Women

IDG 2023: Addressing Challenges Of The Girl Child

Published

7 months ago

October 13, 2023

The International Day of the Girl-Child, IDG, observed annually on the 11th of October is a global platform to advocate for the full rights of girls. The day is used to create awareness that the girl-child is being relegated to the background in some quarters, hence, the need for urgent step to be taken so as to empower her through education and skills acquisition.
This has become important because when you train a girl, you train a nation.
The 2023 theme, Invest in Girl’s Pride, Digital Generation, Our Generation.
As the girl-child was celebrated all over the globe, stakeholders have called for gender equality policies for the girl child because factors such as underage marriage, lack of water and sanitation, insecurity, poverty, lack of sanitary materials, genital mutilation, among others affect their lives. The girl needs equal opportunity.
The Rivers State Chairman of the National Association of Women Journalists, NAWOJ, Mrs. Susan Nwikhana- Serekara, maintained that there is need for urgent intervention in the issues that affect the girls negatively.
The girl-child should be confident and realise that she is valuable bearing in mind that cultural and other hindrance cannot stop them from achieving her goals in life. The girls should not sell themselves and government should ensure that the girls are protected in schools and wherever they find themselves. Girls should support each other.
Reports have it that low percentage of the girls have access to secondary school education in Nigeria. Apart from efforts by parents, relevant authorities, NGOs especially the female folks should assist the girls in providing educational materials to enable compete favourably with their peers.
Equal opportunity for girls is important as it will serve them well. Socio cultural practices have been hampering their performances. The deserve quality education this 21st century.
Corruption is one of the problems affecting some of the provisions that should be for them. They are subjected to cruel practices in the name of religion and culture.
Nigeria adopted the resolution about gender inequality with optimism that the female gender can bring change to the globe. We are optimistic that the objectives will be realised.
Women and girls should not be looked at as weaker sex any more. Females should occupy the same space as their male counterpart.
Adolescent girls should be empowered. They should be allowed to put their minds on what they want to become in life. Parents should not put all their income on the boys but should share it between the girls and the boys. Since youths are leaders of tomorrow, girls too are involved.
The responsibility of cleaning the house should not be for the girls alone while the boys go about playing. Discrimination between the two should not be encouraged. In certain quarters, girls are not allowed to eat certain food thereby denying them some required nutrients.
One day, the girls will grow into womanhood.
We can say that the world has made tremendous impact in the lives of the girls. The world has been conscious about the lot of girls. They have been given some opportunities in terms of computer and they are doing well. But the stereotype still remains but it can be removed. They are being looked down on. If the women have to be allowed to explore, then it starts from the girl.
When girls enroll into some disciplines like Engineering and Surveying where you have greater number of boys, they are being seen as those who missed their ways. When a woman drives with little errors on the roads, you hear some comments like, no wonder is a woman. Soft and hard should go together.
As the world marks International Day of the Girl -Child, parents, guardians and care givers should know the whereabouts of the female children. Very often, you hear that a girl has been kidnapped on her way to school, market or church. Parent should invest in the girl child so that she will not get into prostitution.
Parents should help the girls achieve their dreams in life and not to discourage them in their chosen professions. Parents should not select careers for the girls. They can do well all professions provided there is a level playing ground. Days are gone when girls were impregnated by unknown persons thereby making them drop out of schools.
it is important to give the girl good upbringing that will make her useful in the society. Women teach and transfer good values to children. Women are groomers and trainers.
When you give birth to a girl child, you have to train her well. Do not feel that when you finish training her, she will get married to another man which will make her change her name.
The girl-child is faced with underage marriage, sexual abuse in work places and educational institutions. These have to be checked before it becomes late.
The world will be a better place if girls and women are allowed to showcase their potentials when they are treated equally. The world can still go further. A lot are still hidden. If there is any time to restore the dignity of the girl -child, it is now.
Culturally, the girl child is not valued as the male child. It is believed that when a couple give birth to a female child without males, there will tension in the family. For the man, some friends and relatives will advise him to go another wife. Sometimes some women will be threatened for not having male children in the homes.
When it comes to sharing of fathers property, the discrimination comes in. Even when some state governments have approved that women should partake in the share of their fathers property, some persons have refused to adhere to that.
Some of the reasons according to them is that if certain portion of land is allocated to the woman, she may not want to marry outside.

By: Eunice Choko -Kayode

Women

The Wise Woman

Published

2 days ago

April 26, 2024

The Tide

The wise woman builds her home. Mothers are supposed to live exemplary lives. The roles of mothers in the building of the modern Christian home cannot be overemphasized.
The function of the mother is to help the man build the home. She is a helper. A helper to the husband when the man is not doing well. It is important for the wise woman to assist when the man is not able to meet up with the items needed in the home.
A wise woman needs to reference God first and then the husband. Also the wise woman should respect her husband.
Caring for her own children as well as others is very crucial.
Do not despise children from other mothers. Discipline the child who is going the wrong way.
Ensure family bonding, show love and don’t discriminate. Connection with children is very important, especially the females. Find out who is her friend. Also find out the kind of lives they live. Caution, counsel and guide so that they make good partners.
Teaching children the dos and donts should start from birth. Inculcate the word of God in them so that when they grow, will not depart from it.
From the Scripture, some women influenced their families positively. Virgin Mary influenced the world, she never destroyed herself hence she gave birth to Jesus Christ.
Elizabeth, despite her age, God blessed her as she waited patiently.
A wise should curb favouritism in the family and love children equally. Whether a child is your biological child or not, it is necessary to show love equally. Reprimanding the children should be the function of both man and wife.

Women

The Desire Of Every Woman In Marriage

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2 days ago

April 26, 2024

The Tide

Marriage is beautiful when there is love. Before and after marriage, couples show love to themselves. But you discover that after some years, that same love turn to be something else. A lot of people start going through emotional trauma in the hands of their loved spouses.
There are many things the woman desires to keep the love on as far as marriage is concerned.
Women are blesssed with feminine abilities that can be used for good in husbands lives. With your abilities, you can create a marriage that will last till couples get old.
A woman needs
man that is honest, trustworthy, nice, loving and financially stable.
There are no two ways about finance in marriage. No matter the level of love, if there is no reasonable finance, it is always difficult to manage the home.
Referring to the Biblical belief in Genesis 3: “Your desire shall be unto you…….. “
What this means is that whatever the woman desires in life shall be provided as far as she performs her role in her home. There are many things the woman expects her husband to take care of.
A woman wants a husband that is not lazy, at least helping to do one or two things when he is at home.
A man that is educated and intelligent so that they will transfer such traits to their children.
Knowing that there are traits that her husband has, traits of taking care of people, giving freely to people and caring for her family. She expects him to exhibit them.
A woman wants to love a husband that has family interest at heart. A man that spends time with his family, remembering his family even as he is away from home.
No matter where he finds himself, he is not destracted by external influence. He returns home to his loved ones.
A woman should not antagonise her husband because of one error or the other. No matter the level of offence he may have committed, you still show some love.
According to the Scripture, it is with wisdom that a woman builds her home. As far as he rreturns home, you accept him as your own.
It is not as if the woman will not monitor her husband, but to certain limit. Don’t be a monitoring spirit. Don’t allow anything to take your joy.
Don’t loose trust in your husband. The idea of checking your husband’s phone should be discouraged. The more you check your husband and his phone, the more you loose your joy.
You can show some form of jealousy, but to an extent. Cooperation, respect and being honoured from time to time is what the woman desires.
The home should not be a battle ground for a woman and man. A woman should be able to ask herself if the check on her husband will pay her any good.
Draw a line to a point where you checkmate your husband’s activities.
A woman wants a man that will love her and telling her you love her will be all she desires.

Women

The Desire Of Every Woman In Marriage

Published

3 weeks ago

April 5, 2024

The Tide

A woman needs a man that is honest, trustworthy, nice, loving and financially stable.
There are no two ways about finance in marriage. No matter the level of love, If there is no money, it is always difficult.

Referring to the Biblical belief in Genesis 3:Your desire shall be unto you……..
That is one aspect the woman expects her husband to take care of.
A woman wants a husband that is not lazy, at least helping to do one or two things. A man that is educated and intelligent.
She knows that there is a trait that her husband has. Traits of taking care of people, giving freely to people and caring for her family.
A woman wants to love a husband that has family interest at heart. A man that spends time with his family, remembering his family even as he is away from home.
A woman should not antagonise her husband because of one error or the other. No matter the level of offence he may have committed, you still show some love.

According to the Scripture, it is with wisdom that the women builds her home.
It is not as if the woman will not monitor her husband, but to certain limit. Don’t be a monitoring spirit. Don’t allow anything to take your joy.
Don’t loose trust in your husband.
The idea of checking your husband’s phone should be discouraged. The more you check your husband and his phone, the more you loose your joy.

The home should not be a battle ground for a woman and man. A woman should be able to ask herself if the check on her husband will pay her any good.
Draw a line to a point where you checkmate your husband’s activities.
A woman wants a man that will love her and telling her you love her will be all she desires.