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Pre-Marital Sex: The Latest Fashion

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It is quite common these days in our society to see pregnant teenagers and youths roam the streets, a result of pre-marital sex.
Pre-marital sex, a sexual intercourse between man and woman or boy and girl before marriage, is morally considered sinful with many causes and effects.
Prominent among its causes is ignorance, accassioned by inadequate sex education. Some youths and teenagers are ignorant of the dangers of pre-marital sex because their parents think it is unnecessary to talk about it.
Improper upbringing is also another cause as most youths and teenagers are left to fend for themselves and lack love and attention from their parents.
Another cause is the non-challant attitude of some youths and teenagers which makes them vulnerable to many sexual attacks. Most of the girls attend parties, drink until they are drunk and end up getting raped.
Peer influence is another major cause of pre-marital sex. Most teenagers and youths indulge in it because their friends are into it and they want to feel among. They believe in the slogan “if you can’t beat them, you join them” and they also believe that virginity is old-fashioned, this is a very wrong impression.
Unwanted pregnancy is one of the effects of pre-marital sex. Those who think they are smart enough to avert pregnancy through the help of contraceptive sometimes end up childless when married because of excessive intake of contraceptives. This is in addition to the risk of contracting sexually transmitted diseases.
Pre-mature death is another effect. Teens and youths die almost everyday trying to get rid of an unwanted pregnancy. Some die because of the incurable diseases they contract along the line while others fall into the arms of ritualists who would always lure them into sex for money and end up using them for rituals.
As much as pre-marital sex is shunned in some parts of the country, it is accepted in others. Some parents do not allow their girl-child get married if she is the only child, they rather prefer her get pregnant and give birth to children for them while some will only allow their girl-child to get married after she has given birth to a son for them because to them, they need somebody to continue their lineage. This is indeed a mentality that needs not be encouraged.
Unfortunately, children who are products of pre-marital sex and unwanted pregnancies end up being the ones creating nuisance in the society due to the fact that most of them are bastards, probably their mothers were raped and some of them were denied by their father, leaving their mothers with no other choice but to raise them up single-handedly. Some of these children were even abandoned by the road side by their mother who could not take on the responsibility of being a mother. So, these children do not have the right upbringing due to the circumstances surrounding their birth.
However, pre-marital sex, unwanted pregnancy and premature death, could be checked if only parents could decide to instill the right morals in their children and also give them proper sex education. Sex education can also be taught in schools and churches.
Teens and youth can also help by abstaining from pre-marital sex and also living a careful and God fearing life. They should also keep good friends to avoid having the wrong influence and advice as it is said that, “Evil communication corrupts good manners”. A word they say is enough for the wise.
On the teens and youths part, a decision to abstain from pre-marital sex and living a God-fearing life by avoiding the wrong influences can be quite rewarding.
Ibeh Stella Francis is an intern with The Tide Newspaper.

 

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The Wise Woman

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The wise woman builds her home. Mothers are supposed to live exemplary lives. The roles of mothers in the building of the modern Christian home cannot be overemphasized.
The function of the mother is to help the man build the home. She is a helper. A helper to the husband when the man is not doing well. It is important for the wise woman to assist when the man is not able to meet up with the items needed in the home.
A wise woman needs to reference God first and then the husband. Also the wise woman should respect her husband.
Caring for her own children as well as others is very crucial.
Do not despise children from other mothers. Discipline the child who is going the wrong way.
Ensure family bonding, show love and don’t discriminate. Connection with children is very important, especially the females. Find out who is her friend. Also find out the kind of lives they live. Caution, counsel and guide so that they make good partners.
Teaching children the dos and donts should start from birth. Inculcate the word of God in them so that when they grow, will not depart from it.
From the Scripture, some women influenced their families positively. Virgin Mary influenced the world, she never destroyed herself hence she gave birth to Jesus Christ.
Elizabeth, despite her age, God blessed her as she waited patiently.
A wise should curb favouritism in the family and love children equally. Whether a child is your biological child or not, it is necessary to show love equally. Reprimanding the children should be the function of both man and wife.

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The Desire Of Every Woman In Marriage

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Marriage is beautiful when there is love. Before and after marriage, couples show love to themselves. But you discover that after some years, that same love turn to be something else. A lot of people start going through emotional trauma in the hands of their loved spouses.
There are many things the woman desires to keep the love on as far as marriage is concerned.
Women are blesssed with feminine abilities that can be used for good in husbands lives. With your abilities, you can create a marriage that will last till couples get old.
A woman needs
man that is honest,  trustworthy,  nice,  loving and financially stable.
There are no two ways about finance in marriage. No matter the level of love, if there is no reasonable finance,  it is always difficult to manage the home.
Referring to the Biblical belief in Genesis 3: “Your desire  shall be unto you…….. “
What this means is that whatever the woman desires in life shall be provided as far as she performs her role in her home. There are many things  the woman expects her husband to take care of.
A woman wants a husband that is not lazy,  at least helping to do one or two things when he is at home.
A man that is educated and intelligent so that they will transfer such traits to their children.
Knowing that there are traits that her husband has,  traits of taking care of people,  giving freely to people and caring for her family. She expects him to exhibit them.
A woman wants to love a husband that has family interest at heart. A man that spends time with his family,  remembering his family even as he is away from home.
No matter where he finds himself, he is not destracted by external influence. He returns home to his loved ones.
A woman should not antagonise her husband because of one error or the other. No matter the level of offence he may have committed, you still show some love.
According to the Scripture, it is with wisdom that a woman builds her home. As far as he rreturns home, you accept him as your own.
It is not as if the woman will not monitor her husband, but to certain limit.  Don’t be a monitoring spirit.  Don’t allow anything to take your joy.
Don’t loose trust in your husband. The idea of checking your husband’s phone should be discouraged. The more you check your husband and his phone, the more you loose your joy.
You can show some form of jealousy, but to an extent. Cooperation, respect and being honoured from time to time is what the woman desires.
The home should not be a battle ground for a woman and man.  A woman should be able to ask herself if the check on her husband will pay her any good.
Draw a line to a point where you checkmate your husband’s activities.
A woman wants a man that will love her and telling her you love her will be all she desires.

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The Desire Of Every Woman In Marriage

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A woman needs a man that is honest,  trustworthy,  nice,  loving and financially stable.
There are no two ways about finance in marriage. No matter the level of love, If there is no money,  it is always difficult.


Referring to the Biblical belief in Genesis 3:Your desire  shall be unto you……..
That is one aspect  the woman expects her husband to take care of.
A woman wants a husband that is not lazy,  at least helping to do one or two things.   A man that is educated and intelligent.
She knows that there is a trait that her husband has.  Traits of taking care of people,  giving freely to people and caring for her family.
A woman wants to love a husband that has family interest at heart. A man that spends time with his family,  remembering his family even as he is away from home.
A woman should not antagonise her husband because of one error or the other. No matter the level of offence he may have committed, you still show some love.


According to the Scripture, it is with wisdom that the women builds her home.
It is not as if the woman will not monitor her husband, but to certain limit.  Don’t be a monitoring spirit.  Don’t allow anything to take your joy.
Don’t loose trust in your husband.
The idea of checking your husband’s phone should be discouraged. The more you check your husband and his phone, the more you loose your joy.


The home should not be a battle ground for a woman and man.  A woman should be able to ask herself if the check on her husband will pay her any good.
Draw a line to a point where you checkmate your husband’s activities.
A woman wants a man that will love her and telling her you love her will be all she desires.

Eunice Choko-Kayode

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