Women

Training The Child For Life

Published

8 years ago

July 15, 2016

Children need to be taught
that life is all about earnest work, responsibility and caretaking. It is the divine duty of parents to imbibe in the children and youth an ambition to spend their time in doing something that will be beneficial to themselves and helpful to others. Children should be trained to develop the mind and character that will enable them to bear their share of life’s burdens, strengthen and quicken every physical and mental ability.
They should be trained to acquire virtuous industry in the cultivation of the habit of living to do good and make them practical men and women who can cope with emergencies. Children must be taught that the discipline of systematic, well-regulated labour is essential, not only as a safeguard against the vicissitudes of life, but as an aid to all-round development.
It is an error to regard physical labour or work as degrading. Many young men and women feel more delighted in searching for white colar jobs such as teaching, clerical, merchants, lawyers, and to occupy positions that do not require physical labour. Young women regard house work as belittling as it requires physical exercise to perform it. If not too severe, house-hold work promotes health.
The world is full of young men and women who pride themselves on their ignorance of useful labour, and they are almost invariably, frivolous, vain, fond of display, unhappy, unsatisfied, and too often dissipated and unprincipled. Such characters are a blot or spoiler on the society and a disgrace to their parents. No child should be trained to be ashamed of work, however, small and servile or large it may be. Labour is enabling and all who toil with hands and head are working men and women, they are dignified.
The youth should be led to see the true dignity of labour. One reason physical toil is looked down on is the slipshop that is, done without care and unthinking way in which it is often performed. Physical labour is viewed or regarded as done from necessity, not from choice. Children should be taught to do manual labour and how to develop habits of accuracy and thoroughness. They should learn to economise time and money and to make every move count. They should not only be taught the methods, but be inspired with ambition constantly to improve. Let it be their aim to make their work as nearly perfect as human brains and hands can make it.
Such training will make children and youths masters and not slaves of labour. This does not mean that they should not be encouraged to recognise science and art as a noble field of endeavour. They should be taught to take pleasure in all work they perform with faithfulness and efficiency.
A faithful mother cannot devote to fashion, neither will she be a domestic slave to humour the whims of her children and excuse them from hard work. She has to teach them to share the domestic duties with her so that they will have knowledge of practical life. If the children share the work with their mother, they will learn to regard useful employment as essential to happiness and ennobling rather than degrading. But if the mother educates her children, especially the daughters to be indolent while she bears the heavy burdens of domestic life, she is teaching them to look down upon her as their servant, to do the things they should do. The mother and father should ever retain their dignities.
Some parents are at fault in releasing their sons and daughters from toil and care, thereby encouraging them in laziness and indolence. They take the sure course to make them weak and inefficient by the mere excuse “my daughter or my son is not strong,” forgetting that well-directed labour is just what they require to make them strong, vigorous, cheerful, happy, and courageous to meet the various trails with which their lives are beset.
The carelessness of parents in neglecting to furnish their children with good ideas and instructions has resulted in untold evil, imperiling the lives of many and youth and sadly crippled their usefulness in the family and the society.

Shedie Okpara

Women

The Wise Woman

Published

1 day ago

April 26, 2024

The Tide

The wise woman builds her home. Mothers are supposed to live exemplary lives. The roles of mothers in the building of the modern Christian home cannot be overemphasized.
The function of the mother is to help the man build the home. She is a helper. A helper to the husband when the man is not doing well. It is important for the wise woman to assist when the man is not able to meet up with the items needed in the home.
A wise woman needs to reference God first and then the husband. Also the wise woman should respect her husband.
Caring for her own children as well as others is very crucial.
Do not despise children from other mothers. Discipline the child who is going the wrong way.
Ensure family bonding, show love and don’t discriminate. Connection with children is very important, especially the females. Find out who is her friend. Also find out the kind of lives they live. Caution, counsel and guide so that they make good partners.
Teaching children the dos and donts should start from birth. Inculcate the word of God in them so that when they grow, will not depart from it.
From the Scripture, some women influenced their families positively. Virgin Mary influenced the world, she never destroyed herself hence she gave birth to Jesus Christ.
Elizabeth, despite her age, God blessed her as she waited patiently.
A wise should curb favouritism in the family and love children equally. Whether a child is your biological child or not, it is necessary to show love equally. Reprimanding the children should be the function of both man and wife.

Women

The Desire Of Every Woman In Marriage

Published

1 day ago

April 26, 2024

The Tide

Marriage is beautiful when there is love. Before and after marriage, couples show love to themselves. But you discover that after some years, that same love turn to be something else. A lot of people start going through emotional trauma in the hands of their loved spouses.
There are many things the woman desires to keep the love on as far as marriage is concerned.
Women are blesssed with feminine abilities that can be used for good in husbands lives. With your abilities, you can create a marriage that will last till couples get old.
A woman needs
man that is honest, trustworthy, nice, loving and financially stable.
There are no two ways about finance in marriage. No matter the level of love, if there is no reasonable finance, it is always difficult to manage the home.
Referring to the Biblical belief in Genesis 3: “Your desire shall be unto you…….. “
What this means is that whatever the woman desires in life shall be provided as far as she performs her role in her home. There are many things the woman expects her husband to take care of.
A woman wants a husband that is not lazy, at least helping to do one or two things when he is at home.
A man that is educated and intelligent so that they will transfer such traits to their children.
Knowing that there are traits that her husband has, traits of taking care of people, giving freely to people and caring for her family. She expects him to exhibit them.
A woman wants to love a husband that has family interest at heart. A man that spends time with his family, remembering his family even as he is away from home.
No matter where he finds himself, he is not destracted by external influence. He returns home to his loved ones.
A woman should not antagonise her husband because of one error or the other. No matter the level of offence he may have committed, you still show some love.
According to the Scripture, it is with wisdom that a woman builds her home. As far as he rreturns home, you accept him as your own.
It is not as if the woman will not monitor her husband, but to certain limit. Don’t be a monitoring spirit. Don’t allow anything to take your joy.
Don’t loose trust in your husband. The idea of checking your husband’s phone should be discouraged. The more you check your husband and his phone, the more you loose your joy.
You can show some form of jealousy, but to an extent. Cooperation, respect and being honoured from time to time is what the woman desires.
The home should not be a battle ground for a woman and man. A woman should be able to ask herself if the check on her husband will pay her any good.
Draw a line to a point where you checkmate your husband’s activities.
A woman wants a man that will love her and telling her you love her will be all she desires.

Women

The Desire Of Every Woman In Marriage

Published

3 weeks ago

April 5, 2024

The Tide

A woman needs a man that is honest, trustworthy, nice, loving and financially stable.
There are no two ways about finance in marriage. No matter the level of love, If there is no money, it is always difficult.

Referring to the Biblical belief in Genesis 3:Your desire shall be unto you……..
That is one aspect the woman expects her husband to take care of.
A woman wants a husband that is not lazy, at least helping to do one or two things. A man that is educated and intelligent.
She knows that there is a trait that her husband has. Traits of taking care of people, giving freely to people and caring for her family.
A woman wants to love a husband that has family interest at heart. A man that spends time with his family, remembering his family even as he is away from home.
A woman should not antagonise her husband because of one error or the other. No matter the level of offence he may have committed, you still show some love.

According to the Scripture, it is with wisdom that the women builds her home.
It is not as if the woman will not monitor her husband, but to certain limit. Don’t be a monitoring spirit. Don’t allow anything to take your joy.
Don’t loose trust in your husband.
The idea of checking your husband’s phone should be discouraged. The more you check your husband and his phone, the more you loose your joy.

The home should not be a battle ground for a woman and man. A woman should be able to ask herself if the check on her husband will pay her any good.
Draw a line to a point where you checkmate your husband’s activities.
A woman wants a man that will love her and telling her you love her will be all she desires.