Women

What It Means To Be A Woman

Published

2 years ago

November 19, 2021

While the visible features of the woman such as large, or small breasts, heavy or flat backsides, in short, curvy feminine physique could be used to identify her, Dr Emily Oghale God’s presence, a facilitator of children’s theatre programmes and an academic staff of the Department of Theatre Arts, University of Port Harcourt, has said that being a woman is much more than that. Beyond those physical attributes, the university teacher, through her pet project “Being A Woman Workshop”, believes that the real woman is known by being powerful and assertive, yet kind at the same time. She is compassionate and vulnerable towards loved ones without feeling weak for doing so. To her, being a woman means striving for goals even in the face of obvious adversity along the way.
Six years ago, “Being A Woman Workshop”, one of the programmes under the Emily God’spresence’s Project, was birthed. Designed to be featured annually, its maiden edition/inauguration, harped so much on some obvious complexities of womanhood which she tagged ‘boundaries’ women must determine within themselves to go over and beyond them to become who they want to be.
The call to go beyond the boundaries, formed the theme of the workshop that year. “Beyond the Boundaries” was borne out of the understanding that the plight of the African women in general and the Nigerian women in particular is shrewed in several limitations, hence the need to have the understanding that limitations, herein after referred to as boundaries, however lofty or cumbersome as they may seem, whether cultural, social, political, religious, psychological or marital, are merely man-made and thus not insurmountable.
The convener of the workshop, Dr Emily Oghale God’s presence, used the platform to crave the indulgence of all women to determinedly and courageously go above and beyond the perceived boundaries to attain their goals and stand tall within and outside their domestic confined spaces, showcasing not only their outward beauty, but the beauty of their brains, wits and talents.
Indeed, in a world where women are held bound by so many restrictions, where married women find it difficult to advance educationally, where the life of the girl-child is in danger simply because she desires to acquire education in order to better her lot so as to be able to measure up with her male counterparts in politics, leadership, business and in improving her domestic status as well as contribute to national development and proffer solution to global crises, Dr Emily upholds that women must be determined to help other women succeed, give warm embrace to the hurting and build confidence in younger ones as well as be mentors to our tomorrow’s leaders.
The second and third editions of the “Being A Woman Workshop featured “Women On the Edge: who is at risk? and the spear and spindle: should women fight? as themes repectively.
This year, owing to the numerous challenges our nation is facing, in recent time, especially from all the covid-19 related crisis: the lock downs, the economic down turn, looting of palliatives rising cases of human trafficking sales of babies, rape and gender based violence abductions/kidnaps etc, the convener of the workshop. Dr Emily Oghale God’s presence, thought it wise to re-examine the place of gender in the family, and how it impacts on us as individual male and female in our day to day affairs.
With the theme for this year’s workshop tagged:”Gender, Family and A Responsible Society”, Dr Emily God’s presence seeks ways to achieve gender equilibrium in society so as to reduce the rate of gender – based violence and many other unsavoury situations that upset the peaceful cohesion of both male and female persons in our society today.
Trying to draw a relationship between gender, family and responsible society, a resource person, the President of Uniport Women Association (UPWA) and wife of the Vice Chancellor, University of Port Harcourt, Dr Udeme Georgewill, said if the concept of gender is gotten right at the family level, the society will be better for it. For Rev Samson Nitonye, everyone in the family has an assigned role from creation and must live up to their responsibilities if the society must be well.
It must be noted that the yearly observation of this workshop is in no mean measure serving to impact on our women in the spirit of resilience and determination for global competitiveness as it will also help women resist all forms of boundaries militating against their goals as well as living up to their responsibility in life.

Women

The Wise Woman

Published

1 week ago

April 26, 2024

The Tide

The wise woman builds her home. Mothers are supposed to live exemplary lives. The roles of mothers in the building of the modern Christian home cannot be overemphasized.
The function of the mother is to help the man build the home. She is a helper. A helper to the husband when the man is not doing well. It is important for the wise woman to assist when the man is not able to meet up with the items needed in the home.
A wise woman needs to reference God first and then the husband. Also the wise woman should respect her husband.
Caring for her own children as well as others is very crucial.
Do not despise children from other mothers. Discipline the child who is going the wrong way.
Ensure family bonding, show love and don’t discriminate. Connection with children is very important, especially the females. Find out who is her friend. Also find out the kind of lives they live. Caution, counsel and guide so that they make good partners.
Teaching children the dos and donts should start from birth. Inculcate the word of God in them so that when they grow, will not depart from it.
From the Scripture, some women influenced their families positively. Virgin Mary influenced the world, she never destroyed herself hence she gave birth to Jesus Christ.
Elizabeth, despite her age, God blessed her as she waited patiently.
A wise should curb favouritism in the family and love children equally. Whether a child is your biological child or not, it is necessary to show love equally. Reprimanding the children should be the function of both man and wife.

Women

The Desire Of Every Woman In Marriage

Published

1 week ago

April 26, 2024

The Tide

Marriage is beautiful when there is love. Before and after marriage, couples show love to themselves. But you discover that after some years, that same love turn to be something else. A lot of people start going through emotional trauma in the hands of their loved spouses.
There are many things the woman desires to keep the love on as far as marriage is concerned.
Women are blesssed with feminine abilities that can be used for good in husbands lives. With your abilities, you can create a marriage that will last till couples get old.
A woman needs
man that is honest, trustworthy, nice, loving and financially stable.
There are no two ways about finance in marriage. No matter the level of love, if there is no reasonable finance, it is always difficult to manage the home.
Referring to the Biblical belief in Genesis 3: “Your desire shall be unto you…….. “
What this means is that whatever the woman desires in life shall be provided as far as she performs her role in her home. There are many things the woman expects her husband to take care of.
A woman wants a husband that is not lazy, at least helping to do one or two things when he is at home.
A man that is educated and intelligent so that they will transfer such traits to their children.
Knowing that there are traits that her husband has, traits of taking care of people, giving freely to people and caring for her family. She expects him to exhibit them.
A woman wants to love a husband that has family interest at heart. A man that spends time with his family, remembering his family even as he is away from home.
No matter where he finds himself, he is not destracted by external influence. He returns home to his loved ones.
A woman should not antagonise her husband because of one error or the other. No matter the level of offence he may have committed, you still show some love.
According to the Scripture, it is with wisdom that a woman builds her home. As far as he rreturns home, you accept him as your own.
It is not as if the woman will not monitor her husband, but to certain limit. Don’t be a monitoring spirit. Don’t allow anything to take your joy.
Don’t loose trust in your husband. The idea of checking your husband’s phone should be discouraged. The more you check your husband and his phone, the more you loose your joy.
You can show some form of jealousy, but to an extent. Cooperation, respect and being honoured from time to time is what the woman desires.
The home should not be a battle ground for a woman and man. A woman should be able to ask herself if the check on her husband will pay her any good.
Draw a line to a point where you checkmate your husband’s activities.
A woman wants a man that will love her and telling her you love her will be all she desires.

Women

The Desire Of Every Woman In Marriage

Published

4 weeks ago

April 5, 2024

The Tide

A woman needs a man that is honest, trustworthy, nice, loving and financially stable.
There are no two ways about finance in marriage. No matter the level of love, If there is no money, it is always difficult.

Referring to the Biblical belief in Genesis 3:Your desire shall be unto you……..
That is one aspect the woman expects her husband to take care of.
A woman wants a husband that is not lazy, at least helping to do one or two things. A man that is educated and intelligent.
She knows that there is a trait that her husband has. Traits of taking care of people, giving freely to people and caring for her family.
A woman wants to love a husband that has family interest at heart. A man that spends time with his family, remembering his family even as he is away from home.
A woman should not antagonise her husband because of one error or the other. No matter the level of offence he may have committed, you still show some love.

According to the Scripture, it is with wisdom that the women builds her home.
It is not as if the woman will not monitor her husband, but to certain limit. Don’t be a monitoring spirit. Don’t allow anything to take your joy.
Don’t loose trust in your husband.
The idea of checking your husband’s phone should be discouraged. The more you check your husband and his phone, the more you loose your joy.

The home should not be a battle ground for a woman and man. A woman should be able to ask herself if the check on her husband will pay her any good.
Draw a line to a point where you checkmate your husband’s activities.
A woman wants a man that will love her and telling her you love her will be all she desires.