Women

Nigerian Women, Society And Safety

Published

5 years ago

March 22, 2019

In ancient times the role of the woman was that of maintaining and seeing to the welfare of the family; this was made worse with the fact that she was subjected to the kitchen and bedroom as being the only places where she could display her expertise. It may, however, be a misnomer to associate this phenomenon as having occurred only within a certain continent as some may suggest. In other words, women were excluded from taking up positions that exposed them to the world and made their thirst for ambition linger. So we found situations where women were not allowed to lead political movements and organsations, contest elections, occupy top level management positions in companies, be at the helm of affairs in religious organisations, champion economic empowerment programmes and so on. To some this sort of placement given to the female gender was deserved since their role was basically to “support” the male folks. By virtue of this men (especially those who were successful) had women behind them; these women were not with the men but behind the men. Events have occurred, the society has evolved and overtime the society itself has come to re-appraise and re-evaluate the role of the woman towards purposeful family upbringing, impactful community development, commendable nation building and pro-active diplomatic relations within regional, continental and global organisations.
In recent times the role of the woman has changed. It has moved from being a home-keeper alone to being a dominant figure to be reckoned with in global affairs bordering on politics, sports, entertainment, health and religion. The world has seen women having to champion successful global events that have had their place in the sands of time. It is, therefore, becoming clear that the man cannot achieve maximum success without the support of the woman which makes it imperative for him to have her with him and not behind him.
While we clearly understand how vital the role of the man is, we should not negate the place of the woman as well. For certain reasons she has been described as the weaker vessel and therefore associated with a seemingly perceived inability to do certain things, get involved in certain areas and achieve certain results. Time and events have proven us wrong again! Being faced with the harsh reality of their relevance and power, we must seek ways to continually protect them.
Within the last week this writer has attended two events bothering on the need for women to be empowered and safe. An event marking the International Day for the Elimination of Violence against Women was the latter of these two events and forms the basis of this piece. The female gender has had to go through a lot of assault some of which are emotional, and others being physical. While the society may have very little control over emotional violence towards women, it has a huge role to play in controlling the continued rise of physical violence towards them. It is worrisome that the aspect of violence which the society can control is the one which is on the increase-the physical. While we commend efforts of national, regional and international organisations at empowering women and seeing them emerge successful in their areas of endeavour, it is important to stop and consider for a minute that these women by virtue of their businesses and desires to go about the pursuit of their careers will need to move around and one of the most convenient ways to go around would be by road transport, of course taxis. But then we are presented with a cold reality when we understand that the number of women who experience violence via this means of transport is alarming. In countries such as India for example, statistics show that about two-thirds of female taxi commuters experience assault. This figure cannot be dismissed with a wave of the hand and should not be seen as being attributed to India alone. It is indeed a global issue! Understanding the fact that there is a problem and having identified the subject around which the issue revolves, what then is the solution?
It has become clear that by virtue of their physical, psychological and emotional make-up, the woman has been perceived weak and, therefore, becomes who may be considered as being endangered species. It is the collective responsibility of everyone to ensure that women are protected as they go about their significant role of nation-building. As earlier mentioned taxi use has become a dominant means of commuting especially among women in developing countries owing to the continued improvement being done to the transport system in these countries. In the face of this we share a collective responsibility to protect women from all forms of assault and violence. The efforts of Easy Taxi, a globally acclaimed taxi application system also resident in Nigeria is commendable in this regard as it has realised this imminent threat to the women folk, by first identifying the problem and then educating the drivers on the safety and security of women who are obviously their most dominant clients when gender is considered. Much as the company intends to garner the support of government organisations and other relevant stakeholders, the drivers come first on its agenda as it is in their custody that most of these violence happen.
Ohajunwa writes for News Agency of Nigeria.

Kingsley Ohajunwa

Women

The Wise Woman

Published

1 week ago

April 26, 2024

The Tide

The wise woman builds her home. Mothers are supposed to live exemplary lives. The roles of mothers in the building of the modern Christian home cannot be overemphasized.
The function of the mother is to help the man build the home. She is a helper. A helper to the husband when the man is not doing well. It is important for the wise woman to assist when the man is not able to meet up with the items needed in the home.
A wise woman needs to reference God first and then the husband. Also the wise woman should respect her husband.
Caring for her own children as well as others is very crucial.
Do not despise children from other mothers. Discipline the child who is going the wrong way.
Ensure family bonding, show love and don’t discriminate. Connection with children is very important, especially the females. Find out who is her friend. Also find out the kind of lives they live. Caution, counsel and guide so that they make good partners.
Teaching children the dos and donts should start from birth. Inculcate the word of God in them so that when they grow, will not depart from it.
From the Scripture, some women influenced their families positively. Virgin Mary influenced the world, she never destroyed herself hence she gave birth to Jesus Christ.
Elizabeth, despite her age, God blessed her as she waited patiently.
A wise should curb favouritism in the family and love children equally. Whether a child is your biological child or not, it is necessary to show love equally. Reprimanding the children should be the function of both man and wife.

Women

The Desire Of Every Woman In Marriage

Published

1 week ago

April 26, 2024

The Tide

Marriage is beautiful when there is love. Before and after marriage, couples show love to themselves. But you discover that after some years, that same love turn to be something else. A lot of people start going through emotional trauma in the hands of their loved spouses.
There are many things the woman desires to keep the love on as far as marriage is concerned.
Women are blesssed with feminine abilities that can be used for good in husbands lives. With your abilities, you can create a marriage that will last till couples get old.
A woman needs
man that is honest, trustworthy, nice, loving and financially stable.
There are no two ways about finance in marriage. No matter the level of love, if there is no reasonable finance, it is always difficult to manage the home.
Referring to the Biblical belief in Genesis 3: “Your desire shall be unto you…….. “
What this means is that whatever the woman desires in life shall be provided as far as she performs her role in her home. There are many things the woman expects her husband to take care of.
A woman wants a husband that is not lazy, at least helping to do one or two things when he is at home.
A man that is educated and intelligent so that they will transfer such traits to their children.
Knowing that there are traits that her husband has, traits of taking care of people, giving freely to people and caring for her family. She expects him to exhibit them.
A woman wants to love a husband that has family interest at heart. A man that spends time with his family, remembering his family even as he is away from home.
No matter where he finds himself, he is not destracted by external influence. He returns home to his loved ones.
A woman should not antagonise her husband because of one error or the other. No matter the level of offence he may have committed, you still show some love.
According to the Scripture, it is with wisdom that a woman builds her home. As far as he rreturns home, you accept him as your own.
It is not as if the woman will not monitor her husband, but to certain limit. Don’t be a monitoring spirit. Don’t allow anything to take your joy.
Don’t loose trust in your husband. The idea of checking your husband’s phone should be discouraged. The more you check your husband and his phone, the more you loose your joy.
You can show some form of jealousy, but to an extent. Cooperation, respect and being honoured from time to time is what the woman desires.
The home should not be a battle ground for a woman and man. A woman should be able to ask herself if the check on her husband will pay her any good.
Draw a line to a point where you checkmate your husband’s activities.
A woman wants a man that will love her and telling her you love her will be all she desires.

Women

The Desire Of Every Woman In Marriage

Published

4 weeks ago

April 5, 2024

The Tide

A woman needs a man that is honest, trustworthy, nice, loving and financially stable.
There are no two ways about finance in marriage. No matter the level of love, If there is no money, it is always difficult.

Referring to the Biblical belief in Genesis 3:Your desire shall be unto you……..
That is one aspect the woman expects her husband to take care of.
A woman wants a husband that is not lazy, at least helping to do one or two things. A man that is educated and intelligent.
She knows that there is a trait that her husband has. Traits of taking care of people, giving freely to people and caring for her family.
A woman wants to love a husband that has family interest at heart. A man that spends time with his family, remembering his family even as he is away from home.
A woman should not antagonise her husband because of one error or the other. No matter the level of offence he may have committed, you still show some love.

According to the Scripture, it is with wisdom that the women builds her home.
It is not as if the woman will not monitor her husband, but to certain limit. Don’t be a monitoring spirit. Don’t allow anything to take your joy.
Don’t loose trust in your husband.
The idea of checking your husband’s phone should be discouraged. The more you check your husband and his phone, the more you loose your joy.

The home should not be a battle ground for a woman and man. A woman should be able to ask herself if the check on her husband will pay her any good.
Draw a line to a point where you checkmate your husband’s activities.
A woman wants a man that will love her and telling her you love her will be all she desires.