Dress To Bare Or Cover?

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Everywhere you turn, especially at wedding ceremonies and church services you see a woman or  a mother for that matter, gorgeously dressed, very trendy and stylish but with a better part of her bosom  exposed and some times you fear that if her GSM (cell phone) fall to the ground, her breast would spill out if she dared  stoop to pick it up

Fashion Style is the way to go for a modern woman or anybody for that matter. Since the bginning of time, one thing that has changed constantly and to the delight of those whose heart is set on it is fashion.

Women, of course, are the ones most interested in fashion and every year we have models sweeping the runways with all sorts of styles and designs by various fashion houses and designers.

These  days the name for tailors or seamstresses has even changed to fashion designers or simply designers, so one could correctly say that the only thing constant with fashion is change.

However, what is a dress intended to do for its wearer? It could be to accentuate one’s looks, to show a person’s character, to shield one from extreme weather, but most importantly, to cover one’s nakedness. Our interest today is this last bit, to cover the nakedness of a person.

Sadly, there is s question mark on this. Is the intention these days to cover the nakedness or to show that “look, I am trendy” in appearance?

Thanks to civilisation and modernisation, the world has indeed become a global village where just by the clicking or pushing of some buttons you are immediately connected to another part of the world where you can view things that interest you and be not left behind to keep yourself abreast with the world’s latest changes especially, the world’s changing fashion.

People want to wear a particular style because others are wearing it, not that it suits them and they have adopted the “bare it all” style. Does it suit us here in Nigeria to do, the “bare it all style?”  all means, No.

The African especially the woman is notably very fashionable and stylish, you can confirm this when you attend a wedding ceremony or church service and they appear donservatine and modest too. But the trends in fashion, especially among the young ones no longer portray modesty and it became so worrisome that certain kinds of dressing like the ones that reveal the vital parts of the body were prohibited in some tertiary institutions, it also became sermon topics as religious leaders are also distracted by this trend. In some parts of the country touts took it upon themselves to “solve” the problem by tearing such skimpy  clothes off the girls, saying. “Since you want to be naked, let us finish it for you.”

Here in Rivers state women, especially mothers openly condemned it and the wife of one time governor of the state, justice Mary Odili launched and carried a compaign against in all decent dressing amongst young persons to all the local government areas of the state.

All thanks to this fight that we now have some certain level of modesty amongst our youths.

Surprisingly however, the very same group of persons who vehemently objected to the indecent exposure of some vital parts of the body are now very much in the business of exposing them. Women and mothers!

Everywhere you turn, especially at wedding ceremonies and church services you see a woman or  a mother for that matter, gorgeously dressed, very trendy and stylish but with a better part of her bosom  exposed and some times you fear that if her GSM (cell phone) fall to the ground, her breast would spill out if she dared  stoop to pick it up.

Oftentimes, in trying to admonish these women they tell you “my husband likes it ,” but in that her state of near nakedness, the husband that she claims likes it is not with her.

Whose attention then is she trying to get and how can such a woman correct her child who is going naked as well?

Interestingly, a good friend of mine once said, “man is oftentimes fascinated by hidden things and his curiosity is aroused to want to discover them, but the exposed ones do not get much attention,” so who are we fooling?

The Tide On Sunday went to town to seek the impression of mothers and husbands on what the trend portends and hear what they said.

 Pastor Nathaniel Luke of Rhema Foundation Ministry, Port Harcourt, says “the body of the woman is sacred as God intended it to be and should be covered up. If she says her husband loves her to dress to expose parts of her body, fine, but that should be in their bedroom.” He stressed that it is not acceptable for her to dress, exposing vital parts of her body, in the public.

Furthermore, he noted that a man allowing his wife to dress half naked would depend on his background.

For Mrs. Dorothy Nyone, founder of Peculiar People Initiative, a non-governmental organisation, it is not proper. Hear her.

“I stand against such indecent dressing, it is not proper”, she added that God intended dressing to be a covering for nakedness.

“A mother, woman, wife is a role model to her children and society and so just as we tell our children that indecent dressing is bad  we as role models should be out to portray that,” said Mrs. Grale Ebere of (RIVSACA), Rivers State Action Committee on AIDS.

When a woman dresses to expose her vital parts, she is obviously sending messages saying, “I am for all men”, she added.

Dressing indecently for a woman sends across a meassage indicating that she is still hunting for a man suggested Mr. Ifeanyi Nwaeboh, a Port Harcourt, resident. He explained that when you see a woman dressed like that it does not occur to you that she is a married woman.

It also “provokes your instincts as a man and it can lead you towards making overtures at her”, he added. Mr. Nwaeboh further stated that if a woman’s husband likes her dressed like that then “it should be that they are together at the function.

 

Tonye Nria-Dappa