Women

Reducing Violence Against Women And Girls

Published

7 years ago

July 14, 2017

Reducing Violence Against Women and Girls (VAWG)is gradually becoming a global ashtag. In public fora, print and electronic media, the ‘how’ to reduce the wave of violence against women and girls now dominates agenda and programmes more than ever.
This concern stems from the spate of kidnappings and abductions across the states of the federation in addition to violence and conflict for which women and girls have remained vulnerable to its effects, as they are often the first to suffer and the last to be protected. Although Chibok incidence highlighted this trend, it wasn’t the first neither has it become the last time that girls would be the target of exploitation and violence in Nigeria.
However, some social analysts have posited that the much ado about violence against women and girls may remain endless, should the society continue in its reactionary posture rather than a preventive one, in its effort at combating the menace.
In the face of social stigma and emotional trauma that the victims of violence go through, they are reluctant to report acts of violence by bringing perpetrators to justice, many are scared of how they would be looked at should they publicise their ordeal, thus they are forced to hide their pains in shame. But for how long will this continue?
Fortunately, some notable efforts have been spotted in this direction. Over the past three years, the Nigeria Stability and Reconciliation Program (NSRP) and the Fund for Peace (FFP) in collaboration with partners across eight target states in Nigeria, have been on the wheels to ensure increased reporting and awareness about violence affecting women and girls.
They suggest that only a proactive measure would seem to signal a light at the end of the tunnel as this culture of silence has long pervaded the landscape.
Just last week, the city of Port Harcourt played host to a 2-day workshop on reducing violence against women and girls through conflict early warning, facilitated by partnership initiatives in the Niger Delta (PIND) and the Medical Women Association of Nigeria (MWAN). The event which brought together stakeholders from the public, private and non-governmental organisations; shared ideas and collaborations on responding to violence against women and girls.
One thought that was stressed, points to the fact that violence against women has lingered inspite of campaigns from various angles against it because those at the fore-front of the campaigns merely emphasise gender, without leveraging on early warning for faster response.
The Cordinator of Foundation for Partnership Initiatives in the Niger Delta, Mr Nkasi Wodu, said lack of early earnings has been the bane of efforts towards eradication of violence against women and girls. In his view, early warning creates room for preventive response, and not the reactional type that the society is used to.
In her own speech, the scribe of the Medical Women Association, Rivers State, Dr Vetty Agala, pointed out culture/tradition, conflict situation, ignorance and low economic empowerment of women as core drivers of violence against women. She emphasized that the culture of stigma and silence must be broken for a result-oriented fight against violence on women and girls.
Meanwhile, publisher of National Point Newspaper, Constance Meju, has called for a follow up on police gender desk. Contributing to the forum’s discussion, Meju said it is time the society moved from merely sensitizing the women on their rights, to enforcing the laws on the right of women and children.
Corroborating her thought, the leader of women journalists in the state, Mrs Okonkwo-Ogabu Lilian, said enforcement of the law on violence against women and girls where perpetrators would be brought to book, remains the only pancea to curbing violence against women and girls.

Sylvia ThankGod-Amadi

Women

The Wise Woman

Published

1 day ago

April 26, 2024

The Tide

The wise woman builds her home. Mothers are supposed to live exemplary lives. The roles of mothers in the building of the modern Christian home cannot be overemphasized.
The function of the mother is to help the man build the home. She is a helper. A helper to the husband when the man is not doing well. It is important for the wise woman to assist when the man is not able to meet up with the items needed in the home.
A wise woman needs to reference God first and then the husband. Also the wise woman should respect her husband.
Caring for her own children as well as others is very crucial.
Do not despise children from other mothers. Discipline the child who is going the wrong way.
Ensure family bonding, show love and don’t discriminate. Connection with children is very important, especially the females. Find out who is her friend. Also find out the kind of lives they live. Caution, counsel and guide so that they make good partners.
Teaching children the dos and donts should start from birth. Inculcate the word of God in them so that when they grow, will not depart from it.
From the Scripture, some women influenced their families positively. Virgin Mary influenced the world, she never destroyed herself hence she gave birth to Jesus Christ.
Elizabeth, despite her age, God blessed her as she waited patiently.
A wise should curb favouritism in the family and love children equally. Whether a child is your biological child or not, it is necessary to show love equally. Reprimanding the children should be the function of both man and wife.

Women

The Desire Of Every Woman In Marriage

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1 day ago

April 26, 2024

The Tide

Marriage is beautiful when there is love. Before and after marriage, couples show love to themselves. But you discover that after some years, that same love turn to be something else. A lot of people start going through emotional trauma in the hands of their loved spouses.
There are many things the woman desires to keep the love on as far as marriage is concerned.
Women are blesssed with feminine abilities that can be used for good in husbands lives. With your abilities, you can create a marriage that will last till couples get old.
A woman needs
man that is honest, trustworthy, nice, loving and financially stable.
There are no two ways about finance in marriage. No matter the level of love, if there is no reasonable finance, it is always difficult to manage the home.
Referring to the Biblical belief in Genesis 3: “Your desire shall be unto you…….. “
What this means is that whatever the woman desires in life shall be provided as far as she performs her role in her home. There are many things the woman expects her husband to take care of.
A woman wants a husband that is not lazy, at least helping to do one or two things when he is at home.
A man that is educated and intelligent so that they will transfer such traits to their children.
Knowing that there are traits that her husband has, traits of taking care of people, giving freely to people and caring for her family. She expects him to exhibit them.
A woman wants to love a husband that has family interest at heart. A man that spends time with his family, remembering his family even as he is away from home.
No matter where he finds himself, he is not destracted by external influence. He returns home to his loved ones.
A woman should not antagonise her husband because of one error or the other. No matter the level of offence he may have committed, you still show some love.
According to the Scripture, it is with wisdom that a woman builds her home. As far as he rreturns home, you accept him as your own.
It is not as if the woman will not monitor her husband, but to certain limit. Don’t be a monitoring spirit. Don’t allow anything to take your joy.
Don’t loose trust in your husband. The idea of checking your husband’s phone should be discouraged. The more you check your husband and his phone, the more you loose your joy.
You can show some form of jealousy, but to an extent. Cooperation, respect and being honoured from time to time is what the woman desires.
The home should not be a battle ground for a woman and man. A woman should be able to ask herself if the check on her husband will pay her any good.
Draw a line to a point where you checkmate your husband’s activities.
A woman wants a man that will love her and telling her you love her will be all she desires.

Women

The Desire Of Every Woman In Marriage

Published

3 weeks ago

April 5, 2024

The Tide

A woman needs a man that is honest, trustworthy, nice, loving and financially stable.
There are no two ways about finance in marriage. No matter the level of love, If there is no money, it is always difficult.

Referring to the Biblical belief in Genesis 3:Your desire shall be unto you……..
That is one aspect the woman expects her husband to take care of.
A woman wants a husband that is not lazy, at least helping to do one or two things. A man that is educated and intelligent.
She knows that there is a trait that her husband has. Traits of taking care of people, giving freely to people and caring for her family.
A woman wants to love a husband that has family interest at heart. A man that spends time with his family, remembering his family even as he is away from home.
A woman should not antagonise her husband because of one error or the other. No matter the level of offence he may have committed, you still show some love.

According to the Scripture, it is with wisdom that the women builds her home.
It is not as if the woman will not monitor her husband, but to certain limit. Don’t be a monitoring spirit. Don’t allow anything to take your joy.
Don’t loose trust in your husband.
The idea of checking your husband’s phone should be discouraged. The more you check your husband and his phone, the more you loose your joy.

The home should not be a battle ground for a woman and man. A woman should be able to ask herself if the check on her husband will pay her any good.
Draw a line to a point where you checkmate your husband’s activities.
A woman wants a man that will love her and telling her you love her will be all she desires.