Women

Celebrating Marriage Anniversary

Published

10 years ago

July 4, 2014

In spite of the harsh
economy and the looming insecurity challenges in our environment, residents of Port Harcourt and its environs still see reason to wine and dine and probably play down on issues that make their blood pumb harder and faster to the detriment of their health.
This was exactly the case last weekend as Port Harcourt was dotted with pockets of celebrations, capable of spurring every inquisitive mind for a “why” project.
At Rumuodomaya, a suburb of Port Harcourt City, The Tide’s Women’s Lens captured one of the celebrations and guess what? It was a golden jubilee marriage anniversary.
At 25, couples are considered to be getting bored of each other and probably considering other options of spicing up their lives rather than still savouring the euphoria of an aged-same-old tune relationship.
On the contrary, Rev and Celestine Ndukwe have just begun to explore the juice of their relationship at 25.
Of course in a clime such as ours, with jaundiced attitude towards marriage relationship, every iota of success, or what could be summarised in today’s religious jargon as breakthrough calls for celebration, especially when such initial fears and skepticisms of making it to the next level with an entirely strange partner were allayed and one sees himself braving through terrains that hitherto posed insurmountable.
Couples could treat with levity every other date in their relationship except the date they knotted their nuptial tie. To them, it was a date they took an oath to tread on a terrain the ‘saints’ or others dread to tread. A decision to damn the consequences of their action while taking the bold step to forge ahead.
This date of deciding “for better and for worse”, has become so remarkable that it now serves as a drawing board from where couples assess themselves as to evaluate their degree of focus and deviation from their vows.
All over the globe, couples from time to time invite friends and well-wishers for a get-together in honour of their union. It is not in any way a display of affluence, elegance and flambouyance No! It is indeed an appreciation to God for seeing them through the hurdles and storms synonymous with the union within the number of years so celebrated.
This is why some couples even celebrate one year marriage anniversaries. To those couples, going through those twelve calender months that make a year was no less a success hence the need to show gratitude.
For Rev and Mrs Ndukwe of Assemblies of God Church, Akwaka in Rumuodomaya, 25 years in marriage is well over due for gratitude. Flanked by their male and female children, Rev and Mrs Ndukwe, adorned in light – cream coloured suits danced to the admiration of their invitees as they recounted what they described as God’s faithfulness in their marriage.
Any couple could celebrate for any reason, but for this couple, a major reason for their celebration stems from the fact that critics of their marriage were proven wrong at last as their evil predictions came to naught . More so, for life, love, children and sustenance, Rev and Mrs Ndukwe would forever remain thankful to God.
Dr Glen O. Jenson of the Department of Family and Human Development, Utah State University once said that if a marriage was worth celebrating and it has not ended in divorce or separation, then it ought to be celebrated. Hopefully, for couples blessed with good marriages, which get better with time, each year calls for celebration of making something that was good and meaningful into something that is even better.
Marriage anniversaries awaken consciousness to rethink commitments made in years past while reconsidering setting new commitments with each other that are in keeping with the growth and development of the marriage.
This same occasion affords couples opportunity to appreciate each other for service rendered, joy experienced, care given, love extended, hopes shared comfort given in terms of need, acceptance of weaknesses as well as strengths and feelings expressed and promise delivered.
Anniversary time provides an avenue to evaluate how the marriage is meeting the needs of the partners. It would be a good time to do a report on the profits and losses to the marriage relationship during the past years.
Meanwhile, the journey through the 25 years was not without storms and woes, disagreement and misunderstandings . However, the Rev. & Mrs Ndukwe owe their compatibility to God whose grace was sufficient to weather the storm of life at every daunting point in their relationship.
The couples called for love among couples while charging the singles to always consider the will of God in marriage as that could be the only propelling factor in times of storm.

Sylvia ThankGod-Amadi

Rev and Mrs Celestine Ndukwe during their Silver Jubilee marriage celebration

Women

The Wise Woman

Published

1 week ago

April 26, 2024

The Tide

The wise woman builds her home. Mothers are supposed to live exemplary lives. The roles of mothers in the building of the modern Christian home cannot be overemphasized.
The function of the mother is to help the man build the home. She is a helper. A helper to the husband when the man is not doing well. It is important for the wise woman to assist when the man is not able to meet up with the items needed in the home.
A wise woman needs to reference God first and then the husband. Also the wise woman should respect her husband.
Caring for her own children as well as others is very crucial.
Do not despise children from other mothers. Discipline the child who is going the wrong way.
Ensure family bonding, show love and don’t discriminate. Connection with children is very important, especially the females. Find out who is her friend. Also find out the kind of lives they live. Caution, counsel and guide so that they make good partners.
Teaching children the dos and donts should start from birth. Inculcate the word of God in them so that when they grow, will not depart from it.
From the Scripture, some women influenced their families positively. Virgin Mary influenced the world, she never destroyed herself hence she gave birth to Jesus Christ.
Elizabeth, despite her age, God blessed her as she waited patiently.
A wise should curb favouritism in the family and love children equally. Whether a child is your biological child or not, it is necessary to show love equally. Reprimanding the children should be the function of both man and wife.

Women

The Desire Of Every Woman In Marriage

Published

1 week ago

April 26, 2024

The Tide

Marriage is beautiful when there is love. Before and after marriage, couples show love to themselves. But you discover that after some years, that same love turn to be something else. A lot of people start going through emotional trauma in the hands of their loved spouses.
There are many things the woman desires to keep the love on as far as marriage is concerned.
Women are blesssed with feminine abilities that can be used for good in husbands lives. With your abilities, you can create a marriage that will last till couples get old.
A woman needs
man that is honest, trustworthy, nice, loving and financially stable.
There are no two ways about finance in marriage. No matter the level of love, if there is no reasonable finance, it is always difficult to manage the home.
Referring to the Biblical belief in Genesis 3: “Your desire shall be unto you…….. “
What this means is that whatever the woman desires in life shall be provided as far as she performs her role in her home. There are many things the woman expects her husband to take care of.
A woman wants a husband that is not lazy, at least helping to do one or two things when he is at home.
A man that is educated and intelligent so that they will transfer such traits to their children.
Knowing that there are traits that her husband has, traits of taking care of people, giving freely to people and caring for her family. She expects him to exhibit them.
A woman wants to love a husband that has family interest at heart. A man that spends time with his family, remembering his family even as he is away from home.
No matter where he finds himself, he is not destracted by external influence. He returns home to his loved ones.
A woman should not antagonise her husband because of one error or the other. No matter the level of offence he may have committed, you still show some love.
According to the Scripture, it is with wisdom that a woman builds her home. As far as he rreturns home, you accept him as your own.
It is not as if the woman will not monitor her husband, but to certain limit. Don’t be a monitoring spirit. Don’t allow anything to take your joy.
Don’t loose trust in your husband. The idea of checking your husband’s phone should be discouraged. The more you check your husband and his phone, the more you loose your joy.
You can show some form of jealousy, but to an extent. Cooperation, respect and being honoured from time to time is what the woman desires.
The home should not be a battle ground for a woman and man. A woman should be able to ask herself if the check on her husband will pay her any good.
Draw a line to a point where you checkmate your husband’s activities.
A woman wants a man that will love her and telling her you love her will be all she desires.

Women

The Desire Of Every Woman In Marriage

Published

4 weeks ago

April 5, 2024

The Tide

A woman needs a man that is honest, trustworthy, nice, loving and financially stable.
There are no two ways about finance in marriage. No matter the level of love, If there is no money, it is always difficult.

Referring to the Biblical belief in Genesis 3:Your desire shall be unto you……..
That is one aspect the woman expects her husband to take care of.
A woman wants a husband that is not lazy, at least helping to do one or two things. A man that is educated and intelligent.
She knows that there is a trait that her husband has. Traits of taking care of people, giving freely to people and caring for her family.
A woman wants to love a husband that has family interest at heart. A man that spends time with his family, remembering his family even as he is away from home.
A woman should not antagonise her husband because of one error or the other. No matter the level of offence he may have committed, you still show some love.

According to the Scripture, it is with wisdom that the women builds her home.
It is not as if the woman will not monitor her husband, but to certain limit. Don’t be a monitoring spirit. Don’t allow anything to take your joy.
Don’t loose trust in your husband.
The idea of checking your husband’s phone should be discouraged. The more you check your husband and his phone, the more you loose your joy.

The home should not be a battle ground for a woman and man. A woman should be able to ask herself if the check on her husband will pay her any good.
Draw a line to a point where you checkmate your husband’s activities.
A woman wants a man that will love her and telling her you love her will be all she desires.