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NAWOJ Boss Decries Increasing Sexual Violence Against Children

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Chairman of Rivers State Council of the Nigerian Association of Women Journalists (NAWOJ), Mrs Lilian Okonkwo-Ogabu has lamented increasing rate of sexual violence against children in Nigeria. She disclosed that about 80 per cent of sexual abuse victims in the country are children.
Mrs Ogabu, who spoke to journalists in Port Harcourt recently on the rate of sexual violence against, children, among other contemporary issues, disclosed that children were more vulnerable to the perpetrators of rape.
According to her, sexual abuse of children had become rampant in the country because innocence and trusting nature of children pare way and opportunity for perpetrators to strike.
As she puts it, “It also occur because of the carelessness of parents and guardians. The way and manner the issue has been trivialized in the past has also emboldened perpetrators to keep going lower in age from adults to children.
She said that there was no justifiable reason for rape, adding that the reasons usually given were unacceptable.
“What perpetrators do is that they make porous attempts to justify their criminal actions such as, ‘I was drunk’, ‘she did not dress codedly’, it is the handiwork of devil’, among others.
Ogabu debunked assertions that the victims do not report the incidents. “That is fallacy of the highest order”. “She said, stating that many of the perpetrators have been arrested and genuinely prosecuted.
The NAWOJ boss however, said that the key issue is when victims and their families report, the services they receive from the authorities concerned, fall bellow expectation. She admonished security and other government agencies to intensify necessary actions against such horrible matter instead of sweeping it under the carpet.
The gender specialist stressed the need for victims and their families to get the required supports after formal reports. “the relevant agencies should be action-packed; the police should not commit secondary victimisation by further blaming the victims and ridiculing the case in point”.
She, therefore noted that they should act promptly by first arresting and then investigating the alleged crime, cautioning victims to always receive counseling for their traumatic experience and urgent medical attention.
On sexual abuse and family burden, Mrs Ogabu said that sexual abuse is not only experienced by the victims but also by their families, she said, “the impact is physical, sexual and psychological. The psychological trauma especially is huge”, Ogabu said.
She stated that physical and mental health consequences were myriad as they included; risks of Sexually Transmitted Diseases (STDs) like HIV/AIDS, tear of the vagina, unwanted pregnancy, abortion, depression and suicidal tendencies.
Mrs Lilian Okonkwo-Ogabu added that rape cases be reported primarily to the police-within minutes of its occurance-before going to the hospital for counseling and treatment.

 

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The Wise Woman

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The wise woman builds her home. Mothers are supposed to live exemplary lives. The roles of mothers in the building of the modern Christian home cannot be overemphasized.
The function of the mother is to help the man build the home. She is a helper. A helper to the husband when the man is not doing well. It is important for the wise woman to assist when the man is not able to meet up with the items needed in the home.
A wise woman needs to reference God first and then the husband. Also the wise woman should respect her husband.
Caring for her own children as well as others is very crucial.
Do not despise children from other mothers. Discipline the child who is going the wrong way.
Ensure family bonding, show love and don’t discriminate. Connection with children is very important, especially the females. Find out who is her friend. Also find out the kind of lives they live. Caution, counsel and guide so that they make good partners.
Teaching children the dos and donts should start from birth. Inculcate the word of God in them so that when they grow, will not depart from it.
From the Scripture, some women influenced their families positively. Virgin Mary influenced the world, she never destroyed herself hence she gave birth to Jesus Christ.
Elizabeth, despite her age, God blessed her as she waited patiently.
A wise should curb favouritism in the family and love children equally. Whether a child is your biological child or not, it is necessary to show love equally. Reprimanding the children should be the function of both man and wife.

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The Desire Of Every Woman In Marriage

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Marriage is beautiful when there is love. Before and after marriage, couples show love to themselves. But you discover that after some years, that same love turn to be something else. A lot of people start going through emotional trauma in the hands of their loved spouses.
There are many things the woman desires to keep the love on as far as marriage is concerned.
Women are blesssed with feminine abilities that can be used for good in husbands lives. With your abilities, you can create a marriage that will last till couples get old.
A woman needs
man that is honest,  trustworthy,  nice,  loving and financially stable.
There are no two ways about finance in marriage. No matter the level of love, if there is no reasonable finance,  it is always difficult to manage the home.
Referring to the Biblical belief in Genesis 3: “Your desire  shall be unto you…….. “
What this means is that whatever the woman desires in life shall be provided as far as she performs her role in her home. There are many things  the woman expects her husband to take care of.
A woman wants a husband that is not lazy,  at least helping to do one or two things when he is at home.
A man that is educated and intelligent so that they will transfer such traits to their children.
Knowing that there are traits that her husband has,  traits of taking care of people,  giving freely to people and caring for her family. She expects him to exhibit them.
A woman wants to love a husband that has family interest at heart. A man that spends time with his family,  remembering his family even as he is away from home.
No matter where he finds himself, he is not destracted by external influence. He returns home to his loved ones.
A woman should not antagonise her husband because of one error or the other. No matter the level of offence he may have committed, you still show some love.
According to the Scripture, it is with wisdom that a woman builds her home. As far as he rreturns home, you accept him as your own.
It is not as if the woman will not monitor her husband, but to certain limit.  Don’t be a monitoring spirit.  Don’t allow anything to take your joy.
Don’t loose trust in your husband. The idea of checking your husband’s phone should be discouraged. The more you check your husband and his phone, the more you loose your joy.
You can show some form of jealousy, but to an extent. Cooperation, respect and being honoured from time to time is what the woman desires.
The home should not be a battle ground for a woman and man.  A woman should be able to ask herself if the check on her husband will pay her any good.
Draw a line to a point where you checkmate your husband’s activities.
A woman wants a man that will love her and telling her you love her will be all she desires.

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The Desire Of Every Woman In Marriage

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A woman needs a man that is honest,  trustworthy,  nice,  loving and financially stable.
There are no two ways about finance in marriage. No matter the level of love, If there is no money,  it is always difficult.


Referring to the Biblical belief in Genesis 3:Your desire  shall be unto you……..
That is one aspect  the woman expects her husband to take care of.
A woman wants a husband that is not lazy,  at least helping to do one or two things.   A man that is educated and intelligent.
She knows that there is a trait that her husband has.  Traits of taking care of people,  giving freely to people and caring for her family.
A woman wants to love a husband that has family interest at heart. A man that spends time with his family,  remembering his family even as he is away from home.
A woman should not antagonise her husband because of one error or the other. No matter the level of offence he may have committed, you still show some love.


According to the Scripture, it is with wisdom that the women builds her home.
It is not as if the woman will not monitor her husband, but to certain limit.  Don’t be a monitoring spirit.  Don’t allow anything to take your joy.
Don’t loose trust in your husband.
The idea of checking your husband’s phone should be discouraged. The more you check your husband and his phone, the more you loose your joy.


The home should not be a battle ground for a woman and man.  A woman should be able to ask herself if the check on her husband will pay her any good.
Draw a line to a point where you checkmate your husband’s activities.
A woman wants a man that will love her and telling her you love her will be all she desires.

Eunice Choko-Kayode

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