Women
How Committed Are You In Relationships ?
Lydia and Dominic were married for eight years but for these eight years, Lydia was never appreciated by Dominic. It was eight years she found herself begging for Dominic attention, love and companionship which never got to her.
She was quite sweet, kind understanding and rich and her husband and guy (as she calls him), Dominic, enjoyed from the largeness of her heart. But, he neither appreciated her, nor was he reciprocative of her loving and caring gestures until she quitted the relationship.
How unseemingly yet enduring it sounds. That’s the predicament of most wives and ladies in their marriages and relationships.
A lot of women are sweet, sexual, affectionate and with very big hearts. Sounds good of a typical well-bred lady or woman. When your’re a woman with such heart, you tend to give love all day long to everyone around you and particularly your spouse.
On the downside, if you are not careful, there’s nothing left of you at the end of the day. That means we not only need to refuel but we also need to receive love and affection from those we love. Of course, this can’t be one-sided show. Unfortunately recent development is making it feel that way for reasons that don’t hold water.
Woman are supposed to be strong, love and take good care of themselves. And we are. But if you are also an affectionate, sexual woman there’s an empty place in your life that can’t be filled by anything else than the affection of the man you love. This is true but sometimes, it doesn’t work out that way.
Glaringly, some men tend to take such sweet, loving, affectionate women for granted.
These women who are strong, always there when needed, forgiving, compassionate, positive and always in good moods are most times left behind. Somehow, they end up last place on their men’s daily list of priorities, that is, they receive little or no attention in return of their beautiful and attractive attributes.
There are lots of women who are terribly lonely in their relationships in spite of their make-up and it pricks the heart why such women should receive less of what they offer from their sponses.
Men, although would always have some reasons for not giving their women the ‘love’, the affection and time they deserve and desire from them every day.
They said the economy is tight and demanding. “We need to go out and fend for the women. For this reasons, we can be out for days, weeks and even months and we expect them to understand with us and accept us the way we are”.
But, there is more to it. The women argued. “It’s not just about not being home for these periods but even when they are around, what do they offer you. Sometimes, their being around is as better as not being around, that’s it”. And I wonder, is it suggestive of having more of callous men around?
Ladies and even wives deserve better treatment. They deserve to be recognised for what they are: a Treasure. They deserve men who would put them first on their list of priorities no matter what. And I say, it doesn’t matter how busy or crazy his life is. If he truly loves you, he will make room for you everyday. Not just ten minutes of the time but all the time you need from him. Why? Because believes and values you.
Unfortunately, the quest for companionship and marriage among ladies have pushed them to setting with guys and husbands less than what they deserve. This shouldn’t be so. As a woman that you are, you can find the time in your stressful multi-tasking life for your man-to look for him, wash his clothes, give him his sexual rights and all other very tasking demands, he should be able to do same for you if he says he loves you.
It is worthwhile putting in everything to make a relationship work but if it doesn’t, don’t give up on yourself. Don’t settle for the less either. Because, when this happens, it gives you that sense of being a failure. But you’re not. The truth is it takes two to make a relationship work. If he isn’t willing to put in the time and effort required of him, you definitely can’t do this for him and when you do, sure you’re the enduring type.
Moreover, never doubt there are men who will treasure you and spoil you with all the love and affection you deserve everyday. If you’re single, you’ve got to get out of your enclosed and supposedly failed shell out fare so they can find. Or maybe, he’s been in your life for a while, quietly waiting for you to recognise him.
Sometimes, the man of your dreams is someone you already know and at other times, he is just there needing to get a clue. Whatever, it all starts with you. When you stop setting for less than you deserve, everything changes and become especially, your love life becomes what it should be for you.
Sylvia ThankGod-Amadi
Women
Nigeria Deserves Stylish, Sophisticated Designs-Igiebor Daddy Lucky
IVY-K Fashion by Igiebor Daddy Lucky, a Nigerian-born designer now based in the UK, has launched the latest menswear line, Dapper Man.
One of the collection’s strengths is its classic, clean aesthetic. Dapper Man delivers sharp, structured suits in a timeless black and white color scheme that exudes a sense of luxury and professionalism. The use of high-quality fabrics like wool and silk ensures that the suits not only look high-end but also feel luxurious to the wearer. The designer’s focus on detail is evident in the meticulous tailoring, with fitted blazers and crisp trousers forming the foundation of the collection.
Where IVY-K Fashion shines is in the subtle yet elegant touches. The inclusion of beads as embellishments on lapels and cuffs adds a unique flair, blending traditional craft with modern tailoring. This nod to African heritage gives the collection a distinct identity, offering something more personal and culturally significant than your standard menswear line.
However, despite the elegance of the Dapper Man collection, there is a lingering sense of missed opportunity. The black-and-white color palette, while classic, feels overly safe. In a fashion landscape where bold colors and daring patterns often make the strongest impact, the collection could benefit from incorporating more vibrant hues or experimenting with unconventional fabrics. Pushing the envelope with color or texture could elevate these designs from simply elegant to truly memorable.
In addition, while the tailoring of the blazers and trousers is immaculate, the collection lacks a sense of playfulness or modern edge that many contemporary menswear lines are embracing. The suits are undoubtedly stylish, but the collection as a whole leans heavily on tradition. Experimenting with asymmetrical cuts, bold patterns, or even layering could add an exciting dimension to Dapper Man. The challenge is to maintain the sleek sophistication of the collection while infusing it with a fresh, innovative spirit.
Another area that could use improvement is the overall cohesion of the collection. While the suits are well-crafted, there is a feeling of repetition across the pieces. More variation in design, such as different lapel styles, pocket configurations, or even bolder accessories, would give the collection greater diversity and visual interest.
In conclusion, Dapper Man by Igiebor Daddy Lucky showcases the designer’s strong grasp of classic tailoring and elegant design, but to truly capture the attention of a broader audience, IVY-K Fashion would benefit from more daring choices. By infusing the collection with bold colors, unexpected textures, and a more modern edge, Dapper Man could move from a well-crafted line to a trendsetting force in men’s fashion. With such a solid foundation, there’s no doubt that Igiebor Daddy Lucky has the potential to lead his brand toward greater heights
Women
Women Can Curb Indecent Dressing
The trend of indecent dressing all in the name of fashion is fast becoming a norm in our generation and society at large. Most married women embrace this fashion as competition with single ladies.
Different scholars have given an in depth insight about dressing as a tool of communication. Non-verbal communication has been asserted as the communication between people by the means of signs or symbols. It conveys what we wish to disseminate to the public as either intentionally or not.
According to Paul Ekman and Michael Argyle, communication is carried out through what has been classified as “Presentational Code”. He listed nine codes of non-verbal communication, as body contact, facial expression, gestures, postures, eye movement, proximity, orientation, head nods and appearance.
This, being stated, married and single ladies should understand that their mode of dressing is communicative be it directly or indirectly as such body parts we call “private” are now being made public because of the trends or wearing of transparent dresses and this in turn calls on the attention of men who are weak and prone to illicit thoughts thus, resulting to most rape cases in our society.
This indecent dressing by most ladies has denied many their future husbands. The truth is that a man is attracted to his kind; his desires in marriage. It is often asserted that decency and beauty are in the eyes of the beholder, yet, in trending times of this 21st century, dress code and fashion in nudity form is gaining popularity.
This has become complicated as most men tend to toggle between their emotions (lust) and sanity (rationality) in terms of marriage, thereby setting a wrong foundation upon which most marriages are consummated.
On the other hand, most married women have embraced the trend of indecent dressing nipping it on the state of it being the choice dressing, approved by their spouses, leaving society with the question of what “responsible” man would prefer that the secrecy of the benefit of his marital vow has become the centre of attraction and viewership by the general public.
Hence, communicating with their dressing gas given licence to every male gender who is interested or attracted to what they see to make unsolicited sexual passes at them, which might be considered embarrassing.
At this juncture, it is important to state that ladies should dress decently knowing that they are the epitome of nation-building, they are nation-builders, character moulders and pacesetters not just in the lives of their families but to the society at large.
In most occasions, there are no clear border lines between the married women and the single ladies because of the rate of scanty dressing which has close the gap of differences.
Women and girls should embrace this call awakening to decent mode of dressing. Dresses that are meant to be worn indoors should remain indoors.
It is worrisome to see ladies wear shorts that are supposed to be worn in the living room on the streets without shame. This is an awakening call to our ladies, married and singles that the opposite sex do not expose their private body parts for the public. Sometimes, the ladies go about in the streets without wearing brazziers as to showcase their nipples.
The society should be sanitised of the menace of indecent dressing that is lurking and taking over the entire nooks and crannies of the society and the nation at large.
Let it be known that he or she is addressed in the manner he or she is dressed. There may be no room for a second impression. To the single ladies, your dressing decently will not stop you from meeting your Mr Right rather, it will increase your stake and place you on the list of most valued women in the society.
Dressing speaks louder than words.
Kate Chisom Isiocha
Isiocha is an OND final year student of Temple Gate Polytechnic.
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