As you mature however, you begin to use your perspective powers to examine deep issues. For instance you start to realize that the cutest girl in the neighbourhood may not be trust worthy or that the most popular boy in class may not be morally upright. If you’ve past the bloom of youth that is the time of life when sexual desire, first becomes strong. You most likely look beyond the superficial traits to answer the question. Is this person right for me? 1st Corinthians 7:36 says: If any man thinks he behaves improperly towards his virgin, if she has passed the flower of her age and need to require let him do what he will, he sinneth not, let them marry. In the course of time, more than a few members of the opposite sex may catch your eye but not just anyone will do.
You want a life-long mate, some one who will bring on the best in you and for whom you will do the same. Who might the person be? Before you can answer that question, you need to look in the mirror, and honestly evaluate yourself.
James 1: 23-25, I quote: “If any one is a breaker of the word and not a doer, he is likely a man observing his natural face in a mirror, for he observes himself, goes away and immediately forgets what kind of man he was. But he who looks into the perfect law of liberty and continue in it and is not a forgetful bearer but a doer of the word, this one will be blessed in what he does.
Getting to know yourself is no small task. The more you understand yourself, the better equipped you will be to find someone who will amplify your strength rather than your weaknesses. Many who date don’t look beyond the surface, instead they quickly point to the things they have in common.
We like the same music, enjoy the same activities, agree on everything. As mentioned earlier, truly if you have passed the bloom of youth, you will look beyond superficial traits you need to discern the secret person of the heart.
Would you make a good husband? How does he handle any authority he may have? What are his goals? Who are his friends? What is his attitude towards money? What does his manner of dressing indicate? Etc.
For the girl, would she make a good life? How does she show submissiveness in the family and congregation? What does her manner of dressing indicate? Who are her friends? What is her attitude towards money? How does she demonstrate her love for God?
Contributing a masters degree student of FUTO, Owerri, Mr Tonye Jumbo, says it is very wrong for couples to fight because during courtship they are supposed to have studied each other very well.
How is your boyfriend or girl friend viewed by others?
You may want to talk to those who have known the person for sometime such as mature ones around her environment. They will let you know if this person is well reported on. If you later realize that the person you are dating wouldn’t make a suitable marriage partner in that case, it may well be wise to end the relationship.
Look properly before you leap in times you may enter into a new relationship, if so no doubt. You will have an even more balanced outlook, one that has been acquired through experience.
Perhaps at that time, your answer to the question, “Is this person right for me?, will be yes. So be careful as youth.