Women

The Virtues Of A Submissive Woman

Published

8 years ago

September 9, 2016

No Christian home can
receive any blessing from God without prior obedience and submission to His will. Same is marital relationship. In terms of marriage, Collins Dictionary defines submission as an act of submitting, an acceptance of another’s power or authority. An acceptance that somebody has defeated you and that you must obey him. It is generally accepted as obedience and humility. It is to put oneself under the control of another, a costly pearl that is the woman’s pride.
Submission is a powerful instrument in a married woman’s home, hence the scriptures instruct, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives-even as sava obeyed Abraham, calling him Lord: whose daughters ye are…”(1Peter 3:1,6); wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands as it is fit in the Lord”(Colossians 3:18). A woman who fails to submit to her husband hardly receives God’s blessings.
There are two issues a wise woman must always address in order to win her husband wholly, which include submission and good food. A dutiful partner who is active in these areas of services receives approval of God and man. Any marital arrangement where these virtues exist makes an ideal home.
The Bible confirms that Sara called Abraham, my Lord, and Sara was willing to accept Abraham’s authority and instructions for her life. No where in the scriptures had she claimed equality and challenged the authority of her spouse. This is true submission. In Ephesians 5:22-24, Pauline epistle was not left out in the submit yourself unto your own husband, as unto the Lord. The submission of an ideal wife her husband sets enviable peace for others like Sara. Emphasis is being laid on these scriptural injunctions in this piece of writing because of their importance for happiness in marriage. A woman that is submissive must be willing to resign her will to her husband’s in all things.
Ignorance of the scriptures and its application has ruined or left many homes in confusion and disintegration today. This principle of complementation is a must for strengthening marital vows. Besides global debates on women equality with men which is purely based on professionalism, an ideal wife should recognise her husband as the head. This is because two captains they say, cannot stir one boat. Organizational chart of family management must have the husband as the chairman, and wife, the vice chairman.
A woman’s submission to her own husband is not contestable or negotiable because it is stubbornness in the heart that betrays this noble virtue in a woman. An arrogant woman cannot equally submit to her own husband, so these diabolical characteristics must be crushed for the smooth running and mutual understanding in the home. The man’s logical trait obviously must resist humiliation from the wife. Any attempt to enforce such trait must meet with revocation and withdrawal of the emotional security of the woman, thereby threatening them very foundation of the marriage.
For any marriage to succeed, there must be respect for psychological differences between men and women. Submission takes a woman further into obedience and humility to her partner while many women feel too big to welcome their spouses on arrival in the home. Common sense can tell us that sheer arrogance prevents a woman from abandoning her discussions outside for the warm embrace of the arrival of her husband. A submissive woman or wife must excuse herself to recognise her husband’s presence and attend to his immediate needs. Unhealthy development and observations such as these lapses can adversely affect interrelationship in the home.
The headship of man is natural and scriptural, so it is non-negotiable. It is inborn in the male. That is why naturally, a girl of ten years can hardly, and not eight years. The body’s rational instinct must resist such orders. There must be discipline and conjugal understanding in the relationship between husband and wife. We must try to avert unnecessary temptations that provoke irrational reactions in our marriages by asking God to help us with the mind of Christ for total victory.
In the divine arrangement, both spouses are responsible to one another with the man as senior partners, so insubordination and unhealthy rivalry must not thrive in the union. The man’s position should not deceive him into ignoring his wife’s advice at her submission to his authority. Rather, a submissive wife must be consulted to contribute in all matters affecting the home. Where consultation fails; the man is inadvertently saying that the wife is not wanted in the home.
Days are gone when women are relegated to the background on crucial matters. The new consciousness has given meaning to womanhood, and credit to their acting capacities as “help meet”. It is constitutionally obligatory on women to know important secrets affecting the home as vice chairman for reference purposes.
The history of submission can be traced to that of Jesus Christ in the garden. He could not mind the cup of sufferings, but yielded to God’s will. Again, submission is the obedience of Jesus’ disciples at the wedding ceremony of Cana of Galilee. According to St. John’s Gospel 2:5, “His mother saith unto the servants, whatsoever he saith unto you, do it.” With this appeal and application, the end product was cooperation and miracle. There can be no miracle in a home where the wife ignores the authority of her husband. What happens there are chaos, bitterness, uncertainties and regrets. Satan becomes the head of the home instead of Christ when the wife does not submit to her husband, and the glory and presence of God is stripped, leaving the partners in nakedness before their enemies.

Shedie Okpara

Women

The Wise Woman

Published

3 hours ago

April 26, 2024

The Tide

The wise woman builds her home. Mothers are supposed to live exemplary lives. The roles of mothers in the building of the modern Christian home cannot be overemphasized.
The function of the mother is to help the man build the home. She is a helper. A helper to the husband when the man is not doing well. It is important for the wise woman to assist when the man is not able to meet up with the items needed in the home.
A wise woman needs to reference God first and then the husband. Also the wise woman should respect her husband.
Caring for her own children as well as others is very crucial.
Do not despise children from other mothers. Discipline the child who is going the wrong way.
Ensure family bonding, show love and don’t discriminate. Connection with children is very important, especially the females. Find out who is her friend. Also find out the kind of lives they live. Caution, counsel and guide so that they make good partners.
Teaching children the dos and donts should start from birth. Inculcate the word of God in them so that when they grow, will not depart from it.
From the Scripture, some women influenced their families positively. Virgin Mary influenced the world, she never destroyed herself hence she gave birth to Jesus Christ.
Elizabeth, despite her age, God blessed her as she waited patiently.
A wise should curb favouritism in the family and love children equally. Whether a child is your biological child or not, it is necessary to show love equally. Reprimanding the children should be the function of both man and wife.

Women

The Desire Of Every Woman In Marriage

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3 hours ago

April 26, 2024

The Tide

Marriage is beautiful when there is love. Before and after marriage, couples show love to themselves. But you discover that after some years, that same love turn to be something else. A lot of people start going through emotional trauma in the hands of their loved spouses.
There are many things the woman desires to keep the love on as far as marriage is concerned.
Women are blesssed with feminine abilities that can be used for good in husbands lives. With your abilities, you can create a marriage that will last till couples get old.
A woman needs
man that is honest, trustworthy, nice, loving and financially stable.
There are no two ways about finance in marriage. No matter the level of love, if there is no reasonable finance, it is always difficult to manage the home.
Referring to the Biblical belief in Genesis 3: “Your desire shall be unto you…….. “
What this means is that whatever the woman desires in life shall be provided as far as she performs her role in her home. There are many things the woman expects her husband to take care of.
A woman wants a husband that is not lazy, at least helping to do one or two things when he is at home.
A man that is educated and intelligent so that they will transfer such traits to their children.
Knowing that there are traits that her husband has, traits of taking care of people, giving freely to people and caring for her family. She expects him to exhibit them.
A woman wants to love a husband that has family interest at heart. A man that spends time with his family, remembering his family even as he is away from home.
No matter where he finds himself, he is not destracted by external influence. He returns home to his loved ones.
A woman should not antagonise her husband because of one error or the other. No matter the level of offence he may have committed, you still show some love.
According to the Scripture, it is with wisdom that a woman builds her home. As far as he rreturns home, you accept him as your own.
It is not as if the woman will not monitor her husband, but to certain limit. Don’t be a monitoring spirit. Don’t allow anything to take your joy.
Don’t loose trust in your husband. The idea of checking your husband’s phone should be discouraged. The more you check your husband and his phone, the more you loose your joy.
You can show some form of jealousy, but to an extent. Cooperation, respect and being honoured from time to time is what the woman desires.
The home should not be a battle ground for a woman and man. A woman should be able to ask herself if the check on her husband will pay her any good.
Draw a line to a point where you checkmate your husband’s activities.
A woman wants a man that will love her and telling her you love her will be all she desires.

Women

The Desire Of Every Woman In Marriage

Published

3 weeks ago

April 5, 2024

The Tide

A woman needs a man that is honest, trustworthy, nice, loving and financially stable.
There are no two ways about finance in marriage. No matter the level of love, If there is no money, it is always difficult.

Referring to the Biblical belief in Genesis 3:Your desire shall be unto you……..
That is one aspect the woman expects her husband to take care of.
A woman wants a husband that is not lazy, at least helping to do one or two things. A man that is educated and intelligent.
She knows that there is a trait that her husband has. Traits of taking care of people, giving freely to people and caring for her family.
A woman wants to love a husband that has family interest at heart. A man that spends time with his family, remembering his family even as he is away from home.
A woman should not antagonise her husband because of one error or the other. No matter the level of offence he may have committed, you still show some love.

According to the Scripture, it is with wisdom that the women builds her home.
It is not as if the woman will not monitor her husband, but to certain limit. Don’t be a monitoring spirit. Don’t allow anything to take your joy.
Don’t loose trust in your husband.
The idea of checking your husband’s phone should be discouraged. The more you check your husband and his phone, the more you loose your joy.

The home should not be a battle ground for a woman and man. A woman should be able to ask herself if the check on her husband will pay her any good.
Draw a line to a point where you checkmate your husband’s activities.
A woman wants a man that will love her and telling her you love her will be all she desires.