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Christmas: Beyond The Tables And Fashion

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Christmas; the birth of Jesus Christ, and 25th December, a day set aside to commemorate it, could not have made so much impact on a religiously heterogeneous world like ours but for the ingenuity of those who tactfully chose the date to align with the end of the calendar year.

Hence those who ordinarily would have expressed an indifferent position are rather excited at the thought of having outlived the existing year. The joy of triumphantly stepping into a new year no doubt is worth celebrating.

This therefore accounts for the cluster of activities and the euphoria that the season is greeted with by all and sundry.

The declaration of public holidays across the globe at this period of the year, gives it a global recognition and acceptance and as well makes its celebration more grandiose than it would have ordinarily been with just one day left to herald the birth of Jesus Christ, the atmosphere is already charged up.

The major roads and markets in known towns and cities have once again become so congested with people and vehicular movements, and the rush to meet-up, is unimaginable.

Down the family line it is same congestion of thoughts, opinions and actions, members also want to meet up.

Different associations and professional bodies are not left out in this mad rush of the time, all in the spirit of the Christmas.

Everybody wants to look good, appear adorable and eat heavily at Christmas and this singular desire to remain adorable is the reason for the congestion of actions across the globe. To be able to celebrate Christmas in a grand style, societal vices are increasing male youths are taking to robbery and kidnapping, while the female hawk their bodies for money and wives antagonise their husbands hence promoting nagging in the home what a great deviation from the real? This is nothing short of celebrating for all the wrong reasons. Knowing therefore, what exactly is the reason for the Xmas will no doubt chart a better course on how we go about this “business” called Christmas.

The home front therefore must exploit the opportunity provided by the Xmas to chart a way forward for members.

The coming together of family members to eat at the family table reminds us of the importance of unity and communism in the home, the need to mend told fences and ensure a harmonious relationship which eventually enthrones peace and development even beyond the home level.

The Christmas provides an avenue and opportunity to unwind, after subjecting the body to hard work all through the year.

A little relaxation and recreation, will in no small measure soothe the nerves and bones and prepare them ready for a more active work at the beginning of the new year instead of starting a new year with an already stressed-up-life.

It is for this reason that series of life-reactivating programmes are lined up at this season so that you can participate in one.

Acquaintances, both old and new that would add meaning to your life could also be made at Christmas.

However, Christmas parades more of spiritual connotation than physical. It is just that the later compliments the former and to actually accept and be part of the Xmas is to eschew all forms of vices and embrace morality.

 

Sylvia ThankGod-Amadi

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Women’s Role In Curbing Child Abuse

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The role of women incurbing child abuse can never be over-emphasised.  Mothers are the ones who nurture and groom their offsprings and wards whether biological children or adopted.
It is necessary that any child who falls under the supervision of a mother, must be accounted for by that woman.
Shaping the life of a child depends so much on the mother even if certain percentage of care is being expected from a father.  The mother starts nurturing a child from age zero till the adolescent stage.  She should always do a follow-up at every stage of development of every child in her care.
Within the period of this growth, if there are negative tendencies exhibited by the child, the mother should be able to identify before the child goes to school. This is because the child starts learning from the home.
When you talk about child abuse, it starts from the home and the way every child is treated matters a lot.
The menace called child abuse is something that every hand must be on deck to ensure it is eradicated in the society. The major agent of eradication is the mother.
There are various forms of child abuse.  You may discover that at every form of the menace, the woman is involved and should be held responsible for it is consequences.
Of course, it is clear that child abuse does not have any positive impact on the society except the perpetrators of the act. It favours the perpetrators alone. Some persons derive joy in seeing either their own child or another’s child being denied equal rights and accomplishing goals that will help them in future.
According to UNICEF in 1989, child abuse is the portion of harm to children that results from human action or inaction  that is proscribed, proximate and preventable.
The African Network for the Prevention or Protection against Child Abuse or Neglect (ANPPCAN) looked at child abuse as the intentional, unintentional or well-intentional act, which endangers the physical, health, emotional, moral and the educational welfare of the child.
Broadly, it means maltreatment of a child: any form of action that brings about physical, mental, psychological and social torture to the child.
When you talk about child labour, which includes buying and selling most times, a woman will intentionally send the child out for hawking with the aim of making money. A situation where a woman’s children will be in school and she finds pleasure in sending a house help out portends danger to that child.
A woman should not send an adopted child out to the neighbourhood alone to fetch water when her own children are idle because her role is to protect every child in her care whether biological or not.
When you talk about child trafficking, apart from when children are in school, the mother should be aware of the location of the child at every time. Monitoring the children should be the watchword of every committed mother. When a woman is careless about the whereabouts of the child, that child can be picked up from any location without her knowledge.
A woman should not express anger on anything the child does at home.   A child/ward can be corrected for wrong doing without being battered.  It has been discovered in some homes that child battering has led to death or deformity of some children. A mother should know the kind of punishment a child deserves for correction.
Some women neglect their children by sending them to others for lack of basic needs.  Every responsible woman should be able to have the number of children she can cater for.  While the child is in another woman’s house, no one knows how many meals he or she takes per day.
Sending a child out for hawking especially a female, signals danger to the girl.  That is a simple way of exposing her to sexual abuse.  Some irresponsible persons under the pretence of buying something from her, can lure her into unnecessary sexual abuse.  The danger in this is that it can lead to unwanted pregnancy,  contraction of STDs and HIV/AIDS.
Most rape cases that have been recorded are as a result of sending a girl out to hawk.
There is no harm in asking children to assist in selling, so as to make up in the home, but if they are to sell in a kiosk no matter how little it may be, a mother can monitor the children there.
A mother should know that giving a child under the age of 18 out for marriage is an abuse. Women must nurture the children to maturity before sending them out because the dangers of underage marriage are devastating. When an underage girl is given out for any reason for marriage, do not forget that consequences that arise from that will still fall back to the mother.
A mother should not send her child or ward out for prostitution in order to make money.
Parents and guardians, especially mothers should be more educated and more awareness should be created on why they should pay more attention to their children and wards.
As the world marks child abuse day annually, it should be a reminder for women to show more care to their wards so that the abuse  can be eradicated in the society.

By: Eunice Choko-Kayode

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Build Your Homes, Banigo Urges Women

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Rivers State Deputy Governor, Dr Ipalibo Harry Banigo has urged women to build their homes with wisdom to ensure they do not collapse.
Banigo stated this while speaking as the guest preacher during the 2022 Ladies Conference at the Redeemed Christian Church of God (RCCG) Regional Headquarters Parish (Chapel of Blessings), No 38, Old GRA Extension, Eastern Bypass, in Port Harcourt, yesterday.
Banigo said, women, need to ask God for the wisdom that would carry them through.
“You need the wisdom to run your homes and grow our children, the whole world is waiting for the manifestation of the sons of God, there is a lot of groaning, in our nation, and in our communities, there is groaning, the Lord is waiting upon you. God is set to do something new in Rivers State and Nigeria”.
Banigo, who spoke on the theme: “Every Increasing Christian Woman” drawn, from Luke Chapter 2: 52, insisted that the word of God was key, in our increase, adding that we must grow in the word of God, spend time on the word, meditate on the word and chew the word.
“If you are a Christian, you must sleep on his word and let the word grow in you, through prayers and fasting, we must increase in our prayer life, and we also need to increase in favour, to increase in favour we need to emulate what Jesus Christ did. He was humble, humility must be our watchword, and you have to be simple and humble to attract God’s favour into your life”,Banigo stressed.
The deputy governor, who said Our Lord Jesus Christ was diligent at all times, said “we must be diligent in teaching our children and leading them in the way of the Lord”, stressing that “if we want increase in God’s favour, we must live a holy life.
“There are no two ways, about it, the Bible says those that are the sons of God, are led by the Spirit of God and the Spirit of God cannot dwell in a vessel that is contaminated. We must also increase in faith and in giving.
“Giving takes us from Glory to Glory, and we must realise that faith without works is dead, it is not about, I have faith, show me works in the Lord, show me your works in righteousness, and giving, giving of our time and resources is key, because Jesus said it is more blessed to give than to receive”, the deputy governor further stressed.
She also said we must teach our children as fathers and mothers to give and teach our youths that, it is more blessed to give than to receive, so the rent-seeking attitude that occupied the spirit of our youths in Rivers State must end.
“They must realize that God put them together and gave them a great destiny to fulfil and that there is something that they can offer to society. When you find favour with God then he will take care of favour with man. Stop running around seeking favour with men. He speaks for you when you are not there; take time to find favour with God rather than men, as the Bible says when a man’s ways please God even his enemies will work for him, as we grow in age we, must grow in wisdom and knowledge”, Banigo said.
Earlier, the wife of the Regional Pastor of RCCG, Region 5, Mrs Modupe Adesoji, said the programme, which started last week Thursday, featured free medical, outreaches, and float rallies to sensitize the citizenry, as well as aerobics to keep the women physically, mentally and spiritually fit, as well as a dinner for couples.
Highlights of the programme include various musical ministrations and special thanksgiving by the women as well as the fathers to mark Father’s Day.

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Child Abuse: Women’s Role In Curbing The Menace 

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The role of women in curbing child abuse can never be over-emphasised.  Mothers are the ones who nurture and groom their offsprings and wards whether biological children or adopted.
It is necessary that any child who falls under the supervision of a mother, must be accounted for by that woman.
Shaping the life of a child depends so much on the mother even if certain percentage of care is being expected from a father.  The mother starts nurturing a child from age zero till the adolescent stage.  She should always do a follow-up at every stage of development of every child in her care.
Within the period of this growth, if there are negative tendencies exhibited by the child, the mother should be able to identify before the child goes to school. This is because the child starts learning from the home.
When you talk about child abuse, it starts from the home and the way every child is treated matters a lot.
The menace called child abuse is something that every hands must be on deck to ensure it’s eradicated in the society. The major agent of eradication is the mother.
There are various forms of child abuse.  You. You may discover that at every form of the menace,b the woman is involved and should be held responsible for it’s consequences.
Of course, it is clear that child abuse does not have any positive impact on the society except the perpetrators of the act.  Some persons derive joy in seeing either their own child or another’s child being denied their rights and accomplishing their own goals.
According to UNICEF in 1989, child abuse is the portion of harm to children that result from human action or inaction  that is proscribed, proximate and preventable.
The African Network for the Prevention or Protection against Child Abuse or Neglect (ANPPCAN), looked at child abuse as the intentional, unintentional or well-intentional act, which endangers the physical, health, emotional, moral and the educational welfare of the child.
Broadly, it means maltreatment of a child. Any form of action that brings about physical, mental, psychological and social torture to the child.
When you talk about child labour, which includes buying and selling most times, a woman will intentionally send the out for hawking with the aim of making money. A situation where a woman’s children will be in school and she finds pleasure in sending a house help out potends danger to that child.
A woman shouldn’t send an adopted child out to the neighbourhood alone to fetch water when her own children are idle because her role is to protect every child in her care whether biological or not.
When you talk about child trafficking, apart from when children are in school, the mother should be aware of the location of the child at every time. Monitoring the children should be the watchword if every committed mother. When a woman is careless about the whereabout of the child, that child can be picked up from any location without her knowledge.
A woman shouldn’t express anger on anything the child does at home.   A child/ward can be corrected for wrong doing without being battered.  It has been discovered in some homes that child battering has led to death or deformity of some children. A mother should know the kind of punishment a child deserves for correction.
Some women neglect their children by sending them to others for lack of basic needs.  Every responsible woman should be able to have the number of children she can cater for.  While the child is in another woman’s house, no one knows how many meals he or she takes in a day.
Sending a child out for hawking especially a female, signals danger to the girl.  That is a simple way of exposing her to sexual abuse.  Some irresponsible persons with the pretence of buying something from her can lure her into unnecessary sexual abuse.  The danger in this is that it can lead to unwanted pregnancy,  contraction of STDs and HIV/AIDS.
Most rape cases that have been recorded are as a result of sending a girl out to hawk.
There is no harm in asking children to assist in selling so as to make up in the home, but if they are to sell in a qiorks no matter how little it may be, a mother can monitor the children there.
A mother should know that giving a child under the age of 18 out for marriage is an abuse. Women must nurture the children to maturity before sending them out because the dangers of underage marriage are devastating. When an underage girl is given out for any reason for marriage, don’t forget that any consequences that arise from that will still fall back to the mother.
A mother shouldn’t send her child or ward out for prostitution in order to make money.
Parents and guardians, especially mothers should be more educated and more awareness created on why they should pay more attention to their children and wards.
As the world marks child abuse day, it should be a reminder for women to show more care to their wards so that it  can be eradicated in the society.

By: Eunice Choko-Kayode

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