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Women Are Scared To Access The Law – Oyaghiri

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Barrister (Mrs) Ukel Oyaghiri

Barrister (Mrs) Ukel Oyaghiri

The first step to
wards achieving a positive result particularly in governance is to ensure that round pegs are put in round holes. That was exactly what Governor Nyesom Wike did by appointing Mrs Ukel Oyaghiri, a renowned lawyer, the Commissioner for Women Affairs, Rivers State.
The 52-year old Barrister, a mother and a devout Christian, is surely well experienced as far as the issues on women and children are concerned, having been into private legal practice for over 11 years where she made gender problems her top priority.
To prove the stuff she is made of, and her quest to better the lots of women in the state, barely few weeks into her appointment in December 2015, she organised a programme on “Women Empowerment and Sustainable Development” which attracted participants from all walks of life and provided a platform for people to learn more about gender related issues and how to tackle them.
In this interview with our Deputy Editor (Features), Calista Ezeaku, Barr Mrs Oyaghiri, an active member of International Federation of Women Lawyers (FIDA), reveals her plans towards ensuring, a better life for Rivers women during her tenure as a commissioner and other issues concerning women.
What are your plans for rivers women?
My plans are in tandem with that of the Rivers State Government and His Excellency, Chief Barr Nyesom Wike, (CON) and has promised a lot for women and I trust that he will carry the women along. He will empower them as much as he can. He has promised never to leave any women behind and that is also my vision as the Commissioner for the Women Affairs, to make sure that no woman is left behind.
What is your take on rape and other violence against women?
I will say straight away that there are laws that have been enacted concerning violence against women and those laws have not been accessed by women because they are always afraid of where to go back to after going to court with somebody from the same community.  They are always scared that the community they will go back to is the same community that they want to go against or that after reporting a man for abusing them, they will still go back to the same man.
There are laws on violence against women already enacted even the ones on rape but women are afraid to access them, because of stigma. But these laws are there to protect them. My advice to women is that they should take up their rights and access these laws.
Harmful widowhood practices and how to curb them?
There are laws against harmful widowhood practices but again women are afraid to access them. Women are the ones who inflict pains on widows like shaving their hair, telling them to cross the corpse of their deceased husbands making them sit on the floor for one week, two weeks. These are harmful widowhood practices that already have laws against them which women refuse to access because of fear of what will happen to them if they do so.
Women in politics?
They should not treat politics as women. They should know that going to the political arena, you have to be a man in your thinking, in your heart. In everything you do, you have to be a man. And so when you get in there don’t think you will be given anything on a platter of gold. Go take it as the men go take it. That’s what you will do. But the handicapped women have most of the time in money. They don’t really have the kind of money many men have.
Women, politics and family affairs?
You have to look at your own terrain and know what works go on there. What goes for one woman does not necessarily go for another. It depends on your terrain.
Are women in politics loose, how true?
That is not true. Women in politics are not way ward women. But in order to keep them away, something has to be told about them to make sure that they don’t come out. Any woman who is called wayward will say, “No I don’t want to be called wayward”, and she will stay back. But when they push further, and behave themselves they will suceed because there is a way you should carry yourself, it’s about carriage. You need to carry yourself well to be seen as not being wayward. That’s my own attitude. Carry yourself well. Don’t carry yourself as if you are just available. You don’t need to be available to be a woman politician.
What to be remembered for by the end of your tenure?
At the end of my tenure as Woman Commissioner, I want to be remembered for making women come out in their numbers, love one another and encourage other women to grow because that is always the problem. When people get up there, they don’t always want to take other people along. When I finish my tenure, I will be remembered for creating a platform where women carefor their the fellow women and carry them along.
That means you intend carrying out a lot of programmes?
Yes. It’s all in line with the vision of the Rivers State government and that vision is to empower women, enlighten them, educate them, carry them along as much as possible. We need to empower them because empowerment brings about confidence and that’s what the Rivers State Government wants to do for women, to empower them and give them the confidence they need.
Final words?
Rivers women should come out and love one another. Love conquers all. We should stop giving excuses and be fulfilled. They say the sky is big enough for everybody that the sky is the limit. But I want to say that for women in Rivers State, the sky is their stepping stone.

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60 -Year – Old Man Commits Suicide After Assaulting Daughter

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A sixty-year-old man (name withheld) has committed suicide after he was caught having sex with his biological daughter of 17 years old.
The incident occurred at Amaigbo in Nwangele Local Government Area of Imo State recently.
Report reaching The Tide, said the man denied when the news was making the rounds that he was having affair with his daughter for some years.
The Tide learnt that after his denial, the community set a close watch on him and set a surveillance on.
The cat was let out of the bag, when after about one week of his denial, he was caught on top of his daughter, having carnal knowledge of her.
According to the report, the members of his community descended on him and gave him thorough beating and stripped him naked and he was taken to the palace of the traditional ruler of the community, where they performed certain rituals to appease the land.
Apparently worried about the stigma and scandal involved, he decided to commit suicide to avoid the embarrassment he might face from the community.
When the sad news reached the wife of the man who was already in the market, out of shame, she decided to abscond.
When contacted on phone, the Imo State Commissioner of Police, Mr. Abutu Yaro said that such report had not reached his table, adding that he would find out later. 

By: Joe Nwachukwu, Owerri

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Women Now Drink As Much As Men

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Research shows women suffer health consequences of alcohol liver disease, heart disease and cancer more quickly than men and even at lower levels of consumption. 
Researchers worry the long-term effects of the Covid-19 pandemic could amplify the rise in alcohol and mental health concerns among young women.
For nearly a century, women have been closing the gender gap in alcohol consumption, binge-drinking and alcohol use disorder. What was previously a 3-1 ratio for risky drinking habits in men versus women is closer to 1-to-1 globally, a 2016 analysis of several studies suggested.
And the latest U.S. data from 2019 shows that women in their teens and early 20s reported drinking and getting drunk at higher rates than their male peers in some cases for the first time since researchers began measuring such behavior.
This trend parallels the rise in mental health concerns among young women, and researchers worry the long-term effects of the Covid-19 pandemic could amplify both patterns.
“It’s not only that we’re seeing women drinking more, but that they’re really being affected by this physically and mental health-wise,” said Dawn Sugarman, a research psychologist at McLean Hospital in Massachusetts who has studied addiction in women.
Research shows women suffer health consequences of alcohol liver disease, heart disease and cancer more quickly than men and even at lower levels .
Perhaps most concerning is that the rising gender equality in alcohol use doesn’t extend to the recognition or treatment of alcohol disorders, Sugarman said. So even as some women drink more, they’re often less likely to get the help they need.
Although the gender gap in alcohol consumption is narrowing among all ages, the reasons differ. For people over 26, women are increasing their alcohol consumption faster than men. Among teens and young adults, however, there’s an overall decline in drinking. The decline is simply slower for women.
That may sound like progress, said Aaron White, a senior scientific adviser at the National Institute on Alcohol Abuse and Alcoholism. But it may indicate larger underlying issues.
“We have a real concern that while there might be fewer people drinking, many of those who are drinking might be doing so specifically to try to cope,” White said. “And that is problematic.”
Research suggests that people who drink to cope as opposed to drinking for pleasure have a higher risk of developing alcohol-use disorder. And while every individual’s reasons for drinking are different, studies have found women are more likely to drink to cope than men.
From Kaiser Health.com.

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Woman Sells Two Daughters For N300,000 In Ogun

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A 35-year-old housewife, Blessing Agoro, has been arrested by men of Ogun State Police Command for allegedly selling her two daughters, Semilore Agoro (four), and Deborah Agoro (two).
The suspect was arrested, following a report lodged at Redeemed Camp Divisional Police Headquarters by her husband, Oluwaseyi Agoro.
The Police Public Relations Officer in the state, DSP Abimbola Oyeyemi disclosed this in a statement, yesterday.
Oyeyemi said the husband reported that when he returned from travelling last Tuesday he couldn’t find his two daughters.
The PPRO said, “The man stated further that all efforts to make his wife tell him the whereabouts of the children proved abortive, hence his report.
“Upon the report, the DPO Redeemed Camp division, CSP Alabi Akinjide, detailed his detectives to apprehend the suspect, who had already been with the camp’s code of conduct department.
“On interrogation, the suspect explained to the police that her husband left home for the past two years, and while he was away, she found it difficult to cater for the two children with her other two children she had for another man.
“She stated further that while she was contemplating on what to do, one Kolawole Imoleayo introduced her to a couple in Port Harcourt who was in need of children. She sold the two daughters to the couple at the rate of N300,000.
“Her confession led to the arrest of the said intermediary, Kolawole Imoleayo. They are both assisting the police in their investigation.”
The Commissioner of Police, Edward Ajogun, has ordered the transfer of the suspects to the Anti-Human Trafficking and Child Labour Unit of the State Criminal Investigation and Intelligence Department (SCID) for discreet investigation.
Oyeyemi added that Ajogun directed that the children must be rescued and brought back to their parents as soon as possible.

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