Women

Women Have All It Takes To Rule The World – NUJ Boss

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6 years ago

February 5, 2021

The Chairman, Nigeria Union of Journalist, Rivers State Chapter, Stanley Job Stanley, has described women as great people with great potentials but frowned at the discordant voices of women, especially when it comes to politics. This he said at the inaugural meeting of Stand Up for women Society (SWS) held here in the state penultimate week.
He called on women to start loving themselves irrespective of age and ethnicity, noting that the day women begin to vote for themselves, men would be in serious trouble as women are tops on every list and have all it takes to rule the world.
Re-echoeing the popular saying that “if you educate a woman, you educate a society and nation at large, Job remarked that for the society to change, women must be given opportunities in politics as they are better mangers of resources, meaning that they can better organize the society.
Meanwhile the National President of Standup for Women Society (SWS}, Rivers State Chapter, Barr. Deborah Ijadele-Adetona has used the occasion of the inaugural meeting of the body to call on Nigeria women to standup for themselves, considering the patriarchal nature of the society in which they find themselves. She said that most women are yet to acquire the basic educational qualification needed, as a result that makes them to have inferiority complex, thereby causing them to face all forms of domestic and sexual violence without speaking out.
She explained that women the need to empower and encourage women in the society is the essence for the formation of a non-governmental, apolitical, solely women right organization, under the aegis of Standup for Women Society, which objectives and aims are targeted at the total development of Nigerian Women and society at large, stating that it is willing to promote, update and upgrade women in Nigeria.
Ijadele-Adetona charged women to speak out no matter the situation they find themselves, because as humans they reserve the right to live and be happy as such should speak out, especially when their right is being abused.
According to her: “Women are the engine room of families, as they serve as nurses, teachers, trainers, character builder and molders, preachers, peace promoters, cooks, prayer warrior, as such standup for Women Society as a forum will be bedrock as well as mouth piece for Nigeria Women as it intends to liberate promote and enforce their courses in Nigeria and beyond.
“Women as agents of change is not a new concept, throughout history, women have led movements for change at every level and being an integral part of that change, be it political, economic and social. The story of women being agents of change is very compelling, the tenacity of ordinary women who have transformed themselves, their families and their communities, while battling against great odds are common place, often they were not noted or remembered and it is also these women, who have left mark on global, democracy, development and peace initiatives,” the National President added.
She stressed that the organisation is expected to galvanize support and draw the attention of critical stakeholders in the society to the total development of Nigerian Women, adding that women should be massively involved in policy making and they should also seek full participation in governance at all levels.
Ijadele-Adetona added that it was time for women to play active roles as a forum to liberate and actualize the rights of women as well as fill the missing gap for active grassroots-based forum for women in the community and the nation.
She further emphasized that the strength of the women in nation building cannot be over emphasized, as female gender always tops the list in any programme, population, agricultural, economy, religious, social responsibility, among others, remarking that active voters are women yet they are deprived to lead and play prominent roles in the society.
She noted that the day and year women will drop hate towards their fellow women and join forces to vote for their fellow women to be in power to head sensitive positions, that is the year that everyone in Nigeria would experience the sudden transformation and change that they all have been yearning for.
The SWS National President stated further that the in business, marketing, local manufacturing, among others women are always playing active roles, yet their activities are downplayed, hence the reason why they are always an appendage to men in any position.
She charged all women to join SWS, the women liberation group that is basically out to create the necessary awareness for women as well as to educate women about themselves, noting that being aware of yourself is the first step to understanding yourself which enables you to deal with yourself and others more effectively and at the end translate to a happier and more fulfilled life.
On her part, the Rivers State Chairperson, Liberator Ifeoma Ossai earlier had stating that over the years the plight of women and the girl child which has been an issue bedeviling the society, is the reason why Standup for Women Society has decided to gather women from all spheres of life in order to develop, enlighten as well as empower them with skills that would give them a future devoid of torture and deprivation in the quest for their daily bread.
Ossai added that women can become relevant in the society by occupying key positions in the government, corporate organizations and agencies.
According to her, “SWS, despite her tender age in Rivers State has gathered over 100 women on her Social Network platform and has worked tirelessly to realize the core goal of the organization to partner with corporate bodies, government agencies and other public spirited individuals to bring the vision of adding meaning to the lives of women to success”

By: Susan Serekara-Nwikhana

Women

Women And Dangers Of Obnoxious Practices

Published

3 weeks ago

October 9, 2026

The Tide

It is worrisome to hear that a woman or a girl is bathed with acidic contents just because she refuses to adhere to one instruction or the other from an opposite sex.

Sometimes, you see a woman with bruises on the face, with one eye swollen as if she is an animal perhaps she demanded one or two things from her spouse.

A situation where a widow will be mandated to marry a brother-in-law for her to still belong to the family where she is married and to partake in inheritance should be looked into.

Severally, there have been talks, seminars, workshops, fora, arguments, bills and laws abolishing the issues that concern women, especially violence. But much has not been achieved to curtail the menace.

Violence against girls and women has been on the increase. From time to time, it is either girls are denied access to father’s property or a widow is denied inheritance to husband’s properties. Even when laws are put in place about things that will help women have their rights, some persons feel that culture and tradition do not permit such laws.

We are aware that some women are rich and may not want to partake in the share of their late parents’ property, but there are vulnerable ones who may need to be empowered, through perhaps, late parents’ property inheritance.

Some of the obnoxious laws were made before now without the consent of women. There was no enough representation to either argue for or against so as to be beneficial to women generally. Some of the laws were so primitive that even when civilisation came, became difficult to change. Very unfortunately, it is the women sometimes who execute the laws made by men in their absence. But women are suffering it.

If government can establish laws abolishing certain practices against women and girls, it will be better for them and should be in the presence of women while they are in the parliament so that they can contribute as well.

For long, laws against female genital mutilation and circumcision have existed but some communities due to their culture and tradition have refused to put a stop to it with reasons best known to them.

Circumcision of a full-grown girl or lady may not be the only way of attaining maturity. It is a harmful practice and the pain associated with it cannot be imagined. The illegal operation is not performed in the hospital so the dangers inherent will be much.

For those who still practise it, the menace should be discouraged as that is not a proper way of ushering a girl into womanhood. A lot of women lose their lives due to pains experienced during the process. If it was practised in the past when civilisation was not there, it is a different case, nowadays with science and technology proving it wrong, those who still practice should resist.

We know that government is doing a lot to save women and girls from some of the pains they go through but right steps should be taken in the right direction and all stakeholders intensify efforts in dealing with persons who perpetuate evil against their fellow women.

One issue that comes to mind is implementation even if policies and laws are put in place by relevant agencies. The issue has been dwelt on for decades, but it is still practised as big ceremonies in some communities.

When it comes to inheritance, a girl born into a family, married or unmarried will be denied access to father’s property.

When parents are sick, the female child will pick him or her for care and offset medical bills. If it has to do with the demise of parents, the woman and the spouse to will be mandated to provide a cow and perform other burial rites.

If the National Assembly makes laws concerning the well-being of women, community heads, molecular leaders, women groups and associations, religious organisations, Non-Governmental organizations (NGOs) and Civil Society Organisations (CSOs) should create more awareness through the media to sensitise rural dwellers.

In this digital era, it should be forbidden that a woman loses her spouse and she is mandated to drink water used on the late husband.

A legal practitioner, Tam Jacobs, said if one forcefully shaves a woman’s hair with the intention that she is mourning her late spouse, she can sue that person for assault.

He said if the woman is forced to drink water used on her late husband’s body, she can also sue for attempted murder.

According to him, several cases of girl-child inheritance have been won and documented in the law court but some cannot claim it.

“Even a widow who is handicapped may not be able to make attempts, so NGOs, CSOs should be in the forefront to support them and ensure that the laws are implemented at the grassroots level where they are practised”, he said.

A pharmacist, Eno Amos said any culture that does not add colour and value to life, especially as it concerns women should be abolished.

She added that implementation can be easy in the cities where awareness has been created but expressed fear that it may not be easy in the rural areas where culture is really practised.

A business woman, Agnes Ugwu, said tradition and culture were made by man and not God and wondered why people who claim to be educated still follow the tradition of ancestors who never went to school.

Ignorance also comes to play here. If you have watched a documentary showing female genital mutilation and the gory experience the young women go through is something else. Some of the perpetrators claim that the practice has existed for ages. Women have to learn more about issues that concern them.

A nurse, Rosy Ekeocha, said it is not about culture but about the behavior of a group of people in the community who force it on others.

According to her, let people change their behaviour and leave culture alone. It does not happen in every family and if any family allows it that is its business.

She said we are in the 21st century, certain cultures and tradition need to be reviewed to ensure that they align with today’s reality.

Culture is dynamic she said, but that implementation of laws relating to the vulnerable in the society calls for concern.

We should not behave the way people behaved twenty decades ago, after all, we do not dress the way our forefathers dressed. Time has evolved and things are getting better as it concerns women. We are getting more exposed and more enlightened about issues that concern us. Information is moving round as the world is a global village.

Talking about culture nowadays, we wear shoes whereas our forefathers never had any. They walked barefooted far distances to get family necessities but things are better now as we are mobile.

That should also happen to culture and tradition. There are certain aspects of our culture and tradition which are practised today that have expired long ago. We should get rid off them.

Sometime, the bill for prohibition of obnoxious practices against women at the National Assembly was seen as a welcome development, how far have the powers that be gone to ensure that it favours women.

It is expected that the bills abolishing obnoxious practices against women and girls in the society should have started achieving results as it concerns their wellbeing.

Eunice Choko-Kayode

Women

What A Woman Wants In A Man

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1 month ago

September 25, 2026

The Tide

A woman needs a man that is honest, trustworthy, nice, loving and financially stable.

There are no two ways about finance in marriage. No matter the level of love, If there is no money, it is always difficult.

Referring to the Biblical belief in Genesis 3:Your desire shall be unto you……..

That is one aspect the woman expects her husband to take care of.

A woman wants a husband that is not lazy, at least helping to do one or two things. A man that is educated and intelligent.

She knows that there is a trait that her husband has. Traits of taking care of people, giving freely to people and caring for her family.

A woman wants to love a husband that has family interest at heart. A man that spends time with his family, remembering his family even as he is away from home.

A woman should not antagonise her husband because of one error or the other. No matter the level of offence he may have committed, you still show some love.

According to the Scripture, it is with wisdom that the women builds her home.

It is not as if the woman will not monitor her husband, but to certain limit. Don’t be a monitoring spirit. Don’t allow anything to take your joy.

Don’t loose trust in your husband.

The idea of checking your husband’s phone should be discouraged. The more you check your husband and his phone, the more you loose your joy.

The home should not be a battle ground for a woman and man. A woman should be able to ask herself if the check on her husband will pay her any good.

Draw a line to a point where you checkmate your husband’s activities.

A woman wants a man that will love her and telling her you love her will be all she desires.

By: Eunice Choko-Kayode

Women

Who Is A Classic Woman?

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1 month ago

September 25, 2026

The Tide

A classic woman is one who has identified herself in terms of fashion, occupation or the kind of business she does.

A woman can be classical in the way she entertains her audience in terms of music and movies. You will discover that some female musicians are identified with the kind of music they sing.

A classical woman is one who always wants to appear trendy.

Generally, classical women are normally identified with the kind of things they are involved in.

There are ladies that want to be identified with wearing of shorts (short trousers) in the public. They use it to showcase their beauty. They want to be identified with such things as they see it as socialisation.

Some wear trousers that are so tight just to showcase all the curves they possess.

Consultant stylists and etiquette experts say some fashions won by some persons are inappropriate because of how and when they are won.

A classic woman is supposed to dress properly. She should be able to wear clothes that will not expose hidden parts of her body. When such occurs, then it is indecent dressing.

Ladies should be known for two things, classical and beauty. One can be classic with minimisation. The minimum woman should go is to look good, decent and presentable.

Some ladies like wearing short skirts but no matter how short the skirt is, it should look elegant. The skirt should not be too short like the mini-skirt.

Dressing or fashion depends on the environment the persons finds herself. The kind of clothes won to the office may be different from the one won at home. Likewise, a dress won to a party may be different from the one won too swimming pool.

For one to look classical or decent, body shape should be taken into consideration.

Colours of a particular fashion can make one look odd or nice. Looking model does not mean that one should go naked or dull.

Don’t wear clothes that you need to drag from time to time in order not to expose yourself.

By: Eunice Choko-Kayode