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Love: All We Need For A Better Relationship

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Looking at the word love, does it make  significant impact in a man’s life? Could you believe that love is a channel through which our relationship with God revolves? Well, the impact of love could be traced from the creation of man in the garden of Edem.

Love as a concept, has created a very big impact in the life of man since the origin of the world. According to Oxford – Advanced Learners Dictionary, “Love is a strong feeling of deep affection for somebody.”

It could be the one a mother has for her children, or love of one’s country. Several affections or passions could also be described as love, eg, a love song/story.

Do you think there are communities, countries, homes, that are experiencing peace without the existence of love therein? Love brings peace and nothing works without love.

Getting physical attraction would be the only possible relationship.

Remember the grace and power that is keeping our nation (Nigeria) today is the love God has for us.

Some see love as a state of confusion and disorder, but the reverse is the case. Love is an overwhelming feeling.

When you love some one you know, denying the fact won’t help and surprising love wouldn’t work either. We don’t love by surprise, if you love someone, make it open and express your love in the scripture, God had love for us and it was made open. He (God) expressed his love for us.

In the same vein, you don’t hide love because if you feel love for someone, it will be recognised by another person or yourself who had the feeling so. Love doesn’t hide no matter how you do it. It must be revealed consciously or unconsciously.

Love is everywhere, yet no where, this is because we know what is love but refused to follow its meaning.

But the possibilities of love remain endless, love is simplistic, chaotic, and at the same time shared.

Love knows all works of life, and it consumes and saves life at the same time.

Wherever life is, love is involved. According to an article once published by Topnews titled: “. Today’s Woman”, most people especially women believed that, “love is the proof that a woman meeds to have some assurance that the man will stick around her and help her with the upbringing of her off springs.

You can see that this is talking about sexual benefit and commitment. But also remember that love has to do with your total commitment towards the betterment of your brothers, sisters, relations, country, state and well wishers.

We are talking about the love Joseph had for his brothers, even after the betrayal. Cain killed his brother because there was no love in his heart. Gen. 4:8 proved that it was love that pushed Adam to eat the forbidden fruit given to him by his wife, Eve in the garden.

What else can we say about love?

As a reader of this piece, take a second to think about how your life would have been if love was non-existent?

No family member saying “I love you”. A wife or husband, boy friend or girl friends, all

Friends are only acquaintance, none of which ever repeats those three words. Think about letters, cards or any gift items always saying anything except for “love”.

When you have taken the time to think about the question through, I encourage you, reading this piece now, to tell your loved ones, “I love you”.

As a matter of fact, this word “Love” is not for a particular set of people, it is not selective. Not for the rich. Not for the poor. It is a general word that should be emulated from Christ who died for our sin, and whose blood was shed on the cross.

There should be love to ensure unity and mutual understandin g between parents and children, Pastors and Church members, leaders and followers, teachers and students. Even in the market, between sellers and buyers, let there be love. I believe that “love is the key to prosperity. The word “love” should be put in practice. Even among our youths, let there be love because it is said that “youth are tomorrow’s leaders. So how can we achieve effective leadership without love that will promote peace and unity among the rulers and the ruled.

Personally, love is all about being your brothers keeper and eliminating anything that will bring discrimination between you and your loved ones.

 

Elijah Jerry Dike

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Ondo Women Protest Half-Naked Over Insecurity

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Hundreds of women across four local government areas in Ondo State on Saturday protested against worsening security challenges in the area.
The women, who took to the streets of Oka Akoko, Akungba Akoko and some other Akoko towns, demanded improved security from the state and federal government.
Recent spate of insecurity in the area include abduction of teachers by gunmen in Auga Akoko, the killing of a police officer at Oka Akoko last week, and the attack on 17 travellers on Ifira Akoko-Isua Akoko road by armed robbers among others.
Some of the protesters, who held brooms, were half-naked and chanting various solidarity songs along the streets.
Recall that Amotekun Corps also arrested no fewer than 17 suspected bandits from the North-West of Nigeria when they stormed Okitipupa area of the state.
The suspected criminals were found with dogs, cutlasses and charms as they wandered in the area without purpose.
It was the distress call by residents of the community to Amotekun operatives that led to their arrest.

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Civil Society Calls For Laws To Harmonise NGOs’ Activities

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Some Rivers Civil society organisation under the aegis of Rivers network of NGO’s (RINNGOS) is calling on state governments in the country to come up with rules and regulations to harmonise and coordinate civil societies’ registrations for optimum performances.
This was part of the resolutions at a network Dialogue /Consultation with the theme “Strengthening State Civil Society Networks/Coalitions to Harmonise Regulatory Frameworks at the Sub-National Level”, sponsored by the European Union (EU) British Council and the Nigerian Network of NGOs.
The group also planned advocacy visits to ministries, departments and agencies in Rivers State with the view to canvassing for laws that will harmonise civil society organisations registrations in Rivers State.
According to a programme profile made available to newsmen at the programme, the objectives of the project include: raising awareness and supporting sub-national networking/coalitions of CSOs in European Union (EU) Focal States to collect and review existing frame work in their respective states to identify the gaps and opportunities for better harmonisation and coordination of CSO registration and regulations at the sub national level.
It also seeks to engage stakeholders to improve responsiveness between states ministries, departments and agencies and sub-national CSOs on the need for a harmonised regulatory framework.
It noted that the organisation aims to work in various areas such as: HIV/Aids, environmental protection, malaria, women affairs and others.
Declaring the event opened, the chairperson of Rivers Network of NGOs, Mrs Mina Ogbanga, said the event was to equip participants with the skills for advocacy.
Ogbanga said the task of changing the society is a collective one, adding that the Rivers Network of NGOs will work with every interest group to achieve success.
She said that the donor agencies were ready to fund participants to carry out projects in their respective communities.
High point of the event was the inauguration of four groups charged with the responsibility of embarking on advocacy visits to various ministries, departments and agencies in the states.

By: John Bibor & Oribim Ibama

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Women And Harmful Practices

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The bill for prohibition of harmful practices against women at the National Assembly is a welcome development.
Severally, there have been talks, seminars, workshops, fora, arguments, bills and laws abolishing issues that concern women, especially violence.  But a lot has not been achieved to curtail the menace.
Violence against girls and women has been on the increase.  From time to time, it is either girls are denied access to father’s property or a widow is denied inheritance to husband’s properties.  Even when laws are put in place about things that will help women have their rights, some persons feel that culture and tradition do not permit.
We are aware that some women are rich and may not want to partake in the share of their late parents’ property, but there are vulnerable ones who need to be empowered, through perhaps, late parents’ property inheritance.
Some of the obnoxious laws were made before now without the consent of women. There was no representative to either argue for or against so as to be beneficial to women generally.  Some of the laws were so primitive that even when civilisation came, became difficult to change. Very unfortunately, it is the women that execute the laws made by men in their absence. Women are suffering it.
If the bill abolishing certain practices against women and girls will be passed into law by the National Assembly, it will be better for them.  For long, laws against female genital mutilation and circumcision have existed but some communities with their culture and tradition have refused to put a stop to it with reasons best known to them.
Circumcision of a full-grown girl or lady may not be the only way of attaining maturity. It is a harmful practice and the pain associated with it cannot be imagined.  This illegal operation is not performed in the hospital so the dangers inherent will be much.
For those who still practice it, the menace should be discouraged as that is not a proper way of ushering a girl into womanhood. A lot of women lose their lives due to pains experienced during the process. it was practised in the past when civilisation was not there, it is a different case, nowadays with science and technology proving it wrong, those who still practise not should resist.
It is a right step in the right direction and it is time the National Assembly and all stakeholders intensified efforts in dealing with persons who perpetuate evil against their fellow women.
If the bill will be passed into law by the National Assembly, it is welcome but the fear that comes to mind is implementation.  The issue has been dwelt on for decades, but it is still practised as big ceremonies in some communities.
When it comes to inheritance, a girl born into a family, married or unmarried will be denied access to father’s property but if it has to do with the demise of parents or sickness, the woman and the husband will be mandated to provide a cow for the burial rites or offset medical bills.
If the National Assembly makes laws concerning the well-being of women, community heads, molecular leaders, women groups and associations, religious organisations, Non-Governmental Organisations NGOs and civil society organisations (CSOs) should create more awareness through the media to sensitise rural dwellers.
In this digital era, it should be forbidden that a woman loses her spouse and she is mandated to drink water used on the late husband.
The items in the bill to be passed into law by the National Assembly are in order as it concerns women.
A legal practitioner,  Tam Jacobs, said if one forcefully shaves a woman’s hair with the intention that she is mourning her late spouse, she can sue that person for assault.
He said if the woman is forced to drink water used on her late husband’s body, she can also sue for attempted murder.
According to him, several cases of girl-child inheritance have been won and documented in the law court but some cannot claim it.
“Even a widow who is handicapped may not be able to make attempts so NGOs, CSOs should be in the forefront to support them and ensure that the laws are implemented at the grassroots level where they are practised”, he said.
A pharmacist, Eno Amos said any culture that does not add colour and value to life should be abolished.
She added that implementation can be easy in the cities where awareness has been created but expressed fear that it may not be easy in the rural areas where culture is really practised.
A business woman, Agnes Ugwu, said tradition and culture were made by man and not God and wondered why people who claim to be educated still follow the tradition of ancestors who never went to school.
Ignorance also comes to play here.  If you have watched a documentary showing female genital mutilation and the gory experience the young women go through, is something else.  Some of the perpetrators claim that the practice has existed for ages. Women have to learn more about issues that concern them.
A nurse, Rosy Ekeocha, said it is not about culture but about the behavior of a group of people in the community who force it on others.
According to her, let people change their behaviour and leave culture alone.  It doesn’t happen in every family and if any family allows it that’s their business.
She said we are in the 21st century, certain culture and tradition need to be reviewed to ensure that they allign with today’s reality.
Culture is dynamic she said, but that implementation of laws relating to the vulnerable in the society calls for concern.
We should not behave the way people behaved five dacades ago, after all, we do not dress the way our forefathers dressed.  Time has evolved and things are getting better as it concerns women. We are getting more exposed and more enlightened about issues that concern is.  Information is moving round as the world is a global village.
Talking about culture nowadays, we wear shoes whereas our forefathers never had any.  They walked barefooted
far distances to get family necessities but things are better now as we are mobile.
That should also happen to culture and tradition.  There are certain aspects of our culture and tradition which are practised today that have expired long ago. We should get rid off them.
It is expected that the bills abolishing obnoxious practices against women and girls in the society will achieve expected results when passed into law at the floor of the House.

By: Eunice Choko-Kayode

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