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Paddling To Make A Living – Rolly Ibigoni

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A seventeen year old girl, student of Senior Secondary Two (SS.2), Government Girls Secondary School, Finima, Bonny in the Bonny Local Government Area of Rivers State (OLGA), Miss Rolly Ibigoni, rvealed to this writer that she meets up her requirements selling pure water. I met Miss Rolly Ibigoni at the Bonny beach in Bonny Town boarding a small canoe she loaded with bags of Iced pure water.

I became inquisitive and I asked her what she was doing with twenty bags of Iced pure water.

She quickly told me a brief history of her family.

Hear her, “we are six from my parents and I am the third child. My father worked with the Nigerian Ports Authority, now retired. My mum sells garri to make ends meet, nothing comes out of it. My elder brother is a welder, my direct sister, immediate senior makes phone calls, a business that yields no fruit in Bonny

Truly my parents are poor. They find it very difficult to feed us and also cloth us. It has not been easy. I sell pure water to buy my books and meet up with my other requirements.

I contribute to the house keeping, that is I feed the family (my parents, brothers and sisters) with the gains I make from pure water.

I am very grateful to God, Miss Rolly Ibigoni said, I bought a deep freezer fridge with proceeds from the pure water money.

My pure water selling is unique because, I sell more of my pure water in the fishing port.

I load my hired canoe with more than twenty bags of Iced pure water and paddle to the fishing ports.

Each bag of pure water costs three hundred naira and they are happy to buy because drinking water is difficult to come by in the fishing port. No fridge to cool their water.

There is no electricity in the fishing port. Some of the pure water come out blocked, that is why they are happy to buy.

I sell up to ten thousand naira (10,000) in a day.

She reiterated the need for youths to be wise.

My parents are proud of me, she revealed, but my elder sister is jealous of me surprised of my success.

Almost in tears, Rolly Ibigoni lamented that canoe paddling is very stressful and strenuous. I do it because I want to forge ahead in life and there is dignity in labour. I deprived myself of so many good things of life because I know what I want.

I have started saving for my university education.

The Lord will see me through because I have never seen the Lord disappointing. My trust, hope and faith is on him. I thank the Lord for his mercies towards me, she concluded.

Miss Rolly Ibigoni is a rare gem, humble in nature, soft spoken and very respectful.

I wish her the best in her life’s struggles. May her endeavours materialise in Jesus Name, Amen.

 

Julie Jumbo

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The Wise Woman

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The wise woman builds her home. Mothers are supposed to live exemplary lives. The roles of mothers in the building of the modern Christian home cannot be overemphasized.
The function of the mother is to help the man build the home. She is a helper. A helper to the husband when the man is not doing well. It is important for the wise woman to assist when the man is not able to meet up with the items needed in the home.
A wise woman needs to reference God first and then the husband. Also the wise woman should respect her husband.
Caring for her own children as well as others is very crucial.
Do not despise children from other mothers. Discipline the child who is going the wrong way.
Ensure family bonding, show love and don’t discriminate. Connection with children is very important, especially the females. Find out who is her friend. Also find out the kind of lives they live. Caution, counsel and guide so that they make good partners.
Teaching children the dos and donts should start from birth. Inculcate the word of God in them so that when they grow, will not depart from it.
From the Scripture, some women influenced their families positively. Virgin Mary influenced the world, she never destroyed herself hence she gave birth to Jesus Christ.
Elizabeth, despite her age, God blessed her as she waited patiently.
A wise should curb favouritism in the family and love children equally. Whether a child is your biological child or not, it is necessary to show love equally. Reprimanding the children should be the function of both man and wife.

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The Desire Of Every Woman In Marriage

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Marriage is beautiful when there is love. Before and after marriage, couples show love to themselves. But you discover that after some years, that same love turn to be something else. A lot of people start going through emotional trauma in the hands of their loved spouses.
There are many things the woman desires to keep the love on as far as marriage is concerned.
Women are blesssed with feminine abilities that can be used for good in husbands lives. With your abilities, you can create a marriage that will last till couples get old.
A woman needs
man that is honest,  trustworthy,  nice,  loving and financially stable.
There are no two ways about finance in marriage. No matter the level of love, if there is no reasonable finance,  it is always difficult to manage the home.
Referring to the Biblical belief in Genesis 3: “Your desire  shall be unto you…….. “
What this means is that whatever the woman desires in life shall be provided as far as she performs her role in her home. There are many things  the woman expects her husband to take care of.
A woman wants a husband that is not lazy,  at least helping to do one or two things when he is at home.
A man that is educated and intelligent so that they will transfer such traits to their children.
Knowing that there are traits that her husband has,  traits of taking care of people,  giving freely to people and caring for her family. She expects him to exhibit them.
A woman wants to love a husband that has family interest at heart. A man that spends time with his family,  remembering his family even as he is away from home.
No matter where he finds himself, he is not destracted by external influence. He returns home to his loved ones.
A woman should not antagonise her husband because of one error or the other. No matter the level of offence he may have committed, you still show some love.
According to the Scripture, it is with wisdom that a woman builds her home. As far as he rreturns home, you accept him as your own.
It is not as if the woman will not monitor her husband, but to certain limit.  Don’t be a monitoring spirit.  Don’t allow anything to take your joy.
Don’t loose trust in your husband. The idea of checking your husband’s phone should be discouraged. The more you check your husband and his phone, the more you loose your joy.
You can show some form of jealousy, but to an extent. Cooperation, respect and being honoured from time to time is what the woman desires.
The home should not be a battle ground for a woman and man.  A woman should be able to ask herself if the check on her husband will pay her any good.
Draw a line to a point where you checkmate your husband’s activities.
A woman wants a man that will love her and telling her you love her will be all she desires.

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The Desire Of Every Woman In Marriage

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A woman needs a man that is honest,  trustworthy,  nice,  loving and financially stable.
There are no two ways about finance in marriage. No matter the level of love, If there is no money,  it is always difficult.


Referring to the Biblical belief in Genesis 3:Your desire  shall be unto you……..
That is one aspect  the woman expects her husband to take care of.
A woman wants a husband that is not lazy,  at least helping to do one or two things.   A man that is educated and intelligent.
She knows that there is a trait that her husband has.  Traits of taking care of people,  giving freely to people and caring for her family.
A woman wants to love a husband that has family interest at heart. A man that spends time with his family,  remembering his family even as he is away from home.
A woman should not antagonise her husband because of one error or the other. No matter the level of offence he may have committed, you still show some love.


According to the Scripture, it is with wisdom that the women builds her home.
It is not as if the woman will not monitor her husband, but to certain limit.  Don’t be a monitoring spirit.  Don’t allow anything to take your joy.
Don’t loose trust in your husband.
The idea of checking your husband’s phone should be discouraged. The more you check your husband and his phone, the more you loose your joy.


The home should not be a battle ground for a woman and man.  A woman should be able to ask herself if the check on her husband will pay her any good.
Draw a line to a point where you checkmate your husband’s activities.
A woman wants a man that will love her and telling her you love her will be all she desires.

Eunice Choko-Kayode

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