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Philantropy And The Plight Of Rural Women

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In the African setting, giving of support to under privileged women especially grassroots women is a virtue cherished by all but practised by a few.

Many times even among the few that give, most of them expect reward and for that reason they tend to support people of their own social status who they expect could reciprocate the gesture in future.

Ideally alms and support should be targeted at the needy and less privileged.

According to the scriptures as recorded in James chapter one verse 27, pure religion and undefiled before God is this, to visit the fatherless and widows in their affliction, (Authorised King James Version). Right from the days of Noah, giving of financial support till date, had remained one of the cardinal principles of true Christianity.

It is actually not very easy to give especially when one is not expecting an immediate reward from it. Another factor militating against the act of giving is abundance of wealth. When one has too much wealth it is difficult to give out, because he/she knows exactly that a little extention of the wealth can make the next person great. Hence, the urge to remain prominent among the wealthy remains the bane of this laudable practice, as the gap between the rich and the poor widens by the day.

Giving to the very poor class of people like widows who have nothing to give in exchange of what they receive is the kind that is recommended and rewarded by God.

The recent donation of N5 million to 100 women in Omerelu, Ikwerre Local Government Area of the state by the Honourable Commissioner for Lands/Survey, Hon. Ezemonye Ezekiel-Amadi on January 7, 2012, is a clear demonstration of an attempt to identify with the plight of the rural women especially at a time when the support was needed most, the farming season.

Though, also trying to press down the need to support the good governance of Governor Chibuike Rotimi Amaechi, he generously distributed N50,000 each to one hundred women. I am quite convinced that two-third of those who received the cash have never seen N30,000 in bulk.

Some of the beneficiaries in the open field, knelt down and sincerely asked God to protect and guide their benefactor. Others took some sweet-dance steps that only indicated one thing; happiness.

To the rural women, Ezemonye has done more than Napoleon the great or any other great man you can think of could do because he has supported them to do their farm work. A legacy, I bet you, will live from generation to generation, as the message has gone beyond the shores of Omerelu land.

The strength of that “poverty alleviation scheme”, drove some people like Mrs Eunice Wondi to declare a total support for the benefactor and the Peoples Democratic Party (PDP). Mrs. Wondi did not stop there, she promised in strong terms to surrender her house-hold to the PDP just as Joshua in the holy scriptures declared to serve the lord with his house (Joshua 24 verse 15).

She did not make such hard declaration out of nothing. Afterall, her N50,000 cash was in her hand, no sooth sayer or prophet would have succeeded in advising her to do otherwise.

Women, to a reasonable extent, know how to celebrate/appreciate gifts.

They turned down every warning against making public their gift or alms whenever it comes their way.

Mrs. Okwuchi Lucky-Assor, who was also among the beneficiaries tagged hers as “backbone” was full of joy

Now, the question is: can the women channel the cash to the appropriate quarter or will they keep it under their pillous?

Another wonderful gift to the women was that of the acting chairman of Ogba/Egbema/Ndoni Local Government Council Hon Amaechi Franklin Nwaobakata on the Armed Forces Remember Day (15-01-2012).

One can still see vividly a clear picture of a patriot who wants to salvage his people from their sufferings, especially the down trodden.

Wobakata, who remembered the widows and wives of heroes of world wars 1,2 and Nigerian Civil War, announced the donation of a soft loan of an undisclosed amount, that the world might know that the widows and wives of the Armed Forces members ought to feel the impact of the government.

There was no crime if he stopped at the traditional way of making some pledges to legionnaires during the armed forces day. To show his love for womanhood, the soft loan pronouncement was made.

The council boss explained in details that there was no better way to appreciate the families of the fallen heroes than to positively support their families. According to him, they (fallen heroes) and living heroes alike risked their lives to ensure that the territorial boundaries of the country are kept intact.

He reasoned that the loan when fully implemented would provide a backbone for the women and their families. To him, it is better to teach some one to fish than to give him fish. He also expressed belief that the women have all it takes to manage homes better than the men.

Though, he also made mention of the increment of stipends paid to legionnaires, but it did not raise much ovation like the provision of loan scheme for women. Women who are referred to as home keepers in must cases, show visible anger when their homes are not in order, for the fear of being blamed, they ensure that they do well with anything that is provided for them.

The ONELGA boss, who extended to other women in the community in a way, asked them to mind the activities of their children so as to promote peace in the area. He reasoned that even the loan can not last if there is violence in the local government area.

To the perpetrators of violence, he likened to those biblical foolish virgins who did not know how to plan for themselves. He was also full of praises for women and daughters of the area who have so far proved their worth in the place.

The chairman of ONELGA legionnaires, Major Nwanna Reuben (Rtd) lauded the chairman for the gesture towards the women, and described him as a true son of his mother.

To him, the loan for women is a healing balm that will bring joy to them.

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The Wise Woman

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The wise woman builds her home. Mothers are supposed to live exemplary lives. The roles of mothers in the building of the modern Christian home cannot be overemphasized.
The function of the mother is to help the man build the home. She is a helper. A helper to the husband when the man is not doing well. It is important for the wise woman to assist when the man is not able to meet up with the items needed in the home.
A wise woman needs to reference God first and then the husband. Also the wise woman should respect her husband.
Caring for her own children as well as others is very crucial.
Do not despise children from other mothers. Discipline the child who is going the wrong way.
Ensure family bonding, show love and don’t discriminate. Connection with children is very important, especially the females. Find out who is her friend. Also find out the kind of lives they live. Caution, counsel and guide so that they make good partners.
Teaching children the dos and donts should start from birth. Inculcate the word of God in them so that when they grow, will not depart from it.
From the Scripture, some women influenced their families positively. Virgin Mary influenced the world, she never destroyed herself hence she gave birth to Jesus Christ.
Elizabeth, despite her age, God blessed her as she waited patiently.
A wise should curb favouritism in the family and love children equally. Whether a child is your biological child or not, it is necessary to show love equally. Reprimanding the children should be the function of both man and wife.

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The Desire Of Every Woman In Marriage

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Marriage is beautiful when there is love. Before and after marriage, couples show love to themselves. But you discover that after some years, that same love turn to be something else. A lot of people start going through emotional trauma in the hands of their loved spouses.
There are many things the woman desires to keep the love on as far as marriage is concerned.
Women are blesssed with feminine abilities that can be used for good in husbands lives. With your abilities, you can create a marriage that will last till couples get old.
A woman needs
man that is honest,  trustworthy,  nice,  loving and financially stable.
There are no two ways about finance in marriage. No matter the level of love, if there is no reasonable finance,  it is always difficult to manage the home.
Referring to the Biblical belief in Genesis 3: “Your desire  shall be unto you…….. “
What this means is that whatever the woman desires in life shall be provided as far as she performs her role in her home. There are many things  the woman expects her husband to take care of.
A woman wants a husband that is not lazy,  at least helping to do one or two things when he is at home.
A man that is educated and intelligent so that they will transfer such traits to their children.
Knowing that there are traits that her husband has,  traits of taking care of people,  giving freely to people and caring for her family. She expects him to exhibit them.
A woman wants to love a husband that has family interest at heart. A man that spends time with his family,  remembering his family even as he is away from home.
No matter where he finds himself, he is not destracted by external influence. He returns home to his loved ones.
A woman should not antagonise her husband because of one error or the other. No matter the level of offence he may have committed, you still show some love.
According to the Scripture, it is with wisdom that a woman builds her home. As far as he rreturns home, you accept him as your own.
It is not as if the woman will not monitor her husband, but to certain limit.  Don’t be a monitoring spirit.  Don’t allow anything to take your joy.
Don’t loose trust in your husband. The idea of checking your husband’s phone should be discouraged. The more you check your husband and his phone, the more you loose your joy.
You can show some form of jealousy, but to an extent. Cooperation, respect and being honoured from time to time is what the woman desires.
The home should not be a battle ground for a woman and man.  A woman should be able to ask herself if the check on her husband will pay her any good.
Draw a line to a point where you checkmate your husband’s activities.
A woman wants a man that will love her and telling her you love her will be all she desires.

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The Desire Of Every Woman In Marriage

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A woman needs a man that is honest,  trustworthy,  nice,  loving and financially stable.
There are no two ways about finance in marriage. No matter the level of love, If there is no money,  it is always difficult.


Referring to the Biblical belief in Genesis 3:Your desire  shall be unto you……..
That is one aspect  the woman expects her husband to take care of.
A woman wants a husband that is not lazy,  at least helping to do one or two things.   A man that is educated and intelligent.
She knows that there is a trait that her husband has.  Traits of taking care of people,  giving freely to people and caring for her family.
A woman wants to love a husband that has family interest at heart. A man that spends time with his family,  remembering his family even as he is away from home.
A woman should not antagonise her husband because of one error or the other. No matter the level of offence he may have committed, you still show some love.


According to the Scripture, it is with wisdom that the women builds her home.
It is not as if the woman will not monitor her husband, but to certain limit.  Don’t be a monitoring spirit.  Don’t allow anything to take your joy.
Don’t loose trust in your husband.
The idea of checking your husband’s phone should be discouraged. The more you check your husband and his phone, the more you loose your joy.


The home should not be a battle ground for a woman and man.  A woman should be able to ask herself if the check on her husband will pay her any good.
Draw a line to a point where you checkmate your husband’s activities.
A woman wants a man that will love her and telling her you love her will be all she desires.

Eunice Choko-Kayode

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