Opinion

For Peace In Our Country

Published

12 years ago

May 27, 2014

For over two years now, the security situation in Nigeria
arising from numerous attacks by an Islamic sect known as Boko Haram has been a source of threat to the nation’s peace and unity. Against this ugly trend, the former National Chairman of the ruling People’s Democratic Party (PDP), Bamanga Tukur recently raised an alarm that “Nigeria is under attack”. At a recent meeting with Senators and Service Chiefs where security was on the front burner, Tukur said: “Today, there is fear everywhere. Churches are being burnt, mosques are being attacked, United Nations building bombed, motor parks are being bombed, people can not go to motor parks again to travel for the fear of being attacked.”
According to him, security installations such as police stations, prisons amongst others were being burnt down and inmates released at will. To Tukur, neither the PDP, nor the President should carry the can, saying, “it is not about the PDP or President Goodluck Jonathan but a matter that should be of concern to everybody, irrespective of political, ethnic or religious affiliations. The opposition, the labour movement, religious leaders, traditional leaders, name it, we all have to come to fight the evil that is now manifesting everywhere in our land.
Those perpetrating this evil are within us in the society. It is not a matter of Mr President or the PDP-led Federal Government alone.”
Nobel Laureate, Professor Wole Soyinka has also lent his voice to the security situation in the country. Speaking in Lagos recently, the Nobel Laureate said that “Nigeria is on the brink and if the issue of insecurity is not seriously tackled, it will result to civil war. It needs a carrot and stick approach. He urged the leadership of the country to apply stiffer security measures in handling the issue of Boko Haram.
Bola Tinubu also toed the path of Soyinka when he said that the leadership was weak in handling the security problem of the country. The Governor of the Central Bank, Sanusi Lamido Sanusi on his part, faulted the present political arrangement in which those without known pedigrees hold public offices just as Lagos State Governor Babatunde Fashola called for a review of the country’s political process to ensure better election where only people with impeccable pedigree emerge as winners to ensure peace.
From the look of things, the present security situation in the country is against the economic and political stability of the country. The country is attacked from below and that accounts for the reason that far from moving with the development of modern economies and politics as most countries are doing, Nigeria is buried in ethnic, regional and religious separatism.
Just a few days ago, a bomb-laden Volks Wagen Gold 3 car abandoned by fleeing gunmen suspected to be Boko Haram sect members was recovered by the police in Kano, along with some dangerous weapons.
Since the inception of the President Goodluck Jonathan-led Federal Government, there have been several cases of Boko Haram attack on public places which have claimed thousands of lives and unquantifiable loss of properties.
Nigeria is yearning for solution or ways to deal with the present upheavals in the country. Federal government, Security agencies, individuals and all stakeholders including religious leaders in the country must join in finding solution to the security problem before it turns out to another civil war.
The situation requires the nation to come together to fight the common evil. “Where are we heading to? Nobody can even explain what is happening now. This means, as it stands now, that the solution to the insecurity in the country is not at sight if everyone is still at sea as to what is happening. It is high time something tangible was done to restore the nation to peace, unity, progress and stability. We must rise up to fight against the manifesting evil so that the people will enjoy the dividends of democracy.
Tukur, during his tours of the six geo-political zones as part of efforts to reconcile the aggrieved members of his party, said his team discovered that there was fear of insecurity in the land, ravaging hunger, poverty and unemployment of young men and women which needed to be tackled head-on in the overall interest of the nation. He assured that as a responsible ruling party, the PDP National Working Committee (NWC) would look into all the collated views, review them and pass recommendations to the appropriate quarters for action.
The nation’s leaders cannot deny knowledge of these problems listed by Alhaji Tukur but decided to pay deaf ears to the people’s cries over the years. What is happening today in the country, I believe, is an outburst of accumulated grievances over untold hardship faced by the citizenry. The Senate at the meeting with Service Chief, said it would formulate a template that could be forwarded to President Goodluck Jonathan as ways and mean of addressing the worsening security problems in the country.
Such template must seek to address the main problems of the people as identified by the PDP National Chairman.
Huge budgetary alleviations are being made annually to address the security challenges of the country, but there seems to be no solution in sight, especially in the area of addressing the Boko Haram insurgency. Security agencies appear to be losing grip of security challenges, thereby exposing Nigerians to danger.
If positive progress must be made, the Federal Government must be positive and sincere in the governance and ensure that the issues at stake are properly addressed. The issue of granting amnesty to the Boko Haram members should be properly examined and addressed if that would restore peace.
In doing this, we must know that the actors are human beings and not ghosts, so If any arrangement is put in place for dialogue, Boko Haram must be represented by their leaders to state their grievances. The Presidency should ensure that at the shortest possible time, the security challenges facing the country are resolved, either through amnesty or any other option that can bring lasting peace.
Security agencies on their part should redouble their efforts at providing adequate security for the citizenry. We are not saying they have not been doing something but we say, more security to a full-blown and they should double their efforts to the best interest of the country.
We must recount what happened during the last civil war in the country and say capital NO to its re-occurrence. Enough is enough to the incessant killings and destructions in the northern part of the country, we must decide and embrace peace and unity.
However, Nigerian leaders should change their style of leadership by ensuring that governance is used as a good device for solving problems. There is bound to be chaos in a state where public goods are enjoyed only by the ruling cabal or the affluent.
The present security situation in the country is a serious problem that must be given a serious thought and attention before it gets out of hand.
Governance should flow down to the ordinary people. In the same vein, Northern leaders should not leave the fight against Boko Haram for the Federal Government alone because their people are behind the mask committing the havocs. Some leaders of the northern extraction are shying away from the truth thereby compounding the security situation.
At the same time, members of the Boko Haram sect should lay down their arms as neither armed struggle nor military action would do them or the nation any good.

Shedie Okpara

Opinion

Beyond Physical Intimacy In Relationship

Published

11 hours ago

June 17, 2026

The Tide

Quote:”Love is not sustained by sharing the same bed or displaying affection in public; it is preserved by the daily investment of trust, understanding, empathy, and meaningful conversations. Two people can be physically close yet emotionally distant, because lasting relationships are built not merely on intimacy, but on the consistent nurturing of hearts that remain genuinely connected.”

In an age where relationships are often measured by appearances, social media posts, and outward displays of affection, many couples are discovering a painful truth: physical closeness does not always translate into emotional connection. Two people can share the same bed, hold hands in public, and even maintain a seemingly happy home, yet remain strangers to each other’s deepest thoughts, fears, dreams, and struggles. This reality is captured in the thought-provoking message that emotional intimacy goes far beyond physical intimacy. While physical attraction may ignite a relationship, emotional connection is what sustains it. When emotional bonds weaken, relationships begin to suffer quietly, often long before any visible signs of trouble emerge.

One of the greatest misconceptions about love is the belief that affection alone is enough to keep a relationship healthy. In reality, genuine love requires much more than romantic gestures and physical presence. It requires understanding, communication, trust, empathy, and the willingness to be vulnerable with one another. Without these elements, couples may coexist rather than truly connect. Many relationships today are experiencing a silent crisis. Couples are spending more time together physically but less time engaging meaningfully. Busy schedules, work pressures, financial challenges, digital distractions, and personal ambitions have reduced many conversations to routine exchanges about bills, children, responsibilities, and daily survival. The deeper conversations that nurture emotional intimacy are gradually disappearing.

As a result, many partners feel unseen, unheard, and misunderstood. They may be present in the relationship physically, but emotionally they feel isolated. This emotional distance often creates frustration, resentment, and loneliness. Ironically, a person can feel more alone in a relationship lacking emotional connection than when they are physically alone. The danger of emotional disconnection is that it rarely announces itself loudly. Unlike dramatic conflicts or public scandals, it develops gradually. It starts when couples stop sharing their feelings openly. It grows when assumptions replace communication. It deepens when one partner feels consistently ignored, dismissed, or taken for granted. Over time, the relationship loses its warmth and vitality.This explains why some marriages and relationships that appear perfect from the outside eventually collapse unexpectedly.

Observers are often shocked because they only saw the physical togetherness, not the emotional distance that had been growing for years beneath the surface. Relationships do not usually break down overnight; they deteriorate through the accumulation of unresolved emotional gaps. Building emotional intimacy, therefore, requires deliberate effort. It is not a one-time achievement but a daily commitment. Emotional connection is built through consistent acts of attention, kindness, and understanding. It develops when partners genuinely listen to each other without judgment. It grows when people feel safe enough to express their fears, disappointments, and aspirations without fear of criticism or rejection. Trust plays a crucial role in this process. Emotional intimacy flourishes in an environment where honesty is valued and confidentiality is respected. When trust is broken, emotional walls quickly rise.

Rebuilding those walls requires patience, sincerity, and a willingness to heal together. Another important ingredient is empathy. Every individual wants to feel understood. Sometimes partners do not necessarily need solutions to their problems; they simply need someone who listens and acknowledges their feelings. A relationship becomes stronger when both individuals strive to understand each other’s perspectives rather than merely defend their own positions. Quality time is equally important. In a world dominated by smartphones and endless digital distractions, couples must intentionally create moments of genuine interaction. Simple activities such as sharing a meal, taking a walk, discussing personal goals, or praying together can strengthen emotional bonds significantly.

These moments communicate an important message: “You matter to me.” Respect also forms the foundation of emotional closeness. Partners who consistently speak respectfully to each other, even during disagreements, create a healthier environment for intimacy to thrive. Emotional connection cannot flourish where there is constant criticism, ridicule, or contempt. Perhaps the most important lesson is that emotional intimacy is not built by grand gestures alone. It is cultivated through small, consistent actions repeated over time. A thoughtful conversation, a sincere apology, a word of encouragement, or a genuine expression of appreciation can have a profound impact on the health of a relationship. Ultimately, the strength of any relationship lies not merely in physical proximity but in emotional accessibility. The question is not whether two people occupy the same space, but whether they truly know and understand each other.

Lasting love is sustained when hearts remain connected even amid life’s challenges. As society continues to grapple with increasing relationship difficulties, couples must remember that emotional intimacy is not optional; it is essential. Physical attraction may bring people together, but emotional connection keeps them together. It is built daily through communication, trust, empathy, respect, and intentional effort. When emotional intimacy is nurtured, relationships become more resilient, fulfilling, and meaningful. And when two hearts remain genuinely connected, love does not merely survive—it flourishes

By: Sylvia ThankGod-Amadi

Opinion

Yahoo Culture And Nigeria’s Moral Fabric

Published

11 hours ago

June 17, 2026

The Tide

Quote “A society that celebrates wealth without questioning its source gradually breeds a generation that despises hard work, glorifies fraud, and ultimately destroys itself from within.”

Nigeria’s battle against insecurity is not limited to terrorism. Another destructive force—popularly known as “Yahoo”—has steadily eaten into the nation’s moral and social fabric. Internet fraud, which has become synonymous with “Yahoo” in local parlance, poses a grave threat to Nigeria’s image, economy, and future. The activities of internet fraudsters have tarnished the country’s reputation globally. As a result, many law-abiding Nigerians abroad or seeking legitimate opportunities overseas often face suspicion and discrimination because of the notoriety created by these criminal elements. Originally, Yahoo was merely the name of an internet search engine created in 1994 by Stanford graduates Jerry Yang and David Filo. In Nigeria, however, the term has evolved into a culture driven by greed and materialism. It has become a disturbing subculture with its own language and values.

Expressions such as “mugu fall, guy man chop” celebrate the exploitation of unsuspecting victims, portraying fraud as intelligence and deceit as success. Yahoo boys are notorious for flaunting their ill-gotten wealth. They parade expensive cars, spend lavishly, and often display arrogance towards elders and society. Their extravagant lifestyle has even been blamed for rising rents and increased cost of living in cities such as Port Harcourt. Following crackdowns in Delta and Edo states, there have been concerns over the growing presence of these elements in Rivers State. What is particularly disturbing is that many of these young men and women, some as young as teenagers, have no legitimate source of income yet live in luxury. Their actions have ruined businesses, impoverished victims, and in some cases pushed people into depression, heart attacks, and suicide.

Yet, they continue to operate openly with frightening confidence. The prevalence of Yahoo culture reflects the deep moral decay in society. Sadly, some families not only tolerate the illicit activities of their children but celebrate and pray for their success. Anyone who condemns the practice often becomes the target of abuse and ridicule. A Port Harcourt-based pastor once experienced fierce backlash from Yahoo sympathisers after speaking against the menace. Nigeria’s permissive environment has unintentionally allowed the practice to flourish. Weak institutions, compromised law enforcement, and families unwilling to question the source of sudden wealth among unemployed youths have all contributed to the problem. The virtues of patience, diligence, and integrity are steadily being replaced by greed and a desperate desire for quick riches.

Perhaps one of the greatest casualties of Yahoo culture is education. The value of years of hard work and academic excellence has been diminished. Many young people now dismiss formal education as a scam, while apprenticeship and vocational training are increasingly looked down upon. The obsession with easy money has encouraged school dropout rates and undermined the culture of honest enterprise. An even more disturbing dimension is the emergence of what many describe as “Yahoo Phase II”—a phenomenon associated with ritual practices and occult beliefs. Although stories surrounding these practices are often difficult to verify, reports of ritual killings, organ harvesting, and other horrific crimes have heightened public fears. Young people seeking wealth at all costs are said to subject themselves to bizarre and inhumane instructions from self-styled spiritualists, resulting in unimaginable tragedies.

Regardless of the myths and realities surrounding these claims, one fact remains undeniable: the pursuit of wealth without values has devastating consequences. Society is increasingly witnessing cases of substance abuse, mental instability, and mysterious deaths among youths whose lives are built on criminality and desperation. Nigeria cannot afford to remain indifferent while a generation is consumed by greed and moral bankruptcy. Combating Yahoo culture requires more than arrests and prosecutions. Families must instill values of honesty and hard work. Religious leaders, educators, and community leaders must consistently promote integrity. Government institutions must strengthen the rule of law and ensure that crime does not pay. Above all, society must stop celebrating wealth without questioning its source. No nation can attain sustainable development when fraud is admired, hard work is ridiculed, and criminality is rewarded.

The future of Nigeria depends on raising a generation that values character above riches and integrity above material possessions. If this dangerous culture is left unchecked, the consequences will be severe. But if the nation collectively chooses the path of morality, accountability, and industry, there remains hope that the tide can be reversed and the country’s dignity restored.

By; Confidence Adoo

Opinion

Good Health Through Socrates’ Prescription

Published

1 week ago

June 8, 2026

The Tide

Quote: “In an age of advanced medicine and endless health information, the greatest prescription may still be the oldest one: know yourself. True health begins when we understand our bodies, emotions, habits and choices.”

The 21st century has ushered in extraordinary progress in science, technology and medicine. Diseases that once claimed millions of lives can now be prevented or treated. Information is available instantly, while fitness applications, health trackers and modern healthcare facilities have become part of everyday life. Yet, despite these advances, many people continue to struggle with physical illnesses, emotional stress, anxiety, depression and lifestyle-related diseases. This contradiction raises an important question: Why are people becoming increasingly unhealthy in an age of remarkable medical advancement? Part of the answer may lie in the timeless wisdom associated with the ancient Greek philosopher Socrates: “Know thyself.” Though spoken more than two thousand years ago, these words remain profoundly relevant today. They remind us that genuine wellbeing begins with self-understanding.

Knowing oneself goes beyond knowing one’s name, occupation or social status. It involves understanding one’s body, emotions, habits, strengths, weaknesses and aspirations. It means recognizing how daily choices affect physical, mental and emotional health. In many respects, self-knowledge forms the foundation of healthy living. One of the greatest health challenges today is the tendency to ignore warning signs until serious problems emerge. Many people neglect symptoms such as persistent fatigue, poor sleep, chronic stress, unhealthy eating habits and lack of physical activity. Because they are disconnected from their bodies, they fail to recognize that their health is gradually deteriorating. A person who truly knows himself pays attention to these signals. Such an individual understands which foods nourish the body and which habits undermine health. They recognize when rest is necessary,

when stress levels become dangerous and when professional medical attention should be sought. Self-awareness encourages preventive action long before illness develops. The same principle applies to mental and emotional health. Modern life is filled with pressures. Social media often encourages unhealthy comparisons, while economic challenges, family responsibilities and workplace demands create enormous psychological burdens. Many people suffer silently because they have not learned to understand or manage their emotions. Knowing oneself means recognizing emotional triggers, vulnerabilities and sources of stress. It involves identifying feelings of anxiety, sadness, anger or frustration before they become overwhelming. Self-aware individuals are more likely to seek support, adopt healthy coping mechanisms and maintain emotional balance.

Self-knowledge also promotes discipline. Many of today’s health problems are linked to lifestyle choices. Excessive consumption of processed foods, alcohol abuse, smoking, substance misuse, physical inactivity and poor sleeping habits contribute significantly to disease burdens around the world. Most people are aware of these risks. The challenge is often not a lack of information but a lack of self-understanding. Individuals who understand their motivations, weaknesses and tendencies are better equipped to resist harmful habits and develop healthier routines. In this way, self-knowledge becomes a powerful tool for self-control. Socrates also taught that “the unexamined life is not worth living.” While philosophical in origin, this statement has practical implications for health. Examining one’s life encourages honest reflection. Are we eating wisely? Are we exercising enough?

Are we sleeping adequately? Are we managing stress effectively? Are we maintaining healthy relationships? These are not merely philosophical questions. They are essential components of a healthy lifestyle. Honest answers can reveal habits that require improvement and inspire positive change. Ironically, while technology has made health information more accessible, it has also made self-understanding more difficult. Many people spend hours following social media trends and public personalities while paying little attention to their own health. They know more about celebrities than they know about their blood pressure, sleep quality or emotional wellbeing. A healthier society will require more than modern hospitals and advanced medications. It will require citizens who actively seek to understand themselves. Preventive healthcare begins with personal awareness.

Parents, educators, religious leaders, healthcare professionals and policymakers all have important roles to play in promoting self-awareness. Young people should be taught not only academic subjects but also emotional intelligence, self-reflection, healthy lifestyle habits and personal responsibility. Ultimately, Socrates’ ancient wisdom remains as relevant today as it was centuries ago. A person who understands himself is more likely to make healthy decisions, maintain emotional stability, build resilience and seek help when necessary. The journey to good health does not begin in a hospital, pharmacy or gymnasium. It begins within. As the world continues to confront complex health challenges, perhaps the most powerful prescription requires no expensive technology or medication. It is the enduring wisdom that has stood the test of time: know yourself. In understanding ourselves, we discover one of the surest paths to healthier, happier and more meaningful lives.

By: Sylvia ThankGod-Amadi