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Two Yrs After: Chibok Girls Still In Diaspora

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The Chief Executive Officer of Murtala Muhammed Foundation  (mmf), Mrs Aisha Muhammed-Oyebode (2nd left), addressing some of the  parents of abducted Chibok Girls at a meeting with them in Chibok  Borno State on Monday.

The Chief Executive Officer of Murtala Muhammed Foundation (mmf), Mrs Aisha Muhammed-Oyebode (2nd left), addressing some of the parents of abducted Chibok Girls at a meeting with them in Chibok Borno State on
Monday.

Exactly two years ago,
April 14, 2014 to be precise, Nigerians were greeted with yet another news of terror.  This time, mass abduction of secondary school girls from a government school in Chibok town, Nigeria.
The news of the abduction of close to 300 girls from just one school could not have been considered real in a hurry even though it turned out to be real. Hopes were high that such number of children could not just be whisked away without concrete effort from the government to track down the abductors, rescue the abductees and probably bring the abductors to book.
With efforts credited to the past administration of former President Goodluck Jonathan, to have been made to ensure the return of the girls, it is quite surprising that today, the world could still be marking April 14 without these girls.
To say that a matter that attracted the world’s attention, the United States of America, France and even the Soviet Union not excluding Israel is such that is today still shrawded in mystery is highly incredulous.
Apart from some notable international concerns, among which was the visit of Malala Yousatzai, an international advocate for girls right to education in July 2014, in which she charged former President Goodluck to “bring back our girls.” a group headed by a former Minister of Education, Dr Oby Ezekwesili, kept the candle for the search of the where about of these girls on, as they stood still at the Eagle Square, Lagos, Nigeria, day and night reminding Nigerian leaders of the need to place great premium on the search for the girls.
Although varying interpretations may have been adduced to the resilience of the “Bring Back Our Girls” group at insisting that nothing else took the precedence of the country’s governance than a genuine search for the abducted girls, it is on record that their daily, unrelenting assembly was remarkable in not only keeping the government on its toes as regarding the need to rescue the abducted children and quiz out their abductors, but provided rallying platform for the Christians and Muslims to unite for once and pray.
All the same, if the effort of the past president who could neither speak the tongue of the terrorists nor share in their worship could not salvage the situation, there was high hope in the present leadership, headed by President Muhammadu Buhari, with all the cultural and religious advantages he had over the former to deliver, a major reason for which many gave him their mandate.
Unfortunately, close to one year into the new administration of Nigeria, the realisation of the dream of bringing back our girls seems to remain a far-cry even though in December, 2015, President Buhari informed Nigerians that Boko Haram had ‘technically’ been defeated, whatever that may mean.
It must be clearly stated that apart from the trauma of being forcefully separated from the children on the part of the parents and from the family, on the part of the children, we cannot fight the rising spate of female bombers as long as these girls remain in the custody of their abductors, as they have devised a tactics of turning kidnapped girls into suicide fighters. “More than hundred women and girls have been used in suicide bombing orchestrated by Boko Haam since the summer of 2014,” the Long War Journal reports.

 

Sylvia ThankGod-Amadi

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The Wise Woman

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The wise woman builds her home. Mothers are supposed to live exemplary lives. The roles of mothers in the building of the modern Christian home cannot be overemphasized.
The function of the mother is to help the man build the home. She is a helper. A helper to the husband when the man is not doing well. It is important for the wise woman to assist when the man is not able to meet up with the items needed in the home.
A wise woman needs to reference God first and then the husband. Also the wise woman should respect her husband.
Caring for her own children as well as others is very crucial.
Do not despise children from other mothers. Discipline the child who is going the wrong way.
Ensure family bonding, show love and don’t discriminate. Connection with children is very important, especially the females. Find out who is her friend. Also find out the kind of lives they live. Caution, counsel and guide so that they make good partners.
Teaching children the dos and donts should start from birth. Inculcate the word of God in them so that when they grow, will not depart from it.
From the Scripture, some women influenced their families positively. Virgin Mary influenced the world, she never destroyed herself hence she gave birth to Jesus Christ.
Elizabeth, despite her age, God blessed her as she waited patiently.
A wise should curb favouritism in the family and love children equally. Whether a child is your biological child or not, it is necessary to show love equally. Reprimanding the children should be the function of both man and wife.

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The Desire Of Every Woman In Marriage

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Marriage is beautiful when there is love. Before and after marriage, couples show love to themselves. But you discover that after some years, that same love turn to be something else. A lot of people start going through emotional trauma in the hands of their loved spouses.
There are many things the woman desires to keep the love on as far as marriage is concerned.
Women are blesssed with feminine abilities that can be used for good in husbands lives. With your abilities, you can create a marriage that will last till couples get old.
A woman needs
man that is honest,  trustworthy,  nice,  loving and financially stable.
There are no two ways about finance in marriage. No matter the level of love, if there is no reasonable finance,  it is always difficult to manage the home.
Referring to the Biblical belief in Genesis 3: “Your desire  shall be unto you…….. “
What this means is that whatever the woman desires in life shall be provided as far as she performs her role in her home. There are many things  the woman expects her husband to take care of.
A woman wants a husband that is not lazy,  at least helping to do one or two things when he is at home.
A man that is educated and intelligent so that they will transfer such traits to their children.
Knowing that there are traits that her husband has,  traits of taking care of people,  giving freely to people and caring for her family. She expects him to exhibit them.
A woman wants to love a husband that has family interest at heart. A man that spends time with his family,  remembering his family even as he is away from home.
No matter where he finds himself, he is not destracted by external influence. He returns home to his loved ones.
A woman should not antagonise her husband because of one error or the other. No matter the level of offence he may have committed, you still show some love.
According to the Scripture, it is with wisdom that a woman builds her home. As far as he rreturns home, you accept him as your own.
It is not as if the woman will not monitor her husband, but to certain limit.  Don’t be a monitoring spirit.  Don’t allow anything to take your joy.
Don’t loose trust in your husband. The idea of checking your husband’s phone should be discouraged. The more you check your husband and his phone, the more you loose your joy.
You can show some form of jealousy, but to an extent. Cooperation, respect and being honoured from time to time is what the woman desires.
The home should not be a battle ground for a woman and man.  A woman should be able to ask herself if the check on her husband will pay her any good.
Draw a line to a point where you checkmate your husband’s activities.
A woman wants a man that will love her and telling her you love her will be all she desires.

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The Desire Of Every Woman In Marriage

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A woman needs a man that is honest,  trustworthy,  nice,  loving and financially stable.
There are no two ways about finance in marriage. No matter the level of love, If there is no money,  it is always difficult.


Referring to the Biblical belief in Genesis 3:Your desire  shall be unto you……..
That is one aspect  the woman expects her husband to take care of.
A woman wants a husband that is not lazy,  at least helping to do one or two things.   A man that is educated and intelligent.
She knows that there is a trait that her husband has.  Traits of taking care of people,  giving freely to people and caring for her family.
A woman wants to love a husband that has family interest at heart. A man that spends time with his family,  remembering his family even as he is away from home.
A woman should not antagonise her husband because of one error or the other. No matter the level of offence he may have committed, you still show some love.


According to the Scripture, it is with wisdom that the women builds her home.
It is not as if the woman will not monitor her husband, but to certain limit.  Don’t be a monitoring spirit.  Don’t allow anything to take your joy.
Don’t loose trust in your husband.
The idea of checking your husband’s phone should be discouraged. The more you check your husband and his phone, the more you loose your joy.


The home should not be a battle ground for a woman and man.  A woman should be able to ask herself if the check on her husband will pay her any good.
Draw a line to a point where you checkmate your husband’s activities.
A woman wants a man that will love her and telling her you love her will be all she desires.

Eunice Choko-Kayode

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