Opinion
Patience Is What We Need
Professor A. S. Hornby in the Oxford advanced
Learner’s Dictionary (New 7th Edition), defines the word ‘patience’ as “the ability to stay calm and accept a delay or something annoymq without complaining … the ability to spend a lot of time doing something difficult that needs a lot of attention and effort”. ‘
Looking at patience as a word, it connotes so many implications or applications. Endurance, peace, long suffering, gentleness, goodness, meekness and faith to mention but a few, are similar to patience. Of a truth, some people bear the name Patience, but could not actually exercise patience in certain circumstances of life. Rather, they are always hasty in reaction to every ugly situation without pausing and pondering.
In 1994, the word ‘patience’ was critically evaluated and analyzed on a radio talk presented by Comedian Boma Erekosima of blessed memory. He spoke on the value of exercising patience in the face of complex and trying situations in life, using the effigy of marriage involving a father, wife and daughter for illustration which goes thus:
Once upon a time, a certain king was prepared to get married and decided to find his choice by himself. He met a girl in a family one day and watched her closely and later went to the parents to disclose his intention. He made known to the parents of the girl that he would make their daughter a queen in his palace. In his response, the father advised his daughter that she would be lifted from abject poverty to prosperity. That he has nothing to give her but rather a token of word.
The father told his daughter that in everything or anything that might come across her way; she should endeavour to exercise “patience” as the best policy. Actually, the king took the poor girl for wife and made her queen in his palace.
A day came when the king asked his queen (wife) to go to the kitchen and prepare a special dish for him. She obeyed and went to the kitchen.
Though, considering her position, house attendants Objected to her going to the kitchen, that they are capable to the task. In the interim, the queen also refused, contending that she must prepare the dish for her king. So she was allowed to go ahead.
However, when she served the food to the king, in a surprised atmosphere she was demoted from the position of a queen to a house girl by the king for the fact that she lowered her queenship to the level of being a servant. In fact, she was moved to run away, but her father’s advice came to her mind – be patient in every situation. She paused and remained calm. Really, she was not allowed random entrance into the king’s palace due to this ugly situation. Nevertheless, six months after, the girl got conceived and was delivered a baby-girl. At a stage, the king sent the first daughter to overseas for educational studies.
The King’s wife asked of her daughter, she was told by the king that she should not crown on herself about the child because she was expected to give birth to a male child who would later take over the kingship of his father and not a female child. Therefore, that he (the king) has killed her. This story was itching and painful to the mother.
But once again she remembered her father’s word – be patient at all times. Thirdly, the king called the attention of his wife (the demoted queen) and related to her his intention to marry another wife who would become queen in his palace. Also that she would supervise the marriage affairs. And that she would put the bother queen’s head. Furthermore, the king went out and came in with a beautiful girl and the marriage ceremonies were going on. In fact, the demoted queen was still very loyal to every directives of the king (her husband).
At the point of placing the crown on the head of the new queen by the former, there and then the king halted her abruptly and publicly proclaimed that truly, he had tested his wife (the demoted queen) and really found her to be a true and reliable wife after 15 years of marriage. That the proposed new queen is no other person than her own first daughter, who was away for some time, portrayed (by the King), as being dead.
And that his wife is truly the queen while her daughter becomes the princess. This was the outcome of patience. It produces good results at the end.
It is quite unfortunate that a good number of people are impatient even those that bear the name patience over insignificant issues and being hasty, they lose things that are of great value. These characteristics are evident in the physical, religious, socio-economic and political domain because people want to grasp things by all means notwithstanding the consequences of such hasty ambition. It is true of the adage that a ‘patient dog eats the fattest bone’.
One could imagine the degree of patience exercised by the demoted queen when situations turned sour in her marriage as she recalled the positive advice of her father when the King (husband) stretched his hands in marriage from a poor family background. What a lesson for nagging wives and women of the 151 century those that are not loyal and submissive to their husbands or constituted authorities. Kindly compare Ephesians 5 vs 21-22.
In fact, patience could be also from the description of the virtuous woman by the wise man, King Solomon in Proverbs 31 of the Holy Bible. Many homes are in shamble as some couples are divorcing each other and building polygamous homes due to impatience.
Patience, in other words, is wholesome and a virtue to be coveted because it produces credibility, positivity, prosperity and posterity in all ramifications of life. Therefore, exercise patience in any situation that comes your way in life as did the demoted.
Ominyanwa is a public affairs analyst.
Goddey Ominyanwa
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