When you heed your inner calling, both you and the people around you benefit. You become more focused, more grounded and less easily ruffled. You also become a very positive source of energy to others and a leader people will want to follow. If you want to really move forward in life and advance spiritually you have to connect your personal story to a larger life
Life, sometimes, presents us some daunting challenges. And the purpose driven woman stops to ask, where do I belong? Why do I feel stuck? What am I meant to be doing with my life? Many of us long to push through the obstacles, distractions and obligations that seem to keep us stuck in life’s journey. We long to discover our unique role in the universe. The thing we are placed on this earth to do.
Deep down we might believe that there is an exceptional purpose for our lives, important work we are meant to do; the human connections we are meant to make but we don’t know how to get from where we are right now to where we think we should be.
“Finding your life’s purpose can take some trial and error. When you are truly living on purpose, you’re using your gifts, talents and experience to make a positive difference in the world”, explained Mrs. happiness Iyang, a Minister’s wife. She added that learning how to lead a useful life usually means getting off the treadmill, getting still and seeking clarity about the steps needed to realize one’s dream.
A life lived on purpose forces you to step out of your own small space and be of service to something bigger than yourself. The reward is the joy and energy you feel when you love what you do and you are leading a life rich with meaning.
Choosing what matters when faced with so many options or given so many suggestions on what to do. Following what others say you should be doing rather than heeding the call of your heart is a classic road block to living a purposeful life. The first step to getting past the road block is to get clear about what matters most to you not what should matter or what others think is important. When you stop paying so much attention to the shoulds, the stagnation and frustration that are often felt in our careers and personal lives begin to melt away. When you heed your inner calling, both you and the people around you benefit. You become more cosused, more grounded and less easily fuffled. You also become a very positive source of energy to others and a leader people will want to follow. If you want to really move forward in life and advance spiritually you have to connect your personal story to a larger life.
When we are burned out in life, tired all the time and most of all, unhappy, it is time to take a journey within. Time to search for meaning by journaling regularly, taking notes of our thoughts and feelings as women so that we will begin to understand that our purpose is what drives life. That we are here on planet earth for a reason.
Taking time for self-reflection and self nurturing is an essential step in discovering the purpose in our lives. Some of us take just ten minutes or more at New year to make a resolution and that is it.
The rest of the year we don’t reflect. Instead of being intentional, we focus on what other people demands of us. Their wants and needs take our priority. When we regularly fail to invest time to identify and meet our own needs, we not only end up moving through life not connected to our purpose but we are not also connected to who we are. Looking within enables us to discern clues to how we should be living our lives and where we should direct our energy as women. Note that you can only truly give to others when you have taken care of yourself.
Also,we should be encouraged to see our lives anew by paying attention to what stirs our passion or taps into our unique gifts. Our material culture urges us to pursue whatever sells. The internalised message is what matters most is how much money we have not whether we are making a positive contributions to our society. But whatever your passion is, however ordinary it may seem at first, the greatest satisfaction comes when you pursue it and use it for the highest good.
Below are excerpts of testimonies of purpose driven women, Serita Jakes and Joyce meyer:
Serita Jakes: “The placenta had been wrenched from my mother’s cervix, and the doctors told my father he’d have to choose between the two of us. As he should have, my father asked them to spare my mother’s life. I showed up anyway on August 19, 1955, an odds – defying child.
Long before I was that small seed taking determined root in my mother’s womb my steps were divinely ordered. Before I had an true understanding of these thigns, my parents, my grand mother even my distant relatives imparted to me their observations about my walking in grace. I have been moving through under that banner, with a mantle of faith laid on my shoulders. My purpose is assigned to me and me alone. I can do whatever God says I can do. Under that power, I strive to fulfil my essential roles as a woman of God, a wife, mother and minister.
That does not mean I’ve lived trouble free. Early in our marriage, a car-wreck left me paralysed.
The doctors doubted I would ever regain mobility and if miraculously I did, I would be shuffling around on a cane or metal brace.
Oh, but my beloved husband, knowing God always has the final word, whispered into my heart that if I never walked on my own he’d push my wheel chair for as long as we lived. Then he proceeded to teach me to walk again. What a reminder of purpose! I was born to love him and walk by his side.
My sense of purpose was most challenged by the sudden death of my mother in 1997. I felt like a little girl lost in a big city. I was lonely and afraid that the very people I was assigned to pray for, teach and lay hands upon were looking straight through me and seeing my vulnerability. But my husband, once again and my children beckoned me back. They reminded me that I could be to others what my mother had been to me, an encourager and keeper of their hearts. Through my positive effect on family, friends and those I encounter in my day-to-day journey, my purpose is defined. And it continues to take shape, cultivated by grace and in quiet contemplation”.
Joyce Meyer: “Finding one’s purpose doesn’t happen in an instant. Instead, our purpose is revaaled to us in each new experience. But to embrace it, we first have to let go of fear. When we allow fear to hold us back, we’re victims. We’ve chosen to believe in something that never was.
When I was growing up in St. Louis, all through high school some of my teachers would encourage me to write. But I became a book keeper and an office manager. During those years, people would always come to me for advice. I didn’t realise then that that was my purpose – to use my words to help people find and love God. But years later in 1985, I started my own ministry. Life in the word, and I began to recognize the gifts that others saw in me.
New experiences can be frightening, yet with each success you become confident. Many people wont take risks because they fear failure. But I don’t run from new experiences. I know that if God wants me to do something, he’ll show me how. Another mistake we make is comparing ourselves with others. It’s not wise. One women may be able to balance work and family; that’s her purpose. Yours might be different. Life changes daily, but never our larger purpose. To discover our own unique gifts, we must overcome fear by remembering that we’re created in God’s image, that whatever we do in life, we are here to love, serve and obey Him. And if you ever feel as if you’re not living on purpose, know that God is merciful and kind and willing to work with us until we get it right”.