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Relationship: What Brings About Relationship?

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Relationship could occur in different ways, depending on the circumstance  both parties met themselves. I believe every relationship has exiting memory on how it started.
Relationship can start when you frequently see someone at work place, where you go to eat or at home.  Michael lives in a compound, his neighbor who happens to be a married man, lives with his wife, kids and his wife’s younger sister. Every morning when Michael dresses up and ready for work, he sees this beautiful girl taking her sister’s children to school. Repeatedly, Michael refused to get his eyes off the girl. The girl would look at him, greet him and both of them would smile at each other. One day, he made up his mind to talk to the girl and asked her out on a date. On that faithful morning as the girl came out of the house, he walked up to her, they talked. He asked for her phone number which she gave. He fixed a date for both of them to sit and talk. The girl accepted the date. This was how Michael’s relationship started with his neighbor’s sister-in-law and they’ve been together for over eight months. Frequently seeing someone on daily basis can make Relationship happen.
At first, there might be this initial phobia, when you see someone you truly like, if you don’t put this fear aside and take that bold step to initiate a conversation with that person, then relationship can’t happen.
By being regularly available to someone, a relationship can also be ignited. Some people are just close to each other, always available when the other person needs their attention. They go to the movies, gym, and they also hang out together. They do almost everything together but they are not in a relationship. Being around someone all the time can actually trigger emotions between two people. I happened to meet a girl named Judith, she said her present relationship with her spouse started as just casual friends for about three years, she’s always there any time the guy is about going out. He calls her to accompany him and most times he just invites her over to his house. They watch movies together, sometimes he does ask her to cook and she would cook and they both eat together. They have very long discussions, but still they weren’t dating, just casual friends. When the guy falls sick, she was always there taking care of him. On this faithfully day, just after office hours, she got a call from the guy asking her to come over to his house, as usual. She dressed up and went to his house, prepared dinner and as usual, they both ate and afterwards during their usual discussion, he paused and called her “Judith, with a very unusual tone, she didn’t know what it was all about only for the guy to pop up the request for a relationship having being so fond of each other for so long a time. He wanted something more than just friendship. She said suddenly she felt this cold shivering all over her spine. She answered him, that it’s ok by her. Of course, she had been waiting for this all this while, that is how their relationship started.
You can’t force a relationship to happen, it has its own way of coming into existence. Just always keep an open mind don’t be uptight with anything or anyone.

Chinasa Azodoh

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The Wise Woman

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The wise woman builds her home. Mothers are supposed to live exemplary lives. The roles of mothers in the building of the modern Christian home cannot be overemphasized.
The function of the mother is to help the man build the home. She is a helper. A helper to the husband when the man is not doing well. It is important for the wise woman to assist when the man is not able to meet up with the items needed in the home.
A wise woman needs to reference God first and then the husband. Also the wise woman should respect her husband.
Caring for her own children as well as others is very crucial.
Do not despise children from other mothers. Discipline the child who is going the wrong way.
Ensure family bonding, show love and don’t discriminate. Connection with children is very important, especially the females. Find out who is her friend. Also find out the kind of lives they live. Caution, counsel and guide so that they make good partners.
Teaching children the dos and donts should start from birth. Inculcate the word of God in them so that when they grow, will not depart from it.
From the Scripture, some women influenced their families positively. Virgin Mary influenced the world, she never destroyed herself hence she gave birth to Jesus Christ.
Elizabeth, despite her age, God blessed her as she waited patiently.
A wise should curb favouritism in the family and love children equally. Whether a child is your biological child or not, it is necessary to show love equally. Reprimanding the children should be the function of both man and wife.

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The Desire Of Every Woman In Marriage

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Marriage is beautiful when there is love. Before and after marriage, couples show love to themselves. But you discover that after some years, that same love turn to be something else. A lot of people start going through emotional trauma in the hands of their loved spouses.
There are many things the woman desires to keep the love on as far as marriage is concerned.
Women are blesssed with feminine abilities that can be used for good in husbands lives. With your abilities, you can create a marriage that will last till couples get old.
A woman needs
man that is honest,  trustworthy,  nice,  loving and financially stable.
There are no two ways about finance in marriage. No matter the level of love, if there is no reasonable finance,  it is always difficult to manage the home.
Referring to the Biblical belief in Genesis 3: “Your desire  shall be unto you…….. “
What this means is that whatever the woman desires in life shall be provided as far as she performs her role in her home. There are many things  the woman expects her husband to take care of.
A woman wants a husband that is not lazy,  at least helping to do one or two things when he is at home.
A man that is educated and intelligent so that they will transfer such traits to their children.
Knowing that there are traits that her husband has,  traits of taking care of people,  giving freely to people and caring for her family. She expects him to exhibit them.
A woman wants to love a husband that has family interest at heart. A man that spends time with his family,  remembering his family even as he is away from home.
No matter where he finds himself, he is not destracted by external influence. He returns home to his loved ones.
A woman should not antagonise her husband because of one error or the other. No matter the level of offence he may have committed, you still show some love.
According to the Scripture, it is with wisdom that a woman builds her home. As far as he rreturns home, you accept him as your own.
It is not as if the woman will not monitor her husband, but to certain limit.  Don’t be a monitoring spirit.  Don’t allow anything to take your joy.
Don’t loose trust in your husband. The idea of checking your husband’s phone should be discouraged. The more you check your husband and his phone, the more you loose your joy.
You can show some form of jealousy, but to an extent. Cooperation, respect and being honoured from time to time is what the woman desires.
The home should not be a battle ground for a woman and man.  A woman should be able to ask herself if the check on her husband will pay her any good.
Draw a line to a point where you checkmate your husband’s activities.
A woman wants a man that will love her and telling her you love her will be all she desires.

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The Desire Of Every Woman In Marriage

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A woman needs a man that is honest,  trustworthy,  nice,  loving and financially stable.
There are no two ways about finance in marriage. No matter the level of love, If there is no money,  it is always difficult.


Referring to the Biblical belief in Genesis 3:Your desire  shall be unto you……..
That is one aspect  the woman expects her husband to take care of.
A woman wants a husband that is not lazy,  at least helping to do one or two things.   A man that is educated and intelligent.
She knows that there is a trait that her husband has.  Traits of taking care of people,  giving freely to people and caring for her family.
A woman wants to love a husband that has family interest at heart. A man that spends time with his family,  remembering his family even as he is away from home.
A woman should not antagonise her husband because of one error or the other. No matter the level of offence he may have committed, you still show some love.


According to the Scripture, it is with wisdom that the women builds her home.
It is not as if the woman will not monitor her husband, but to certain limit.  Don’t be a monitoring spirit.  Don’t allow anything to take your joy.
Don’t loose trust in your husband.
The idea of checking your husband’s phone should be discouraged. The more you check your husband and his phone, the more you loose your joy.


The home should not be a battle ground for a woman and man.  A woman should be able to ask herself if the check on her husband will pay her any good.
Draw a line to a point where you checkmate your husband’s activities.
A woman wants a man that will love her and telling her you love her will be all she desires.

Eunice Choko-Kayode

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