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Ending Violence Against Women

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Violence is an expression of physical or verbal force against one self or others, used to injure. Compelling action against one’s will or pain of being hurt. Violence involves threat to life and actual murder. Violence against women means all acts perpetrated against women which cause or could cause them physical, sexual, psychological and economic harm, including the threat to take such acts; or to undertake the imposition of arbitrary restrictions on or deprivation of fundamental freedoms in private or public life, in peace time and during situations of armed conflicts or of war. According to the dictionary, children are offsprings of parentage, unborn or recently born human being. At Common Law, a child (boy or girl) is one who had not attained the age of 14 years. This presupposes that a girl child is a female that is incapable due to age to make certain decisions for herself but is entitled to care, support (emotional, mental and physical) and love of her parents or guardian, for her wellbeing. The term child or children may include or apply to: adopted, after, born or illegitimate child; step child; child by second or former marriage; issue. This girl child is the same person that grows into the “female or adult human being which conceives and gives birth to the young, also a member of such sex. She is the mother, wife, and sister we all have today. The creator of the girl child or women vested in her certain rights and honor which she is to enjoy without violation, recognised today as human rights in various legal instruments. Any denial, refusal or violation of these rights amounts to an abuse. It is not in doubt that women play important role in the society as mothers, wives and caregivers. Fulfilling those, brings joy happiness and stability to men, women and the society as a whole. Women need the support, love and protection of their husbands, children and members of the society as they strive to function as women. Sad to say however, that for untold number of years now, the girl child, the woman, have continued to suffer several forms of abuse or violence, deprivation and neglect from the same people or society that ought to give her support and love. A brief overview of some of these acts of violence will reveal some sobering statistics. Women and children including boys and girls are mostly at the receiving end of violent acts in times of civil unrest, war and trouble because they are the vulnerable and defenseless group in society. A brief overview of some of these acts of violence will reveal sobering statistics. Trafficking in Women and Children• Women and children (especially girl children) are recruited, transported to unknown destinations, exploited by their victims for economic, sexual ritual and other fraudulent purposes. This is a global epidemic, a modern day slavery of the women and girl child. According to a recent report, between 700,000 and 2 million women are trafficked across international borders annually (UNFPA). These have been identified as a serious threat to human security and development. The report goes on to state that about six Nigerian girls are killed monthly in Italy by ritual killers(probably disposing their vital organs for money or ritual purposes; 30% of Nigerians trafficked through the Sahara desert die in transit. Another disturbing part of this report is that at least 60% of foreign prostitutes in Italy are from African countries, the majority from Nigeria (there are 10,000 to 15,000 prostitutes in Italy). UNICEF estimates that 1.2 million children are trafficked annually. Who are the traffickers we may ask? The report identified the major culprits as con men, yes, our own brothers, fathers, uncles and husband are the primary culprits who pose as helpers of destiny and lure these women and girls into harmful and destructive practice. This is the plight of women on a daily basis. Sad to say that even mothers have also been identified as partakers of this wicked act by using poverty as an excuse to give out their girls children and wards to unknown persons as maids, servants etc who turn out to be predators, by using their children to sell or hawk goods on the streets, or by outright sale of their babies to unknown persons for profit. Domestic Violence . Home violence is so common that many of us see its damage. The bruises and scratches, some resulting to serious injuries and sometimes death that we see often is a result of wife battering or beating even of pregnant ones. These are forms of “family violence that cuts across race, class and background. It is widespread and occurs as often among the upper class as among the lower Husband, brother-in- laws and stepsons are identified as the perpetrators of this indecency. After investigating human abuses committed worldwide in 1997 researchers concluded that “ domestic violence has been one of the principal causes of formal injury in almost every country in the world” Domestic violence, being a widespread yet underreported problem is now called “the silent crises of the” 20th century.” Sexual Abuse in times of trouble, wars or civil unrest: women are the most vulnerable group to be raped and abused sexually. Even children suffer physical, sexual and emotional abuse throughout the world and there seems to be an appalling silence from some representatives when these acts against women are committed within their communities by male members of the community. A survey of adults in several industrialized countries suggests that 10-15% of children are victims of sexual abuse – most of them girls. As a result they die from infectious diseases transmitted through sex eg. HIV/AIDS, or abortions resulting from (unwanted) pregnancies – related causes. A study shows that 1400 die everyday, 99% percent of them developing countries and that in Sub-Sahara Africa, a woman has chances of dying in child birth. In industrialized countries, the risk is in 4,085. Such emergencies as we had in Rwanda during the genocide of 1994, a survey put women at risk of extreme sexual violence and abuse. For example, 2000 women many of whom were survivors of rape, tested positive to HIV infection during the five years following this period. Statistics have it that the rate of infection is higher in girls and women. This threatens to destroy whole communities. In Rivers State of Nigeria, HIV prevalence in Bonny alone as at 5 to 11 % for females as against 4.1 % for males. Poverty/Economic problems – There is discrimination against women at work as a result a large population of women cannot find suitable employments as so depend solely on their husband to provide for basic necessities. Most of these women would suffer as they were at the mercy of their spouses to survive both when there are economic problems and in times of plenty, women suffer. Women are discriminated against at work because of their gender. Though there is no law barring women from particular fields of employment, they are often discriminated against and are adversely affected. There are credible reports that several businesses operate with a “get pregnant, get fired” policy – as we see in some private sectors (bank) where single unmarried ladies are preferred to the married ones. These unmarried ones are then made to endure all forms causes and violations sexually in ‘the hands of their clientele in the employment. As a result the circle of unemployment and poverty continues to make the rounds. Very few women are seen at the helms of affairs and rarely occupy positions of authority. Boma Kingson Enyingwa

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Who Is A Classic Woman? 

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A classic woman is one  who has identified herself in terms of fashion, occupation  or the kind of business she does.
A woman can be classical in the way she entertains her audience in terms of music and movies.  You will discover that some female musicians are identified with the kind of music they sing.
A classical woman is one who always wants to appear trendy.
Generally, classical women are normally identified with the kind of things they are involved in.
There are ladies that want to be identified with wearing of shorts (short trousers) in the public. They use it to showcase their beauty. They want to be identified with such things as they see it as socialisation.
Some wear trousers that are so tight just to showcase all the curves they possess.
Consultant stylists and etiquette experts say some fashions won by some persons are inappropriate because of how and when they are won.
A classic woman is supposed to dress properly.   She should  be able to wear clothes  that will not expose hidden parts of her body. When such occurs,  then it is indecent dressing.
Ladies should be known for two things, classical and beauty.  One can be classic with minimisation.  The minimum woman should go is to look good, decent and presentable.
Some ladies like wearing short skirts but no matter  how short the skirt is,  it should look elegant. The skirt  should not be too short like the mini-skirt.
Dressing or fashion depends on the environment the persons finds herself.  The kind of clothes won to the office may be different from the one won at home. Likewise,  a dress won to a party may be different from the one won too swimming pool.
For one to look classical or decent, body shape should be taken into consideration.
Colours of a particular fashion can make one look odd or nice.  Looking model does not mean that one should go naked or dull.
Don’t wear clothes  that you need to drag from time to time in order not to expose yourself.
Eunice Choko-Kayode
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Emohua Widows Receive Items From Ogbakor Ikwerre California

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A Non-Governmental Organization, (NGO) Ogbakor Ikwerre,California, DBA, Ikwerre Community Association, California, through it’s outreach projects has donated food items to over 300 Widows in Rumuekpe and Rumuji in Emohua Local Government Area of Rivers State.
Speaking during the handover of the items to the women leaders of the communities in Emohua, yesterday, the team leader of the Ogbakor Ikwerre Community Association in California, Dr Christiana Chukumati, said that the donation is an annual event that has  been on since 2014.
According to her, the NGO is donating the items among the four local government area of Ikwerre adding that this year is for widows in Rumuekpe and Rumuji communities.
“Today is Rumuekpe and Rumuji communities, next we are going to another Ikwerre local government area also.
” The NGO has been carrying on the activities since 2014 within the
Ikwerre communities”, Dr Chukumati said.
She thanked the Royal father of Rumuekpe, His Royal Highness, Golden Amb. Christian Amadi, Eze Chigu and the Royal Highness of Rumuji and Odegu Kingdom, Ohna Christian Okachineke Elechi Newe-Eli (the xv) for receiving them in their communities.
The team leader also promised the Royal Highness that whenever the NGO has any other items for the communities, she we do well to bring it to them.
Receiving the Ogbakor Ikwerre Community Association in California in Rumuekpe, His Royal Highness Golden Christian Amadi, praised the NGO for funding his clan among the communities.
According to the Highness, my community is the only oil producing community in Emohua Local Government Area of Rivers State, adding that his community is feeding the local government area, the state and the nation.
“I thank my children over there in California for remembering the widows in my Kingdom for the food items they brought.
” I pray to God to help them to do also to other Ikwerre communities.
” I want to tell them also that Rumuekpe Kingdom is till undeveloped.
” As you can see the community is nothing to show to the people, I want to beg the Niger Delta Development Commission (NDDC) and the Rivers State government to come to our aid to develop our community. We are underdeveloped”
“God will bless my children over there in California”,  His Royal Highness Amadi prayed.
In her words, the women leader of Rumuekpe community, Comfort Njoku, said that she was happy for the gift items given to them adding that it is not easy to remember the widows.
She explained that in Rumuekpe, the widows have not seen such a gift before and  prayed that is only God that will reward them.
“I want to thank the Ogbakor Ikweree Community Association in California for giving us this items in this festival. We thank God for them and the leader of the group,  Mrs Chukumati.
” What we received today we have not seen it in our community before for widows”, Mrs Njoku stated.
Meanwhile,  in Rumuji community, His Royal Highness, Ohna Christian Okachineke Elechi, said that he lacked words to thank the Ogbakor Ikwerre Community Association in California for the gift to the widows in his communities.
According to him, today is historic in the history of Rumuji community that our children in oversea can remember us, I am very excited and happy over the items.
“I feel very very happy, it is good that our children recognize the widows in my community today.
” I did not know them before but now I  know them, I pray to God Almighty to pay them back for their effort and that they will not lack.
“I pray God to continue to bless them in whatever things they are doing”  he stated.
Earlier, the oldest woman in Rumuji community,  Nletem Josiah, who spoke in her local language interpreted by the woman leader, Agor Leah Onugbom, thanked the Ogbakor Ikwerre Community Association in California for the gift adding that her husband died many years ago that has caused her hardship.
” In my age and these people come and give me these food items,  is only God that will bless them for me.
” This Xmas I will eat and be happy so I want to thank them and that my God, God will bless them for me”,  Mama Josiah said.
By: Kiadum Edookor
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When Rivers Women Pray

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Port Harcourt, the Rivers State capital went agog when women from all the local government areas of Rivers State came together for a prayer conference themed: “Women Converge 2025”.
The programme in it’s second series, which held at the Alfred Diette Spiff Civic Centre was put together by the Rivers Women Unite For Sim, a foundation that is nurtured by the women of Rivers State for prayers to God for the peaceful and smooth running of the state.
 Like a delegate conference, the  Civic centre was filled to the brim with women dressed in white attires.  They sang, danced and prayed to God for sustenance of peace in Rivers State while reaffirming their support for Governor Sim Fubara and his wife, Lady Valerie.
Women Converge With the sub-theme, “Women In An Evolving World”, explains the actions and strategies that the women use in fitting and succeeding in the digital and technical era that is very competitive.
During political rallies and campaigns, with their drummers, beautifully dressed, showcase their dancing steps to entertain audience.
In everything one does in the earthly world, prayers is key. Prayer, they say conquers. Women have been conquering many odds with prayers, and God answers whenever they pour out their minds concerning issues.
Of course, due to their nature, women have always been in the forefront of championing prayers, garnering supports for those in authority, taking care of their families as well as coping with their job careers.
Since the inception of the current administration, women have been relentless in ensuring that peace reigns in the Rivers state through prayers so 2025 edition of the Women Converge which is the second edition recorded huge success.
Speaking at the ceremony, the wife of the Rivers State Governor, Lady Valerie Fubara, commended Rivers women whose continuous prayers have impacted on the state and appreciated the support by the women to the Governor, Sir Siminalayi Fubara.
She described Rivers women as wonderful for the support both in prayers and solidarity to her family.
She described Women Converge 2025 as another milestone in an effort to shape the society for good and support for the sustenance of peace and development in Rivers State.
According to her, let me enjoin our women to remain prayerful because God is ever ready to answer our prayers. In all that we do, we must not forget the hand of God and seek him for direction and help.  You have always been steadfast and I urge you not to relent and together we will move our society forward.
Describing the theme, “Women Converge 2025, Women In An Evolving World”, as apt, she said it is a reflection of the very essence of actions and strategies that women adapt in navigating the new world order.
She said that despite the complexities of managing the home front and the constraints of economic realities, women had demonstrated formidable strength and resilience to confront the odds of life.
In her words, “This event underscores the resilience of our women to succeed no matter the odds, especially with absolute faith in God and determination for greater accomplishments”.
“Whether in the industry, business, agriculture, public service or even in politics, they have always shown strong determination to adapt and to accomplish like others”, she maintained.
A guest speaker at the event, the founder and medical director of  Save A Live medical centre, Dr. Okoye, told women to always take wise decisions in things concerning maternal and infant mortality.
The medical expert reiterated that women should not misunderstand the biblical idea of “you will deliver like the Hebrew women”.
He advised women to take  instructions from medical experts concerning pregnancy and child birth as those will go a long way in saving their lives and advised the women not to patronize quacks.
In a goodwill message, the former Commissioner for Environment, Prof. Roseline Konya,  expressed hope that the peace women have been praying for is already yielding positive result.
The President of Port Harcourt Chambers of Commerce, Industry, Mines and Agriculture, PHACCIMA, Dr. Chinyere Nwoga, spoke on the sustenance of peace in Rivers State as that will move the state to greater height.
Also speaking at the
Women Converge, Pastor Ene Secondus, enjoined women to continue to pray for peace and it’s sustenance in Rivers State.
One of the guest speakers, Pastor Eno Jerry Eze, during the intercessory prayers said women are the foundation of the society and explained that development of any society depends on the strength of womanhood.
The wife of the former Deputy Governor of Rivers State, Dr Christie Toby, a daughter of Rivers State, Ann Kio Briggs also graced the occasion.
Apart from the prayer session,  women from different local government areas showcased different kinds of food items in their various canopies and stands.
The Okrikans and in fact the Riverine extraction, in a food exhibition displayed fishes, crayfish, oporo (prawn), periwinkle( isam).
The women from Etche and Omuma decorated their tables with agricultural products like Garri, fufu, vegetables (okashi ala), plantain, bananas etc.
The Ekpeyes and Ogbas were not left out as they displayed their own food crops like fish, garri, fufu and the likes.
Women from Ikwerre and Emohua local government areas came with their food stuffs.
By: Eunice Choko-kayode
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