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Wedding Ring: The Woman’s Symbol Only?

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No form of adorn
ment identifies the married. It’s the ring that tells.” These were the words of Mrs Evelyn Chidozie, a banker with Diamond Bank, when asked why she wears her wedding ring. This seems to suggest that every married man and woman should have his or her ring on, as a Proof of his/her status. Is it really the case?
As with other life’s  achievements, marriage has its signs on the married and the common sign of identification is the wedding ring. Used as a pledged token of love for each other on the wedding day, the couple, thereafter, find it exciting wearing it.
With time however, it becomes practicable that the ladies are more prone to wearing their wedding rings than the men.
Ofcourse, they have no problem with this because,  to them, there is every reason to do so. Putting on their wedding rings adds value to them, it gives them that sense of ‘having come of age’ and it serves as a protective measure against undue sexual harassment from some men out there.
“Once the wedding ring is on your finger, it puts the men off you. Though some will still want to attempt but the responsible ones will just let you be”  Tonye Ibim said.
They also believe that the ring on their finger is a show of their commitment to their marriage relationship  which helps to freshen the vows and encourage them in their marital functions and challenges.
While some ladies are of the view that the men could be exempted because of their nature and the fact that they are as frequently harassed as the ladies, some say however, that such exemption should not exist as they together made the vow on the wedding day.
They said “the ring is the outward physical sign of the marriage relationship and so, they should put it on and of course, if they are proud of their marriage. It also took the both of us to pledge that day using our rings so they should also fulfill their part.”
Thus, even against the men’s wish, some are compelled to wear their rings while some others will not just wear it no matter what, with the reason that it was just for the wedding day. The result some times is fracas in the home particularly when the couple are set for an outing.
When confronted as to why the absence of such excitement about the ring, these men’s response were obvious.
“The man by nature does not really attach more value to the marriage especially in our african setting. To him, it is not a big deal that he is not married but the case is different with the woman who has come of a marriageable age. So, the man is not too excited about the wedding ring,”  Dr Jaja Sunju said.
As to the  women’s accusation that such men do not cherish and love their wives or marriage relationships, Sunju said “not wearing the ring does not have anything to do with the level of your love for your wife. It’s just about value and what your view is on the wedding ring”.
Mr Koate Baribeop, a civil servant who is also not keen on wearing his wedding ring claims that “the women wear it because it gives them the feelings of ‘winner’. According to him, there are too many women that are competing to be chosen by men and when finally they are picked out of the lots, the ring is the symbol of celebration of her victory. But for the man, he has nothing to lose.”
Engr. Amachree Thompson said however, that the wearing  of wedding ring has nothing to do in the marriage. To him “it makes no sense at all”. He countered that even for the women’s claims that it prevents  sexual harassment, some women with their rings on crave for the harassment to show that they are still fresh and marketable.
He said “for me, wearing the ring does not really stop a woman or man who is married from being promiscuous.           Infact, of recent, it’s like a licence. You could see a man and woman together at a joint and because they are both wearing their wedding rings, you simply take them to be husband and wife. Seeing such persons at odd places  hardly gives you any negative impression when otherwise, there is a lot of questionable issues surrounding them on that outing. Infact, married couples are more into promiscuity than the unmarried ones and so, what’s the big deal about wearing the ring? It does not spell anything  positive”.
But Iwan Ogolo, an Architect, has a different view and I describe him as the ‘friend of the woman’on this issue. To some, “marriage is an achievement and must be appreciated even if it entails wearing the ring. It keeps the memory of the relationship with me wherever I go. I should be proud of wearing my wedding ring to show that I am married and responsible to a family. The day I hurry out of the house forgetting my wedding ring, I feel  incomplete. And on it goes”.
The wedding day is usually referred to as the woman’s day. This is so because that day, she attracts more eyes than the man. The reason  also could not have been different but from the fact that she feels more honoured in every ramification. As it were, it is customary for every woman to be married to  the extent that when the reverse is the case, she is tagged as being ‘wrong’.
So, when nature calls in this manner, keep up with whatever reawakens the excitement. Remember, as you dress your bed, so you lie on it. Your marriage is in your hands and regardless of whether or not your spouse puts on his ring, if yours gives you that feelings, try it on and remain committed to the vows you made at the very beginning,  at least, to prove your worth in the world you are.

 

Lady Godknows Ogbulu

A typical wedding ring

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Nigeria Deserves Stylish, Sophisticated Designs-Igiebor Daddy Lucky

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IVY-K Fashion by Igiebor Daddy Lucky, a Nigerian-born designer now based in the UK, has launched the latest menswear line, Dapper Man.
One of the collection’s strengths is its classic, clean aesthetic. Dapper Man delivers sharp, structured suits in a timeless black and white color scheme that exudes a sense of luxury and professionalism. The use of high-quality fabrics like wool and silk ensures that the suits not only look high-end but also feel luxurious to the wearer. The designer’s focus on detail is evident in the meticulous tailoring, with fitted blazers and crisp trousers forming the foundation of the collection.
Where IVY-K Fashion shines is in the subtle yet elegant touches. The inclusion of beads as embellishments on lapels and cuffs adds a unique flair, blending traditional craft with modern tailoring. This nod to African heritage gives the collection a distinct identity, offering something more personal and culturally significant than your standard menswear line.
However, despite the elegance of the Dapper Man collection, there is a lingering sense of missed opportunity. The black-and-white color palette, while classic, feels overly safe. In a fashion landscape where bold colors and daring patterns often make the strongest impact, the collection could benefit from incorporating more vibrant hues or experimenting with unconventional fabrics. Pushing the envelope with color or texture could elevate these designs from simply elegant to truly memorable.
In addition, while the tailoring of the blazers and trousers is immaculate, the collection lacks a sense of playfulness or modern edge that many contemporary menswear lines are embracing. The suits are undoubtedly stylish, but the collection as a whole leans heavily on tradition. Experimenting with asymmetrical cuts, bold patterns, or even layering could add an exciting dimension to Dapper Man. The challenge is to maintain the sleek sophistication of the collection while infusing it with a fresh, innovative spirit.
Another area that could use improvement is the overall cohesion of the collection. While the suits are well-crafted, there is a feeling of repetition across the pieces. More variation in design, such as different lapel styles, pocket configurations, or even bolder accessories, would give the collection greater diversity and visual interest.
In conclusion, Dapper Man by Igiebor Daddy Lucky showcases the designer’s strong grasp of classic tailoring and elegant design, but to truly capture the attention of a broader audience, IVY-K Fashion would benefit from more daring choices. By infusing the collection with bold colors, unexpected textures, and a more modern edge, Dapper Man could move from a well-crafted line to a trendsetting force in men’s fashion. With such a solid foundation, there’s no doubt that Igiebor Daddy Lucky has the potential to lead his brand toward greater heights

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Women Can Curb Indecent Dressing

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The trend of indecent dressing all in the name of fashion is fast becoming a norm in our generation and society at large. Most married women embrace this fashion as competition with single ladies.
Different scholars have given an in depth insight about dressing as a tool of communication.  Non-verbal communication has been asserted  as the communication between people by the means of signs or symbols.  It conveys what we wish to disseminate to the public as either intentionally or not.
According to Paul Ekman and Michael Argyle, communication is carried out through what has been classified as “Presentational Code”.  He listed nine codes of non-verbal communication, as body contact, facial expression, gestures, postures, eye movement, proximity, orientation, head nods and appearance.
This, being stated, married and single ladies should understand that their mode of dressing is communicative be it directly or indirectly as such body parts we call “private” are now being made public because of the trends or wearing of transparent dresses and this in turn calls on the attention of men who are weak and prone to illicit thoughts thus, resulting to most rape cases in our society.
This indecent dressing by most ladies has denied many their future husbands.  The truth is that a man is attracted to his kind; his desires in marriage.  It is often asserted that decency and beauty are in the eyes of the beholder, yet,  in trending times of this 21st century, dress code  and fashion in nudity form is gaining popularity.
This has become complicated as most men tend to toggle between their emotions (lust) and sanity (rationality) in terms of marriage, thereby setting a wrong foundation upon which most marriages are consummated.
On the other hand, most married women have embraced the trend of indecent dressing nipping it on the state of it being the choice dressing, approved by their spouses, leaving society with the question of what “responsible” man would prefer that the secrecy of the benefit of his marital vow has become the centre of attraction and viewership by the general public.
Hence, communicating with their dressing gas given licence to every male gender who is interested or attracted to what they see to make unsolicited sexual passes at them, which might be considered embarrassing.
At this juncture, it is important to state that ladies should  dress decently knowing that they are the epitome of nation-building, they are nation-builders, character moulders and pacesetters not just in the lives of their families but to the society at large.
In most occasions, there are no clear border lines between the married women and the single ladies because of the rate of scanty dressing which has close the gap of differences.
Women and girls should embrace this call awakening to decent mode of dressing.  Dresses that are meant to be worn indoors should remain indoors.
It is worrisome to see ladies wear shorts that are supposed to be worn in the living room on the streets without shame.  This is an awakening call to our ladies, married and singles that the opposite sex do not expose their private body parts for the public.  Sometimes, the ladies go about in the streets without wearing brazziers as to showcase their nipples.
The society should be sanitised of the menace  of indecent dressing that is lurking and taking over the entire nooks and crannies of the society and the nation at large.
Let it be known that he or she is addressed in the manner he or she is dressed.  There may be no room for a second impression.  To the single ladies,  your dressing decently will not stop you from meeting your Mr Right rather,  it will increase your stake and place you on the list of most valued women in the society.
Dressing speaks louder than words.

Kate Chisom Isiocha
Isiocha is an OND final year student of Temple Gate Polytechnic.

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NWAPDI Launches Home Farming Scheme For Women In Okrika

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A non-governmental group,  Nigerian Women for Agricultural Progressive Development Initiative (NWAPDI), has taken it’s sensitization programme on home grown farming to women in Okrika Local Government Area.
The body which started in April, 2024 in Rivers State is boasting of huge grassroot followership and is planning a green revolution.
The Rivers State Coordinator, Barrister Ngozi Ajayi, who disclosed this in Okrika, last Thursday, said the programme would change the fortunes of women farmers and their families.
Ajayi was joined by  local government coordinators from Etche, Okrika, Emohua, and Omuma, at Ibaka Town, Okrika, to inaugurate 12-member Ward Coordinators of NWAPDI in the area.
Ajayi stated that since July, when the local government coordinators of NWAPDI were inaugurated, the body which aims to boost food sufficiency and arm women with skills in agro-production, had grown in followership, especially among the women folk.
She commended women in Okrika for the interest they had shown in the scheme, adding that she was impressed with the huge turnout and participation.
Shortly after inaugurating the 12 Ward Coordinators, Ajayi charged the women to exploit the opportunities provided by NWAPDI.
She reiterated that the body had come to stay as a way of  improving the wellbeing of women who, most times, were providers in their families.
“We want all of you to go back to your families and tell your people that whatever space you have, utilize it for subsistence farming.
“As you can see, the body is made up of lawyers, lecturers, teachers, and women in different sectors. The essence is to call attention on the need for women to collaborate together so their voices will be heard.
“Women are the major backbone in the agric sector, and if their efforts are harnessed to impact on the nation’s food production, their impact can go far,”she said.
With NWAPDI on board, she expressed optimism that the plight of women farmers would be reduced, such that all government and international support would get to the grassroots.
Also speaking, NWAPDI Coordinator in Okrika Local Government  Area, Prof. Nene Jamabo, a professor of Aqua Culture at the University of Port Harcourt, had  expressed delight over the interest shown by women in the LGA, saying with cluster farming, women would be empowered more than before.
“What we intend to do is Cluster Farming, and it’s  a whole lot of value chain. We want every woman to put food on their table.
“In Okrika we have observed that most of the women are into crafts, so we will combine cluster with integrated farming- to create a chain; some will be farming, some will be processing and others will be into marketing”, she said.
In her speech, the Chairperson, Caretaker Committee of Okrika Local Government Council, Mrs Gold Okujagu, who was represented by the Secretary of the Council, expressed satisfaction with the initiative.
She described NWAPDI as timely and very crucial to the current economic challenges in the country.
She explained that in an era of processed foods, the initiative would encourage women to grow organic foods.
She urged every woman to engage in subsistence farming at any level to reduce hazardous things that were being consumed as food.
Speaking after the inauguration, the Ward 2 Coordinator, Mrs Ibiere Williams, expressed gratitude to the Rivers State and Okrika Local Government Coordinators for organizing the programme.
Mrs Williams, who is of Ngeme-Biri, a civil servant, observed that many women from different parts of Okrika attended the programme, which indicated the readiness on their part to end food scarcity in the area.
“We saw many women from different parts of Okrika. That means we are ready to farm and see what we can gain. We appreciate the organisers, and they really encouraged us. We learned that there are so many ways for planting since we do not have much land in Okrika. Our women were happy.
“We are given these items free to plant in broken buckets, nylon and bags due to scarcity of land in the area. We were taught that sand mixed with fresh fish intestine can serve as manure. This was very educative. If we practice what we were taught, in the next one year, there will be food sufficiency in Okrika”, she said.
In her comments, a member of NWAPDI, Mrs Felicia Barasin, a business woman from Bulome-Biri stated that the programme was good and timely as many families were finding it difficult to feed because of the harsh economy.
Highlight of the occasion was the administration of oaths to the Ward Coordinators of the local government area by the Legal Officer, Ibiwari Maureen Waribo.
Also, the award of certificates and recognition of executive members of NWAPDI Okrika LGA by the State Coordinator. The EXCO include Vice Coordinator, Dr. Ibinabo Ogolo; Secretary, Ms. Constance Kalio; Treasurer, Mrs. Sime Loveday; and Public Relations Officer, Mrs Roseline Orupabo.
Cassava stems, okro, and vegetable seeds were shared amongst the women after the training section.
Over 500 women from Okrika Local Government Area attended the programme.
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