There is more to parenting than just providing the physiological needs of the Girl-Child.
The penultimate Tuesday, October 11, was the day the global community marked the Day of the Girl-Child. It was a time to reflect on the values, prospects, opportunities, challenges and the roles of Government, the family, churches, and other institutions of socialisation in protecting the rights and dignity of the Girl-Child.
Women organisations, Civil Society groups, Christian women groups, including the National Association of Women Journalists (NAWOJ), and International Federation of Female Lawyers (FIDA), used the event to harp on the need to protect and give the Girl-Child all the opportunities she deserved. It is pertinent to state that the Girl-Child is endangered. This reality makes it mandatory for parents, the Federal, State, Local Governments and   all caregivers to reflect on their roles in protecting the Girl-Child. To say the Girl-Child needs to be protected and saved from evil people and callous parents is to say the least. The New Age and Traditional media are replete with ugly scenes and reports of heartless abuses of this fragile group of humans.
No day passes without one assault or social vices meted on the Girl-child from Godless men. Sadly, abuses the Girl-child  incur come from some neighbours, blood relations, even church members in sheep clothing. The Girl Child is no doubt, the most vulnerable of the activities of evil men in society. Girls are now the target of ritualists now on prowl, extracting sensitive organs to achieve their mischievous and inordinate ambition. The female sex, because of her emotion-driven disposition gives in to lies and  is deceived so easily. We must collectively work to protect the Girl child from abuses at all fronts. The safety or security consciousness must be cultivated by the Girl-Child first. Girls should constantly remind themselves that there is tendency in wicked man to abuse her. Even when we depend on God for safety and security, we must do what we should and God will do what we cannot do for ourselves. The grace of security and safety God gives does not cover licentious, obscene and frivolous lifestyles.  Sometimes, what the Girl Child wears is enough to attract assault from a morally debased man. While dressing is cultural, thus relative and not an absolute, it behoves all girls and women to know that decency and modesty in dressing is an expression of godliness. Civilisation and Globalisation that show utter disregard or disrespect for morality or values is bestiality.  Covering our sensitive or private part is a way to attract dignity.
Covering is of essence in dressing. The Girl Child should be taught to dress properly, not to expose their sensitive parts to the public. When I see some girls in the streets in sloven and skimpy clothes that show areas that should be covered, I wonder where our society is heading to. It reveals the level of moral decadence and gross disregard for moral values. What is more disturbing is the fact that most girls who dress in shameless manner are dependants. And they wear such inglorious clothes from home under the watch of their parents who are supposed to censor what their Girl-Child wears.  Parents should teach their daughters how they should dress. However, this will not be possible or effective if parents don’t live out moral values. If a female  parent does not dress well she does not have the clout or boldness to tell the Girl-Child not to dress seductively because she is a bad example for the Girl-Child. Parents should show good example in dressing also for the younger ones to model.  A foremost world Evangelist and Missionary, Dwight L. Moody said for parents to train up their child in the way they should go, the parents “must be in the way themselves”. This is a truism because it is said that when the mother sheep shews its cud the young ones are watching. It is not what we say that matters but living out what we say.
If what we tell the child is not substantiated by practical life expression, it will be an exercise in futility and counter-productive. It is high time mothers who are at the frontline of the family socialisation responsibility, lived above board and seek to make positive impact on the Girl-child.  There is more to parenting than just providing the physiological needs of the Girl-Child. Modelling and inculcating descent dressing  in the Girl-Child should be seen as an integral and inextricable part of parenting. Feminine groups advocating for the protection and respect for the Girl-Child should also teach their members to dress decently. Campaigns for the welfare of the Girl-Child should not be media hype but practical and persuasive through exemplary appearance and dressing. Women who are married should have regard and respect for the sanctity of marriage and dress properly. Remember, the eye is the window of the soul. What the eye of a person sees it transmits to the mind which processes it saves it in the subconscious and it props up at will sometimes, involuntarily. It takes a God fearing person or rugged moralist to resist the seduction of a woman to sexual immorality. The appearance of some married women and girls presupposes a seduction and  immorality. This also lends support to the fact that people who are suppose to be care givers are failing in their responsibility. The family is the basic unit of society.  Families that do not have regard for value system will inevitably produce bad society because the family remains the primary agent of socialisation where children are taught cultural and moral values.
As we have  marked  the International Day of the Girl-Child, let parents put their feet down to ensure their daughters appear presentable before God and before level-headed men. The Girl-Child should be taught how to respect herself, that respect is earned and should resist every attempt to make them compromise their virginity. Parents should discourage the Girl-Child’s intimate relationship with bad and queer family members. Girl-Child should not be engaged in precarious and tempting economic activities, like hawking. Parents should not create a platform where the Girl Child becomes a money spinner or awkward income generator. Early and forced marriage should be discouraged even as such act violates the right and dignity of the Girl-Child. The church should not treat with levity the issues of sex perversion, especially involving the Girl-Child. Abuse of the Girl-Child should be considered as a grave offence. It is unfortunate that some Pastors have failed to be vanguard of moral values through their nonchalant and laissez-faire attitude to cases of flagrant immorality in their congregation. They should teach women how to dress and enforce a dress code for them. It beats my imagination seeing some women dress to church as though they were going to a social function or club. School administrators at the primary, secondary and tertiary levels should frown at and punish proven cases of abuse of the Girl-Child. Female students who dress indecently or in a seductive manner to lectures or in the campus should be sent home. We should be reminded that where our rights end that is where the right of another begins. Women should not abuse ‘Freedom”.   Men who violate  the Girl-Child should be made to face the full wrath of the law, when tried and found guilty by court of competent jurisdiction to deter others.

By: Igbiki Benibo