Women

Rivers Women Rise Against Gender Violence

Published

9 years ago

November 28, 2014

As activities geared up
around the globe to commemorate the 2014 International Day for the Elimination of Violence Against Women,
Tuesday, the 25th day of November 2014, was quite remarkable here in the city of Port Harcourt. The Ministry of Women Affairs in Rivers State left no stone unturned to ensure that its advocacy and sensitization campaigns were taken to the grassroots.
This time, it rolled out its drum, not just to celebrate the International Day for the Elimination of Violence against Women, but to mark the start of the 16 days of activism that will lead up to Human Rights Day on December 10, 2014.
The ministry used the occasion to call to mind the need to stop all forms of violence against women, considered to be the most widespread human rights abuses in all countries of the world.
In a street march, the Rivers State Ministry of Women Affairs created awareness, on the kinds of violence women face in the society, pointing out the need to put an end to it.
Of course, the women ministry is not alone in this course. Organizations such as: Gender and Development Advocacy (GADA), Nigeria Association of Women Journalists (NAWOJ), National Stability and Rehabilitation Programme (NSRP), Civil Rights Societies, Civic Based Organisations, Security agencies, media and many other non-governmental organizations are in partnership with the ministry to make real its agenda which is ultimately geared towards ensuring that the society puts a stop to the mindsets and customs that encourage, ignore or tolerate the global disgrace of violence against women and girls.
With the theme of the 2014 International Day for the Elimination of Violence Against Women, as: “From Peace In The Home, To Peace In The World: Let’s Challenge Militarism and End Gender-Based Violence Against Women and Girls,” the United Nations Secretary-General, Ban Ki-Moon, in his message to commemorate the day stressed that everyone has a responsibility to prevent and end violence against women and girls, starting by challenging the culture of discrimination that allows it to thrive. While calling on the world to shatter negative gender stereotype and attitudes, introduce and implement laws to prevent and end discrimination and exploitation and stand up to abusive behavior where ever it is sighted.
Ban Ki-Moon had earlier described, “sexual and gender-based violence as the most extreme form of the global and systemic inequality experienced by women and girls, stating that it knows no geographic, socio-economic or cultural boundaries.
He reiterated that one in three women worldwide suffers physical or sexual violence at some point in life, from rape and domestic violence to harassment at work and bullying on the internet.
It will be recalled that by resolution 54/134 of December 17,1999, the United Nations General Assembly designated November 25, as the International Day for the Elimination of Violence Against Women and invited governments, international organizations and Non-Governmental Organisations (NGOs) to organize activities designed to raise public awareness of the problem on that day globally.
However, women activists have marked November 25 every year as a day against violence since 1981. This date came from the brutal assassination of 1960, of the three Mirabel Sisters, who were political activists in the Dominican Republic on orders of Dominican Ruler Rafael Trujillo (1930-1961).
Meanwhile, the commissioner for Women Affairs in Rivers State, Mrs Joeba West, has used the occasion of the International Day for the Elimination of Violence Against Women as the subsequent 16 days activism campaign to call on stakeholders in the state to join the campaign on zero tolerance on gender-based violence.
Mrs Joeba West, who made this call during the solidarity march organised by her ministry in partnership with Gender And Development Advocacy (GADA), Nigeria Association of Women Journalists (NAWOJ) and other organizations to commemorate the event, said the global theme for this year which is: From Peace In The Home, To Peace In The World: Let’s Challenge Militarism And End Gender-based Violence Against Women and Girls,” highlights the effect of violence against women and girls in the society.
The commissioner, who described violence as an anti-social behavior, which violates the right of people to peaceful co-existence, said the campaign would focus on relevant action to be taken to end gender-based violence and militarism, to ensure that women and girls enjoy freedom from fear of intimidation, harassment and exploitation at all levels.
According to the honourable commissioner, the ministry in its commitment to advocate agasisnt proliferation of small arms in cases of intimate partners violence, violence perpetrated by state actors and sexual violence during and after conflict among others would feature in the 16 days activism. The establishment and launching of a counseling and referral centre for victims of Gender-based violence at the ministry of women Affairs, media discussions, jingles and step-down campaign at the different localities.
Earlier, the Chairman of the Nigeria Association of Women Journalists in the state, Mrs Lilian Okonkwo, has called on all to ensure that girl-child education is encouraged to curb further exposure to sexual violence by virtue of their being used as hawking agents.
She called on relevant law enforcement agencies to ensure that cases of violence being reported are properly investigated and the perpetrators duly prosecuted.

Sylvia ThankGod-Amadi

Group photgraph of the Nigeria Association of Women Journalsits (NAWOJ) in partnership with GADA, Peace and Security Network and Minsitry of Women Affairs, Rivers State in commemorating the International Day for the Elimiantion of violence Against women in Port Harcourt.

Women

The Wise Woman

Published

3 days ago

April 26, 2024

The Tide

The wise woman builds her home. Mothers are supposed to live exemplary lives. The roles of mothers in the building of the modern Christian home cannot be overemphasized.
The function of the mother is to help the man build the home. She is a helper. A helper to the husband when the man is not doing well. It is important for the wise woman to assist when the man is not able to meet up with the items needed in the home.
A wise woman needs to reference God first and then the husband. Also the wise woman should respect her husband.
Caring for her own children as well as others is very crucial.
Do not despise children from other mothers. Discipline the child who is going the wrong way.
Ensure family bonding, show love and don’t discriminate. Connection with children is very important, especially the females. Find out who is her friend. Also find out the kind of lives they live. Caution, counsel and guide so that they make good partners.
Teaching children the dos and donts should start from birth. Inculcate the word of God in them so that when they grow, will not depart from it.
From the Scripture, some women influenced their families positively. Virgin Mary influenced the world, she never destroyed herself hence she gave birth to Jesus Christ.
Elizabeth, despite her age, God blessed her as she waited patiently.
A wise should curb favouritism in the family and love children equally. Whether a child is your biological child or not, it is necessary to show love equally. Reprimanding the children should be the function of both man and wife.

Women

The Desire Of Every Woman In Marriage

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3 days ago

April 26, 2024

The Tide

Marriage is beautiful when there is love. Before and after marriage, couples show love to themselves. But you discover that after some years, that same love turn to be something else. A lot of people start going through emotional trauma in the hands of their loved spouses.
There are many things the woman desires to keep the love on as far as marriage is concerned.
Women are blesssed with feminine abilities that can be used for good in husbands lives. With your abilities, you can create a marriage that will last till couples get old.
A woman needs
man that is honest, trustworthy, nice, loving and financially stable.
There are no two ways about finance in marriage. No matter the level of love, if there is no reasonable finance, it is always difficult to manage the home.
Referring to the Biblical belief in Genesis 3: “Your desire shall be unto you…….. “
What this means is that whatever the woman desires in life shall be provided as far as she performs her role in her home. There are many things the woman expects her husband to take care of.
A woman wants a husband that is not lazy, at least helping to do one or two things when he is at home.
A man that is educated and intelligent so that they will transfer such traits to their children.
Knowing that there are traits that her husband has, traits of taking care of people, giving freely to people and caring for her family. She expects him to exhibit them.
A woman wants to love a husband that has family interest at heart. A man that spends time with his family, remembering his family even as he is away from home.
No matter where he finds himself, he is not destracted by external influence. He returns home to his loved ones.
A woman should not antagonise her husband because of one error or the other. No matter the level of offence he may have committed, you still show some love.
According to the Scripture, it is with wisdom that a woman builds her home. As far as he rreturns home, you accept him as your own.
It is not as if the woman will not monitor her husband, but to certain limit. Don’t be a monitoring spirit. Don’t allow anything to take your joy.
Don’t loose trust in your husband. The idea of checking your husband’s phone should be discouraged. The more you check your husband and his phone, the more you loose your joy.
You can show some form of jealousy, but to an extent. Cooperation, respect and being honoured from time to time is what the woman desires.
The home should not be a battle ground for a woman and man. A woman should be able to ask herself if the check on her husband will pay her any good.
Draw a line to a point where you checkmate your husband’s activities.
A woman wants a man that will love her and telling her you love her will be all she desires.

Women

The Desire Of Every Woman In Marriage

Published

3 weeks ago

April 5, 2024

The Tide

A woman needs a man that is honest, trustworthy, nice, loving and financially stable.
There are no two ways about finance in marriage. No matter the level of love, If there is no money, it is always difficult.

Referring to the Biblical belief in Genesis 3:Your desire shall be unto you……..
That is one aspect the woman expects her husband to take care of.
A woman wants a husband that is not lazy, at least helping to do one or two things. A man that is educated and intelligent.
She knows that there is a trait that her husband has. Traits of taking care of people, giving freely to people and caring for her family.
A woman wants to love a husband that has family interest at heart. A man that spends time with his family, remembering his family even as he is away from home.
A woman should not antagonise her husband because of one error or the other. No matter the level of offence he may have committed, you still show some love.

According to the Scripture, it is with wisdom that the women builds her home.
It is not as if the woman will not monitor her husband, but to certain limit. Don’t be a monitoring spirit. Don’t allow anything to take your joy.
Don’t loose trust in your husband.
The idea of checking your husband’s phone should be discouraged. The more you check your husband and his phone, the more you loose your joy.

The home should not be a battle ground for a woman and man. A woman should be able to ask herself if the check on her husband will pay her any good.
Draw a line to a point where you checkmate your husband’s activities.
A woman wants a man that will love her and telling her you love her will be all she desires.