Is Sexuality In Pregnancy Healthy?


It is a fallacy that sex can cause an infection during pregnancy and may harm the baby. It has been proven that infection is virtually impossible because the cervix is plugged with a tough mucus that prevents the ascent of bacte­ria into the uterus.
During pregnancy most ladies are afraid to have sex forgetting the fact that the sexual urge of their men does not decrease because they are pregnant.
Pregnancy is not a dis­ease that you should be afraid of infecting your partner with, neither is it a period of sexual isolation. Pregnancy is a normal phenomenon and so should be treated as such.
The desire for sex and the enjoyment or it varies widely, not only from one woman to another during pregnancy but also in the same woman at different times throughout its dura­tion. Typically, though, there is a decline in interest in sex during the first trimester (especially if you are suffering from tiredness and nausea), followed by an increase in the second trimester and then another decline in the third trimester.
When a pregnant woman does have sex, she may find it far more exciting and satisfying than it was before she conceived. Infact, a woman will some­times achieve orgasm or multiple orgasms for the first time when she is pregnant. This enhanced sexuality is principally because of the high levels of female hormones and pregnancy hormones that circulate throughout her body when she is pregnant. These cause a number of important changes to her breasts and sex organs, making them more sensitive and responsive. In addition, because being pregnant is such an affirmation of being female, a woman may find her condition leads to enhanced sensuality.
Eroticism During Pregnancy
One of the effects of the rise in estrogen levels during pregnancy is an increase in blood flow, especially in the pelvic area. Because of this, the vagina and its folds, the labia, become slightly stretched and swollen. This stretching and swelling, which normally occur only during sexual excitement, make the sensory nerve endings hypersensitive, resulting in rapid arousal.
The breasts start to en­large almost as soon as pregnancy occurs. One of the classic signs of pregnancy is sensitive, enlarged breasts with nipples that may tingle or even feel painful. The increased sensitivity of the breasts makes them a focus of sensory arousal, and a woman can feel the most exquisite sensation when her nipples and breasts are caressed and kissed by her partner. This sexual foreplay can result also in the arousal of the clitoris and the vagina, which will swell very rapidly.
When To Make Love
You can make love whenever you want to, given that it’s not too athletic and that there are no medical reasons for you to forego it. According to Dr. Enemo of Urban Clinics, Enugu, “good sex in pregnancy is very enjoyable and it helps prepare you for child birth by keeping your pelvic muscles strong and supple.” It also binds you closer to your partner, which will help you cope with the stresses of parenthood.
There is absolutely no physical reason why a woman having a normal pregnancy should not en­joy sexual relation with her partner, and sex need not stop any earlier than the onset of labour, both partners being willing. In a low-risk pregnancy, the uterine spasms that accompany orgasms are perfectly safe and in late pregnancy may be beneficial because they help prepare the uterus for the rigours of labour.
It is a fallacy that sex can cause an infection during pregnancy and may harm the baby. It has been proven that infection is virtually impossible because the cervix is plugged with a tough mucus that prevents the ascent of bacte­ria into the uterus.
In addition, the baby is completely enclosed within the amniotic sac, which resists rupture even when under great pressure and cushions the baby against all external forces (including the weight of a partner during intercourse).
There are several lovemaking positions that you can use to enhance your enjoyment without in any way diminishing that of your partner once the missionary position becomes too awkward and uncomfortable.
You can continue making love as late into pregnancy as you wish as long as there are no medical reasons for abstaining from it.
Your baby, safe within your uterus, cannot be harmed by any normal social activity and probably enjoys sex as much as you do because your hormones reach him through the pla­centa.
In the early months you can use any lovemaking position you choose but as your abdomen swelis you will probably find that making love in some positions, particularly the missionary position, with your partner on top, becomes uncomfortable.
When this happens, there are plenty of other erotic and exciting positions to use.
Mrs. Ngozi lfediba, a civil servant: “you will probably find these most comfortable from the second trimester onward. As your abdomen enlarges, you can lift yourself further off his stomach by supporting yourself on bent legs. In this way, you can avoid putting too much pressure on your abdomen and breasts. In these positions, too, you can better control the depth of your partners penetration and the speed and rhythm of your love-making.”
These positions allow a great deal of intimacy. You and your partner have your hands free to caress and stroke each other and he can easily reach your breasts with his mouth. Alternatively, you can brush his chest with your breasts to stimulate him further. An example of this woman-on-top position is the “SPOONS” position where your partner cuddles up to your back making this one of the most comfortable and affectionate of all sexual positions.
Mrs. Uche Ngonadi, a pharmacist: “these positions many of which in­volve entering from behind are useful during preg­nancy, particularly if you don’t feel very comfortable lying flat on your back or if you don’t want to take too active a part in the love ‘making.
Kneeling positions allow your partner much freedom of movement and let him vary the amount of penetration. Side-by-side positions are not only com­fortable but permits plenty of passionate kissing and caressing. The “SPOONS” position is so called because the partners nestle together like a pair of spoons, and will also be useful if you experience any soreness or discomfort when you resume lovemaking after you have given birth.
A variation on this position, with the woman lying on her back frees her from any pressure on her abdomen while her partner has complete access to her vagina. He can continue to stimulate her either with his hand or his penis. In the side-by-side position, you manoeuvre yourself onto your partner’s penis, if necessary holding it between your clenched legs, so he is free to caress your genital area.
This wouldn’t be com­plete if the men don’t know a little bit of the Do’s and Don’ts of lovemaking during pregnancy.
According to Mr. Chizoba Achusi, a banker, “be tender, romantic, patient and understanding.
Use different kinds of stroking, such as using a firm hand on her abdomen if the baby kicks.
Keep your weight off her when making love
Use lots of pillows for greater comfort and to get the right angles around the curves of her body.
Take your time when lovemaking and don’t be afraid to experiment.
Don’t force her to make love if she doesn’t feel like doing it.
Expect her to have simultaneous orgasm – or even one orgasm .
Finally ladies, this goes to let you know that you can definitely have your man the way you want him no matter how pregnant you are. Being pregnant doesn’t mean that you still can’t have fun.
Have fun ladies, all the way!

Ogechukwu Eluemunoh