eating wisely? Are we exercising enough?
Are we sleeping adequately? Are we managing stress effectively? Are we maintaining healthy relationships? These are not merely philosophical questions. They are essential components of a healthy lifestyle. Honest answers can reveal habits that require improvement and inspire positive change. Ironically, while technology has made health information more accessible, it has also made self-understanding more difficult. Many people spend hours following social media trends and public personalities while paying little attention to their own health. They know more about celebrities than they know about their blood pressure, sleep quality or emotional wellbeing. A healthier society will require more than modern hospitals and advanced medications. It will require citizens who actively seek to understand themselves. Preventive healthcare begins with personal awareness.
Parents, educators, religious leaders, healthcare professionals and policymakers all have important roles to play in promoting self-awareness. Young people should be taught not only academic subjects but also emotional intelligence, self-reflection, healthy lifestyle habits and personal responsibility. Ultimately, Socrates’ ancient wisdom remains as relevant today as it was centuries ago. A person who understands himself is more likely to make healthy decisions, maintain emotional stability, build resilience and seek help when necessary. The journey to good health does not begin in a hospital, pharmacy or gymnasium. It begins within. As the world continues to confront complex health challenges, perhaps the most powerful prescription requires no expensive technology or medication. It is the enduring wisdom that has stood the test of time: know yourself. In understanding ourselves, we discover one of the surest paths to healthier, happier and more meaningful lives.
By: Sylvia ThankGod-Amadi
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