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It may be reasonable to assert that if the individual develops enough ‘self-control’ it may not matter too much what he is exposed to.But some have however, confirmed in contrast that the effect of pornography on the spirit of the individual is to indulge his or her sense of compromise or what is called ‘sin’, and that excessive exposure to pornography actually deadens sexual interest as it creates boredom for the beholder.

Pornography is any material or object such as books, magazines and films that is designed to cause sexual excitement or arouse sexual urge. It has been taken to a higher level in television drama, live performances and through music, with little or no restriction, such that it has inflicted negative values on our cultural orientation. This is obvious in  our female dressing.

A sampler of dress styles in offices, campuses and even churches especially among women would reveal that sexually expressive dressing has been on the rise for a very long time without minding the temper of the social fabric or public order.

Body parts are always readily on display and it would appear that pornography has been taken to a live art form on the streets. If pornography were as ‘influential’ as it was made to be, then we would be experiencing more rapes than we currently do.

Pornography has a three fold influence: the body, the mind and the spirit. It affects the body principally by inflaming the passions through the instrumentality of the ‘eye’ gates. As the pictures come across the eyes, they are transmitted to the brain, culminating in nervous response. This provokes expressive action towards the opposite sex if not well managed.

The effect on the mind is more negative. The mind, being a store of information, merely stores the information, releasing it from time to time to play in its land of imagination. Another or a similar term for this is what is called voyeurism where sexual images play a game of travel, fantasy on the mind and body. Here, if the mind is a virgin field, the imagination is its cultivator. The battle for the control of our imagination is the battle for the control of our mind.

The sad thing about pornography is that since it is an industry, it feeds its loyalists with fantastic images which may or may not be consistent with reality. This often creates a frustration for seekers and the sought. The seekers seek in vain for the pictures in display, while the sought battle to meet the parameters on display, such that even when relationships are built on factors more durable than body parts, practitioners are never really sure if body parts are not the most important of factors driving the relationships.

Others have identified a more dangerous dynamic to the pornographic effects on the mind, citing its creation (or as the case may be the promotion) of lust in the individual.

Pornography has a negative value tending from its depiction of the female sex as an object of sexual exploitation. Those who frown at the practice are not known to apply any positive association to it, even though the practice has been long in existence and known to be foundational and catalytic to a wide variety of industries allied to or central to it.

Pornography (even if in a short-term) stems from a multi-cultural view of women as instruments of passion for the satisfaction of powerful male drives who need reinforcement from the female gender.

Typically, the male specie is task-oriented and this task-orientation finds subtle confirmation in the story of Adam’s creation.

As soon as he was created, Adam was put into an environment that was conducive to his task responsive and restless orientation.

Correspondingly, the unpretentious language of Paul in the male/female sexual dynamic prefaced by the use of the word ‘use’ becomes significant.

Feminists challenge or frown at the language of Paul once again, drawing attention even if unconvincingly, to the world ‘use’ as being determinative of males as sex objects asserting to its promotion of the sex trade and the occupational denigration of women.

This is true also for the seeming ‘negative’ motions of the ‘man’. The natural impulse, and the innate drive in man, ‘to do’, as normal as the blood flowing intravenously is so strong that men will themselves fight just for the plain pleasure of the relaxation following the expenditure of physical reserve or energy. For the same reason, men actively engage in many and several forms of sporting activity each variously conforming to their mage of ‘achievement’.

Interestingly, and on the converse, when female folk engage in partial or full exertions such as aerobic and, or sports, they carry it out as an incident of relationship, rather than as a purveyor of achievement except in situations in which the competition is carried out for the sake of a prize or trophy.

Subterranean attempts to change or challenge the ‘doing’ psyche of the male through denial of food, sex and exercise would only work to breed confusion and cause a twisting of the male emotion in him such as to render him emotionally incompetent and distant.

It is for this reason that the Bible cautions that in the mounding of the character of their flock, Christian leaders ought to be careful to ensure that they do not make their converts ‘twice the sons of hell’!

Some cruel Christian leaders have, however, left the work of God, by engaging ‘puppeteering’, playing ‘wicked’ mind games and selective persecution of their flock to fund ‘secret agenda’.

 

Boye Salau

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Need For Girl-Child Education In Society

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Girl-child education is a way by which a girl- child is being exposed through formal education for proper education.
It is a process whereby a girl-child is being exposed to some certain things according to “teachmit@wp”.
Girl-child education refers to the aspect of education that ends at developing the skills and knowledge of girls and women no matter their backgrounds.
Some parents think that educating a girl- child is wasting of their resources. No. When a female child is educated, it gives her that respect even the husband cannot treat her anyhow because he will know her worth.
The importance of educating the girl- child cannot be overemphasised. It helps to empower the country and makes them have a better life. Once they are educated, they realise the importance of exhibiting good hygiene habits.
It may interest you to know that when a girl-child is educated, she has a sense of belonging in the society. In Nigeria nowadays, they have the potential of becoming governors, chairmen of local government areas, among others.
The tendency of taking cognisance of the importance of reduction in child bearing is high. When a woman is educated, the level in which she will give birth will reduce considering the dangers inherent.
Firstly, she will calculate herself and know when to conceive, although with the consent of her husband and the numbers of children she wants.
A girl who is educated will know how to educate her children properly. She will be of good benefits to the family.
Truly, a girl who is not properly educated will suffer lack of knowledge, fall into early marriage which will lead into early pregnancy. Some of these can cause domestic violence.
Women need education because without proper knowledge, a woman cannot run her home properly. A woman that is educated leads her home aright.
Some men use and take advantage of uneducated women by rendering all kinds of abuses on them, some rape their wives in course of making love and others insults their wives in public all because there is no education. In life, males and females should be educated without discrimination.
Furthermore, educating a girl-child is like investing in a big business that one will not run into a loss.
According to Dr Shaifali, girls’ education is like sowing the seed which gives rise to a revitalised, cheerful and full-grown family plants.
She also said educated women have the capacity to bring socio- economic changes.
Growing up from the family of three, my father told me that he was not ready to train a female child and when I asked why, he said: ” because when you will grow and become great, then, a man will come from nowhere and marry you and all my money will be wasted. When you marry, your name will be changed that means all your riches and wealth will become your husband’s own because you people are one”.
Frankly, I was very bitter with myself and I started questioning God that why was I not created as man, but I took it upon myself that weather the devil likes it or not, I will prove my father wrong by going to school and I will show the difference.
As parents when training children we should not think less of any child because every child is important and have value.
Every child is a blessing from God. This is a clarion call to all men of our present society to accord their wives the respect they deserve. A man can develop his wife after marriage.
Education plays an important role in the life of a girl-child. Let every girl-child be educated. The government should provide the society with basic amenities such as good schools that are well-equipped.
Parents from time to time should be re-oriented in this regard taking cognisance of the importance of developing the girl-child. None should be misled by saying that the girl-child need not attend formal education.
Since some parents do not have the wherewithal to sponsor their children, governments at all levels should introduce free education to give room for equal opportunity. Bursary payment should be re-introduced in all higher educational institutions.
Education is the bedrock of any society therefore women education cannot end in the kitchen.

Princess Npapa
Princess Npapa is a student of Pan Africa Institute of Management and Technology.

 

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Celebrating Woman As An Icon Of Strength

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A woman is a dynamic multifaceted individual who embodies resilience, courage and determination.
She is a game changer and a force to be reckon with, a confidant empowered, supportive, adaptable and inspirational.
Many had asked why women are being celebrated even as recorded in calendar so frequently unlike men and I said, a woman being multifaceted and embodies resilience and determination is worth being celebrated unlike in the 80s when women were meant to understand that their place was in the kitchen of their husbands’ houses.
What an amazing level of development where women can choose a career and work on themselves and know that there is more to life than being in the kitchen and ending up in a man’s house with nothing to show for it.
Women are the strongest versions of the gender of humans in the world even in their silence, women hold a depth of emotions, questions and unspoken thoughts. Their smiles often conceal their true feelings, masking their fears, doubts and desires.
Despite these challenges, women continue to rise above, shattering glass ceilings and pushing boundaries.
Today innovative, women are enterprenuers, leaders, and change agents. Inspiring women like Ngozi Okonjo-Iweala, Chimamanda Adichie and many others have paved the way for future generation, their achievements serve as testaments to women’s strength, resilience and capabilities.
The calendar tell us how unique the woman is and her significance in the home and society at large. As a woman, she holds power and I celebrate every woman out there in the world irrespective of how you may have fallen, you shall rise above the challenges, support one another and celebrate collective strength and resilience.
Woman as an icon of strength is not just about individual achievements but creating supportive networks, uplifting others and celebrating collective success, defying expectations and redefining what it means to be a strong woman.
The strength and bravery of women are worthy of celebration by the entire world as none is unique as the epitome of nation builders, character molders and pacesetters not just in their family but to the society at large.
A woman is a selfless mother, lover and care giver to her family, a daughter who supports her parents, as a sister’s unshakeable bond with her siblings and a friends unconditional empathy and understanding.
These acts of kindness and love are not most times talked about but hold families and communities together and bonding strong women are powerful beings who have impacted the society, shaping the foundation of the world from the 80s to date, I personally want to celebrate all the icons of strength who had fought and are still fighting , that our voices as women are heard even unto the ends of time.
I celebrate you all amazing women for standing strong and paving ways for the future generation for equality, justice and human rights. To the rising child, teenager and adults who happen to be a ‘woman’, I celebrate our collective efforts, our strength in helping one another to rise, irrespective of our differences in our backgrounds.
We are super humans, unique beings, no wonder the Bible acknowledges the importance of our strength. Therefore, let’s celebrate every woman out there.

Kate Chisom Isiocha
Isiocha, is a student of Temple Gate Polytechnic.

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Children And Basics Of Family

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It is the idea of God that family should exit. Children form part of the family. God loves family so much that Jesus was born into the family of Joseph.
Everyone’s family is good and important. Children should not look down on their family whether they are rich or poor.
Children should respect and honour their family and foster love among their siblings. They should work together and make peace in the family. They should always stand in the gap. It is good for family members to carry all along since everyone may not be doing well.
The Christianity that children learn is practised in family. Faith-based organisations do a great job in moulding children’s character. Those are the behaviours that children exhibit towards siblings in family.
Every child born in a family is there for a purpose. A baby born into a family is supplying something. It may be joy, wealth and so on. Everyone is important in a family.
Adolescents who have graduated from school but may not be contributing financially can do one or two things at home. You can engage in preparing meals at home while parents are away for a job or business. Contributing in house chores will go a long way to relieve parents of stress after a day’s job.
What do you contribute to your family, especially during holidays both in nuclear and extended family?
The family you were born is constant but friends are temporary. You can decide not to continue in friendship but you cannot cut off your family. No matter how bad you think your family is and you decide to leave home, you must surely return. Your friends can harbour you for a while.
The child’s first identity comes from the family. What the child learns first comes from the family.
Family is the centre of love and care. People have started playing down on marriage because of neglect on basics of family. Marriage starts today and and the next few months, it is threatened. Respect for family plays a crucial role in marriage.
No child grows without parental control and influence. If a child refuses to grow without taking instructions from parents, he may grow up being wild. There are consequences when children do not obey their parents. There are those who want to be rebellious against their parents. They should know that their length of days are tied to their parents.
Your bioligical parents know you more than every other person. There is the wisdom and knowledge your parents have that you do not so it is proper to listen to them before choosing carriers both in academics and job. A young man or woman can choose who to get married to, but a greater role in the choice of who to marry and the marriage proper comes from the parents.
They know what is best for you. No matter how modern trends will influence you and prove it wrong, parent is the key. No one can love you more than your parents because they are your blood.
A lot of parents have been traumatised due to the fact that children they nurtured and trained turned their back on them at older age. Children should not abandon their parents for any reason.
As you grow up, situations may arise in marriage when you decide it is over with your spouse, but no matter the level of provocation with your parents, they will not despise you. Parents will also play a role in that regard. Problem arises in every family but how it is handled matters a lot.
Some children honour their mentors more than their parents. Although there are parents who shy away from their responsibilities. It is important that parents take full responsibility of their children. You cannot bring a child to the planet earth and refuse to perform roles as a parent. But parents may not quantify what they spent from childhood to adolescence. That is a blessing children cannot get from another person.
There are people who have attributed their failure in life to the fact that their parents, especially mothers are witchcraft. It is wrong to feel that your mother is instrumental to your failure in life. The only way to success is hardwork.
Let money not determine the level of love for your parents. Wherever a child goes, family is constant.

Eunice Choko-Kayode

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