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Medical Tests Before Marriage: Of Any Good?

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Love, that inexplicable phenomenon, has held most of its victims captive. They appear so spell-bound that neighbours question if they be under the influence of any divine operation?

People who have encountered it on the periphery, treat issues or cases concerning it with less regard.

Yet, those who at any point in history had fallen victim of its manipulation, either by some supernatural means or by shear fate, will confess, that it is a situation of life that transcends the ordinary.

The scourge of love knows no age boundary, it afflicts the young as well as the old. However, age plays a vital role in the response of each group to the stimulus of love.

To the young at heart, love is deafening and maddening. It intoxicates beyond comprehension, while to some, it tortures and reserves a little of commonsense in them to others, it uses and leaves them completely ravaged.

When under the influence of love, it is most times difficult, extremely difficult to heed to the voice of reason. Even when doom looms in sight, a stronger spirit tells its captive that it is avertable.

To the mature at heart, love can be managed, the victims release their bodies with caution to the rhythm of their tormented spirits. They try as much as possible to control feelings and not let their feelings control them, such are those that come out unhurt while the former get totally ravaged.

The issue of undergoing blood tests before marriages are contracted, is being drummed and trumpeted within and without.: Ordinarily, it is an idea and a development that ought be welcome without reservation because it serves to safe guide one’s future while also guaranteeing such a fulfilling married life, devoid of avertable illness that would eventually cause sorrow all through the life-time of its victims.

Rather than embracing this awesome idea, young ones are instead faulting it by the day, to the detriment of their family joy, what a pity!

We are talking about the couples’ joy while their relationship lasts and I think it is such a crucial issue that must not be treated with levity.

Often times, youths of our time had complained that parents are meddling too much into their personal life. They tend to prove a point that they are of age and so should be left alone to take decisions concerning their welfare as well as their well being.

Guaranteed that the Nigerian constitution provides that at age 18, a child becomes an adult and could be held responsible for his or her actions, yet, at 18, we also know that such a child that had suddenly developed into adulthood by virtue of his/her age is still very, very naïve as far as life lessons are concerned.

Therefore, posterity will not be in a hurry to forgive any parent who fails to guide such ones aright.

The message of tests before marriage contracts are signed must be preached to both the willing and the unwilling minds.

Have we ever considered the trauma of containing sickle cell anaemia, how about the scourage of HIV/AIDS? Perhaps, not enough sermon had been sounded on these burning issues that are capable of keeping us perpetually traumatised.

Our young ones going into marriage relationship must be made to understand that their eventual joy and happiness while they live their life, means a lot to their parents and other relatives who may eventually depend on them for survival.

An unhealthy family does not save money let alone taking care of people who look up to them for one assistance or the other. Apart from not extending to others, they end up most likely constituting a financial problem to their parents and concerned relatives who may not like to fold their arms and watch them suffer such health problem perpetually.

But this situation can be averted, by first ascertaining the genotype as well as the HIV status of would-be spouses. The worst if ever, is that both parties part ways should the result reveal danger. Painful though it may be at the beginning but, such emotional feelings will definitely be suppressed with time. It is better discovered early enough and such relationship aborted when no serious commitments have been made, than to discover it later in the relationship when retrieval becomes very difficult.

We can’t afford to stake the lives of our loved and young ones for momentary joy, it is not worth it. Insist on blood tests before marriage and it shall forever by well with your soul.

Don’t compromise!

 

Sylvia ThankGod-Amadi

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The Wise Woman

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The wise woman builds her home. Mothers are supposed to live exemplary lives. The roles of mothers in the building of the modern Christian home cannot be overemphasized.
The function of the mother is to help the man build the home. She is a helper. A helper to the husband when the man is not doing well. It is important for the wise woman to assist when the man is not able to meet up with the items needed in the home.
A wise woman needs to reference God first and then the husband. Also the wise woman should respect her husband.
Caring for her own children as well as others is very crucial.
Do not despise children from other mothers. Discipline the child who is going the wrong way.
Ensure family bonding, show love and don’t discriminate. Connection with children is very important, especially the females. Find out who is her friend. Also find out the kind of lives they live. Caution, counsel and guide so that they make good partners.
Teaching children the dos and donts should start from birth. Inculcate the word of God in them so that when they grow, will not depart from it.
From the Scripture, some women influenced their families positively. Virgin Mary influenced the world, she never destroyed herself hence she gave birth to Jesus Christ.
Elizabeth, despite her age, God blessed her as she waited patiently.
A wise should curb favouritism in the family and love children equally. Whether a child is your biological child or not, it is necessary to show love equally. Reprimanding the children should be the function of both man and wife.

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The Desire Of Every Woman In Marriage

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Marriage is beautiful when there is love. Before and after marriage, couples show love to themselves. But you discover that after some years, that same love turn to be something else. A lot of people start going through emotional trauma in the hands of their loved spouses.
There are many things the woman desires to keep the love on as far as marriage is concerned.
Women are blesssed with feminine abilities that can be used for good in husbands lives. With your abilities, you can create a marriage that will last till couples get old.
A woman needs
man that is honest,  trustworthy,  nice,  loving and financially stable.
There are no two ways about finance in marriage. No matter the level of love, if there is no reasonable finance,  it is always difficult to manage the home.
Referring to the Biblical belief in Genesis 3: “Your desire  shall be unto you…….. “
What this means is that whatever the woman desires in life shall be provided as far as she performs her role in her home. There are many things  the woman expects her husband to take care of.
A woman wants a husband that is not lazy,  at least helping to do one or two things when he is at home.
A man that is educated and intelligent so that they will transfer such traits to their children.
Knowing that there are traits that her husband has,  traits of taking care of people,  giving freely to people and caring for her family. She expects him to exhibit them.
A woman wants to love a husband that has family interest at heart. A man that spends time with his family,  remembering his family even as he is away from home.
No matter where he finds himself, he is not destracted by external influence. He returns home to his loved ones.
A woman should not antagonise her husband because of one error or the other. No matter the level of offence he may have committed, you still show some love.
According to the Scripture, it is with wisdom that a woman builds her home. As far as he rreturns home, you accept him as your own.
It is not as if the woman will not monitor her husband, but to certain limit.  Don’t be a monitoring spirit.  Don’t allow anything to take your joy.
Don’t loose trust in your husband. The idea of checking your husband’s phone should be discouraged. The more you check your husband and his phone, the more you loose your joy.
You can show some form of jealousy, but to an extent. Cooperation, respect and being honoured from time to time is what the woman desires.
The home should not be a battle ground for a woman and man.  A woman should be able to ask herself if the check on her husband will pay her any good.
Draw a line to a point where you checkmate your husband’s activities.
A woman wants a man that will love her and telling her you love her will be all she desires.

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The Desire Of Every Woman In Marriage

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A woman needs a man that is honest,  trustworthy,  nice,  loving and financially stable.
There are no two ways about finance in marriage. No matter the level of love, If there is no money,  it is always difficult.


Referring to the Biblical belief in Genesis 3:Your desire  shall be unto you……..
That is one aspect  the woman expects her husband to take care of.
A woman wants a husband that is not lazy,  at least helping to do one or two things.   A man that is educated and intelligent.
She knows that there is a trait that her husband has.  Traits of taking care of people,  giving freely to people and caring for her family.
A woman wants to love a husband that has family interest at heart. A man that spends time with his family,  remembering his family even as he is away from home.
A woman should not antagonise her husband because of one error or the other. No matter the level of offence he may have committed, you still show some love.


According to the Scripture, it is with wisdom that the women builds her home.
It is not as if the woman will not monitor her husband, but to certain limit.  Don’t be a monitoring spirit.  Don’t allow anything to take your joy.
Don’t loose trust in your husband.
The idea of checking your husband’s phone should be discouraged. The more you check your husband and his phone, the more you loose your joy.


The home should not be a battle ground for a woman and man.  A woman should be able to ask herself if the check on her husband will pay her any good.
Draw a line to a point where you checkmate your husband’s activities.
A woman wants a man that will love her and telling her you love her will be all she desires.

Eunice Choko-Kayode

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