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Love: All We Need For A Better Relationship

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Looking at the word love, does it make  significant impact in a man’s life? Could you believe that love is a channel through which our relationship with God revolves? Well, the impact of love could be traced from the creation of man in the garden of Edem.

Love as a concept, has created a very big impact in the life of man since the origin of the world. According to Oxford – Advanced Learners Dictionary, “Love is a strong feeling of deep affection for somebody.”

It could be the one a mother has for her children, or love of one’s country. Several affections or passions could also be described as love, eg, a love song/story.

Do you think there are communities, countries, homes, that are experiencing peace without the existence of love therein? Love brings peace and nothing works without love.

Getting physical attraction would be the only possible relationship.

Remember the grace and power that is keeping our nation (Nigeria) today is the love God has for us.

Some see love as a state of confusion and disorder, but the reverse is the case. Love is an overwhelming feeling.

When you love some one you know, denying the fact won’t help and surprising love wouldn’t work either. We don’t love by surprise, if you love someone, make it open and express your love in the scripture, God had love for us and it was made open. He (God) expressed his love for us.

In the same vein, you don’t hide love because if you feel love for someone, it will be recognised by another person or yourself who had the feeling so. Love doesn’t hide no matter how you do it. It must be revealed consciously or unconsciously.

Love is everywhere, yet no where, this is because we know what is love but refused to follow its meaning.

But the possibilities of love remain endless, love is simplistic, chaotic, and at the same time shared.

Love knows all works of life, and it consumes and saves life at the same time.

Wherever life is, love is involved. According to an article once published by Topnews titled: “. Today’s Woman”, most people especially women believed that, “love is the proof that a woman meeds to have some assurance that the man will stick around her and help her with the upbringing of her off springs.

You can see that this is talking about sexual benefit and commitment. But also remember that love has to do with your total commitment towards the betterment of your brothers, sisters, relations, country, state and well wishers.

We are talking about the love Joseph had for his brothers, even after the betrayal. Cain killed his brother because there was no love in his heart. Gen. 4:8 proved that it was love that pushed Adam to eat the forbidden fruit given to him by his wife, Eve in the garden.

What else can we say about love?

As a reader of this piece, take a second to think about how your life would have been if love was non-existent?

No family member saying “I love you”. A wife or husband, boy friend or girl friends, all

Friends are only acquaintance, none of which ever repeats those three words. Think about letters, cards or any gift items always saying anything except for “love”.

When you have taken the time to think about the question through, I encourage you, reading this piece now, to tell your loved ones, “I love you”.

As a matter of fact, this word “Love” is not for a particular set of people, it is not selective. Not for the rich. Not for the poor. It is a general word that should be emulated from Christ who died for our sin, and whose blood was shed on the cross.

There should be love to ensure unity and mutual understandin g between parents and children, Pastors and Church members, leaders and followers, teachers and students. Even in the market, between sellers and buyers, let there be love. I believe that “love is the key to prosperity. The word “love” should be put in practice. Even among our youths, let there be love because it is said that “youth are tomorrow’s leaders. So how can we achieve effective leadership without love that will promote peace and unity among the rulers and the ruled.

Personally, love is all about being your brothers keeper and eliminating anything that will bring discrimination between you and your loved ones.

 

Elijah Jerry Dike

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Women’s Role In Curbing Child Abuse

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The role of women incurbing child abuse can never be over-emphasised.  Mothers are the ones who nurture and groom their offsprings and wards whether biological children or adopted.
It is necessary that any child who falls under the supervision of a mother, must be accounted for by that woman.
Shaping the life of a child depends so much on the mother even if certain percentage of care is being expected from a father.  The mother starts nurturing a child from age zero till the adolescent stage.  She should always do a follow-up at every stage of development of every child in her care.
Within the period of this growth, if there are negative tendencies exhibited by the child, the mother should be able to identify before the child goes to school. This is because the child starts learning from the home.
When you talk about child abuse, it starts from the home and the way every child is treated matters a lot.
The menace called child abuse is something that every hand must be on deck to ensure it is eradicated in the society. The major agent of eradication is the mother.
There are various forms of child abuse.  You may discover that at every form of the menace, the woman is involved and should be held responsible for it is consequences.
Of course, it is clear that child abuse does not have any positive impact on the society except the perpetrators of the act. It favours the perpetrators alone. Some persons derive joy in seeing either their own child or another’s child being denied equal rights and accomplishing goals that will help them in future.
According to UNICEF in 1989, child abuse is the portion of harm to children that results from human action or inaction  that is proscribed, proximate and preventable.
The African Network for the Prevention or Protection against Child Abuse or Neglect (ANPPCAN) looked at child abuse as the intentional, unintentional or well-intentional act, which endangers the physical, health, emotional, moral and the educational welfare of the child.
Broadly, it means maltreatment of a child: any form of action that brings about physical, mental, psychological and social torture to the child.
When you talk about child labour, which includes buying and selling most times, a woman will intentionally send the child out for hawking with the aim of making money. A situation where a woman’s children will be in school and she finds pleasure in sending a house help out portends danger to that child.
A woman should not send an adopted child out to the neighbourhood alone to fetch water when her own children are idle because her role is to protect every child in her care whether biological or not.
When you talk about child trafficking, apart from when children are in school, the mother should be aware of the location of the child at every time. Monitoring the children should be the watchword of every committed mother. When a woman is careless about the whereabouts of the child, that child can be picked up from any location without her knowledge.
A woman should not express anger on anything the child does at home.   A child/ward can be corrected for wrong doing without being battered.  It has been discovered in some homes that child battering has led to death or deformity of some children. A mother should know the kind of punishment a child deserves for correction.
Some women neglect their children by sending them to others for lack of basic needs.  Every responsible woman should be able to have the number of children she can cater for.  While the child is in another woman’s house, no one knows how many meals he or she takes per day.
Sending a child out for hawking especially a female, signals danger to the girl.  That is a simple way of exposing her to sexual abuse.  Some irresponsible persons under the pretence of buying something from her, can lure her into unnecessary sexual abuse.  The danger in this is that it can lead to unwanted pregnancy,  contraction of STDs and HIV/AIDS.
Most rape cases that have been recorded are as a result of sending a girl out to hawk.
There is no harm in asking children to assist in selling, so as to make up in the home, but if they are to sell in a kiosk no matter how little it may be, a mother can monitor the children there.
A mother should know that giving a child under the age of 18 out for marriage is an abuse. Women must nurture the children to maturity before sending them out because the dangers of underage marriage are devastating. When an underage girl is given out for any reason for marriage, do not forget that consequences that arise from that will still fall back to the mother.
A mother should not send her child or ward out for prostitution in order to make money.
Parents and guardians, especially mothers should be more educated and more awareness should be created on why they should pay more attention to their children and wards.
As the world marks child abuse day annually, it should be a reminder for women to show more care to their wards so that the abuse  can be eradicated in the society.

By: Eunice Choko-Kayode

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Build Your Homes, Banigo Urges Women

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Rivers State Deputy Governor, Dr Ipalibo Harry Banigo has urged women to build their homes with wisdom to ensure they do not collapse.
Banigo stated this while speaking as the guest preacher during the 2022 Ladies Conference at the Redeemed Christian Church of God (RCCG) Regional Headquarters Parish (Chapel of Blessings), No 38, Old GRA Extension, Eastern Bypass, in Port Harcourt, yesterday.
Banigo said, women, need to ask God for the wisdom that would carry them through.
“You need the wisdom to run your homes and grow our children, the whole world is waiting for the manifestation of the sons of God, there is a lot of groaning, in our nation, and in our communities, there is groaning, the Lord is waiting upon you. God is set to do something new in Rivers State and Nigeria”.
Banigo, who spoke on the theme: “Every Increasing Christian Woman” drawn, from Luke Chapter 2: 52, insisted that the word of God was key, in our increase, adding that we must grow in the word of God, spend time on the word, meditate on the word and chew the word.
“If you are a Christian, you must sleep on his word and let the word grow in you, through prayers and fasting, we must increase in our prayer life, and we also need to increase in favour, to increase in favour we need to emulate what Jesus Christ did. He was humble, humility must be our watchword, and you have to be simple and humble to attract God’s favour into your life”,Banigo stressed.
The deputy governor, who said Our Lord Jesus Christ was diligent at all times, said “we must be diligent in teaching our children and leading them in the way of the Lord”, stressing that “if we want increase in God’s favour, we must live a holy life.
“There are no two ways, about it, the Bible says those that are the sons of God, are led by the Spirit of God and the Spirit of God cannot dwell in a vessel that is contaminated. We must also increase in faith and in giving.
“Giving takes us from Glory to Glory, and we must realise that faith without works is dead, it is not about, I have faith, show me works in the Lord, show me your works in righteousness, and giving, giving of our time and resources is key, because Jesus said it is more blessed to give than to receive”, the deputy governor further stressed.
She also said we must teach our children as fathers and mothers to give and teach our youths that, it is more blessed to give than to receive, so the rent-seeking attitude that occupied the spirit of our youths in Rivers State must end.
“They must realize that God put them together and gave them a great destiny to fulfil and that there is something that they can offer to society. When you find favour with God then he will take care of favour with man. Stop running around seeking favour with men. He speaks for you when you are not there; take time to find favour with God rather than men, as the Bible says when a man’s ways please God even his enemies will work for him, as we grow in age we, must grow in wisdom and knowledge”, Banigo said.
Earlier, the wife of the Regional Pastor of RCCG, Region 5, Mrs Modupe Adesoji, said the programme, which started last week Thursday, featured free medical, outreaches, and float rallies to sensitize the citizenry, as well as aerobics to keep the women physically, mentally and spiritually fit, as well as a dinner for couples.
Highlights of the programme include various musical ministrations and special thanksgiving by the women as well as the fathers to mark Father’s Day.

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Child Abuse: Women’s Role In Curbing The Menace 

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The role of women in curbing child abuse can never be over-emphasised.  Mothers are the ones who nurture and groom their offsprings and wards whether biological children or adopted.
It is necessary that any child who falls under the supervision of a mother, must be accounted for by that woman.
Shaping the life of a child depends so much on the mother even if certain percentage of care is being expected from a father.  The mother starts nurturing a child from age zero till the adolescent stage.  She should always do a follow-up at every stage of development of every child in her care.
Within the period of this growth, if there are negative tendencies exhibited by the child, the mother should be able to identify before the child goes to school. This is because the child starts learning from the home.
When you talk about child abuse, it starts from the home and the way every child is treated matters a lot.
The menace called child abuse is something that every hands must be on deck to ensure it’s eradicated in the society. The major agent of eradication is the mother.
There are various forms of child abuse.  You. You may discover that at every form of the menace,b the woman is involved and should be held responsible for it’s consequences.
Of course, it is clear that child abuse does not have any positive impact on the society except the perpetrators of the act.  Some persons derive joy in seeing either their own child or another’s child being denied their rights and accomplishing their own goals.
According to UNICEF in 1989, child abuse is the portion of harm to children that result from human action or inaction  that is proscribed, proximate and preventable.
The African Network for the Prevention or Protection against Child Abuse or Neglect (ANPPCAN), looked at child abuse as the intentional, unintentional or well-intentional act, which endangers the physical, health, emotional, moral and the educational welfare of the child.
Broadly, it means maltreatment of a child. Any form of action that brings about physical, mental, psychological and social torture to the child.
When you talk about child labour, which includes buying and selling most times, a woman will intentionally send the out for hawking with the aim of making money. A situation where a woman’s children will be in school and she finds pleasure in sending a house help out potends danger to that child.
A woman shouldn’t send an adopted child out to the neighbourhood alone to fetch water when her own children are idle because her role is to protect every child in her care whether biological or not.
When you talk about child trafficking, apart from when children are in school, the mother should be aware of the location of the child at every time. Monitoring the children should be the watchword if every committed mother. When a woman is careless about the whereabout of the child, that child can be picked up from any location without her knowledge.
A woman shouldn’t express anger on anything the child does at home.   A child/ward can be corrected for wrong doing without being battered.  It has been discovered in some homes that child battering has led to death or deformity of some children. A mother should know the kind of punishment a child deserves for correction.
Some women neglect their children by sending them to others for lack of basic needs.  Every responsible woman should be able to have the number of children she can cater for.  While the child is in another woman’s house, no one knows how many meals he or she takes in a day.
Sending a child out for hawking especially a female, signals danger to the girl.  That is a simple way of exposing her to sexual abuse.  Some irresponsible persons with the pretence of buying something from her can lure her into unnecessary sexual abuse.  The danger in this is that it can lead to unwanted pregnancy,  contraction of STDs and HIV/AIDS.
Most rape cases that have been recorded are as a result of sending a girl out to hawk.
There is no harm in asking children to assist in selling so as to make up in the home, but if they are to sell in a qiorks no matter how little it may be, a mother can monitor the children there.
A mother should know that giving a child under the age of 18 out for marriage is an abuse. Women must nurture the children to maturity before sending them out because the dangers of underage marriage are devastating. When an underage girl is given out for any reason for marriage, don’t forget that any consequences that arise from that will still fall back to the mother.
A mother shouldn’t send her child or ward out for prostitution in order to make money.
Parents and guardians, especially mothers should be more educated and more awareness created on why they should pay more attention to their children and wards.
As the world marks child abuse day, it should be a reminder for women to show more care to their wards so that it  can be eradicated in the society.

By: Eunice Choko-Kayode

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