Yar’Adua: Nothing To Hide About Sickness And Death – Abbah Ibrahim
With President Umaru Musa Yar’Adua still held-up at the presidential Villa with no access to him as he continues to recuperate, Nigerians continue to view with grave concern their inability to see their president. Reflecting on the mood of the nation, a Senator Dr. Abbah-Ibrahim berated the much- talked-about “kitchen cabinet” of the president and spoke on related issues in this interview with our Abuja Bureau Chief, Justus Awaji.
Since Mr. President’s arrival in the country, no body has claim to have seen him and this is creating some elements of turmoil in the country. What is your reaction?
Well, thank you very much for this question. As you rightly said, we’ve been told Mr. President has arrived in the country though we haven’t seen him; I haven’t met a single Nigerian who has met him since his arrival but be that as it may, we’re told he has arrived. You should also know that there’s an official release from the office of Mr. President that the Acting president should continue to act until he is in a position to resume and take over his job and continue, so, in as much as he has not done that, the acting president continues to act until such a time – even though there have been some controversies as to whether the statement in fact referred to the Acting President as Vice President and so on and so forth. I don’t think this is really important, what is important is that NASS has taken a position –it asked Dr. Jonathan, to act as the President until the president returns to the country and formally writes to us that he is back and ready to resume and do his job – he has to do that in writing to the NASS before he can take over, before the Vice President will stop acting as President.
I don’t really see any indication that he has gotten better. But the statement also said that he is not yet well enough to take over so you maintain the status quo until something happens.
Constitutionally, he is still on sick leave, so far he has spent 3 months. How long will he spend before notifying the NASS that he is…?
(Cuts in) The constitution has not stated any time limit. He can continue on sick leave, …but the fact of the matter is that there is a vacuum – the VP will continue to act as the president with full presidential powers as also commander of the Armed Forces until Mr. President comes back – no matter how long it takes.As far as the current situation regarding the constitution is concerned, there is no time limit of how long he has to act before he takes over. The condition for taking over (is) also categorically stated in the constitution and time is not one of them. But there is also, I know an amendment to the constitution on the same issue so that we don’t run into the same situation even in the future.
This time, not only the President and Vice President are coming up in the amendment but also governors and deputy governors have also been covered by the new amendment proposed by the Senate and passed by the Senate, overwhelmingly recently. I am sure the House of Representatives will also act on the same issue so that the Amendment will be taken to the State Houses of Assembly – as it borders on the office of the governors. We wanted to fast track so that that aspect of the constitution will be amended very, very soon. So that whether President travels or falls sick or whether governor travels or falls sick or for whatever reason that either President or governor cannot perform their duties, there will be no ambiguity again – it’s a clear mandate to take over and act until the incumbent returns or resumes or recovers as the case may be.
I was about taking you up on that. What are your views on sections 144 & 145 of the constitution?
144 deals with permanent incapacitation of President or a governor; 145 deals with temporary incapacitation of a president or governor.
As far as 144 is concerned, I don’t think that it requires an urgent change or urgent amendment but 145 needs amendment that was why we passed the amendment.
In the event where a president or a governor travels, they have to transmit the handover of government in writing to the vice president or deputy governor as the case may be. If he refuses to do that or fails to do that then after 14 days, the vice president and deputy governor automatically, with only a simple majority both from the NASS & State House of Assembly takes over. So that is now categorically clear and can be used as a guideline so that we don’t run into this kind of crises initially not anticipated by the constitution.
The International community is very much interested in the goings – on in Nigeria, in particular, the United States has reacted to the President home – coming. As it were, the US has cautioned the aides of President Yar’Adua not to do anything that will tend to undermine the democracy in Nigeria. How would you react to this?
That’s a good advice, coming especially from the US – anybody for that matter; they shouldn’t do anything that will in anyway put us into further crises; we’ve heard more than enough crises. And we are just about solving these unanticipated problems – the issue of President & Vice President and now the Governors and their Deputy Governors. I think it’s a very good advice and it’s a timely advice. That the constitution has been clear – where constitution is not clear, people should propose amendment to make it clear rather than going about to play games and putting our democracy and our peace in jeopardy as a nation. It’s a very dangerous trouble, constitutional issue, particularly at that level. We must act in ways that will show that we are united – a united country and our national interest is put before any other interest under whatever circumstance.This country is bigger than all of us, bigger than anybody, so its interest should come before anybody else’s interest, any group’s of interest.
It’s worrisome to a cross section of Nigerians that since the arrival of the President, several key officers have not been able to get across to him So, Nigerians out there are saying this is not good for our nation and our image internationally. Do you agree?
Well, first of all, I am not of the PDP, I am of ANPP. I only come in because it’s a burning National issue, I only come to assist the PDP to solve their local problem – this is really not my problem, it’s not a national problem. It’s a local problem but they’ve messed up, like they’ve messed up so many other things – it’s the proper failure of leadership of the PDP at all levels .
Be that as it may, since we’ve offered to assist at the Senate level, we’ll also assist in all levels. What you are saying is very right – it’s worrisome that the President who has returned from whatever trip anywhere in the world could not be seen by those that are supposed to see him when he arrived, we were expecting to see him, at least have a glimpse of him on the screen or in some newspaper. Rather, we’re only shown aircraft and ambulances and soldiers with guns and nothing else, – there was nothing we saw. That’s very, very strange and very, very worrisome – not only to Nigerians but to the people all over the world because I’ve seen CNN, BBC world – all carrying the same news and sharing their worry about the condition.I don’t think there should be so much secrecy about the president. Even if he is in a bad shape, what can I do, what can you do, what can they or anybody do? Life is in the hands of God! Not in the hands of our wives or our sisters or our brothers or whatever and the President is a public figure; he’s a public property, you can’t keep him from the people. We can only pray for him, there is nothing else we can do – we can’t do anything to make his condition worse. Rather if there is anything we can do to make his condition better, it is to pray for him; wishing him quick recovery, by wishing him well. I hope those managing the situation of the President should do a better job – they’ve really been messing up. They haven’t done anything right. Right from the word ‘go’, this President, I know would not be the president that will refuse to give Jonathan a letter to act in his absence, somebody must have stopped it or somebody must have stopped him. Somebody must have put some funny ideas into the heads of those who are very, very close to him. This president, I know will in no way hide his condition from the people – there is nothing you can hide about sickness and death. Nobody can change anything except God! God only listens to prayers, not lamentations, so we hope that they’ll really manage his case better.
Ways To Maintain Healthy Circle Around You
The surprising thing is that all it takes to enhance your relationship with friends and neighbours is respect for their feelings, concern for their property and a helping hand when it’s needed.
Modern life is a lot less conducive to friendships and neighbourliness than it used to be. The average American moves every five years. People drive straight into their garages, hire lawn services, hang out in their backyards instead of their front porches. These days, neighbours don’t even know each other’s names.
Good neighbours and good friends are a lot alike electricity or running water: We don’t know how much we depend on them until we don’t have them. They make our lives more pleasant and give us sense of who we are, both as an individual and as a member of the community. In fact, the authors of a recent book, Refrigerator Rights, claim that refrigerators are gauges of intimate relationships; after all, you wouldn’t snatch a drumstick from the refrigerator of a stranger.
The surprising thing is that all it takes to enhance your relationship with friends and neighbours is respect for their feelings, concern for their property, and a helping hand when it’s needed. Here’s how to nurture your relationships with two types of vitally important people in your life.
Strikes up a conversation over the fence or on the sidewalk.
It’s okay to be the one to break the ice, even if you’ve lived next door for years. Most neighbours enjoy making small talk with the folks on the other side of the fence. So as you see them at work, in their yards or at play in their pool, smile, wave, and say hello. Ask how their kids are, (whether they’re toddlers or in college), whether they could use an extra zucchini from your garden, or what they think of the prices at the local supermarket.
Extend yourself to the new family down the block.
These days, the old Welcome Wagon is a thing of the past. But your new neighbours may be feeling lonely and unsure, especially if they’re far from home, and might appreciate a friendly face bearing fresh baked brownies. If they have kids, tell them where the children in the neighbourhood live. Clue them in to the best places to eat and shop. Invite them over for coffee when they get settled, give them your number and point to your house as you say goodbye.
Be considerate, especially of elderly neighbours.
Return anything that you borrow from a neighbour, such as tools, in good repair and as soon as you’re finished with them. Replace anything that belongs to your neigbour that you, your children, or your pets break or soil. If your neighbour hasn’t brought in his garbage cans yet, roll them back into his yard. Random acts of consideration will have your neighbours talking and the talk will be good.
Invite your neighbours to your next bash or throw one in their honour.
What better way to meet your neighbours than to invite them to an informal barbecue, pool party, or holiday open house.
Better yet, you might even consider throwing a get-to-gether just for them. Deliver the invitations in person to everyone who lives on your street and chat with each for five minutes before moving on to the next house. This way, you will get an idea of what your neighbours are like so that you can plan for appropriate food and music. Be a better friend.
On your computer, at home or at work, make “call friends” a standing appointment. Don’t have a computer? Keep a post it note on the phone, the bathroom mirror, the car dashboard, anywhere you’re likely to see it. Also make sure your friends’ phone numbers are programmed into your cell phone. Then call that friend when you’re stuck in traffic or waiting in line and chat for 10 minutes. Alternatively, schedule a standing once-a-month lunch, same time, same place.
Make time for friendships. Nothing makes closeness fade away than never talking with or seeing each other. While some bonds or friendships may be strong enough to span long silences, most aren’t. If you cherish a person’s friendship, make time for him or her, whether it’s just the occasional phone call or a weekly get-together.
Remember: a true friend doesn’t flee when changes occur. Nothing is sadder for new parents than to find that their single friends have abandoned them because of the baby. The sign of a good friend is one who stays true through it all, marriage, parenthood, new jobs, new homes, the losses. Just because situations change doesn’t mean the person has.
Make sure you aren’t being a burden to a friend.
Friendships fade away if there isn’t equilibrium between the give and the take. Be sensitive to how much your friend can and can’t offer you, be it time, energy, or help, and don’t step over the line and vice versa. Friendships that drain you will not last. If a friendship is out of balance in this way, you’ll need to talk the situation through.
Sweat the small stuff. Yes, there are times when it doesn’t pay to sweat the details, but in a friendship, it’s the little things that count. Notice her new hair-cut. Remember to ask about her mother’s surgery or her daughter’s new baby. And if you’re truly a good friend, you’ll know when she needs some cheering up, a simple arrangement of flowers if you can afford it, a simple card or e-mail if you can’t, it really is the thought that counts.
Be a good listener. It can be the hardest thing in the world to do, to simply listen as he or she pours it all out or is seeking your advice or opinion. To be a better listener, follow this advice:
Maintain eye contact. Offer nods and murmurs that indicate you understand her point of view.
Don’t finish your friend’s sentences. If you catch yourself planning your response while your friend is still talking, gently remind yourself to focus on him.
Minimize distracting, don’t type, open mail, or watch television while you’re on the phone with your friend. Your friend will undoubtedly hear your dis-interest in your responses.
Be careful with advice.
Assume your friend wants vent, not necessarily ask for a plan of action.
Be in her corner if she’s not there to defend herself.
If you’re at a gathering at which someone mentions your friend disparagingly, defend her against gossip or criticism. Say, “Mary is my friend, and it makes me feel bad to hear you talk this way.” Sooner or later, news of your loyalty will travel back to her and it will deepen your friendship.
Culled from Stealth Health.
Ten Mistakes Women Make With Men
Mothers must remember to praise those family members who are consistently helping out. Husbands and children love to hear that their contributions are making a difference.
A client asked me recently, “What do you believe are the most common reasons that mothers are overwhelmed?” I thought about this great question and decided to share with you my response. I’m giving you my top three here. Enjoy!
Mothers are overwhelmed and over scheduled due to the variety of extra-curricular activities that they find themselves in this time of the school year as well as the regular obligations of work, home and volunteer commitments. Today, mothers are no longer multi tasking but instead mega tasking.
If we follow the pattern backwards, it often points directly to the fact that moms never learn how to stop the “Mom-Me” rollercoaster. Here are some common mistakes made by mothers and another course of action they could be taking.
1. Mothers accept unrealistic workloads and allow guilt to drive them to create schedules that don’t work. They fail to delegate family chores effectively and find themselves exhausted by trying to do it all, and then blame themselves when it doesn’t work out.
Action: Mothers need to learn to delegate properly. The reason for delegating work is to get the family to help with. the needs of the family. Delegated projects should always be appropriate to the ability of the child to whom it is given. If the mom is washing dishes after dinner, she has to learn to ask her spouse for help with other nighttime tasks such as bath, bed time or planning for the next day.
2. Mothers fail to create a family culture of support. Children often have chores and have no idea of the value their task has on family living. As a result, family members don’t come to understand that everyone has a vital role of supporting the family this community.
Action: Mothers need to make sure that children understand not only what they are doing but why they are doing it. This builds the esteem of children and teaches them the importance of accountability. Parents need to explain to their children that active families members to lighten the responsibilities to make time for these extra-curicular responsibilities. Often children have no idea of the cost of baseball practice on the family’s schedule.
3. Mothers can be very picky, and rigid in family ex-open to having things approached differently if they want help from the family. The process of involving the family meeting to discuss weekly task and allowing each family member to share their best alternatives for helping. Mothers must remember to praise those family members who are consistently helping out. Husbands and children love to hear that their contributions are making a difference. In a nutshell, the happiest mothers are those who learn how to articulate their needs clearly, get help when needed and set realistic boundaries of what they can and can not do. As a “coached mom,” the “mother” has a deep understanding of the five essential strategies for personal self care and these replace the old methods of “Mommy Martyrdom”.
The Essential Strategies for a mother’s Self-Care, discuss the following five tenets of self-Care for moms. They are:
Creating a personal schedule that honors the mother’s values, allowing the mother to set realistic boundaries and allow her to fully enjoy what he commits too.
In order for a mother to truly help someone else she must begin by helping herself in order to truly be a wonderful contributor, you must help your self first. Mothers who commit to a reduced life load find that they get more enjoy-ment out of life.
Motherhood does not completely define us but enhances what already is. This involves understanding that while mothers create the lives of our children they must remember that it is their life too. When mothers establish viable supportive networks to assist them they recognize that they become stronger at parenting.
Anytime a mother wants make a change in your life she must begin by raising her standards. She has to decide that she wants more out of her life. Next, a mother must understand she must change what she believes is possible and be willing to try new strategies. She must be open to learning from non-judgmental sources like “mom-coaches” about techniques, solutions and real strategies on creating ways to incorporate what she wants into her life.
This strategy is aimed at helping mothers make shifts in their lives that leave them changed for the better. Personal growth is recognizing that mothers have the capacity to be more of who they are .
. In short, mothers have to find time for the “Me” in Mom and learn the Five Essential Strategies for a Mother’s Self-care.
Internal Causes Of Stress
Not all stress is caused by external pressures and demands. Your stress also be self-generated. Internal causes of stress include: uncertainty or worries, pessimistic attitude, self criticism, unrealistic expectations or belief, perfectionism, low self-esteem, excessive or unexpressed anger, lack of assertiveness.
Risk factors for stress
The presence of a stressor does not automatically result in disabling stress symptoms. The degree to which any stressful situation or event impacts your daily functioning depends partly on the nature of the stressor itself and partly on your own personal and external resources.
Stress : How vulnerable are you?
The nature of the stressors Stressors that involve central aspects of your life (your marriage, your job) or chronic issues (a physical handicap, living from pay cheque to pay cheque are more likely to cause severe distress.
A crisis experience
Sudden intense crisis situations (being raped, robbed at gunpoint, or attacked by a dog) are understandably over-whelming. Without immediate intervention and treatment, debilitating stress symptoms are common.
Multiple stressors or life changes stressors are cumulative, so the more life changes or daily hassles you’re dealing with at any one time, the more intense the symptoms of stress.
Your perception of the stressor
The same stressor can have very different effects on different people. For example, public speaking stresses many out, but others thrive on it. Additionally, if you’re able to see some benefit to the situation the silver lining or a hard lesson lesson learned-the stressor is easier to swallow.
Your knowledge and preparation
The more you know about a stressful situation, including how long it will last and what to expect, the better able you’ll be to face it. For example, if you go into surgery with a realistic picture of what to expect post-up, a painful recovery will be less traumatic than if you were expecting to bounce back immediately.
Your stress tolerance
Some people roll with the punches, while others crumble at the slightest obstacle or frustration. The more confidence you have in yourself and your ability to persevere, the better able you’ll be to take a stressful situation in stride.
Your support network
As strong network of supportive friends and family members is an enormous buffer against life’s stressors. But the more lonely or isolated you are, the higher your risk to of stress.
Effects of chronic stress
Chronic stress wears you down day after day and year after year, with no visible escape. Under sustained or severe stress, even the most well-adjusted person loses the ability to adapt. When stress overwhelms our coping resources, our bodies and minds suffer.
Recent research suggests that anywhere from 60 to 90 per cent of illness is stress-related. The physical wear and tear of stress includes damage to the cardiovascular system and immune system suppression. Stress compromises your ability to fight off disease and infection, throws your digestive system off balance, makes it difficult to conceive a baby, and can even stunt growth in children.
Stress and your health
Many medical conditions are caused or exacerbated by stress, including:
Chronic pain, migraines, ulcers, heartburn, high blood pressure, heart disease, diabetes, asthma, PMS, obesity, infertility, autoimmune, disease, irritable bowel syndrome, skin problems and emotional effects.
Chronic stress grinds away at your mental health, causing emotional damage in addition to physical ailments. Long-term stress can even rewire the brain, leaving you more vulnerable to everyday pressures and less able to cope. Over time, stress can lead to mental health problems such as anxiety depression eating disorders, and substance abuse.
Severe stress and trauma
Severe stress reactions can result from sudden, catastrophic events or traumatic experiences such as a natural disaster, sexual assault, life threatening accident, or participation in combat. After the initial shock and emotional fallout, many trauma victims gradually begin to recover from its effects. But for some people, the stress symptoms don’t go away, the body doesn’t regain its equilibrium, and life doesn’t return to normal. This severe and persisting reaction to trauma is known as post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD).
Common symptoms of PTSD include:
Flashbacks, intrusive thoughts, nightmare about the trauma, avoidance of places and things associated with the trauma, hypervigilance for signs of danger, chronic irritability and tension, depression. PTSD is a serious disorder that requires professional intervention.
For more information on traumatic experience and how to recover, see Emotional and Psychological Trauma and Posttrumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD).
Managing stress and its symptoms
While unchecked stress is undeniably damaging, there are many things you can do to control it and reduce its effects.
Coping with stress
Following a few simple stress management tips can help you minimize stressors in your life, deal with your stress symptoms in a healthy way, and buffer yourself from its negative effects.
Relaxation techniques for stress relief
Not all stress can be avoided; but when it hits, relaxation techniques such as mediation, deep breathing, and yoga can provide relief.
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