Women

70% Women Don’t Know Their Rights In Africa – Asagba

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9 months ago

August 11, 2023

Less than 30 percent of women in Africa know their legal rights. This has been identified as a major problem in pursuing gender equality in the continent.
This was disclosed by the President, African Women Lawyers Association (AWLA) Mandy Asagba, in an exclusive telephone interview with The Tide Women’s Desk.
Asagba, who hails from Delta State, Nigeria is a prominent human rights activist, and gender researcher stated that the mission of AWLA is to end gender inequality and protect the rights of women and children in African countries, through continuous education and sensitization.
According to Asagba who is also the Third Vice President, Nigeria Bar Association (NBA),said, “we are sensitizing African women about their rights so that they cannot be trampled through injustice”.
Asagba, who is also the Founder and President of Legal Pool for Justice and Equality Initiative noted that the Association is sensitizing women and girls through education and advocacy and also legislative lobbying of law makers and structures in African countries to make sure that these laws are implemented by the governments, adding that, “we have lawyers in all the African countries that test these laws”.
She stated that the Association continues to perform pro bono duties for indigent women who have been denied their rights or dehumanized. Also, for children that have been abused sexually, AWLA has stood in defence of them, she said.
“We don’t charge fees in court for the poor. But for the rich that need our services, we ask them to donate to the Association for doing the job for them. There is a lot to be done in this area because we need to go beyond legal representation”, she said.
The AWLA President also stated that the Association educates women and girls on their rights through outreaches in markets, hospitals, primary and secondary schools, campuses, old people’s Homes, Homes for girls and boys, communities and through traditional rulers.
She explained that the outreaches through the traditional rulers is key and important because they are the custodians of culture and traditions in the communities.
“In the midst of these advocacy we are doing, in some African communities, they believe that once you are a man, a girl cannot say no to sex demand from them. They have that traditional belief that women should be enjoyed. Our work is to change that mentality and bring dignity and respect to womanhood “.
In Nigeria, she noted that in some communities, parents pay a man that is good at it to have sex with their daughters before marriage. In a particular state in the North Central, she added, “as we speak, husbands oblige their visitors to sleep with their wives. We need to do more advocacy in that area. This is women slavery”, she lamented.
“The women in that area should be enlightened more . That is why we included traditional rulers in our campaign. We are getting a lot of results but we need to do more”, she added.
Asagba however added that, the Association is also on the move enlightenening women on empowering themselves through job opportunities which will inturn upgrade their husbands status and also support their fellow women to attain success in life.
According to her, “every woman should have it at the back of her mind that for her making milestones in life, it will also upgrade her husband’s status in society. Don’t ever resign from your job because of your husband, we are saying this from experience from what we are seeing on the field.
“There is this enlightenment also that women should support more women for positions that have been usurped by men over the years. We are sure that by 2030,we will make good progress in this area”, she explained.

By: Ibinabo Ogolo

Women

The Wise Woman

Published

2 days ago

April 26, 2024

The Tide

The wise woman builds her home. Mothers are supposed to live exemplary lives. The roles of mothers in the building of the modern Christian home cannot be overemphasized.
The function of the mother is to help the man build the home. She is a helper. A helper to the husband when the man is not doing well. It is important for the wise woman to assist when the man is not able to meet up with the items needed in the home.
A wise woman needs to reference God first and then the husband. Also the wise woman should respect her husband.
Caring for her own children as well as others is very crucial.
Do not despise children from other mothers. Discipline the child who is going the wrong way.
Ensure family bonding, show love and don’t discriminate. Connection with children is very important, especially the females. Find out who is her friend. Also find out the kind of lives they live. Caution, counsel and guide so that they make good partners.
Teaching children the dos and donts should start from birth. Inculcate the word of God in them so that when they grow, will not depart from it.
From the Scripture, some women influenced their families positively. Virgin Mary influenced the world, she never destroyed herself hence she gave birth to Jesus Christ.
Elizabeth, despite her age, God blessed her as she waited patiently.
A wise should curb favouritism in the family and love children equally. Whether a child is your biological child or not, it is necessary to show love equally. Reprimanding the children should be the function of both man and wife.

Women

The Desire Of Every Woman In Marriage

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2 days ago

April 26, 2024

The Tide

Marriage is beautiful when there is love. Before and after marriage, couples show love to themselves. But you discover that after some years, that same love turn to be something else. A lot of people start going through emotional trauma in the hands of their loved spouses.
There are many things the woman desires to keep the love on as far as marriage is concerned.
Women are blesssed with feminine abilities that can be used for good in husbands lives. With your abilities, you can create a marriage that will last till couples get old.
A woman needs
man that is honest, trustworthy, nice, loving and financially stable.
There are no two ways about finance in marriage. No matter the level of love, if there is no reasonable finance, it is always difficult to manage the home.
Referring to the Biblical belief in Genesis 3: “Your desire shall be unto you…….. “
What this means is that whatever the woman desires in life shall be provided as far as she performs her role in her home. There are many things the woman expects her husband to take care of.
A woman wants a husband that is not lazy, at least helping to do one or two things when he is at home.
A man that is educated and intelligent so that they will transfer such traits to their children.
Knowing that there are traits that her husband has, traits of taking care of people, giving freely to people and caring for her family. She expects him to exhibit them.
A woman wants to love a husband that has family interest at heart. A man that spends time with his family, remembering his family even as he is away from home.
No matter where he finds himself, he is not destracted by external influence. He returns home to his loved ones.
A woman should not antagonise her husband because of one error or the other. No matter the level of offence he may have committed, you still show some love.
According to the Scripture, it is with wisdom that a woman builds her home. As far as he rreturns home, you accept him as your own.
It is not as if the woman will not monitor her husband, but to certain limit. Don’t be a monitoring spirit. Don’t allow anything to take your joy.
Don’t loose trust in your husband. The idea of checking your husband’s phone should be discouraged. The more you check your husband and his phone, the more you loose your joy.
You can show some form of jealousy, but to an extent. Cooperation, respect and being honoured from time to time is what the woman desires.
The home should not be a battle ground for a woman and man. A woman should be able to ask herself if the check on her husband will pay her any good.
Draw a line to a point where you checkmate your husband’s activities.
A woman wants a man that will love her and telling her you love her will be all she desires.

Women

The Desire Of Every Woman In Marriage

Published

3 weeks ago

April 5, 2024

The Tide

A woman needs a man that is honest, trustworthy, nice, loving and financially stable.
There are no two ways about finance in marriage. No matter the level of love, If there is no money, it is always difficult.

Referring to the Biblical belief in Genesis 3:Your desire shall be unto you……..
That is one aspect the woman expects her husband to take care of.
A woman wants a husband that is not lazy, at least helping to do one or two things. A man that is educated and intelligent.
She knows that there is a trait that her husband has. Traits of taking care of people, giving freely to people and caring for her family.
A woman wants to love a husband that has family interest at heart. A man that spends time with his family, remembering his family even as he is away from home.
A woman should not antagonise her husband because of one error or the other. No matter the level of offence he may have committed, you still show some love.

According to the Scripture, it is with wisdom that the women builds her home.
It is not as if the woman will not monitor her husband, but to certain limit. Don’t be a monitoring spirit. Don’t allow anything to take your joy.
Don’t loose trust in your husband.
The idea of checking your husband’s phone should be discouraged. The more you check your husband and his phone, the more you loose your joy.

The home should not be a battle ground for a woman and man. A woman should be able to ask herself if the check on her husband will pay her any good.
Draw a line to a point where you checkmate your husband’s activities.
A woman wants a man that will love her and telling her you love her will be all she desires.