Opinion
Consequences Of High Bride Price
Bride price is payment made by a groom or his kin to the family of the bride in order to ratify a marriage. It is paid by the family of the groom to their future in-laws at the start of the marriage usually in cash and materials.
Bride price in Nigeria varies from one ethnic group to another. What obtains as bride price in Rivers State may be different from Kogi State in terms of cash and materials required by the bride’s family. Although there are a few similarities in the list of items to be provided by the groom in Nigeria.
It also varies from family to family. Some families collect as low as N5,000 while others collect as high as N1,000,000.
There are criticisms that this African tradition of paying bride price to the bride’s family before marriage degrades a woman by putting a required monetary value on a wife.But those who support the tradition uphold it as a cherished cultural and religious symbol of marriage.
Some families see bride price as symbolic, hence they ask for less. I have seen a situation where the mother of the bride collected N30,000 and later gave it back to the couple, asking them to put it in their bank account so that it will serve as a “starter pack”. This shows that she wasn’t really giving her out for money.
In our local setting, a marriage is recognised only when bride price and gift items have been presented to the bride’s family. It is important because it validates marriage to give a woman respectable status in the society as a wife.
The importance of bride price can never be over-emphasised. It is one of the highest honours confirming a bride’s value and womanhood, giving a husband the full rights to the economic and reproductive powers of his wife. It is an honour bestowed on the parents that their daughter is getting married.
I see nothing wrong in payment of bride price but in recent time, the issue of high bride price seems to be competitive among families whose daughters are ripe for marriage.It is alarming and heart-breaking how newly-wedded couples end up paying debts years after marriage. When demanding for high bride price, some parents do not realise the fact that the yet-to-be couple will plan for church and court (Registry). The Registry requires little token. Although, the clergy will not ask, but the couple need to settle one or two things in church.
More worrisome is the fact that some parents demand a live cow from an in-law as if the lady is to be exchanged. I know of a culture where cow must be provided to her kinsmen by the surviving husband or children before a late woman must be buried. The claim is that the man didn’t complete the marriage rites before the death if the woman. This is just to extort money from the late woman’s children.
A young man was mandated to pay about N2million to the wife’s kins after losing her during child birth, simply because he never completed marriage rites. What about the welfare of the surviving child?
A situation where a basin of fish that costs over N200,000 must be presented in the name of bride price for a traditional marriage to be contracted gave me concern.
A father also demanded about N1million as dowry for his daughter. For Christ’s sake, no amount of money collected as bride price can pay all the expenses from birth to University level of a lady as this is the dream of greater percentage of our parents nowadays. No amount of money can buy a woman. “Her value is inestimable”.
High bride price can cause disharmony between husband and his in-laws. A young man was lamenting that after his marriage, his in-laws can never be allowed into his family. This is as a result of whatever high bride price they would have charged.
High bride price can cause a man to exhibit violent behaviours when he remembers how much he paid. He gets angry at every little thing the wife does which can lead to domestic violence. The implication is that the woman will suffer in silence with the fear that the man may demand for the high bride price if she leaves the marriage.
Income from her job or personal business is seen by the man as his. She is being denied freedom on using her income and often leads to a situation where the husband must be consulted before any monetary transaction in the family. This leads to hostile marital environment and can destabilise the marriage.
Man dominates the woman in terms of decision-making. The woman has little say or nothing when issues come up in the home. He can say: “Don’t talk, I paid heavily”.
One of the consequences of high bride price is that if perhaps divorce occurs, the bride and the family, according to customary norms, have to return the dowry. If the dowry were very expensive to the tune of N1million, they may not be able to pay back.
High bride price encourages gender inequality. It reduces the power and prestige of the woman with the perception that she was paid for.
High bride price leads to poverty. A couple may have been forced to incur debts in the course of marriage. These are young men and women who are starting life perhaps after graduation and have not made enough savings. Paying back debts incurred during weddings for two to three years should be discouraged.
For many young men, withdrawal syndrome sets in when they remember that they have to provide as much as N1million to marry a wife. You see someone going to marry at the age 50 because he didn’t have enough. Even the ladies are also affected here. Some men get scared of going into such families or ethnic groups for marriage. When will they train their children?
No matter the status of the groom, minimal amount should be fixed for dowry to avoid certain consequences in future. Family of the bride should take cognizance of the fact that their daughter deserves some comfort in her new home.
It is high time the traditional institutions worked through their subjects in the various communities to create awareness on the dangers of high bride price in our society.
Community heads who are saddled with the responsibility of marriage functions and rites should be advised to cut down some of the items and reduce the costs of available ones.
I call on local government councils to work with traditional rulers, community and family
heads as well as women leaders to come out with minimum and maximum amount of money and other items needed as bride price and dowry.
It should be domesticated in the by-laws of the local councils across Nigeria.
By: Eunice Choko-Kayode
Look before you leap”, is one of the wise sayings that over the years I have been emotionally attached to. It means so much to me because the debilitating consequences of unguided actions are better imagined than experienced. “Look before you Leap” teaches me to be thoughtful, articulate, discreet dispassionate and solicit for advice of the experienced and reasonable people where necessary. I have seen people reveal their stark ignorance because they took decisions rashly and without considering the implications of their actions or inactions, only to say, “had I known” which is an euphemism for failure. It has therefore, become necessary to “look before you leap”. Rehoboam, son of Bible’s King Solomon lost 10 of a 12-tribe kingdom of lsrael to Jeroboam. The negative consequences of lack of conscientious and enlightened guide before taking action has landed many to avoidable regrets.
Thoughtless actions happen every day and they are evidenced in the unpleasant outcomes of such decision. In 2024, a Federal High Court, Abuja sacked 20 Cross River State House of Assembly members which serves as an object lesson for thoughtless Lawmakers’ and elected representatives who want to defect from the party on whose platform they were elected to a preferred political party, whether the choice was based on sound judgement, ignorance or pecuniary gains. The Electoral Act is unambiguous and crystal clear so does not make judicial interpretation necessary, on the ground for an elected representative to leave his or her political party for a preferred one either by inducement, anticipated pecuniary benefits or blind loyalty.And the sublime reason must be premised on irreconcilable crisis in the political party of those elected who want to decamp or cross-carpet
Recall that on Monday March 18, 2024 a Federal High Court in Abuja sacked 20 members of the Cross River State House of Assembly. The Peoples Democratic Party (PDP) had instituted a suit against the lawmakers over their defection to the All Progressives Congress (APC). Ruling on the case marked “FHC/ABJ/CS/975/2021 , Taiwo Taiwo, the presiding judge, held that the lawmakers should vacate their seats, having abandoned the political party that sponsored them to power. The affected lawmakers are: Michael Etaba, Legor Idagbor, Eteng Jonah William, Joseph A. Bassey, Odey Peter Agbe, Okon E. Ephraim, Regina L. Anyogo, Matthew S. Olory, Ekpo Ekpo Bassey, Ogbor Ogbor Udop and Ekpe Charles Okon.Others are Hillary Ekpang Bisong, Francis B. Asuquo, Elvert Ayambem, Davis Etta, Sunday U. Achunekan, Cynthia Nkasi, Edward Ajang, Chris Nja-Mbu Ogar and Maria Akwaji.
The Independent National Electoral Commission (INEC), Speaker of the House of Representatives, National Assembly, Clerk of the National Assembly, Cross River State House of Assembly, Clerk of the Cross River State House of Assembly and the All Progressives Congress, were also joined as defendants in the suit. Though, in their defence, the lawmakers argued that there was rancour in the Peoples Democratic Party (PDP),which led to their expulsion from the party, the judge held that the defendants had intentions to mislead the court. He said he found gaps and loopholes in their defence as they tried to twist events to suit their own narratives.”They wined and dined under the umbrella of the plaintiff who also gave them shelter,” he said Taiwo noted that they not only defected loudly, “they took pictures of their defection and were received by the officials of the 26th defendant”.
“There is no doubt that the defendants can belong to or join any political association and assembly as they are free to do so,” he ruled. “I consider the attempts of the 6th – 25th defendants to justify their defection feeble in the circumstances of this case.” Taiwo said the public voted for the lawmakers through the plaintiff who sponsored them and they were not elected as independent candidates.”They had a vehicle which conveyed them and that vehicle belongs to the plaintiff. They cannot abandon the vehicle,” he held. Justice Taiwo’s judgment and several other judgments on thoughtless defections should have been a basis, landmark and precedent to determine whether the 27 Rivers State House of Assembly members elected on the platform of the Peoples Democratic Party (PDP), have the locus to publicly decamp to the All Progressives Congress (APC) and still retain their seats in the House as elected and honourable members of the House as declared by the Supreme Court in its Judgment on consolidated suits on the political crisis in Rivers State.
The judgment of the “learned” justices of the Supreme Court on the 27 defectors is a bitter pill to swallow. It is however, not a surprise because the aroma of the fart tells the substance of the poo. The wise man learns from the experiences of others and history. History repeats itself because people have refused to come to understanding. They are close-ended in learning. The essence of history is to avoid a reinvent of the negative past, use the ugly past to reconstruct the future. Legislators are elected to represent constituency consisting of people of all walks of life. They should rather strive to serve the people, solicit the consent of popular opinions on critical issues rather than serving their selfish interests. Those elected should see themselves as stewards and as stewards they are accountable to the people and God, not their political godfather.
It is high time our political leaders knew that the legitimacy of their positions is derived from the magnanimity of the people. They should therefore not take decisions without taking into cognisance the interest of the people they are representing, through intentional consultation.
By: Igbiki Benibo
Of late, Nigerian Customs Services have been fighting the act of smuggling taking place at the Nigeria’s borders with the neighbouring countries. Smuggling of petroleum products and other goods out of Nigeria is a threat to local consumption of any product produced locally. Smuggling has done more harm than good to Nigerians and Nigeria as a country. The rate at which petroleum products are smuggled out of Nigeria is alarming. Smugglers always re-strategise to beat the customs officers on duty and have their ways through the borders. Yes, it was revealed few years ago, that the borders of Nigeria with other countries are so porous, that smugglers have easy escape routes to other countries. Today, petroleum products are not sufficient to sustain the internal needs of most Nigerians. If smuggling be allowed to continue without check, it will lead to severe economic crisis.
Smuggling is a serious menace to the economic development of Nigeria. It is a name synonymous with petroleum products. Nigeria, being a major player in oil industry in the world, is seriously facing uncontrollable smuggling activities by smugglers. Inspite of the efforts of the Customs and the Immigration Services at working hard to curtail the excesses of smugglers, corruption in the oil sector seems to have provided a thriving ground for smuggling activities to remain unabated. Few weeks ago, Nigerian Customs apprehended smugglers with over two thousand Jerry cans loaded with petrol in Nasarawa State. The product was confiscated and taken to a filling station where it was sold at a cheaper rate of five hundred naira, per litre. Some time it is difficult for seizure of smuggled products to take place because of corruption.
Smugglers are strategists who can maneuver through the borders, not minding the penalty of the offence. Activities of smugglers lead to high cost of commodities in the markets. It gives room to quick gains, thereby giving room for skyrocketed price of smuggled goods. Again, the activities of smugglers lead to scarcity of products that should be available in the country. The land and water border towns are where smugglers move the products to other countries. Sometimes high level compromise frustrates the combat against smuggling of products. The network of smugglers is so sophisticated to burst. Some of them are highly connected to those in authority, thereby making the war against smuggling a fruitless one. Smuggling activities are undermining even circulation of some locally produced goods in Nigeria.
According to AI overview, smuggling of petroleum products can have significant negative effects including: substantial loss of government revenue from taxes, depletion of natural resources, destabilisation of activities, fuel shortages in the exporting country, environmental damage due to improper storage and transportation, and potential for price distortions in receiving markets due to influx of cheap smuggled fuel. Indeed, weak border control is another problem of poor border security and inadequate monitoring systems can facilitate smuggling activities. And another factor that promotes smuggling is price disparities. When there is a large price difference between a country producing petroleum and neighbouring countries, it stimulates smuggling.
Other social impacts; funding criminal activities; profits from petroleum smuggling often fund organised crime networks and terrorist activities. Corruption is not left out. Smuggling often involves collusion with corrupt officials undermining public trust in institutions. It is also dangerous to the environment. For instance, smuggled petroleum products are often stored and transported in substandard conditions, increasing the risk of spills and leaks, causing environmental contamination. Illegal pipeline tapping is another dangerous trend; in some cases, smuggling can involve tapping into oil pipelines, which can lead to significant environmental damage.Indeed, governments lose significant income from taxes on legally sold petroleum products when they are smuggled out. Again, smuggling can disrupt the normal supply and demand dynamics of the petroleum market, leading to price fluctuations and shortages.
It undermines fuel subsidy programme. When a country like Nigeria subsidises fuel, smuggling can exacerbate the issue by allowing people to buy subsidised fuel at a low price and sell it at a higher price in other countries Hence, there is need for the governments to combat and eradicate smuggling in the petroleum sector. Strengthening border controls; increasing border controls implementing advanced monitoring technologies and improving customs procedures can help deter smuggling. Thus, there is need for price harmonisation. Reducing price discrepancies between countries can lessen the incentive for smuggling. International co-operation is crucial to combat cross-border smuggling operations. Smuggling of petroleum products is a threat to the economic development of the citizens and Nigeria. Therefore, say no to smuggling of petroleum products in Nigeria.
Ogwuonuonu writes from Port Harcourt.
By: Frank Enewaji Ogwuonuonu
March 8, every year is International Women’s Day. Recall that in 1922, Wedmir Lenin declared March 8 as International Women’s Day to honour women’s roles in the 1917 Russian Revolution. Subsequently, it was celebrated on that date by the Socialist Movement and Communist countries.However, the United Nations officially endorsed that date in 1977, establishing it as a global observance for women’s rights and gender equality. The 2025’s theme is “Accelerating Action” to advance gender equality by highlighting strategies, resources and initiatives that drive progress. Unfortunately, while many countries in the world accelerate action to foster inclusivity of women in mainstream policymaking and decision taking; recognise and celebrate the meritorious and creditable roles of women as primary agents of socialisation, sustainable growth and influencers, in other countries, in the Sub-Saharan Africa some women are being victimised, intimidated, and repressed for not giving in to pernicious sexual advances of some men in power.
Some women are being ridiculed and lampooned for cultivating the effeontery to resist the inordinate sexual harassment of base men. However I do not lose sight of the obvious reality that some women have played the porn as a result of lacking the strong will to say “no” to men who see women as opportunity to express their inordinate sexual urge even outside the bond of matrimony. Yes, the likes of Joi Nunieh and Senator Natasha who can cry out or call the shots and “slap” men who harass women are few among women. This makes women the architect of their reproach and disdain. When women go for the carrot, pottage, flashy cars, at the expense of morality, they lose their maiden dignity in civilised climes where moral values are savoured. Nothing in the world or comprehensively put, the whole world put together is not worth a woman’s worth, so no reason can best lend support to the situation where a woman offers her body as an opportunity to access pecuniary mundane, temporary benefits that have no eternal value and translates to a reproach.
Most societies have intentionally created a poverty-ridden situation where women are worst hit so the base fellows can use women weakness and lack as a smokescreen to get more than a pound of flesh for their paltry gifts. This is why in my considered view, the agitation for the acceleration of action to foster gender equality is imperative. Enough to women exploitation in political institutions, offices, religious organisations, families and educational institutions. Women’s fundamental rights should be recognised and accelerated to achieve the more than 35 percent affirmative action of the Geneva Convention. However, freedom is not without a price. Women must prove to men that the female gender does not suggest inferiority and cannot be exploited, or used as sex machine by men who lacked or have regard for moral values.
The White House sex scandal should inspire the Nigerian women to resist being abused and exchanged for worthless gifts. Women should rather choose to suffer marginalisation, and victimisation or possibly die for what they conscientiously believe is right than living in shadow of real life. Methinks men who have mother and realise that they are the gateway to physical should not fail to treat women with dignity. Paul said, “…. Treat the old women as your mother and the young women as your sisters with all purity and respect”. (1 Timothy 5: I). The time for women movements to rise to defend their fellow women from sexual harassment is now. It is only in a morally-decadent society that a man who has subsisting cases of sexual accusations, is treated as lord, instead of making him step aside for proper investigations. However, my heart goes out for men, organizations and institutions who in recognition of the critical and invaluable roles of women in Nigeria, rolled out drums to give them a pat at the back.
Consequently, I celebrate the Managing Director of the Rivers State Signage and Advertisement Agency (RISAA), Aye Pepple, who according to reports has urged individuals, organisations, and the government to celebrate women and actively encourage their growth in all spheres of life. Speaking in commemoration of International Women’s Day (IWD), Pepple emphasised the importance of recognising women’s contributions and ensuring they are empowered to achieve their full potential. According to him, “Women play an essential role in shaping our society, and their efforts must never go unnoticed. “This year’s International Women’s Day serves as a reminder that we must do more than just celebrate them”. He highlighted the significance of gender inclusion in leadership, entrepreneurship, and governance, stressing that societies that empower women tend to experience sustainable growth, adding that “at RISAA, we believe in amplifying women’s voices, whether in the workplace, in business, or in the creative industry. “We must all do our part to provide opportunities, mentorship, and support that help women succeed.” Kudos to institutions and organisations who understand the roles of women as agents of shaping society.
Igbiki Benibo